ang3l2004

I know what you mean and this is so hard for me well i need some more advice and help if anyone out there has time to reply and has more advice or there opinion or aspects im so afraid going from relationship to the next day we are friends his mom told me the only chance for me to have is to try this out or if not he wont want to talk to me she said when we talk act happy like everything is ok act ok she said make it brief say hi how are u i have been doing blah blah and she could mabe see him turning around but she said it could be i might get stronger and be the one to tell him we are not going to ever work i dont want that i dont want to doi that even i do get better i know me and i know that the chance of us not having a future terrifies and hurts me and i know no matter what im going to be hurt i dont want to lose him for good i want this friendship that we are starting to help start us over so we can get backtogether and be happy that is what i want he told me he is handling things on his end and is going to live his life and thats what i need to do he told me but he also told me to get it through my head that we are not done completley can this whole friendship turn into a way to gettting back together

thankyou,i understand this is good and that we can still talk but the thing that is scaring me is that he is doing it this way just so mabe i can be the one to say im done or on the other hand doin this to get over me which freaks me out cause thats not really what i want at all i want him to be happy but i also want a future with him so im so confused do u think that i should cut contact with him completely or just hang in there and things might work i dont know really what to do i never been through this b4 and it does hurt

the thing is he doesnt want nothing more then a friendship with me right now he made that clear but he does want a new beginning which could take some time i just dont know what to do i just need some advice on ppl mabe that have been through the same thing or who knows we just broke up yesterday but we have talked on comp since then and im trying to be nice and not talk about it and be there but its so hard

Ok,Me and my ex broke up we were together 2 years we had been through some rough times with my insecurity and everything else well just the other day he told me that he thinks its best we break up he needed space and that it had nothing to do with me and that i am the perfect person for him but he just felt he wasnt free to do what he wanted and that he didnt want to act or be in a relationship he told me he doesnt want to get over me but that the way we were going now it wouldnt work so he told me that he only wants to talk to me 2-3 times a week and doesnt want questioned and wants to live his life he is 24 and im 20 he told me that he thinks that we should remain friends and that he wants a future with me and he told me that the more we have a present the less we have a future he told me to look at this as a clean start and a new beginning he said he is afraid of losing me for good and that he does love me he says this is the best beginning we can have,im so afraid because i love him and this is a big step and i just dont know if we are making a mistake can remaining friends mean that it can work and can remaining friends somehow make him see he does love and want to be with me i asked him so basically u have closed the chapter of our book he sais no our book is an neverending story and the outcome will be beautiful he keeps telling me he wants to have a future with me a fresh relationship with you and me (when we are ready to say lets work towards getting married)I dont want to lose him forever i dont want to not have a future with him can someone please read all this and give me there input and advice pleaseeeeeee

Well I question him because of my past relationship and my upbringing which is not his fault but i also feel that sometimes he is more worried about himself then me which he tells me that is because he needs space and he wants to do what he wants with no questions and no worries I really do love him and I really want ways to mabe help this out but I still dont get the whole broken up 9 months but neither of us letting go nor moving on because we still are together basically but were not if u can understand I dont know what to do I am so glad there is ppl on here that know what im going through and type there opinions and try to help out We have changed alot though like he is more angry with me when I call or if I ask a certain simple ? he thinks im questioning him which sometime I do because its so hard for me to trust that he is going to be there love me and want this to work if its been 9 months and nothing I dont know if he wants me to be the one to cut it but he told me if I am letting u go it will be when I cut contact tell you and not talk to you for awhile I am so sad Another reason is he might not want to hurt me but im not sure because he would cut contact see we live hour apart but he still comes to see me we talk everyday so im not sure u must understand how confused i am I dont think u tell friends your in love with them and going to marry them eventually At times he is so Sweet with I love yous and so nice to me other times he wants to be left alone I mean im stuck I do want to be with him and I do want things to work out I also feel if he dont talk to me or if he gets mad that he dont want things to work then I start feeling insecure then the next day its i love you and im coming to see you please reply

Call her never know what can happen mabe she is waiting on your to call

It is just all the uncertainty and confusion I love you I have no hope I want to marry you I need space Im not letting you go I am not ready for any serious relationship I miss you just all these things being told to me confuses me

I really appreciate your advice both of you so much I just am so confused thankyou for taking your time to read and reply I am just so out of it I understand completely what you mean and I am trying my hardest to understand everything myself

Hi I was dating a guy for a year I was completely in love with him and still am in love with him.I was really insecure and always asked him questions because I was unsure of his love for me I would call him alot and basically reasure myself he really loved me over and over again but this was from my childhood the way i grew up.Well he broke up with me 9 months ago but told me it was just because he needed space and he is still going to marry me oneday well we still talk everyday see eachother stay with one another tell eachother we still love on another but it has been 9 months we still act the same well now i dont call him and i try not asking questions but now he is saying that he has no hope but we still have not let go of one another because we are still acting the same the talking seeing i love yous everything well im so confused and after 9 months i thought he would be back i really dont know what to do because im trying so hard to make this work not to force it apoun his space but because i love him now i have done more things for myself and im not so clingy i work i got my license and im still insecure because its been so long he still says he going to marry me and tells me that he wants it to work and he does tell me things that are wrong and i get upset and cry he tells me that he tells me things so i can make them better not get upset over it i have no idea what to do im so lost and confused and i dont know how he feels sometimes hes real lovable and everythings ok other times he is mad because of my questioning or distancing himself from me i really do feel pain because im not sure what to do i need help and advice and mabe opinions from ppl that have been through this im 20 and he is 24 and i asked him if he wants to let me go and he says no even though were not together we still act as if so i need advice please now its been almost 2 years this june but we been broken up since june but i still consider this 2 years because he is still around he said letting me go and getting over me would be no contact at all till things got better and he has yet to do that he still tells me he is in love with me what should i do i dont badger him like i use to i gave him space but i still ? him from time to time when i really think about how long its been since he left so advice would please do me well please help in some kinda way pleaseeeeeeee thankyou so much