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We liked each other for ages, she used to tell me she could not stop thinking about me, but she was about to get married to some other guy, so I had to back down. Whenever we saw each other we both just couldn't take our eyes off each other it was crazy. she was going to break off her engament to go with me but I couldn't let her do this, incase it was a mistake, I had to lose touch for a while. I recently had contact with her again, I found out she broke of this engament recently, The other night I met her by accidently in the pub out with her work m8s, I could not keep my eyes off her, I think she was taunting me abit to approach her, My heart was going so much I felt sick. I could not keep still, my eyes just fixated on her, she approached me first, I told her how I felt, she said she could not take her eyes off me too. but she said she finished with old boyfriend and met someone else recently. She asked me to dance I did, but my heart was just ripped out i could not look at her when i was dancing incase I cried and she held me tight. I left soon after I could not stay anylonger, I don't think anythink can come of this, this time and it proberly best to try to forget her. but she's never gone away in my head. I never had a real girlfriend before I'm 21, I only ever dream of having someone to luv, be with, hold and touch, do things and go places together, I guess I live in dreamland to much.

I am 21 years old male, I've never really had a girlfriend mainly due to lack of confidence being way way to shy. I have female m8s an stuff, but never had a girlfriend, if i like a girl i try to work out if shes approachable to me and i like her. I just got back from the pubs up street and i met this girl who i liked for about a year not so much a crush i don't think but i've been thinking about her for age's, She once had a bad crush on me last year as she told me at this time i liked her to but she was engaged so I backed off. Ive been in theses situations before and been hurt badly I recently found out she split with her boyfriend so when i saw her tonight i could not take my eyes off her, i had a few drinks but then felt ill cuz of my heart just throbbing, we both approched each other towards the end of the night, I told her how I felt, she said SHE COULD NOT KEEP HER EYES OFF ME TOO!!, but she has a new boyfriend, My heart just sank felt it again! she asked me to dance so i did, but I couldn't for long my heart just felt black. I'm sick of being alone, I don't like to get involved when theres strings attached, I've been there before and I found with other girls, I will just end up tourchering myself. what can I do to find a girlfriend, thing is theres no one else i really like in the town i live, and going out to different places meeting new people is hard when it comes to girls cause like i said i like to work them out before i approach

I'm 21 years old and never had a real girl friend, I met this girl last summer, we just clicked straight away It was weird cause were both very shy, but I found her easy to talk to I never really told a girl about my feelings toward her before, and she tells me on how she feels towards me. Thing is she's engaged to get married, I've kept my distance from her since I met her cause I know I should not get involed, but when I do see her she tells me how she carn't stop thinking about me, and dosn't know what to do, and even said once she never felt like this about anyone before not even her own boyfriend. I think the reason shes still with him is because shes to frightened to leave him as they've gone to far into there relationship. I've never had a girlfriend before and a bit unsure about my feelings towards her, but I think about her every day even if I don't see her for months, I feel I would just like to hold her and be with her, (sorry for being Cheesey) I know when I've had crushes on girls in the past it kills me but this is not a crush just mixed up. Am I doing right not getting involved or not, I'm frightened if I do make a move and it does not work out I would have messed up her marriage plans.

I'm 21 years old and never had a real girl friend, most of my life has been a mess I've never really found life easy and had loads of couciling, I only wanted to lead a normal life, which I now think I've reached, I can now hold down a steady job and brought myself a brand new car which I am pleased about as I always thought I would always be in the gutter going nowhere. I met this girl last summer, we just clicked straight away It was weird cause were both very shy, but I found her easy to talk to I never really told a girl about my feelings toward her before, and she tells me on how she feels towards me. Thing is she's engaged to get married, I've kept my distance from her since I met her cause I know I should not get involed, but when I do see her she tells me how she carn't stop thinking about me, and dosn't know what to do, and even said once she never felt like this about anyone before not even her own boyfriend. I think the reason shes still with him is because shes to frightened to leave him as they've gone to far into there relationship. I've never had a girlfriend before and a bit unsure about my feelings towards her, but I think about her every day even if I don't see her for months, I feel I would just like to hold her and be with her, (sorry for being Cheesey) I know when I've had crushes on girls in the past it kills me but this is not a crush just mixed up. Am I doing right not getting involved or not, I'm frightened if I do make a move and it does not work out I would have messed up her marriage plans.

