kholdstare
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Hello to everyone, thanks for reading. Im really confused about what this girl is doing to me. This has been going on since last october. We are in the same program at school and started hanging out. It quickly evolved and feelings began surfacing between us. The problem of course is that she had a boyfriend. I came on asking for advice then and actually took that advice and told her that I hope she is happy, and that i wish them all the best. She didnt like this because she said it wasnt my decision to make. Anyways she went home for the holidays and came back and said, she wasnt leaving her boyfriend. I was fine with that, but she kept sending the mixed signals. Anyways she has since moved out of town to do her training. I went this weekend and stayed at a friends house. I saw her and she threw out really confusing signals, which included rubbing my leg, asking for hugs, saying she missed me. So before i left today i asked if we could talk cause this is driving me crazy, and she said ok, and then cancelled at last minute and said we would talk tonite. Anyways, sorry for dragging on, but I would appreciate some help on this. Like i realize its a bad situation, but for some reason I cant help feeling the way i do about her.
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No its not long distance she actually lives with her bf
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It is important to mention that we spend around 85% of our time together because of school, and socializing.
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the thing Im having trouble with is that if she does have feelings for me how she can just ignore them and maintain a relationship with her bf? SHould I just leave it be, ignore my feelings and just say we will be friends? Im sorry Im very confused by the mixed signals Im getting, and they have become very frustrating and seem to be monoploizing my thoughts.
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yes she does, we have flirted quite a bit with one another, she has even admitted that it was more than just a friendship. I have tried to let her figure out what she truly wants but it is not as easily done as it is said.
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Hello to all, been awhile since ive been on this but last time it helped alot. Ive recently gotten very close to a classmate, and there is a definite attraction between us everyone has mentioned it, but she is in this long term relationship. I dont know what to do Ive tried everything, but it still just comes down to an increasing sexual tension, and hurt feelings. I appreciate any advice.
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Well, I finally got my reason for the break up. One of her friends told me she was seeing this guy that was heavily in the picture before we split. So I called her and asked what was up, probably a mistake, but who knows. She said it was true that they are together, but he wasnt the reason for the breakup. SO right now I feel terrible, dont know what to do, how to feel, anything. Any help you guys have would be greatly appreciated.
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Well it has been a few months now since the break up. I have moved out and to another town completely. I have tried to get her out of my mind but I keep going back to thinking about her. It was an anniversary of sorts yesterday, and I found myself thinking about her, and was wondering if it would be a good idea to contact her. I think I know the answer but I guess I need a little reinforcement. So any advice I would appreciate. We havent spoken or contacted one another in about a month.
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Well I have written about my break up, make a long story short for all new readers. We went out three years lived together, the works, talked about marriage three weeks before break up, then she gives me the ever vague I dont love you the same way. I moved my stuff out, went on a vacation, tried to get my head on straight, but one thing keeps bothering me. If it was just a question of not loving me in the same way, wouldnt you still call, or email to find out how I have been? I truly think there is another guy, it is the only explanation for this total cutting off of contact. Well any advice would be appreciated. I know I wont contact her, but I am confused at this ability for her to separate me from her life like a flip of the switch. It has been two weeks since I saw her last.
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Well for all those following the soap opera that is my life. I decided to go pack my stuff alone. It was actually very helpful to see her not as indifferent as she could be on the phone. We talked and I packed, she even helped a bit (so kind of her)lol. All kidding aside though it was what I wanted. Really hard to say goodbye, she cried gave me a hug and told me to be happy. I think I will take her advice and start looking out for me. Well I guess I need a bit of advice she said it would be good to remain friends but I am thinking I need a period of no contact. Just for the healing benefits and if she realizes she made a mistake then I will have to burn that bridge IF it ever comes. I am not banking on it though my stuff is out and I have to look forward not backwards. Thanks everyone who gave me advice it helped me through a very difficult time. I will do my best to return the favour. Take care all you out there in similar situations, its a rough road but life just wouldnt be the same without the lows to balance the highs.
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But why is she being hostile towards me when she is the one that broke up. I dont know if the tables were turned I would try to help the person realize its over and for what reasons, and why its for the best. Not act with indifference and cruelty.
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I previously posted about my break up, thanks all for wonderful advice. I need some insight. Most of my stuff is at her apartment and I have tried contacting her to find out when I could go and get it. Anyways I finally got in touch and she was very hostile towards me. I never received a clear reason as to why she broke up with me, so I asked and she said she was tired of saying that she fell out of love with me. I find that weird because we were in a three year relationship with no problems, I don't know it just seems like a non answer. Anyways she said I could go pack the stuff tomorrow, and since I dont have a vehicle to move it till thursday, move the stuff tomorrow. Guess my question is should I go alone and what is with the hostility.
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Thats really to bad I would of liked to further our relationship. It is going to be hard to make a whole new life without her in it, guess that's part of this ride. Thanks for the advice although I had came to the same conclusion it helps to hear it from other people. I guess its weird how one person doesnt feel the love die and the other person can move on like nothing happened. Especially after all the talk about marriage and children, we were truly in love and I am having a hard time accepting that someone can end it that easily.
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Hopefully advice givers are still paying attention to this post. It seems that your advice is to move on. I know I am still not over her because I am willing to try a reconciliation. I was wondering if there is at all a possibilty we could get back together, or am I just grasping at straws. The past three years on my part have been great and I dont think I can really give up on that. but as she has said to me it takes two people to want to try and she doesnt. I guess my question is, will she realize that she is making a potientially bad mistake?? I was never bad to her and treated her like a princess, I still do to this day, but everyone around me seems to be extremely hostile towards her for what she has done.