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So, sexual orientation affects the chances of getting to heaven? I basically agree with everyone above, but I need to add something: If there should be a heaven or hell we should go to after dying, and the "selection" were fair, then it would depend on the things we do while alive and our attitude towards life, not on the genre of the person you love. Greetings ^_^ d1whoutf

I haven't read all the previous replies, but when you get that magazine, it's not only for the photos, but there are some very interesting articles...

I totally agree with RayKay and Hope75: Obesity can be very dangerous on the short and long term. Whatever you do, you shouldn't wait long. I also agree with the other member that said that it would be a good idea to simply not buy, in this case, butter. There are plenty of substitutes for butter, and maybe if your sister couldn't find that much junk food and instead there was only healthy food in the fridge, she would have no choice but to eat it (the healthy food). And as I said before, results need sacrifice; time and attention are needed for her condition to improve, and as hope75 said, it's your sister. Have you discussed this matter with your parents and included all these points mentioned in this thread? Working and thinking together (now that you have these ideas we have given you) could bring you to the best solution to this problem. Good Luck D1whoutf

Hi There! Well, I agree with RayKay in the point that it can be quite difficult to solve this issue. First I would recommend to go for counselling/professional help. I could also say that maybe you could actually give her a bit more attention; afterall she's only 9 years old. What hard is is to know what is the proper way of doing it. Why don't you try playing games/sports with her? Not videogames, or board games, but some game including physical activity: running, jumping, cycling around the neighbourhood, chasing, swimming... any of those will do. It will give you time to have fun with her and give her attention and excercise! Also, if you keep her busy enough, she might not spend her time eating, would she? Also, sports can be an excelent way to socialize (which may help her loneliness) Remember, that if you do want to help her, you must sacrifice some of your time. A few minutes less of tv won't do any harm to you, and besides physical activity can be good for you too! (and if you have a gf (assuming you're a man. A Bf, if you're a woman), taking him/her along could show your fun/sweet side... that could be good! Finally, you must also remember that it's not really about being fat or thin, but healthy and happy! Good Luck! Keep us updated! D1whoutf P.S.: Ice Cream is really really fattening!

Hi there! WOW! That was indeed some post... and that friend of yours is also some friend... Well, If I were to read what is behind your friend's behaviour, I would say that he somehow is screaming for attention; just like small children do, he seems to be doing all sorts of possibly annoying stuff so that you listen to him, or care about him. Now, why might he be doing this? There's a chance, that he... (hmm, how should I say this?)... really likes you (again)? I mean, he might have some sort of crush on you (again) and he might not be that good at expressing himself. (I know this sort of things can happen; when I was your age, I was also sort of annoying with this girl I liked two years ago lol Besides, you say that he didn't have the guts to Another possible answer for his "awkward" behaviour is that he might have some other problems, like at home, or at school. If you say that he hadn't acted like that before (just in the past month-s), then there must have been something that changed him. What I would do is to talk to him and find out what exactly is going on; maybe you could even help him work his problem(s) out. Arrange to see him some day in some peaceful place, or just any place where you could talk without being constantly interrupted. You could begin telling him that you don't really like the way he's acted towards you the past weeks and that you'd like to know if there's something going on... etc. Well, that was just a suggestion; it's obviously up to you if you do that or something different (or better), however, I do believe that someone must do something about this... that time two years ago, it took me quite some time to realize that what I was doing was stupid, and useless suffering and annoyance could have been spared. Good Luck! Keep us updated! D1whoutf P.S.: Screaming Infidelities

