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Thats exactly it!

This post got me thinking. What did people do hundreds of years ago when looking for love? I think that it just happens. The more you worry about not finding love, the more you'll convince yourself it'll never happen. Take it easy! I think you're trying to hard and I think you're expecting yourself to fail at finding love and that you're not worthy of love. I'm guessing you're still young so go out and enjoy your life! Stop worrying so much because you're missing out on the good opportunities that are there today! I'm telling you this cos I'm the same and I have to let go and let love find me. I don't think many people in this world never find love. Give up on love and romance for now and concentrate on you and have fun with your life. Make the most of every day. I know you will find love one day, but you gotta believe you're worth it.

I'm glad I came accross this post. It's weird, when I'm with my friends I can never shut up, but when I'm with people I hardly know or a crush, I find myself being the cause of those long uncomfatable silences. It doesn't mean I like the guy any less. I'm proberbly trying too hard to make a good impression and think of something good to say that I'm too deep in thought about it or I have something else on my mind. I think the best thing to do, would be to watch your dates body language because it will speak louder than the silences.

Thanks everyone! I didn't expect so many replies so quickly!

Does it really work? and does love find you or do you have to search?

Mine are usualy to work hard in life and force myself to do stuff that will later benefit me, but this year I plan to gain self esteem, have fun! and make new friends. Love can find me because I've spent most of my life chasing guys that end up hurting me.

Don't give up, find out what he likes and practise. I'm sure you're doing fine anyway though!

Hi, I've been through a lot of poo over the last few years, especially when it comes to men (not all guys are jerks tho). I want to concentrate on me in the new year and make looking for love and chasing after crushes the last thing on my mind! I want to have more fun in my life. I am shy, but I can be very bubbly too, I want to develop that side of me. I don't like taking things too seriously and I like to see the positive things. At the moment all I seem to do is work and go to the odd concert/night out with friends, but I want more!! I have a few ideas of what to do for fun in the new year, but nothing big, just going out sometimes and a couple of concerts. Does anyone have any ideas on fun stuff I can do? Maybe something unusal and different? I would love to go sky diving so maybe something along those lines. Any advice would be appreciated because there might be something really fun that you know of and I couldn't think of. Thanks!!

I decided to do the exact same thing! I came on here for ideas on how to do that. I thought of yoga, having more fun! appreciating my friends more and going out and having a good time with them. I need to work on self esteem too and just work out who I am. Good luck!!

Are they always perfect? did you ever argue with your better half? Did either of you hide emotions from each other? Did you go though a really bad patch? I'm really curious about this. Thanks.

Hi Tink!! I'm not sure whats going on in his head, but if this guy really wants you/repsects you he'll chase after you! It could be that this guy is more into cuddles than sex, but other girls he's met want more, maybe he has low self esteem and doesn't think he's worthy of love, but can get sex whenever he wants it. Or it could be that he just saw you as a very close friend that he trusted. I hope someone else posts because I have a similar situation.

I'm glad you raised this question because I did the exactly the same thing!

Good question! I hope you get more replys.

I've been there (minus the cutting) you'll learn as you get older that men come and go. The ones you think are Mr right turn out to be wrong and the ones you don't crush on are proberbly the ones that treat you with the respect you deserve. I'm telling you this while you're still young because one day you'll realise how important this is. You need to have self love and realise that you are worthy of being loved and you'll lose the shyness or at least not have it affect your life in a negative way to the point where you miss out on guys in the future. No one is worth cutting over! and if it makes you feel that bad let it go and concentrate on you until you feel comfatble with yourself and other guys. If this guy really likes you, he'll let you know, but he is more likely to approach you if your relaxed and open with him. I hope this helps.

Thanks everyone! I'm going to tell him I like him tomorrow and ask him if he wants to hang out.