mandymay

sigh, this is so pointless, you all seem to have a gift for misreading, no I do not have insecuritys about myself, but I certantly would be inclined to feel down IF-IF-IF- my boyfriend was to look at porn. that is because I just want him to love and honor me as I honor him.. is that such an unreasonable request? and yes, my -gasp-" religious standpoint" is an "issue".see the verse I posted and if you want take it up with God, you do that....and for the last time my boyfriend DOSNT look at porn.maybe he doesnt think he needs it.and I happen to think that the human body is a wonderful and amazing thing but for your spouses eyes only. not there for everyone to look and lust after. I think that I will just stop reading this junk on here. it is so point less. you all are defending something simply because you want to feel ok about looking at it.... and I bid you all goodbye

ok TiredMan -to start with I dont have insecuritys -I happen to know that I am perfect just the way I am!! and my boyfriend has told me so.. I am happy with myself. I am not perfect looking, no, but I am happy. so no, you are wrong this is not my reason..my reasons I have stated before.. I wonder why you are defending porn so much??? is it that important to you? what do you have to say for what I said the last few times? nothing? oh and i happen to think that useing vibrators and masterbating is lame.....so ....

ps. I dont claim to be perfect or anything like that God knows I have done my fair share of stuff I am ashamed of. I am human. but I do not think that porn is something guys need or should seek. (or girls, for that matter this is not a one sided thing, and I know there are girls who look at porn as well.) and i wonder if guys-or and girls- think that it is truly an ok past time and that there is no shame in it, why on the earth to they try so hard to hide it? and I know that it has been called "an addiction" as well what does that mean? does this mean they can stop looking if they want ? personly I know that I would not get turned on by a picture of a man other than the one I love. maybe I am not normal . but I think that a picture of a naked guy is gross as well as pictures of other naked women... and trust me I have seen them before. I dont know, it is just the way I am.

luciana, thank you for some understanding -seems we are the minority huh? I just feel that guys have used the same old excuse for looking at others for a long time and I am so tired of hearing it. makes me wonder if there is such a thing as a guy who would only desire us.,and not every woman with a shape that walks by... and I have to wonder how these guys would feel if we women constantly looked at other guys,thinking how we would like to see them naked..... ok now I am rageing on ALL guys and I know that it is not fair....I know that there are some (maybe more than I have seen) nice, decent guys out there.. and by the way I have finally figured out one reason that I know it is just wrong .. like it or not.."But I say unto you,that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her in his heart." mattew 6:28. now if you guys wanna argue with me thats fine, and I guess if you really want to you can argue with God... but I wouldnt if I was you. and by the way -he is not a imaginary friend. I know that haveing faith is also not the popular trend around here.. but I know that he is real - and there are so many things you can never prove but are true- my favorate quote " you cant see the wind but you can see the effects of the wind. there's a mystery to it " I dont want to start some kind of fight or anything -just want to let my opionion known.. and that is it...

that makes sense to me and i know that he might and i would not hate him for it. but i know that i would be hurt. it all comes down to the fact that i know i would feel that it ment he didnt feel I was good enough.ok maybe not all cuz i have always thought looking at a pic of a naked person was wrong in some way of morals.but I have another question for you i want to ask him but i am afriad. (we have known eachother for 3 years and dating for 1 yr) I dont want to just bring this up but it is someting i want to know... you would think that asking would be easy but i am afriad of the anwser mostly....

ok i hope that my boyfriend would not do that, but i guess i have never asked him about it. maybe i am afraid that he might agree with you all, thats why i dont ask. becouse i know that if he does then i will be hurt. and i dont want to be. and i have been thinking about this for some while.

ok i guess i am alone in this, sorry if i offended anyone i still have to say i think it is moraly wrong and i guess i am the only one alive that thinks that way. but thats ok. we all have that right .it does not change the way i feel

ok first of all my boyfriend doesnt look at porn, if he did I would be hurt and it would be over. and as for you byates5637( So i watch porn and fantasize about the type of sex i wish my girlfriend would give me.) that is what i am talking about . you are wishing that your girl would act this way doent that mean you are not happy with her and the way she is? how would she feel if she knew? and i do not need to look at naked pictures of men to figure out how to get better... I have bad temper and i worn you that i am getting mad.... I am italian--i am sorry . but this i feel strongly about and maybe i do not understand .. but i know that i do not like it, nor do i think that guys should just get off saying that they can get away with looking at all these different women all the time becouse its "just the way they are"

arg!!! what is with males and porn????? I think that if you love someone you will not be wanting to look at someone else's body and lusting over it. I think it is just wrong no matter what. there is no "its all a prefrence" if my boyfriend looked at pron I would feel betrayed and that would hurt me more than anything in this world. to feel that he felt he wanted to look at another womans body, and that hurts. I dont care what guys say to defend their behavior. or girls who look at porn for that matter, it is just as wrong as sleeping with someone else. it hurts you just as much. and it is just another sick escuse to lust after other people while with someone.. and I have never heard someone in a LTR say "oh the thing that keeps us together is his/her porn sites" and another thing that is lost in this is trust... if I lose my trust in my significant other, I have nothing left....

wow you have got a mess there havent you? I agree with what they all said earlyer.... she is a mess and will mess with you as well... what do you think of her? try to be objective.. lokk at her behavior from someone elses view. does she care about you ? or is she useing you as her hold on things, i dont know I am not saying you should not be a friend maybe that is what she needs but a b/f is not what she needs right now. and you have feelings for her even though you know that she has a interesting past.. you could get burned and that hurts.. tread carefully my friend .. it sounds like she dont know what she wants and is a bit confused. think of it this way do you think that you love her? she needs someone it sounds like. someone to just be a friend -for now I wish you luck -peace

arg!!! what is with males and porn????? I think that if you love someone you will not be wanting to look at someone else's body and lusting over it. I think it is just wrong no matter what. there is no "its all a prefrence" if my boyfriend looked at pron I would feel betrayed and that would hurt me more than anything in this world. to feel that he felt he wanted/needed to look at another womans body, and that hurts. I dont care what guys say to defend their behavior. or girls who look at porn for that matter, it is just as wrong as sleeping with someone else. it hurts you just as much. and it is just another sick escuse to lust after other people while with someone.. and I have never heard someone in a LTR say "oh the thing that keeps us together is his/her porn sites" and another thing that is lost in this is trust... if I lose my trust in my significant other, I have nothing left....

you know, there are a lot of schools and or classes (as in creative writing)for writing? and maybe just art. if money is a problem, just take a few classes at a community college, if you have one close to you. and maybe you will do better in them than you think.I was a poor high school student as well and I placed in the fundamentals of writning class, you know the basics.. at first i was ashamed I mean that stuff I thought I shouldve learned when I was 15.. but you know what . college is easyer then high school for me. the teachers are more helpful I think. I am haveing a hard time paying my way, but there are options. you just have to find them. you have to fight to make it and keep on trying, who knows.. maybe some day you will be a great writer... you just have to give your self a chance at it..good luck