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  1. saltwatergirl
    You are doing great, kick him to the curb and please dont look back. As a matter of fact kick him accross the street, around the corner, and down to the other curb. You REALLY don't believe the condom story, or the receipt story. they are both LIES and you KNOW THAT. Do not try to even attempt to believe a word he says from here on out. He is a liar, he is a cheater, and he's abusive. Consider this a blessing, he has done you a favor because you no longer have to waste another minute of your precious time on this loser. Remember, he is only lying to himself, not you. He is hurting himself, not you. YOU are worth so much more, he is the idiot, not you. WHEN SOMEONE SHOWS YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM. DONT QUESTION THEM, DON'T DOUBT THEM. He has shown you who he is. He is a baldface LIAR and he CHEATED on you. Accept what he is and move on. FAST. Good Riddance. Dont pick up the phone, dont respond to a text. No more wasted energy on this jerk. A new life awaits you, embrace it, and forget the past. Start living again, and in a very short time you will have no anger cause you flat won't care, you will wonder why you ever even stayed with this person. Especially when you meet someone who is soooo much better for you. As a matter of fact I believe that one day you will actually think of his antics and LAUGH at the idiocy that is this person Salt
  2. saltwatergirl
    S&D is right, you should listen to him because he always seems to know what to say and do in situations. It is very hard to not contact someone but you MUST NOT pick up the phone. Get very, very busy. After a while even if your ex does return, you might be too far removed to even want them back. A sad but probably "best" outcome. Salt
  3. saltwatergirl
    You are a trusting person. You are also an optimist. And you are a fighter. Nothing at all to be ashamed of or wish away. You just had the wrong man. Keep all these qualities, and you will be fine. PS: It is time to let go of that one. Salt
  4. saltwatergirl
    Why do you check his text messages to his girlfriend? Why do you even care what he does or says? You are wasting your time every single minute that you spend reading, checking, talking, thinking about him....Stop allowing him to dominate any more of your life! What you need to do is move, start a new life, and FORGET ABOUT THAT MAN. He is worthless and you deserve much better. Love him all you want, just do it from a distance. He is a total jerk, a very big mistake, stop letting him pull your strings like some puppet. Forget everything he is saying, and get up on your own 2 feet and start standing up for yourself. Geez why do you even WANT to be with him!!!! Salt
  5. saltwatergirl
    I dont understand what you are doing. I have found myself not answering calls before, but that is mostly when I am crying and all, or know I will be, and dont want to be doing that on the phone with him. But to sit there and take great joy in how many times he has called and youve ignored him? Sounds very silly to me. NC with someone you love is HARD, not laughable material. You make no sense. If you really did not want any further contact you would simply answer the phone and tell him that point blank. Do what you say, say what you mean. Its called honesty. I dont know how you can sit there and laugh at the fact that he is trying to contact you. Sounds to me like you are getting some big ego boost out of his phone calls, and it's childish. I had an ex once who did some bad things, and I broke it off and walked away. He called me, alot. I did not answer the calls. But not once did I laugh at it. I actually got sad because I knew it was over, and I wished he hadn't done what he did to cause that. I cried like heck listening to the answering machine, too. It was anything BUT humorous to me. Salt
  6. saltwatergirl
    Im really not believing that you still want to be involved with this man. Do you really not think you can find someone better?? Heck being alone would be better than being with him. I have been in situations where I was lied to, cheated on, and I finally realized that if I dont have respect for myself, I have NOTHING. So I walked. Yes it was hard, yes it hurt, yes I missed him but you know what, I'm alive. I didnt shrivel up and die. In my case this person did come back very regretful of what he had done, and I chose to allow him back into my life, but at a distance. He went out if his way to convince me that he was sorry, this guy of yours is doing nothing! However, no matter what happens, I will NEVER AGAIN allow anyone to treat me badly. I don't care how much I love them. I know that I am capable of "getting over it" and moving on, and I know my own worth. I am done giving any more chances, and I think you should be, as well. Get rid of him and move on. He sounds like a total mistake.. Salt
  7. saltwatergirl
    Well, instead of trying to "get" a definite answer, you could just decide to create your own. Something along the lines of 'well, i dont believe this is the right course of action for 2 people in love, and so apparently she isnt in love. thereforeeee, my decision is to move on". Salt
  8. saltwatergirl
    This person is a liar and cheater. And he has done it to you more than one time. I would not give him another minute of my time. Why allow him to continue to have chances to hurt you? He obviously does not love you, he is deceitful, he is sneaky, and he is portraying himself as available to other women online for a REASON. He isn't just window shopping, here. I would cut off every kind of communication so that I could cleanse my system, repair the damage he has done, and move forward. You don't need him or his LIES in your life. You really don't. It is not likely to change, and you deserved much better. Salt
  9. saltwatergirl
    Well, forget about what he won't do or wont apologize for, stop trying to explain yourself, stop waiting for him to respond again, as a matter of fact stop everything about him and IGNORE his antics. He's gone? GOOD RIDDANCE. You don't deserve ANY of this. Run don't walk as fast and far as possible. Never cast your pearls before swine! Salt
  10. saltwatergirl
    Hmmm interesting development you have there! keep us posted! As far as happy endings, I just live vicariously through others. Salt
  11. saltwatergirl