Hi There! Well, what I'll write here is more or less a summary of what the previous posters have said, plus some of my opinions. I can also seem to be flustered or cold some days, especially when I've had arguments with my friends or parents, but I tend to "cool down" in just a few hours or days. If what you want is to extend your conversations, well, the first thing you should do is listening. When you listen to what the other person is saying, you will be able to ask more things or add your comments to what the other has just said. A few weeks ago, we were doing this kind of excercise to help us develope our conversational skills, and this guy had to pretend he wanted to get to know this other girl. It was like just some kind of game, but this guy kept asking the same questions over and over again, so he obviously failed. Next, as muneca said, is talking about something you like. Isn't it a lot easier for a soccer player to talk about soccer teams, special movements and soccer products than talking about bytes, microsurgery or nanotechnology? Find a topic you are interested in and you know about, and you will have a lot to tell and ask. After the other person's statement, you can ask further things about the topic and/or add your opinion, either agreeing or disagreeing. Now, about your overall "attitude"; life is nothing else but a bunch of opportunities which you have to take or leave, and some of them are once in a lifetime, so the best you can do is look up, smile and do what you have to do: be yourself. But, "What if it goes wrong? What if I fail? What if the other's don't like it?" well, Who cares?! The worst that could happen for saying something appartenly stupid is that they will laugh... then, laugh with them! Once the fear of "humilliation" has disappeared, everything will go fine, trust me! Well, that's my 2 cents... Good luck! ^_^

Hey Kristen! Umm... typical teenager issue lol... I've been there a lot of times (obviously the way around, because I'm male lol). Well I definitelly think Inconceivable's suggestion was good; what you have to do is find something to break the ice and dropping your books in front of him will first test his "kindness" and will force him into some small conversation. One thing that I did when I was trying to catch that someone's attention was looking at her for some brief seconds, until she eventually noticed. Then, I would turn away, and after the second time I would smile at her... it worked fine for me that time: we became good friends; too bad she already had a boyfriend, and I was leaving town (It was a student exchange) lol. Whatever you do, I would like you to know a bit of my philosophy (XD lol): To me, this age is just for getting to know people and like "rehearsing" for the time you get to know the person of your life lol, so you don't need to be down if you don't exactly succeed lol... However, you sound like a great girl and I'm sure that once you talk to him, he'll melt to you and be yours Good Luck! D1whoutf P.S.: don't hesitate to ask if u got any other doubts lol, we are here to help ^_^

Hi blowfish! I agree with most of the people above in the point about unprotected sex being unsafe at any time. Well, first of all I don't think that it was that smart to have unprotected sex, unless you wanted a child. Having children is a big responsibility, and making one without having planned it, is a bad idea. That clear liquid is something I think is called pre-cum or so, and it might contain sperm if you already came before. But if you peed before, then that is unlikely to have happened because it would have flushed away. If there were any doubts, your gf could still use the day after pill. Just don't do that again (unprotected sex) unless you have thought about it carefully. D1whoutf

Hi Newlife! Basically I agree with all the people above. If he had a condom on, and there wasn't penetration, there isn't any chance of getting pregnant. I mean, the semen didn't even have contact with you. There could be a small chance of pregnancy if you had touched the semen and then your vagina, or if some semen had gotten in contact with it. If none of the above happened, I could assure you haven't gotten pregnant. D1whoutf

Hi Brit! I agree with the posters above. If that girl is really bothering you, then go just dump her. If it were up to me, I would give her another chance; after all, you are friends right? Try to tell her in a not so direct way what you believe it's wrong about her. Find a way to talk to her about her problem in a non dramatic and strong way, but without hurting anyone's feelings. If that didn't work, then there would be no other way out but to dump her. Just stop calling her so often, as lilsuthurncutie posted above. Good Luck! D1whoutf