Why do I find life always so hard? why can I not do anything in life that people take just for granted? I'm fed up from feeling trapped all my life, I've tried really hard to make changes in my life over the last two years but I still am not greatly any better. I just think I'm built not to have any confidence, "this what happens to build confidence the best way is to do it, and keep doing it", but for me the more I keep doing it the worse and more nervious I become. Yes I've been for counciling for two years and finished the course because I let my councilar believe I was better, when I was not because its all to hard too do. I want to die, last time i tried I cut myself up but you may say luckally I survied, but I didn't want to be there when I awoke, then before being able to do anything else to myself They ship you off to a mental hospital I keep thinking and cannot stop it, but this time I'm not going to harm myself by cutting myself . or taking pills i'm have this Idea of posioning myself by locking myself in the garage and turn my car engine on and inhale the fumes, I'm fed up of being looked down on and run down all the time, I just want to be able to do things like everyone else, I often daydream on being able to have a girl friend and just be together but I can realistcally never see that happening, and be able to communicate well with people, make friends, go places, holidays and get a job and stuff, but being me I'm unable to do all that cuz I have very little confidence in myself and can never seem to gain it without being knocked back down again. I know I would be better if I was not here, then I would not have the pressure every day of things, I unable to do.

Okay I don't know whats happening to me at the moment. Lately I've been under a Hell of alot of pressure from my company, which I now have got to get some legall advise on and also going to have to Sue. I am leaving this job and have found alternitive employment. The beginning of this week I went to see the doctor cuz I been on Sertriline for depression, he was Eazing me of it. and now this week i've been of it completely, for the first time. I've been experiencing this strange feeling at first I thought pretty cool, but now it's starting to bother me, I kinda feel dizzy all the time, when I walk around, kinda feels I've had a couple of pints of beer. also as I can only describe it feels as Blood rushing around my body into my hands making them tingle, Sorry thats only how I can explain it. Is this normal after being taken off this medication or is it somthing else from the pressure I've been under. I have not been feeling depressed at all infact on more of a high, maybe it's just hormones, I don't know.

What attracts girls to men? What is it you look for in a guy, Looks? confidence?. Why don't they like the shy and sensitive guy, Who would never cheat on them, and be completely devoted to them and caring.

I'm single, But there's this girls that fancys me, but she's engaged so I've backed of her. I would say she's not the most pretty girl I've seen, But I'd definitely call her cute, My definition of cute is I think she attractive in a different way, I'd be happy to be around her, hold her, and want to look after her etc... If she wasn't engaged I'd go out with her I hope that makes sense if not I'm proberly confused about the word cute

What I tend to look for in girls is how there presented first, clothes they where and all that, long hair, I prefer girls that are non smokers, havn't got tattoos and percings all over there body, Clean looking, I find I like the more feminine girls, I mean I hang around with some girls that use really bad language and talk about there sex life, I find this a big turn off for me, thats somthing that bothers me, I think it's because thats how you'd expect a guy to talk. But don't read into what I've said too much I'm sure many other guys will have different views to what I've said

Hi I've seen a girl I like, but I don't know what to do about it, I've never really had a girl friend, after the date they all lose intrest in me, I'm really shy, and when I try making conversation with them on dates, It feels more like going for a job interview or somein, Its a horrible feeling, You make converstaion and then it comes to a sudden end and have to think of another topic, but bareing in mind all my dates have only ever been with shy girls, which I now know to shy people don't go together well. I live in a small town so everybody knows each other, but I've never seen this girl around here before, I pass here on my way to work every morning, This one day she smiled at me, I clamed up and broke Eye contact like a fool, I cringe at the thought of what I did, Every day she looks at me, I look at her back with Eye contact, I try to give her a smile but my mind won't seem to let me, cuz I think I tense up. I don't know anything about her, how could I make converstation, what could I say,

