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Yikes. Having read the thread and seen no further response from the thread starter, i can only assume that her internet access has been removed. If this is the case, Mods/admins, is there no-one you can go through to have that IP traced exactly? Surely there's some authority that has access to such information.
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Quick question, take time to give your opinion.
Jhodas replied to second_opinion's topic in Personal Growth
All of the above. But bear in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. -
I'm cut, have been since i was two. I quizzed my gf about it, she said it felt different, but not better or worse. She may have been being nice...
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Hi ray. My grandmother died of Intestinal cancer some years back. She was an angel that walked the earth. It's great to hear your mother is making progress. I'm not religious myself, but I shall hold you, your mother and your family in my thoughts and continue to track this thread. This is a quote from a movie from my childhood, Starman. "Shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you? You are at your very best when things are worst."
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Thanks for that, I get stomach cramps. Thought they might be stress related, but I'll give it a go. Cheers. Jho.
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It does sound like depression. I went through a spell of feeling like that last summer. My mother noticed immediately. I don't know what brought me out of it. Maybe you just need a change of scenery. Something new. Working out is always a good idea. A group holiday maybe? I'm not one for usually recommending drugs, but I did find something that has helped me tremedously. Its non-prescription, it's called 5HTP. All it does is give you a subtle serotonin boost. Effects are different for different people, but I found that with a 100mg dose every couple of days, I felt much better generally, and more involved in life. I experienced no negative side effects. Give this a try for a couple of weeks. You may want to seek medical advice first. I dont use 5HTP any more because running of a morning has a similar if not more pronounced effect. Trying new things I think is a step in the right direction, however I do not agree with you putting yourself at risk (walking down dark alleys etc.) I am by no means questioning your selection of friends with that statement. I think you just need to find something that gives you a real buzz, something to get really enthusiastic about. A new hobby. It may reflect positively on the other aspects of your life. Mine is online gaming. It's life or death, but with pixels, and I've come away from more than one session this week feeling like I've just run half a mile.
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LDRs can work, if you are the right kind of people. My housemate's bf was away for about 6 months, came back and the fire was clearly there. I think both parties need a certain level of maturity and a LOT of commitment. I myself need regular contact. It's just the way I am. Holding down a LDR would stress me out. I'd just end up missing her too much. Not that I would stray. It would just cause me more pain than I could deal with.
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Aggie has a good point. You should be enjoying life and possibly experimenting a little. Just so long as you moderate your intake and know your limits. One think I will speak strongly on is your friend driving home after. STOP THIS NOW!! Sooner or later, he's going to get himself or someone else killed. It's that simple. Get him to crash at someone else's, or take the bus and pick up his car later. If you take no advice but one piece, take that one. Having said all that, if this situation does make you uncomfortable, get out of it. Do the things you plan together, just don't go for the drinks afterward. I'm a university student. On the occasions that I leave the house with a group, it's usually to go for a few drinks, but I know my limit, my friends don't have a problem with me leaving early if I want to. They may goad me a little, but they're still my friends in the morning.
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I don't know if you work out dude, but if you don't you should start. Working out does wonders. I know this, I run every morning before breakfast and I'm gona start swimming soon as well. It changes your whole outlook on the day. Instead of thinking 'omg i have so much to do' you think 'right, what's the best way to tackle this?' Just start running. It's easy, it's free, and you are in complete control of how hard you push yourself. Worked wonders for me.
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bobo makes some good points. It is possible she is genuinely confused. If that's the case, I would leave her alone to work it out. If she's the kind of person who gets confused easily, stay away. You'll only open a big- * * * can of heartache.
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I've made a post about this in context. Now I'm taking it out of context in an effore to get a wider opinion, and maybe shed some light for a few other guys out there. Your boyfriend is friends with his ex. Nothing going on between them. He adores you. How does this make you feel? What I really want to know is: WHY? Same quesetion to any guys. Your gf is still friends with her ex. Again, nothing going on, just mates. She adores you. How does this make you feel and why? If you are friends with an ex, does it have a negative impact on your relationship? To those who have read my other post, I'm thinking long and hard about my own issues. Now I'm asking about other people's experiences/feelings, not for advice. I look forward to your responses. Jho.
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Good food for thought. I think the degree of seriousness is the issue. She doesn't think I take 'us' seriously, and I have no idea how to convince her otherwise other than to spend a lot of time with her, which i do. I seem to have digressed a little. What I really want to know is why women in general get insecure about men who are friendly with women, particularly exes/'past experiences' (unusual turn of phrase). I my just start a new post about it tbh. Thank you all for your input, it i much appreciated.