Hi Protex, I'm sorry to know you are going through this. I know how bad it feels to see someone you love going out with someone else because I'm in the same trouble right now. (If you want to read more about it then go to link removed and read from the beginning so that it makes sense). The girl I wanted (she knew I liked her) became one of my friends's girlfriend. Now I'm a lot better than a week ago, but I still can't look at them holding hands and that kind of stuff. When she first told me, the news really shocked me. This is what I did to try to get over this thing: I tried to "kill" the feeling (It didn't work) I got myself time and space to think (It kinda worked) I tried to just be friends and forget I loved her (It also kinda worked) But the best I did was to open my mind to her decision, respect it and move on. It took me a few days to finally realize that that would be the best. Now I'm like searching for what really was meant for me. At this age, these "loves" will strike from time to time. Some friends told me: "There are many fish in the sea", and that's true. Some people from enotalone said: "You are still young", and it is also true. So, why keep suffering for something that has already been done. Why not open your eyes and see that there is still a lot to live and a lot to see? So, that's my point of view Good Luck! D1whoutf

Hi Everyone! I'm having some trouble in making my conversations longer. I don't have trouble in starting it, but in keeping it going. It's hard for me to think of more questions to ask or things to say. The funny thing about this is that I don't have this kind of problems in "written" conversations (sms, chatting on msn, etc.). It only happens to me when I'm most desperate in keeping a conversation going (when with a girl, for example) I tried to ask about the plans for the week/weekend, family, and some other stuff, but it's like most times I get to a "dead end", where that awkward uncomfortable silence comes, and believe me, it is uneasy for both me and the other person. Any kind of help is appreciated! Thanx in advance D1whoutf

In my opinion, suicide is the last resort of someone who's life is ABSOLUTELY miserable and wont improve. Notice that I stress ABSOLUTELY, because some people inspite of having a lot of things other don't and would like to have, still feel like killing themselves just because they believe it's the best way to escape the problem. What I'm trying to say is that in life, there are always going to be problems. Things will never run as smoothly as one expects them to, but as long as you see that your efforts are not pointless, you have to keep fighting. I'm sure important people have suffered because of being different, because of being better or maybe because they were not understood. They might have suffered even more than many other people, but if they had commited suicide, they would have never succeeded in their lifes. Commiting suicide can also be a selfish decision, as you abandon your problems for someone else to solve them. The friends and family of the person who has died might feel guilty for not having helped him. They will suffer even more because of that someone who chose the "easy way out". Some of them might even kill themselves following the example they had. I do believe that death comes when it's time to. There is no need to hurrying towards it. Life can change in any moment, why not stay a bit more in this world and wait if it does? That's only my opinion D1whouf

well, It would be great if you could tell us what your situation is like.

Hi I_hate_the_world47! I'm sorry to hear that you want to end your life at this moment. You are 14, you are in the best period of your life, I mean, the parties, the friends, the hang outs. You are growing, you are getting to know the world... It's like when the flowers are beginning to open and show their most beautiful looks. It should be a great moment: the first crush (although it must not neccesarily work), the driving licence in a few years... it is like everything happens now. I know it because, as you see, I'm also 14, and I know that there are a lot of great things I would miss If I decided to leave the world now. However, sometimes I have also felt so down that I would like to go for the endless sleep and leave this place forever. Sometimes, it seems the whole world colapses and everyone is against me and nobody will understand me; even my best friends seem to have made a plot against me. But then I realize that I still have lots to live, lots to learn, lots to enjoy, and I see, that death is not my solution to problems. Dieing wont solve any problems; you will only worsen them and give them to someone else, who might not be able to cope with them and will end killing himself too. It's like a chain reaction. Imagine how your parents, your friends or anyone will react to that: they will feel guilty for what has happened, they will be depressed, they will have lost someone very important. I know that there are people out there who love you. If it's that bad, please tell us what your situation is. I'm sure everyone will try to help you, but please, DO NOT kill yourself. I hope this helps, D1whoutf PS: have a look at this poem, it's great link removed

