emma34

moi aussi! my ex and i are not talking on my terms basically. thankfully, my brother and sister are going to be here soon...and i won't be so lonely. buit if they werent, i would call my ex. i know we are both wanting some TLC. i'm not going to (if i can). we have been off for 6 weeks now...i think we have come to the stage where i could call himt o wish him a merry x-mas. but two weeks or so ago...i know it would not be the right thing for both of us.

sounds like the perfect goodbye kiss to me =)

talk to her..i hate these knid of relationships that leave it so open. u guys need to work things out. No contact? or contact? Spiratic contact does not work.

Being a girl myself, I honestly cannot read these actions either. She is intersted in you, but she has made no REAL move on you, so thereforeeee it could be either. My advice would be, if your having fun with this flirtation, just go with it. Don't force something to happen. Do you even know if she's single? My thoughts are that she is just having fun flirting, an obvious attraction, but these are those dangerous kind of girls that don't know what they want, and will treat you with nonchalance...this is just my opinion...this is hard one for sure

well...im not gonna say anything about the age thing, because thats obviously what your not asking about. if you and this girl like eachother...then go for it..your too young to worry about ppl holding you down anyways. but be careful, adults usually start to educate kids about STD's etc about the age of 15.. but since your obviously ahead of them, you should get urself educated if your not already.

i think they are right.. just take it easy, it'll come naturally eventually. it is important he tells you what he likes, or at least gives you some sort of reaction so it feels like your not doing it for nothing. tongue = important (wetness).. if your mouth starts to hurt, take breaks. use your hands for awhile, then go back to it...it should be fun (well it SHOULD be), just take it easy.

I did the same thing w/ my ex-boyfriends e-mail, until eventually i got fed up with it...i changed his password on his e-mail so he couldn't get into it anymore. thereforeeee he made a new one...end up story. u have to take it a day at a time. obviously you have nothing better to do if your checkin his messages right? this is one of those habits that you can't really stop cold turkey. just next time you think your going to do it...stop and think. one option is to let him know that you know his codes...although you likely would not want to do that. you know you COULD stop...but you probably don't want to. What are you looking to find?

In any case - this is MUCH too young for a ring...especially since he likely doesn't understand what a diamond ring means, ya can't just give one to someone with out a lot of meaning behind it. I'm thinking he doesn't know the seriousness behind it, and just really likes you, and probably thought at the time that you would be thrilled with it. Portray to him that you are a little freaked out...if I were, I would give it back. Another question, are you sure it's really diamonds? I mean really, how can a 14 yr. old boy affort a 10K diamond ring? It's okay to really REALLY like someone, but a diamond ring is a promise ring, or engagement ring...those are the only reasons. and not too say that your too young, cause i'm sure you could have those kinds of feelinlgs (for promise) at your age, but it's a big commitment and you have not been going out long enough.I got a promise after two and half years. If *I* were you...but this is just my personal opinion, I would give it back.

i would say red rose in your situation. a white rose is very meaninful.

soo in the last month I have gone on four dates with this guy, as well as drinks with mutual friends. We have spoken on the phone many times, but only really had one long conversation. I don't think he's really a phone person. Usually, I am fairly forward in dating, but b/c this boy is a hockey player (and thru friends I know the reputation his team has - dirty) I have not been very forward. I have only called him to return calls, although I have e-mailed him twice and been very open to spending time with him. I'm sure he has got the signal I am interested. My best friend's boyfriend is a friend of his, thereforeeee I know that he has not been with any other girls. He has kissed me goodbye everytime we've been together, but made very little attempt at anything else. I called him on Saturday to see if he wanted to do something, but he was on his way for the holidays. I know for a fact he is not shy with girls, and it has become very confusing. I suppose it is possible he just really likes me or something and doesn't want to be too forward, but he doesn't make a lot of attempt to contact me. I have to ask myself 'are we dating or not?' Any ideas/opinions?

in my personal opinion.. it would depend on who you do it with. I don't really enjoy it, but with lubrication and a guy who is willing to take it very gentle, I'm sure it could be enjoyable. tha'ts my opinion anyway.

