dino-prime

hi marianne, i think you need to calm down a little, take a deep breath and relax honey. finding this stuff out has dragged back a hell of a lot of hurt for you. you probably have a lot of unanswered questions at the moment and i can understand that. i dont think any of us get a real answer of why we where the ones to be dumped or hurt or why they did it to us. take a step back, how have u been coping in the last 2 months? its go to hear that u have been clubbing and trying to live a little. but most ppl in a night club dont want to know about ur problems they there for a good time. no one really know how you feel, you will find someone out there who u can open up to and that person will listen, understand and support you. its gonna take time. i know myself that its going to take time to try and get myself sorted out too. my gf and i split cuz she was being led by other ppl who were jealous of us. she blamed me for it all and really hurt me. but now she realises that it was them that caused it, but she need time to straighten her head out. i dont know if we will get back, i pray we do but she needs time. i need love, pathetic i know, all my mates moved away and its difficult. sorry off track there, keep talking to us here at enotalone. the right person is out there for you, stay strong go beat up a tree(i did it helps) and keep posting when u feel down.

thats the best advice, go see ur gp, he/her will ask u some questions, about ur eating habits ie are u vegi, if u have been feeling faint, short of breath on excertion. lifestyle etc u will have a sample of blood taken and tested by ur local haematology department at ur local hospital yeah the test results will come back after 48hrs and ur doc will explain them to u and the best course for treatment. dont worry this is very common and is easy to treat. (spot the haematologist )

well she has found herself a place and is moving in next week. she has totally ruined her family relationship with her mum and dad, they cannot bear to see her because of the pain she has put them through. i am very angry that she see's herself as the victim and that she doesnt face the responsibilty that she caused all this to happen. she has hurt deeply the the only 3 ppl on this planet that cared for her and she doesn't care one bit. at the end of the day as long a she gets what she wants, screw everyone else. man that makes me mad, she is a heartless self centred little b***h who is gonna fall flat on her face in the next few months and she bloody deserves it. im not gonna pick her up she is not worth my time anymore. she moved on as if the last 3 years didn't mean a thing, that hurts i put alot into that relationship. i hope someone hurts her so she will understand what ive had to go through.

well what a weekend, my mates from around the country all come back for a large nite out clubbing 8) i get rather lagered and have a blast, probably why the clubs called blast-off. friday nite my ex calls and we have a heart to heart and get some closure and we both feel better and want to stay friends but i feel that i can now move on. anyway my ex went out and stayed at her friends place against the wishes of her mother, told her she was somewhere else. her mum has now kcked her out of the house cuz of the situation and so she is currently staying at her friends whilst she trys to organise her life and get a roof over her head. i am going to support her as best i can as a friend and try to be there for her but i am sorting myself out and moving on.

the way i approached this when i was with my ex, man she was shy at first but that was cute and enticing to me. anyway, i took her out for a meal and we chatted and got lovey dovey at the table, you know saying how nice she looked and how happy she made me feel to be in her company. kept it nice and low key, not corny slushy crap, made her feel appreiciated. we walked through town along the river, holding hands, softly brushing her fingers and being nice and charming, with charming mean what u say and feel it too. we crossed a bridge i stopped her gently at the middle and looked at her, gazed into her eyes and asked politely if may kiss her. she blushed and said yes, so i gave her a gentle slow kiss on the lips, just soft nothing forcefull and no tongue. pulled back and just looked at her as if she was all that mattered. she grabs me and pulls me back in take it slow and dont intimdate her mate, she'll appreciate it my 10 cents anyhow

spun mate, i was 23 when i first had a gf and i'm now going through a rough time coming out of it but there is always hope. Anyway i know how it feels seeing everyone else with some one and u on your todd, friends have friends and they have friends, go out have some fun some one will come along when u least expect it, unless your roy cropper and u get laid but dont remember it get down the gym work out and admire the honeyz, that deffinatly takes my mind off it hmmmm

