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hi, just to reply to s4il, stents are used in cardiac surgery and arent used in the treatment of dvt. their primary role is to open up arterys that have been clogged up by cholesterol deposits. Warfarin is the primary drug used in the treatment of dvt's as well as clexane, just make sure ur doctor keeps his eye on ur INR levels regularly. take care deano (haematologist by trade lol)

hi there, i can totally relate to what your ex is doing now as it is very similar to what mine is doing too. although she doesn't smoke pot! my ex moved out after a big argument with her mum and rented a flat, which i helped her set up this was very early after the break up mind. she was like "i cant live on my own what am i going to do" and stuff like that. she moved back home and her folks are bailing her out. well she now lives there full time, i dont know who she is seeing but her mum seems to think she's living on her own. she is like your ex and listens to others and always wants to fit in with the crowd. her close work colleague has just recently been left by her husband leaving her with 4 kids, about 3 months b4 our break up. she was constqantly talking to my ex and i do attribute some of it to her. my ex is now never seen in public unless she's with her or other work colleagues so i dont know what is goin on. like you her parents think she has made a big mistake, but my own think its was a good thing. take some time for yourself mate and start livin. deano

hi exodus, ive just been through a similar situation and all i can tell you is to give her and yourself time. my ex gf was 23 and im 27 when we split at the end of august after 3years 4 months, she gave me the we need a break thing then told me that she didnt think she could (read would lol) be faithful to me so we split. plus she had been unfaithful to me on a few occasions ie kissing other men whilst out with girlfriends, one of which was the voice in her ear to split with me, but thats another story. she said the same things as ur ex mate and to be honest u and i are alike in qualities and the things we did for our ex's. we are nice dependable guys, our ex's dont want that right now they will want that a few years down the line, but first they wanna have a bit of fun date other ppl and experience life. So should we!! ok it hurt like crazy for the first 6 weeks but then you get your head together and start doin stuff, ive lost a stone and a half since we split and i feel great and the ladies where i work (a hospital ) have all noticed. throw yourself into work and gym and other activities for a while, be you, find yourself. make you a better person. you have taken a big step by posting on this site, its great, just right really angry posts and put them up here instead of sending them to your ex. from what i have learned from all these good ppl on here, is that you dont tryand persuade your ex to come back, they just move further away. so cut your loses, remember the happy and not the sad but look forward to the future. leave her be for a while cuz you both need space and time to sort yourselves out, cut your contact and move forward. alot of ppl on here have a lot of good advice, read it and use it to suit you. keep posting mate deano

me and my ex had a saying, "you could look at the menu as long as you dont order" it seemed to work for us, but everyone is different. unfortunately for me she ordered, three times!! she said that she felt smothered in the relationship near the end. im 27 and she's 23, she wanted to get out and see if the grass is greener. who knows if it is, but i taught me some vauble lessons, breaking up with her as it hurt me deeply, but i am stronger now. if he wants out, then get out and find someone who apprieciates you honey. my 2p folks as always deano

i do like her alot but things have happened over the last few weeks were she has taken things out of context and thrown them in my face and made me feel belittled. makes out that she's the hurt party when i didnt think that i had done anything. i dont know what to think of her and we havent spoken since last nite, we are meant to meet for a gym induction thing tonite but i dont know if she will show plus how do i act if she does?? i guess im just gonna be friendly but keep my distance. uuurgh why all this when she could just tell me if she feels like that. thanks for oyur thoughts

hi folks, my female friend is giving me all sorts of greif at the moment and i dont know why? last nite i met up with her at her place of work and took her some dinner round. as i was leaving she asked to see my mobile phone, i consider things on that mobile as private to me so i said no im sorry you cant. she says that that said alot about me. i went home she was online so i im'd her, saying that the stuff on there was private and that i was sorry that i couldnt show her. she just said whatever and then goes that she wont ask again and wont trust me again either. im like wtf?? what did i do?? i asked about our friendship and she says that what is a friendship without trust - meaningless and then logged off. im flabbergasted its 2.5 months since my breakup to my ex and now she's pulling this on me. i am very confused and think she's playing mind games earlier in the week she said that there wasnt anything between us, but last nite she says that i dont listen and dont take in whats going on around me?? please help me get straight deano