    I'm so sorry you met up with someone like this. SHe is a total and complete pathological liar, and to continue lying even when caught! Wow! I know how that makes you feel!!! Makes you wonder if they have lied about EVERYTHING they ever told you! This is the worst possible type of person. I am so glad that you ended this because otherwise you could have spent YEARS being lied to over and over. The hospital story was so lame, but then again I've fallen for worse. Count your lucky stars, and whatever you do stay COMPLETELY away from her! Take serious action to rid her from your thoughts, whatever it takes, until you see her for nothing more than the pathetic liar that she is. Salt
  12. saltwatergirl
    Ok let me get this straight. you tested her loyalty to you by breaking up with her, cutting her off from sex, giving reasons why it wouldn't work.......all head games you constructed in an effort to "test" the loyalty of a girl you now admit was "perfect for you". Hmmm. I can see why she would develop insecurities with you. Unfortunately, you played one too many games, and she ended up with a check-mate. Salt
  13. saltwatergirl
    I've been where she is before. Someone hurts you, comes back, hurts you again, lies, whatever. It is pure agony and after a while you just reach the point where you don't care anymore. You're all out of tears and your all out of "want to". This post above mine put it perfectly: too little too late. It happens and I think it has happened in your case. I agree with the advice given...accept that it's done for now and just stop calling or emailing. If she decides to contact you at some point you might have another shot, but not now and maybe, not ever. Let this be a learning experience for you & dont make this same mistake with the next girl you care for. Salt
  14. saltwatergirl
    This happens because you go through the tears and anger, then you just get to this point. You are right-- its no longer jealousy. That's just you seeing him in a new, less attractive way. Loss of interest-- Go with that. Realllly step back and look at this guy for what is NOW, not what he was or you thought he was. You'll feel better, sooner, if you do. Cowgirl Up! Salt
  15. saltwatergirl
    Once again, DN & Hope, we find ourselves in agreement. 8) Salt
  16. saltwatergirl
    She has treated you badly. I know you wish she would acknowledge that and you could feel vindicated. Probably won't happen, set your mind to let that go and focus instead on finding some peace. I'm sorry you had to go through this, and my sympathies on the baby.. You are doing the right thing, take care of yourself and distance as much as you can from this person. You will be back to normal soon, and feeling much better. It's tough, I know. Hang in there. Salt
  17. saltwatergirl
    You know, everyone in relationships has to compromise, make the other person happy when you can, and meet each other half way. She doesn't sound like she was willing to do any of that. I think you did the right thing. Find someone you are more compatable with. Salt
  18. saltwatergirl
    Yeah, I missed the whole drug addict/sleep with friend part of this story somehow. Thanks for the nudge! In this case, I'll give my usual advice: Kick to the curb and move on. Salt
  19. saltwatergirl
    My personal feelings are that you have played one too many head games with this guy, and now he's not so sure about you. I don't blame him. You sound like you have acted in a very immature manner with him. You've backed him into a corner, not once but twice, trying to get him to do or say something that you want to hear. Not cool. For some reason, you want there to be a problem in this relationship. Why is that? Salt
  20. saltwatergirl
    If you 2 aren't committed, then I agree you did the right thing by choosing to just let it go. But, even if you try to justify what he did, it still hurts, doesn't it? You could just try to let it go and approach him casually. But, be prepared for some changes that might occur within yourself after discovering that he cheated. For example, the respect you had for him in the past may not be there so much anymore. That can lead to a lessening of the attraction you once felt. you may even reach the stage where you honestly don't care what he does, and at that point you may find yourself beginning to pull away from him emotionally. Basically just lose interest. Salt
  21. saltwatergirl
    I understand that the reason you broke up with him was to get him to see you are for real. And now you regret having done that because he didn't bite the bait. The problem is, you are trying to do that for HIM when you really should be doing it for YOURSELF. Try thinking of it this way, you broke up with him because you ARE for real, not because you want him to think you are. Be honest with this all the way. He will realize how you feel based on your actions, not on your scare tactics. This is what you needed to do to give yourself some space and decide whether or not you can live with him the way he is. That is the real reason for doing what you did. It should not have anything to do with him or with showing him something. It has to do with yourself. Turn it around in your mind to this way of thinking and you will not be beating yourself up over what you think was a mistaken move. Salt
  22. saltwatergirl
    You can't make somebody want to be with you. No matter how hard you try. They have to come to you on their own. Let me put it this way: She can't take a step forward until you take a step back. Step back and see what she does. Salt
  23. saltwatergirl
    Kick to the curb and move on. Salt
  24. saltwatergirl
    It's amazing how many people will say one thing then do another. Leaves you questioning whether or not the entire relationship was one big facade. You doubt everything, right down to whether or not they even cared about you at all. Where you just a game, a big scam, was it all a big fat lie? In time you will begin to release these thoughts and realize that it is't you, it's them. If it hurts to think they lied about their feelings all along, then just make up your mind to believe they didn't and take comfort in thoughts like "she's young" and "it just was wrong timing", etc. If it helps to believe she loved you, but this just happened, then believe that. You can choose what to accept. Dont hurt yourself by conjuring up all the bad thoughts. Dont do that. I hope you get better soon. Salt
  25. saltwatergirl
    Well said, Lexi. Salt
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