cheers street, from reading the posts and articles from this site i've been able to cope. i know its only been a week and i know its going to take time. lucky my friends are coming up country to see me this weekend which will help, but im back to being on my own when they go. I have no friends round here because they all moveed away whilst me and gf were together so i became dependent upon her for friendship as well as love. i know i'm going to have to go out and make new friends but i've never been very good at that. she has her work mates and close mates still around. i still think that there maybe some influence on her from certain quarters, i could just be trying to find blame. i just dont want to see her get hurt, she says she can handle herself but i know thats not the case and her parents fear for her safety, but she isnt talking to them, she isnt talking to me, we dont know whats going on in her head. she is talking to her mate from work who she started seeing regularly about 4 weeks ago, going out and stuff, she split from hubby after he dumped her for another woman, left her with 4 boys and 3 months to move out. then 2 weeks later my gf says she needs space and is out every nite doing god knows what. i gave that girl every moment of my time, every ounce of my strength and she took it all and thrown me aside like a used tissue. im angry that she wont talk and be honest with me, she has now started lying about where she is to her parents, she says she is at one place but is usually round at this mates house. we booked a holiday together and i paid not expecting this, i now cannot get any of my money back £200 up the kaiser, she owes me £850 from various times that she needed money. she owes her mum god knows how much. i realise now that she was manipulating me and i think that she thinks she can make me hang on for her because i have no mates around, im guess im her safety net for when she gets hurt, i dont know. i saw her yesterday to get some paper work from her, once again she was round her mates house, she came out asked me how i was as if nothing had happened, then she said i was allowed one hug, i mean wtf, this girl had the best of me for over 3 years and now s is pissing all over me. i felt really low after , but i sat here on this site for a couple of hours last nite and learned alot. i dont know if we will get back, i dont know if i should, i let her go because i thought it was the honourable thing to do, i couldnt hold her back from what she wanted to do. i did it because i love her i guess. as they say in basic; 10 say "fool" 20 goto 10 return i have decided that if she wants to talk then she should get in touch not me chsing her anymore. she hurt me and now im feeling that she should be hurt too, revenge is a terrible feelling. im worn out, sorry my rants have gone on, i know i will go on i just wish she had given it a chance.

hi this is my first post to this site, ive read many of the other posts and felt it wouldn't hurt to tell u my little tale. my gf and i have broken up and i'm hurting, i'm 26, she is 22, we have been seeing each other for 3yrs and 4 months. this last weekend was a bank holiday 3 day wkend here in england, we were planning to go to blackpool for a nice weekend together. We never made it. i get a txt msg from here saying that she didn't want to meet me and she would be in touch on saturday and we were not going to blackpool. boy did that spin me round. a bit of history. my gf and me meet on a blind-date set up by a friend of mine and his gf. we got on very well and decided to spend some time together. i was 23 and she was turning 19, this was my first proper relationship with someone, she had dated previously but nothing lasting morethan a few weeks, we were both each others first. anyway, time goes on and we fall in love and get to know each other better. Roll forward, to this january, we had an argument over something or other. we made up and i thought nothing more. a week later, she calls me and wants to meet after work. we meet and she bursts out crying really heavy sobs, she was so ashamed of herself, she had gone out with mates on the friday and saturday nite after our argument and gotten drunk, she had ended up kissing other men, 2 1 on each nite. anyway, i talk to her and after some thought i forgive her, i love her deeply and though it hurt i can forgive. our home lives weren't comfortable, we both live with our parents, the only time we could be together was at her house when her stepdad wasnt at home, hes a driver and is frequently away, he knew it went on but let it go after he got to know me. she would come to my house and sleep in my bed whilst i slept on the floor, she was never 100% comfortable with my family and they towards her. we tried, i know i did, to make the best of it, this last year found us treading water, so that i could try and get an exam out of the way so that i could earn better money frm work to get us a place together. thats what we wanted. we argued like most couples, money, time, i let her go out and have fun with her friends and do want she wanted. anyway she had been going out 4 nites in a row last week, dancing, she looks after babies as her job and i had had a go at her about it, cuz on friday morning she had stayed over at a mates (recently separated/4 kids) house, no phone and she was late to work, i got worried about her and was like this when we argued that morning. i rang her back later and apologised, she said "so you should" as if i was in the wrong. that afternoon ig et the txt msg from her, i ring her up and she tells me that she needs space and time apart, so that she can feel young again and do whats she wants. she felt that i smouthered her a bit and that i had issues that i had to sort myself. she loved me, but couldn't guarantee that she could be faithfull to me and didin't want to hurt me. this was my first br3akup and it hurts, she had lost her father when 13 and doesn't seem emotional about it all, she has been out with friends everynite since and is avoiding going home, this is worrying the hell out of her parents and me. i need advice as how i should handle her, i would love to get her back but know that mite not happen, she says she wants me as a friend but i dont know if i could handle it. got to go back to work i'll post later with more details on how ive been supporting her and how i feel used.