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Sn0man

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  1. If you see yourself as landmines to her desert - best to pull your mines until she's negotiated the labrynth.
  2. Don't do it again. The only one you're really hurting is yourself.
  3. I don't wanna join. I like drinking 2-3 times a week. What the problem is?
  4. I am sorry to hear that things have not worked out for you. Know that it is going to be hard to get used to being single again. We all go through it though, and you're at the right place to find the support you're going to need to help you get through this difficult time. Nothing will make you forget about this move, and nothing will truly make it any easier. You just have to swallow the pill like we all have to; there is no 'quick fix'. Just try to keep your mind busy with important things, like getting your life back together. Good luck, and best wishes.
  5. I've gotta say i'd be just as confused as you sound. Seems like she's in a 'neither here nor there' headset when it comes to the relationship, and being on the recieving end of such behavior is not a nice place to be. Personally, I would try backing off just a bit. I don't mean breaking up or taking a break or anything like that; just give her a little room to collect her thoughts. I know that put's you in a situation of 'well, if she's collecting her thoughts, what am I supposed to be doing?'. Perhaps the same. Try to analyze what's brought this on in the first place. I know college/school can be quite strenuous on a relationship, it won't cause this kind of distancing as you have described; there's something else amiss. Though I truly hate to disagree with DN as his advice is sound, I think 'laying it out' as DN says may be a little premature, and I would leave that for later on should things get 'harrier'. For the time being, I would just take it in stride and don't let it bother you too much. Do a little fishing and see if there's something she's not telling you; if there is, she'll most likely want to but hasn't found a way to do it yet. On the other hand, she could just be very stressed out right now with school and whatever is happening with her father (though you didn't say what that was), and needs some time to process whatever is going on, in which case a little breathing room may be just what she needs. Hope this helps, and hope all works out well for you.
  6. Maybe try this: The next time she drops a hint that she's feeling a litle 'frisky', crack open a bottle of red and have a couple of glasses before bed. It just sounds to me like she's a little bit, err, frigid, and a glass of wine might relax her a bit. Worth a try if nothing else.
  7. So if you don't like her opinions why would you consider moving out with her. What exactly is the problem? If you don't have any particular relationship with this person how can you really be emotionally involved? In three days? Get a grip.
  8. Have a big glass of warm milk. Then lay back in your bed, tell yourelf it was only a dream and nothing can actually harm you. Put your head to your pillow and go back to sleep. You'll be just fine in the morning. The boogie man isn't going to get you. If the warm milk doesn't help, do a google on 'Einsteins general theory of relativity'. read the first four chapters. If you aren't sleeping by then you aren't human and need to contact E.T. for psycotherapy.
  9. Well, if you haven't gotten sexually involved with this individual, then those feelings will eventually subside, especially when you're around them alot (as long as you're not 'doing it'). I can't stress that one enough. Shouldn't be a problem. Just be friends with the person for a while and like the rest of us you'll find lots of annoying habits and eventually you will begin to wonder why you were ever attracted to this person in the first place hahahaha!!
  10. I have to admit, the first paragraph of your post made me laugh. I'm kinda the same way though. Just because you don't have 'best friends' doesn't mean anything. I don't have best friends either. Lots of aquaintances, but thats it. That's all I need. That's all most people need or ever have. The 'best friend' thing kinda ends in highschool, and anyone who brings up needing 'best friends' is probably that age. You're not weird. you're about as normal as the rest of us. relax and have a great weekend!
  11. I only have a 2 year business diploma and I make 6 figures. It's all about finding your niche. Mine so happened to be in trades. Just because you took business doesn't mean you have to work in an office. Get an idea and run with it. Take risks. People don't just wake up one day and find that they're making 100 or 200 grand a year. They take big risks. Parents often know more that we so I suggest you listen to them. I'm not saying they're right, and i'm definitely not saying you need to follow in anyone elses' footsteps; find your own path, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
  12. I'm not going to tell you not to ride it out for a while, and I'm not going to tell you to give up on him. Somewhere inbetween i'd think. Sit back, let things fall where they may. One MAJOR piece of advice though, if you want any chance of keeping it alive...DO NOT START CHASING HIM, HARASSING HIM, CALLING HIM 5 OR 10 OR 20 DIMES A DAY, CRYING, GROVELLING, RATIONALIZING, OR IN ANY WAY TRYING TO CONVINCE HIM THAT HE IS DOING SOMETHING BAD OR WRONG. That will only seal the deal. I Guarantee it. Ride it out for a couple of weeks, be casual, see what happens. That's about the best advice I can give you. Good luck and best wishes.
  13. You're right about it being tough. She's not pregnant. That was never an issue. She hurried to marry this guy behind everyones back, because we all knew he was big trouble and wouldn't have approved, but it was what she wanted so she did it anyways, in secret. She has some friends, but very few now that she has been shut away for so long as a result of a jealous and overbearing husband...you know how that goes. I know nothing of her family really, but I do know they're not here; In fact I know very little when it comes to giving her a helping hand (reason im asking). Though a DV shelter would be a good suggestion to pass on to her, I doubt she'd do it. It'd hurt her pride too much, and she just wouldn't be able to do it. I think she'd rather be hospitalized, to be honest.
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