Hi Spaggle! Well, I agree with all what people before me wrote, but I would like to add a little something about diets and excercise. A correct diet should not lack carbohydrates, vitamins or minerals. I say this because there are some people that believe that by not eating foods that contain carbohydrates (bread, grains, rice) they will loose weight. That's bad for you because you will not receive the vitamins you also get from these kinds of food. Eating only a sandwhich a day is NOT enough. remember that you are in your "growing" age. You should eat balanced and healthy. Mahlina was explanation was more than complete (standing ovation). But remember that you also have to do excercise. A diet wont work alone and wont make miracles if you don't excercise yourself. By doing excercise, you will also let your muscles grow, and you will decrease ammounts of not wanted substances in your body (maybe some fat). Doing sports is also a great way to have fun and socialize (you will have an interest to share with others). summary: eat healthy and balance and do excercise! I hope this helps. Good Luck D1whoutf

Hi matty722! I really think it's a bit too early to be sure about you being gay or not. I read that teenagers (boys) have a phase in which they just think about weird things with boys. But they are just thoughts, it's just fantasizing. As maggie18 said before, you might just be confused about it. If I were you, I would wait and see if this thoughts just go away, as this things can happen. Hope this has helped. D1whoutf

Hi Sandman1027! As some of the ppl above said, you could be a bi, and there's nothing wrong with you. If I were you, I wouldn't be that sure about being gay (or bi or whatever) or not. I read that at this age, some teenagers might have homosexual fantasies or thoughts. That doesn't necessarily mean you are (or you will turn) gay. Well, that's what I've read. The truth is inside you, and since you have to be accepted the way you are, you shouldn't change to please anyone. Anyway, if you weren't attracted by females, how come you have a gf? I hope this helps. D1whoutf

Well, if she still cares, then I wouldn't say it's too late to turn back (She still feels something for you). First of all, begin talking to her again. Try inviting her to the movies or anywhere, but you have to be with her so you can talk. Good luck! you better hurry before you loose her forever D1whoutf

My Girlfriend would be someone really comprehensive. She would love me more than everythign and I would love her even more than that. We would support each other no matter what. She should be intelligent, funny and she should be able to make me smile even if I were really sad. She should make me feel great. (I'm allowed to dream, am I not?) d1whoutf

Hi Colls! I'm sorry your boyfriend has been ignoring you. Maybe there's something that is disturbing him and has kept him from talking to you. It must not be you, maybe family problems or that kind of stuff that keeps your mind occupied for a long time. If I were you, I would just go and hold him (hug him) and while doing this, say you love him and ask him what the problem is (you are still hugging him). Try it, and reply to know if it worked or not. Good luck D1whoutf

Hello Everyone! I'm usually a good person to chat with, but sometimes, when I'm talking to girls mostly, I run out of conversation topics. You know, every thing goes all rigth, but suddenly we both stay without saying a word. I want to replace uncomfortable silence with something that can get things "back on the rails". Thanx d1whoutf

Hello Everyone! I'm coming with another problem so you can help me. I'm feeling that I'm hated or unwanted by almost everyone I know. I mean, it's like I'm not the kind of person that "fits in", and lately seems like I'm gaining more enemies than friends. I've tried being kind and nice to everyone, but it seems that it's the other people that do not want me as a friend. It could be my attitude too, but I'm not sure about that. Sometimes I feel so bad about this that hope the etern sleep comes so I can stop all the pain this causes, because I really feel down. I hope you can help me. d1whoutf

Hey Dannyjo! I'm sorry to hear this happens to your sister. If I were you, I would try to explain her that, as Mare said, people are beautiful because of what they are, not what they look like. However, your sister's problem can be solved by a dermatologist. Sometimes, when my self esteem is low, listening to music helps me. By the way, have you heard "beautiful" by Christina Aguilera? I think it's a nice song. Good luck! d1whoutf

Hey Tanisha! Altought what nifty swifty said is right, I really believe your parents, adoptive or not, CAN'T harm you in that way. Even if you behave really badly, smacking your head into a rock can cause you death. Personally, I'm not against what you did to protect yourself, as they were doing something against your will and safety. I really think you and your parents need some professional help. Killing yourself won't solve the problem. Don't try that, instead, GET HELP. Keep us updated! d1whoutf