mano you canot judge the story of a book just by reading the back cover!! but it helps make you wanna read it. i think you will find if you give her a chance that you might be surprised at what is beneath. i think you may find her inner qualities outweigh her visual ones. give it a go what you gotta lose, ur single u have a few dates with her and you will either be single again or find she's special. just take it steady and dont rush and if u wanna let go do it early so she dont get too attached my 28p's worth

yeah to you from your friends from accross the pond

thanks guys for your replies i think my best bet is to just let it go for a while she has had a lot to put up with recently and i dont think it would help with me coming on strong lady luck smile on me please as the stones once sang "i cant get no satisfaction" dean

Hi all, thanks for reading. its been 2 months since i split from my ex and todays been really hard for me, in fact the last 10 days have been really hard. i though i was moving on, id met another girl and we hung out as friends, she seemed interested in me which she expressed and i thought was great. she has hung out alot with another of her male friends i got a little jealous but didnt make that fact known to her. his gran died and he has spent most of the last wwek at her place, which she moans to me about but is there for him cuz she feels sorry for him. anyway i had lunch with her today but she seemed to have a lot on her mind so i let it pass. later in the afternoon i ring her to find out if she was ok? whilst chatting i mention that my mate who owes me some money would be giving me some of it back, i mention it to her and jokingly say she could have it if she needed it. she's says no, i say good jokingly. she suddenly gets cold and says bye and puts the phone down. i txt her to say that i was only kidding around and if she needed some money then i would lend her some, mate to mate. she texts me back saying she's really angry and that i should give her a bit of space, heck ive only seen her for like 6 hrs in the last 2 weeks. she ends saying that she is not on the market to be brought?? im like wtf i have never had any intention of buying her or would want to!! i texted her saying that i never had any intentions of buying her and have left it at that. i was meant to be taking her to dinner on sunday. she lost her mom a year ago, her ex bf died about 2 months ago, she hasnt had much sleep cuz of this bloke who stays over uninvitied but she lets him anyway, so she's really tired. and she's having problems with work and college. i guess i should back away and give her what she wants, i like her alot but am afraid that she thinks its all rebound stuff. some help here would be appreiciated, i miss being with some one but im trying to be strong and do the best i can out of a really cr** life at the moment. what did i do to deserve all the pain ive been through, oh yeah thats it i'm nice and kind and caring and thoughtful and sincere and loving and honest. im 27 next month ffs and i dont need this cr** in my life!! i need to get down the gym and work my anger and frustration out thru excercise. sorry about my rant but i just want someone who wants me for me, and at the moment i feel im being treated as a doormat to everyone. i just wanna find an island somewhere in the south pacific to go live on with some who loves me and a broadband connection for the internet. and im spent!! dean

ok i assume your in the usa so why not try asking her if she wants to do something with you over halloween and/or thanksgiving holiday. just fun stuff like going to the haunted house/haloween charity event if u have one in town , i know most uni campuses will be running one. show her a nice time and just go with the flow but remember she is still probably a bit fragile since the break up on the inside even tho she may seem healed on the outside. if she has enjoyed your company at the end of the night what ever, just tell her u had a great time with her and that u would like to see more of her. u cant make someone love you it is their free will all u can do is show some interest and hope they get the hint.

hi water-baby, first off, let me tell you that you are not alone in this world, thousands are going through what you are everyday honey, so you are not alone in your feelings. the same thing happened to me 7 weeks ago, i was devestated. the very best thing i found to get me through it was this site and u have taken a big step already by talking to us here if you have someone close that you can talk to with out blabbing it about then get everything out, anger, sadness, frustration, pain let it all flow from you. he was your world in your eyes, yes he was but you are your world and always will be. keep busy, excersise is my new thing i lost over half a stone in 6 weeks. get with your friends and get out of the house, just do things that will take your mind off things. do something that you have to concentrate on like horse riding or team sports. the days are painfull i know but each day u will get stronger and the pain lessens keep you head up, you are you and are a special person on god great earth. we all are. stay in touch and be well dean

mate the best thing you can do right now is let her know that you are there for her as a friend and a friend only right now. do it in a card something plain and simple on the front, inside just write, something like "here if you need a friend" or something along those lines. she just needs som time and space but to know that people are there for her. keep ur head and be her friend first and foremost ok ps am i on the right line here people

hmmm ladies are manna from heaven im my eyes the act of making a lady orgasm though touch, tongue and thought is one that i enjoy.