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1st big fight, not sure if we broke up
Jhodas replied to bellamelle's topic in Trust and Relationships
Why the hell not? If he's talking to you about her, I doubt he's cheating with her. He probably is just good friends/training buddies with her. You reacting badly to it hasn't helped. You should have expressed your concerns before they exploded. I think Instyle's advice is good. -
Mandymay, your boyfriend is either a rarity, or he is telling porkies. I live with 7 other guys and 8 other girls. All the guys have huge digital porn collections, and 3 of the girls do too. Strangely enough, myself and the three girls are in relationships. my gf has seen my porn collection. You can't actually make love to a porn collection. I would put porn on a par with a rampant rabbit or other feminine pleasure instruments. When you're not with your partner and feeling aroused; it helps. A lot. I know a few guys that feel threatened by sex toys, perhaps because they feel something similar: that it is a betrayal of some kind. This is false. The best times are to be had when you combine your own lovemaking with an added stimulant (toys, erotic movies etc).
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ah see, the 'L' Word. I don't have to be in love with someone to care about them and adore them and for them to mean the world to me. I was chasing my current gf for about a month before we slept together, but we were seeing each other 4-5 times a week. In big chunks. This is what I'm like with new relationships. Would it be fair to say this is why it seems like I move fast?
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Dude, learn to use your fingers and your tongue. Good foreplay, good manual stimulation and good oral sex are more likely to drive a woman wild than a big wang. As many have said already, it depends on the woman, and the majority do prefer clitoral stimulation. Remember, there are more nerve endings on the clitoris that on the entire penis.
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As a guy there is something primal about doggystyle. I don't last too long, so we don't to it too often. However, we found a good one by accident: Both lying on your side, facing each other, she wraps her lags round him just above the waist. You can even adjust slightly to leave room for a toy, which either of you can drive. Other than that? I'm not averse to being pinned down and dominated a little.
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Glee probably. I woundn't worry. The fact that he came fast means he was turned on. A LOT. Is that bad?
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I got a reply back, how long intil i should reply?
Jhodas replied to almostgolden's topic in Dating Advice
How long does he make you wait? Make him wait the same length of time. See if he notices. you may find that you are being a little clingy? Maybe just chill a bit. -
I mean she may be simply trying to be friends. She may be trying to be civil with you, so that the two of you are on good terms. It's possible she wants you back, but I wouldnt get your hopes up.
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The consenus here seems to be that men should be made to wait because if a girl puts out on the first date she's not 'serious relationship' material or she's an 'easy lay'. Just to put a different spin on things: I'm a horny guy. I respect the sanctity of sex between two people who really care about each other, I've experienced it, it's a wonderful thing. I've also experienced sex for the sake of it, some call them flings, some call them one night stands, whatever. To me: sex can be simple a release of tension, or a culmination to a good night out. It can be a 'frivolity' if you like. (I'm sure a few of you will cringe at that). However; frivolous sex pales in comparison to a really intimate night with someone that holds your heart in their hands. It becomes more than the physical act of intercourse. It becomes an affirmation of the way you feel about each other. You give more of your soul when you make love to someone you adore. FYI: 1) I am in a relationship. 2) I practise and have always practised safe sex. To the lady who made a man wait 12 months: With all due respec ma'am, thats a frightening concept to me as a young man. Truly. I would have felt like I was stuck in a rut after 3 months, maybe even two. But perhaps the two of us take life in general at a different pace.
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I agree with 'Rocky' ^^ (lol) Depending on what condoms you're using, dont be afraid to get firm with his member. It's not an ice cream, you won't put a hole in it if you press too hard with your tongue. I'll let you in on a little secret from a guys point of view: There's a spot on the underside of the penis that is very responsive to pressure and friction, not far from the tip. Try and press/lick it firmly with your tongue. He should let you know when you find it, it's probably the closest thing us guys have to a clitoris. Other than that, it sounds like you're on the right track. And your bf does sound like a nice guy. Just out of curiosity, have you let him return the favour?
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I'm friends with some of my exes. It takes time to build a friendship from a relationship (took me a year) but its possible. If you want to be more than 'just friends', I suggest you seriously evaluate why you broke up in the first place. The fact that you're still into her makes me think you need some more time without her in your life, time to move on. She may just be being friendly, in which case you're gona put yourself through a whole lot of hurt.
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Seconded. He needs to sort out his own issues before he can start resolving issues between you two.
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I would ask him. At least get it off your chest. There's nothing worse than uncertainty.