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  1. JoeWho
    Unless I am about to die, I will go into work. In the US we just don't get enough days off to use the few sick days when we are actually sick. I mean most people get 2 weeks vacation and maybe 5 or 6 sick days to use through the whole year. So I use my sick days when I feel like going fishing or something like that in the summer. I understand how people get mad when someone comes in sick, but it's just part of the good old American work ethic.
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    I agree with honey pumpkin.
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    When I get really stressed which is pretty rare for me, I usually try to take a step back and laugh at how ridiculous my being stressed actually is. There are few things in life that are worth stressing over and so many things that are worth laughing over.
  4. JoeWho
    I think this could be a big part of it and you probably are just not ready yet to be in a relationship. Have you always been attracted to older guys?
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    Yeah if you can get all your answers and then walk away saying goodbye that is the best scenario. I knew I would not get any answers and really did not want to know the answers to my questions (she cheated and lied for months about it). So the last face to face ended with me saying what a shame it was the way everything ended and her crying and me walking away.
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    I know what you are mean about those words form the ex repeating in your head over and over again. I used to not be able to get them out of my head until I just started to think that she was a crazy person who had no clue what she was talking about....lol
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    There is no secret to healing. It takes time and for some people it takes longer than others. Six months is really not all that long to get over a LTR. Try not to compare yourself to other people who are healing, just because they seem to be doing great doesnt mean they are actually doing great. How long were you with your ex?
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    If he is obviously cheating on her and she confronts him and he admits he is being disrespectful and promises to stop, then the next day is doing it again how can she stay in that unhealthy environment? I understand what you are saying but if he is not going to stop and is unwilling to work things out, what options does she have? I cant possibly see how it would be good for her or her baby to hang around and hope that he stops cheating and suddenly transforms into the husband she is looking for. Maybe a honest heart to heart talk before she leaves would be best, but I dont think it will change him.
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    It sure does feel good to know that you can be perfectly happy without being in a relationship. I agree with you 100%.
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    I am sorry that you are going through this. It is one of the worst things that a person can go through. I think that the best thing for you to do is to just get out of this situation. If your husband wont stop talking to this "friend" of his then it looks like he has already made the decision for you. Dont worry about getting revenge on him, just do whats best for you and your baby. Dont be scared about not being able to find someone else, you will eventually. Just concentrate on what is best for your baby and yourself and eventually everything else will just fall into place. You dont need anyone on here to give you the strength you need, you already have it.
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    Yeah I think it is normal for you to still want her to call. In a weird way I still want my ex to call even though I dont want to talk to her. I guess we just want to know that they havent completely forgotten us.
  12. JoeWho
    Dead on with this one. Good advice, I'm sure it will help out many guys on here.
  13. JoeWho
    I like to think it is true. After a rather rough break up that is my main way of thinking about love/relationships. I am finding myself again and not looking for a relationship and kind of hope one desnt find me for a while as I am starting to enjoy all of my free time. I think it will happen when it happens and if it doesnt then thats ok with me too.
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    I agree 100%. Its not black and white and every situation is different.
  15. JoeWho
    Paco, It does get better, but it is hard as hell to ignore your ex when she calls or emails. I ignored my ex for 5 months when she emailed once a month or so. Recently I had to deal with her due to an issue with some mutual friends and boy did that 10 minute phone call throw me back to the beginning again. That is pretty much what you have been going through for the last year. Every time you communicate with your ex you are right back at square one. As hard as it is you just have to ignore your ex, be prepared for her to still contact you but have a plan as to how you are going to ignore her, because it may happen when you least expect it or when you are having a bad day. I cant stress enough how important it is to completely cut your ex out of your life. It is probably the hardest thing you will ever have to do especially when she calls you because she is upset. You will be amazed at how well you will heal if you can do it though. Good luck mate and stay strong!
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    Well if he is currently sending his picture to other girls then you have every right to feel insecure. If you feel that you cant trust him and need to be checking up on him by checking his email then you probably shouldnt be in a relationship with him. Remember the saying if you dont have trust, you dont have anything.
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    Like you I spent 10 years with the same girl so I am clueless as to the dating "rules", but I would think if I wanted a gril to stay the night at my apartment I would just ask her if she wanted to stay. I dont know if the alarm clock thing was a sign or not. Maybe it was maybe it wasnt. Sorry I am pretty much worthless on this topic.... lol
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    Well I hope you dont expect to remain friends with your friend once he finds out how good of a "friend"" you have actually been being. The truth will eventually come out one way or another. I think the best thing that you can do now is distance yourself form this situation. It has all the potential to be very explosive. As for your guilt, well I dont know how you could get rid of that except if you came clean to your friend, but you should be ready to duck when he tries to deck you.
  19. JoeWho
    Dreams are weird and usually have absolutely no meaning at all.
  20. JoeWho
    A year is not that long to get over 7 years, especially if you have had contact with your ex. I myself am 5 months into getting over a 10 year relationship and while I have come a long way, I still have an even longer way to go to be over it enough to want to date. It gets frustrating when you set a goal of being over it by such and such a date. Lately I just dont care when I am over it, it will happen when it happens and as long as I feel I am making progress each month then thats good enough.
  21. JoeWho
    I used to take creatine right after I worked out and then a protein shake like 15 minutes later. It worked great for me, but with creatine you should be taking it everyday if you want to get the maximum results.
  22. JoeWho
    Yeah I don't get the whole sex thing without love. I think how you view this issue has to do with your past experiences. For me I was with the same girl for almost ten years so the thought of just having a one night stand is just weird to me even though it seems like thats all single people do these days.
  23. JoeWho
    9 months is really not that long a time to be over a 5 year relationship. I think you are doing the best you can right now and being honest with your new guy is definitely the right thing to do. There is nothing wrong with you, it just takes time to get over a relationship and move on to a new one. Just be patient and maybe someday soon you will be able to fully open your heart to your new guy.
  24. JoeWho
    First, I commend you on your decision to not smash his face in right then and there. I know all too well the shock you are feeling from finding out that your girl is cheating. I think that you need to confront her ASAP for your own sanity. You must be going bloody crazy. I really feel for you. It is probably best that you leave the other guy out of this, although who would blame you if you smashed his face in. For me cheating is a deal breaker and I would break up with her after I heard her lame explanation. Good luck mate
  25. JoeWho
    Yeah Dako nailed this one. You have to get to the point where you are perfectly happy just being by yourself. Wish I could tell you how to get there, but it is different for everyone.
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