HI I've this problem with this Guy at work "Mark" I've worked with him for about 5 years, since I left school! When I went into this job with 7 other employees including employers I had really low confidence, I was hopeing it would help my confidence, But it didn't because of my superviser "mark" Mark is a very depressed and angry person, he is known for his violents and is also known for beating his girl friends up. Hes done many years in prison for GBH too! He seems to have a problem controling himself, and if you ever meet him you'll find he's one of these people that are unable to help them selves. He always made me do jobs I was uncapable of onsite by myself that made me feel embarressed. He would then tell me off for not doing jobs correctly which I had no Idea about. Thing is no matter how hard you try to get through to him to say you carn't do it. he woun't except it. I eventually ended up having a nervious breakdown I was out of work for around a year, I could not do anything my confidence was so low. My work knew I was ill because of him. He has attacked me at work twice, I always remember him throwing a screw driver at me, and then said "if you tell anyone I did that and I have to go back to prison I will hunt you down and kill you with my own hands" The higher up bosses don't help much to as marks brother the owner of the company and they just stick together, not many people I suppose would employ mark. My confidence is still to low to go into a new job I just don't know what to do. I'm not really scared of mark anymore, I can now stick up for myself I always try to avoid him, he just gets me so ANXIOUS and I go Dizzy. The jobs he gets me to do are the ones he carn't do because hes not confident to do them himself.

I've never had a girl friend I've only been kissed once, and I'm now 21. I know I'm getting on in years I often feel I look about about 30 instead of 21, Ive started to noitce Hair loss and I've started to wear Glasses. I scared I'm getting old and have no Girl friend, My biggest fear is growing old and lonely. I am everything girls tend not to like about Lads, I mean, I am extremely Shy and sensitive, and I do lack a bit of confidence. I can talk to some girls okay but I have to kinda find the approachable girls who looks like she would be easy to talk too, I often worry about saying something stupid to a girl, I don't want to hurt anyone thats why I'm always so quite, I guess I don't trust myself with my words, I don't want to be disliked. I often feel I don't deserve a girlfriend I don't think I would be able to give what she would wants, because I do lack confidence and it can stop me from doing things unless she would be willing to support me, if all that makes sense. Also most girls I know are always talking about clubbing, and the clubbing music, I am not into all that I find I am very old fashioned in my taste of music, sort of 60s music, which yet again I carn't imagine girls being impressed with me. Lately I've been really low down about the situation I don't want to grow old alone

I agree with Dream, Try some relaxation, it works and helps clear you're mind just sit back and let go of everything for half hour. Also Try some exercise like a bike ride, running, anything! This helps to create energy, When I feel down I like to listen too some up lifting music and sing along

I'm British, I must admit I'm a little Proud about it. Coming into the Uk for you has it's advatages, cuz people will notice you're accent, and straight away us Brits will take to you straight away, TRUST ME! I'll admit I have that embarrissing typical British posh snobby accent, but none of us really are like that, and certainly not me! We british are very usally intrested in people like you, it almost amazing to here a strange accent, like princess777 we think that american accent is gorgeous it really is.

I suffered with anxiety and depression, Low confidence. Try to take half hour out in the morning just too relax, and half hour at night. people like you and me I don't think we notice we aren't takin time out to relax. Anxiety will cause depression, if you're always fustrated you'll become tense and you're muscles will start to stick like that, which send messages to you're brain to always be on you're alert, carn't stop thinking, try to just let go for half hour my councillor gave me this relaxation tape to listen too, it involed tensing muscles and relaxing them. I'm still stuck in a job I hate, I had to low of confidence to change job, but I've now tried to make the move, I'm going for job interviews. I'm a little depressed I think it's just because I'm all alone, I'm very shy I'm not very good with meeting new people, scared of being alone.