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Thankyou so much for your help really you all have helped me through alot of rough times and hard times and times when I was hurt and sad and I still am but I am just so tired and drained from this and to sit here and think about it I always believed believed believed and everytime I got hurt and over and over again was doing the same things well I am going to be me now its going to be hard but im going to try like I dont know what to be strong about this and do what I have to do from here on out

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Ok,I need some help here,I am moving on from my ex now and I am trying my hardest to keep up with it and not turn back like I have so many times,We broke up and now we are not talking.He told me to leave him alone and that if he wanted to talk he would call,The thing is I have heard that so many times and it has hurt me so many times to think that is or could be the last time we ever speak again and it killed me but now I am so tired of hearing it and tired of trying everything I could when along he was fine and basically already moved on probably,That dont hurt me that he is happy it hurts me that he played me and made me believe things that mabe I should have never believed,I always believed what he told me because I loved him but now the way he treats me is not cool and looking back the ways he treated me in the relationship were not good either,I do know I had faults in the relationship as well I am not saying it was just him but sometimes I fear he wont call me anymore and that is because it's happened so many times that he said he would not and always ended up doing it,I guess my question is what do I do to keep strong?Where do I start at?I am afraid to move fully on because of things that have been going on during breakup and afraid to go back to where I was again because im scared of the feeling I get when this happens,What I am basically trying to say is that I think im ready to try and I want to know the best ways to do this!!I find myself scared and always filled with fear now because of the mind games and I dont like it,I just dont know what is right from wrong and I do believe there are ways to fix this but how do I undo what has been done?.....Anyone have there opinion I would greatly appreciate it

Watch yourself girl because you have alot of proof though snooping is not good,I would seriously start preparing to find out something more worse then the things you have the reason I am saying this is because you have found things and I guess the receipt just jumped into his pockets and the sites were just there to be there,I dont know you might want to start guarding your heart now before you seriously get hurt,Im not saying he is doing these things but I am saying watch yourself because there is alot of fishy stuff happening that you explained.I wish you the best of luck with this keep me posted

Just be there for her as a friend and if she needs to talk about it talk to her,But dont throw it in her face or keep bringing it up just be there

The only way for you to figure this out is to get some courage and just try asking her out or talking to her about it,You never know sounds like she is flirting with you so talk to her if you are shy just try flirting a little more so she will talk to you

Honestly you never know what can happen,You know what people say age is nothing but a number so dont think that because he is older that you could not be happy or have fun with him.He may be older but to me from your post you seem interested and there is nothing wrong with that,Something about him gets you going and I think that he may like you to by the sounds of him cooking you dinner and inviting you over,Go with the flow and do whatever makes you happy this is not about what others think about the situation its about how you feel and think good luck keep us posted

You are very confused,You now have to decide is being away from her more important then being with her,Only you can decide that you just have to figure out which one will work best for you or make you happy,I will say if you cannot be with her then you have to tell her either way she will be hurt,But if you think it would be better for you to be with her good luck and keep us posted!

She likes you!!

Well that is a great way to start,Go ahead and ask him how it went and what happened there and when you go you will be glad to discuss it with him,Good luck with working on yourself and good luck with working on the relationship with eachother!Anytime you need to talk feel free to pm me

Dont get to wrapped up into what he says,Go by his actions,If you are fine with going with the flow then by all means have fun with it,Just protect your heart

I agree with emma

What is the reason you are doing it separate?I think that if he wants to talk to you about it he will but you can always ask how it went and see if there are somethings he would talk to you about

Mabe you just have not found what you are looking for yet as you had mentioned in your post,So you are dating and having one night stands looking for something U have yet to find,Try letting thing's come to you,What happens will happen just give it some time

Sometimes depends on the person,With myself sometimes I just go up and talk to ppl because I am very outgoing and just want to meet new people and it's not always because I am interested,Other girls may walk up and talk to you if they are interested though just my opinion

Once again the same exact thing was said to me to,Dont mention the relationship dont talk about anything regarding it,I have heard that to,Look out for you now girl because look at me I dont want to tell you not to listen or that he is being honest because I know what kind of situation you are in and I know you will do the best you can for you,But I will say be cautious because you dont want to end up in a game where you just cant win or a game at all for that matter,It's hard and tough but you have to be strong and make sure that you make the right decisions so it dont go down hill and get worse and worse everyday,First he says he dont want to talk,Then he says we can try,I have been going through that to for a very long time you just have to protect your heart or next week you will be back down in the same situation over and over again until the point you a.Find out something you dont like b.Thing's get a quick fix then nothing really changes so be strong please love ya girl

Estee dont cry dont feel bad dont be sad it's not your fault it's him he is playing you and you cannot let this happen,Look at me I have been through so many of the same things and I am doing NC now,*HUGS* I hope things get better for you soon!

You know what you sound exactly like me ,I do the same thing stay up all night cant sleep barely at all and I dont know why,Never thought of it as a problem but now it's basically draining me,I can stay up all night and all day and then sleep a few hours and do it all over again,I cant seem to figure out the cause of it but your post interested me because I am the exact same way!

Stop thinking about her focus on yourself your happiness and your wife,Dont let this fling that could have seriously messed up your marriage get in the way,Mabe the best thing for you to do is just tell this woman you think it's best if you dont talk anymore as hard as it is it might help you out in the long run,You might think about her but be more worried about your wife instead of if the girl you cheated on your wife with is with someone else let her be you have no control over that why worry,Good luck

Are you have problems in the marriage?For some reason I am getting the feeling that you like this other woman more then you think or mabe or more then you want to,Why would you worry and think about her so much if you didn't?Now what are the reasons behind you meeting with her everyday also?Are things in your marriage going well?

I agree with clever..

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Beautiful I loved the poems and they were great keep writing I enjoy reading

She may very well like you