so i broke up with my ex like 5 weeks ago after we had been together for 2.5 years. I was in intense INTENSE pain for a few weeks, and then i came to the conclusion that I was better off alone. I am casually dating a couple other guys, but haven't done anything with them yet. To tell you the truth, right now, I feel that men are kind of objects because I have this hate for man kind itself - I have been screwed over way too many times. MY ex and I have been intimate a few times since we broke up. I initiated everytime, and we both made it clear it was just a bootycall, although I know he is still very deeply in love with me. We also made it clear that it was not for anyone else to know, because I didn't want our mutual friends thinking wrong of us, or new dating potential thinking that I were not available. To me, there are no feelings in what we do - and in fact is somewhat hepling me get over him. I know that it is not right, but I know that we still stop seeing eachother all together sometime soon. I was surprised to find today that my ex has been telling all of our mutual friends what has gone all between us, and he seems very proud of the fact that he is sleeping with me. He has always treated our relationship with respect, and was not the kind of guy that told his friends about what he did behind close doors. I am upset that he would do this, because I feel I am not in control of that we have anymore, and I now know that we cannot see eachother anymore, because I cannot continue this obviously. MY question is, can anyone see why he would do this? Is it my fault? Should I tell him off? Ignore him completely? Tell people it's not true?

starting some sort of routine. like calling eachother every night - or however often.

i've been in the opposite side of the same sitatuaion. it depends - are you in the same circle of friends? invite likes 5 or more of your friends over for a movie or something. then tell her your having like a movie night or something and see if she wants to come. or ask her if she wants to go to party with you - or your crew. make it somewhere casual where you don't have to do the one-on-one thing too too much (especially if your shy). hope i helpd - i like the movie idea, or like a pool night at the lounge or over for drinks with friends?

what makes a man good in bed..well in the beginning it is always pleasing the woman. knowing what she wants. lots of lots of kisses. lots of foreplay. lots of oral sex. doin it till ya can't take anymore. oh and size does matter haha

My first serious relationship was when i was 15. i definitely found what I was not looking for>>that's usually the way it goes. it lasted 2.5 years. I've only had one serious relationship - but I think the first one is the hardest, because you are learning so much and don't know how to deal with a lot of issues.

it's just a vibe.

all very good advice so far. but i would like to say - don't bother waiting a week. yes, wait a few days. call to talk, to have a casual date or something (coffee?) im thinkin 4-5 days tops. from my personal opionion as an 18 yr. old girl, if a guy has not called me within 5 days...he's either not intersted, or is not bother to try very hard. thats just my opinion tho.

i am 18.still in high school

I am 18...and in all relationships I have eventually broke up with them b/c I did not see a succesfful future with them, whether it be financial, placement, etc. It seems stupid to me now to worry about such things at such a young age. I am now casually dating two guys. One is a hot hockey player whom I swoon for every time I'm around. He's fun, and I love being with him, but we don't have a lot in common. The other is not quite as good looking, but we can talk for hours and hours. One is definitely more "stable" towards future...but should i even bother worrying about this kind of thing? Is it ok to be a little shallow?

i would like to say that girls do suffer similary, but likely not to the sam extent.. and i am sure it is different for every girl. There has been times where I will do it like everyday for a week or so...but it is more so like once or twice a week..too tired, and mind busied with other things a lot of the time. Still want to, just can't. Always want to...although dislike the fact of donig it. Sex much better. =)

id like to point out that im not having sex with other two boys. have not even kissed them. have only had sex with one person.

oh she wants you. trust me. she wants you. i am so that girl. and i will gives the guy the accross the room glance that lasts JUUUST long enuf to get his attention then turn away. she wants you haha.

do you have any ideas for things to change? other than hair? need to make "the change".

so my ex and i broke about 5 weeks ago. i dumped him. we went for 2.5 years. anyway, for awhile I did NC. but he was very bad at that. so then we talkd about once a week in person. never on the phone or msn or anything. then we started having "relations". to me, it is basically meaningless. and altho i love him very much, i do not base a relationship around that kind of thing. he is still a very good friend of mine, and i still ask him for advice (even on guys) he is the person i ahve lost my virginity to and right now cannot imagine being with someone. right now i am dating two other guys - and will sono have to make a decision. i am very very scared when this happens my ex will literally fall aprt. because i will not be able to continue seeing him at all. there is too much sexual tension between us. i feel that when i start going out with someone new - i will cheat on them with my ex... when iw as with my ex, i always wanted to, and almost did very many times. I think it is IMPOSSIBLE for me to be with one person. i am so confused. any advice?