well my ex said she wanted more than anything to stay my friend but she doesn't seem to be keeping her end of the bargin. which is good i sent her a txt last nite which she got pissed off at and tried to hurt me by saying she has met someone else. well ive got a couple of irons in the fire myself. her telling me that actually let me let go of her cuz i knew she was going to be happy. i know the chap he's a nurse at my hospital and is by all accounts a good bloke. im a haemotogist btw. i rang her this morning to apologise for the bad tone of the texts and she apologise to me for being cruel, she said it first which was nice. she isnt going out w/ him but they are developing a friendship which is cool cuz that is what i am doing too. i dont think we are going to be best friends or even close friends once the dust settles, but we have said to each other not to be a stranger. so a call once in awhile and a card at b'days and xmas if i remember i can finally let my life take me where it should the uncertainty is over and my heart is back with me. i hope everything works outs for all u guys and gals cheers dean

thanks mate, i dont wanna work it out with her anymore i just want closure and to move on. should have dumped her in jan as she cheated on me twice then again the nite b4 she called it off. she used to be a nice girl but now she's turned into someone i dont wanto know evenher parents dont know her anymore. she says she wants to be independent and all that carp fine just pay me back the £1300 u owe me and get out my life. god i did love her but now im burned but opening up to someone else which is good. shes turned into a user iguess she always was. bled me dry rant over

my ex gf of 3 years has just texted me in reply to a text i sent 3 hrs ago. i asked if we could meet on saturday to get my stuff. i get the reply "excuse me i will set the date and time thank u" so pi**ed off i reply cuz i now she out getting drunk, fine dont get too pissed you wont enjoy the snog later. she texts back that " he's at work im seeing him 2 moro" i ring her she say that i dont own her and i should wonder why she dumped me 6 weeks ago. god i wanna ring her bloody neck 4 the sh** she put me thru. so is she trying to get at me or is she going out??? i feel like crap at the moment. i gave her everything and she throws it all back.

hi folks, this is a question for the ladies but i'll take anyones thoughts. does my ex-gf no longer care or is she hurting and putting up a front? the reason i ask is that she was pretty adamant about staying friends w/ me after our breakup. but she hasnt called me to see how i am or replied to the few txts that i sent asking how she was. i guess im out of sight and out of mind now. she's moved on already i guess i am trying to move on but every now and then a little voice pops up and the feelings flood back. for a bit of history read my last post " getting it off my chest " on this section of forum. thanks all dean

