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  1. Firstly to sidehop, I am all about the dinosaur chicken nugets, those things are freakin awesome and I haven't been able to find them for a while... I'm a little Jealous here Lifestream, I you were right, it actually was the make your own pizza lunchable by armour and it was quite delicous. And to I'm that girl, That IS exactly how I was acting and it was alot of fun. Luckily I'm pretty good at my job and everyone knows I have a good work ethic... It's just fun to act retarded and get a little nostalgic from time to time.
  2. Does any one else still enjoy lunchables and love eating handi snacks? I have a very good office job and I often catch people giving me funny looks when I'm eating this stuff and drinking my yoo hoo
  3. Yeah, you left out the birthcontrol part of the story and that completely changes the situation. That stuff can do funny things to girls while they get used to it. I had a g/f that acted the same way for about three months and then after the 3rd, her behavior started to go back to normal. She's on that stuff for you, you may want to stick it out for a little while.
  4. Scout, I am very glad you asked that question. It's a Friday night and I'm about to head out as I hope everyone else well be so I'll make this brief and elaborate later. The key to letting go of the hostility is understanding the word "accountability". The truth is the root cause of every single nice guys problems is not accepting it and rather choosing denial as an alternative. The sooner we start holding our selves accountable for our actions the sooner we can improve as people. It's a problem for nice guys but it's also a problem for the jerks and the cheaters. If everyone went into lif
  5. Sure, there are lots of exceptions if you apply these statements to everyone. But if you only apply these to man complaining that woman don't want to be with them because they are nice, there are suddenly almost zero exceptions. I'm guessing your friend and brother-in-law have never made remarks like those stated above and are thereforeeee not the target audience. -AG
  6. Charley, That is definitely one of the things I'm talking about but that falls more under general validation and seeking it from society rather than seeking it from a relationship... Chances are pretty good though that if you're doing it in everyday life, you're also doing it in relationships. I think for some people that mindset comes with time and experience (your case) though I don't think you ever really had a serious problem with it, some people have a problem, recognize it, and fix it (What I'm talking about and trying to help with) and some people have a problem and spend life feelin
  7. zocrates, I'm a guy who completely disagrees with you. You've spent the entirty of your relationship in one place and your asking her to pick up her life and start an entirely new one in order to maintain the relationship. In essense saying... "It's your choice, keep our relationship or keep the rest of your identity but you can only pick one" That doesn't really sound like an easy choice at least not if you're expecting her to pick the relationship. Good luck though -AG
  8. Andy, At this point, you've got the right idea. You're afraid of your cousin taking it badly and hurting herself so leave that situation to a medical professional. Have her psychiatrist tell her how you feel and then talk to her about her unhealthy attachment. She needs to talk to a professional about this and may not do it on her own. As for your girlfriend, tell her you lost your virginity while apart in a moment of desparation that you don't remember. If she asks how, Ask her at that point if she still wants to be with you. if she does, then ask her if you tell her the rest if she can
  9. Getting past the need for validation from others. First and foremost, learn that you can always count on yourself to be there. As odd as this may sound, if you ever feel needy or that you need validation, go take some time to yourself. Figure out what you need or want to hear, think about why you want to hear it and realize that you don't need other people's approval, just your own. From there, here are a few other steps to get out of this rut quickly. 1. Start going to the gym, doing cardio will have a huge effect on your overall happiness and confidence. Lifting some weights and get
  10. NorCaSpinna, Good question and I probably should have put some examples in my initial thread. So here are a few. In relationships - Constantly asking if she is ok or happy with your relationship. - Fishing for compliments in any form, either saying something negative about yourself in hopes that she'll disagree or saying something possitive in hopes that she'll agree. - Bringing gifts for the sole porpose of making her happier with you. - Asking her if it's ok to do things that you would normally do, some guys will do this in a less direct form such as "I'm going to go out with my fr
  11. Music guy, I was in a similar mind set at one point, here's my story, give it a read and see if you can relate.
  12. I personally have been happy with my dating experiences for quite some time now. But when I was in my late teens, I was the typical nice guy who constantly got blown off so I stopped dating for a little while and watched the guys who I considered to be successful with women do their thing. Yes, they were all jerks and treated woman like crap... But I soon realized that being a jerk wasn't the draw. I noticed that woman were responsive to confidince and non-responsive to men who constantly seek validation. The jerks tended more to have there own separate life and things that they enjoy, things
  13. Andy, I don't think that sleeping with your cousin is going to help anything. I don't think it will keep her from telling your girlfriend about the first time and it will only make matters worse if your girlfriend does find out. It goes from some crazy drunken night that you don't remember to a regular occurrence that you chose when of supposedly sound mind. Very bad idea Andy. I would also seriously recommend you take a good look at who your real friends are.
  14. Meow, I agree, the issue shouldn't be about me, it should be about her and her mom. But when her mom walks into the room and without having said anything esle to me, tells me that I'm the reason for all of their problems and then immedaitely runs away. That makes the situation about me too. Kalika, I agree that we should sit down and have a talk but last night when I tried to talk to her, she ran and locked herself in the bedroom. I don't think her mom thinks I'm controlling but for her to blame their problems on me obviously means she thinks I'm controling something.
  15. My SO's and I have been together for 9 months now and she moved home from college in december. Since she moved back home, her mom expects her to be the completely obedient child that left for college four years ago. They've been fighing alot lately because of her mom's expectations. her mom told me last night that all of their relationship issues are because I'm in the picture and then she ran out of the room so I wouldn't have a chance to speak. I sent her this e-mail. So it's OK for you to tell me what's on your mind and how I'm the reason for your issues with your daughter and then imm
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