Hi folks, dean here again. I'm having one of those hard days when i keep thinking of my ex-gf. Sorry this is a long post, thanks for being there. My ex and i broke up about 6 weeks ago. she said she needed time and space to get her head together cuz she was confused about what she wanted. I said ok to this, but she then told me that although she didn't want anither relationship, she didn't know if she could remain faithful to me during the break. For her sake and mine, i broke it off after 3yrs and 4mths of being together. im 26, shes 22. This last year had been rocky, we were both frustrated at our home/family lives and unable to get out to our own place. My fault cuz i wanted to buy, she wanted to rent. i wasn't flexible. in january she went clubbing with some friends and kissed 2 blokes on separate nites. she told me and begged my forgiveness, lots of crying for both of us. i forgave her cuz thats the type of person i am. deep down my faith had taken a knock. so the relationship has been treading water since jan. i was giving but not recieiving i guess. fast forward. we break up, i spend the next 4 days trying to get my head round it all, lots of crying and emotion. I let her go cuz i loved her. thank god for mums. 2 weeks later, sporadic contact. shes been out practically every nite getting hammered and snogging blokes im told. that disheartened me cuz she was never like that. i hope that she wont get a name for herself. anyway, she gets into an argument w/ her mum and leaves to stay w/ a workfriend. she arranges herself a loan and sorts herself out a flat. a week later b4 she moves i her mum tells her that she wants all her stuff gone from the family home. she comes to me for help cuz we tried to stay friends. i help her get sorted. she moves in but doesnt sleep there, shes afraid of being alone at nite. her and her mum, thru her stepsister, make up, so she sleeps at home on the sofa. she uses the flat at weekends w/ friends to go out from. stupid i know. i found out she snogged a bloke the nite b4 we broke up. he was married and a parent of one of the kids she looks after. she said he kissed her. she just needed to talk about stuff. i dont know what to believe. i missed her so much thoe first 4 weeks, i sent her a couple of letters expressing my feelings and how i had seen things. in the end i gave up hope. she didnt even answer my txts even tho she kept saying she wanted to be my friend. she had a tarot reading done a bout 3 weeks b4 we split and it had told her not to lose me from her life. he loves her and is in love with her. he would always be there. i dont know!!! i gave her a wooden rose that would never die or wilt. and told her that i loved her and i always will. the rose is on her kitchen windowsill in her flat, in a vase with that message on show. i went away to london to see friends of mine one weekend. and a friend who knew her b4 i had met her told me something that made me realise some of the truth. my ex has always tried to fit in with the crowd. her crowd at the moment is her workmates and bestfriend. in the last 6 month, 7 out of 10 of them have become single again and started going out loads. i mnever once stopped her from going out w/ her friends. i guess i should have been firmer. i was the type of person that showered another with love to keep them, rather than being someone they wanted to keep. im now learning to b the type that will walk away, be more self confident but not in a jerk way, im a nice guy, im just trying not 2 b so nice, so that i get something in return. if you catch my drift. so shes got her mates and has been doing what she wants. i found the gym and lost 1/2 a stone already, i feel great bcuz of it. but ive no friends here cuz they moved away and i plowed myself into my relatinship. i dont wanna be sitting at home at the weekends, i wanna be out and about. meeting new people, its very hard. i saw her on saturday in town, she loked as if she had been burning the candle at both ends. i felt sorry for her. im getting on w/ my life and going up day by day. i felt sorry for her cuz i know that all she is doing is going round in cirlces at work in the week, getting pissed at the weekends. i felt it was a wate of a life really. sorry about the long post, i just wanted to get this off my chest. if you've got any advice and tips on meeting ppl and making friends i would br grateful for it. i can be reached by im if ppl wanna chat thanks for hearing me out. dean

hi confused, we are both going through the same thing at this point in time and i can understand ur pain and hurt. those feelings do lessen over time i promise. it is acceptance that we are going thru and once thru we can start reliving our lives. i just need some mates now cuz all mine moved away and im on my own here. i thank god for the gym, it has been my salvation, out with the stress and anger, in with the feel goods and the slimming waist line keep ur chin up and keep posting cuz we are all here

U are never alone in the world, just by posting here proves that ppl care about U and the countless others that use this service. God bless em. as some one said "time heals all wounds" and "hope is the saviour of all ppl" put your faith in yourself and u will be fine it is a long and difficult journey ahead but a journey of a 1000 miles starts with the first step. keep postin hon, we are here for u. dean

dry your eyes buffalo dear, its ok. i think it would be best for you both if u did separate as u both aren't giving your all. u need some time and space to become you again and to find out what u really want. i lived the last 18 mnths of my relationship in a 1 way love thing then suddenly my ex splits telling me shes all confused and dosen't love me. had she told me sooner and not cheated on me 3 times it would have saved a hell of a lot of heart ache. we were together 3yrs 4mnths. sorry its not the best news post but in the long run delaying it will make things worse. take care and pm if u wanna chat about stuff dean

nice post reborn i like it a a lot and will consider your thoughts when handling my ex-gf. sorry to hear your having a pig of a time with your ex genesis. can i just say that there are a few of us men out there that love women for who there are and not what they look like. (no offence to anyone intended). hopefully one day god will smile upon us all and pair us with our rightful soulmates. dean

yeah nice guys rock iam a nice guy and life goes on thank god for jack daniels (kiddin')

hi tolly sorry to hear about your problems but this the best place to air them. is your doctor going to refer you to a councillor or community pshyk team?? ive been to my gp and hes referred me rather than drugs