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My wedding is almost here in about a month. I recently just gotten surpised with a bridal shower. Well, to make a long story short. The mother shows up without her daughter(even tho her daughter wanted to go and had every right to go being that's shes the flower girl in the wedding) her mother makes up some excuse that her daughter couldn't come because she's with her grandparents for the weekend, blah,blah. That really bothered me that she didn't bring her daugther(the flower girl) but brought her baby son instead and making excuses. It bothered me because she told me how her daughter got upset and really wanted to go and they didn't let her go. Anyhow, I thought that was weird of her mother to do that. Now, she sends her response card back to me for the wedding dinner and forgets to check and add her husband & daughter on the card. She tells her husband "oh, I only checked me for the dinner I didn't put you and our daughter on the card " "I forgot" Is it just me? Or is something wrong with this mother?Did she think she was the only one going to the wedding & reception? I just don't get on how she can not include or forget her daughter & husband. Especially since I mean her daughter is in the wedding so of course she needs to check her too for dinner.And, I know she knows her husband was going since he's like best friends with my fiance' Any comments? Thanks!

I would try being her friend if she would be mine. There's so much drama going on that now she keeps calling me leaving me harassing messages saying that so and so said this blah, blah, blah. It's obvious that she is being spiteful towards me ever since her and her bf broken up and because she is not in the wedding. I don't know what she is thinking, but, it doesn't make any sense. Does she really think treating me this way is going to change my mind of letting her back in the wedding? As the way I feel right now and what she is putting me thro in trying to make me miserable now that even she didn't get replaced I would of taken her out of it. I don't know what to do now. I want to go NC with her. Maybe later on in the future I can talk to her, But right now I don't want to, I just want to move on with my life. But, his brother is making it hard for me since he still talks to her and there's still alot of her stuff here at home that needs to get back to her.

Thanks everybody! From what I hear from his brother she is still very mad at me (even tho she's the one who backed out) He taken alot of her things back to her yesterday. He said, She still thinks that I should of waited before replacing her. But, I wasn't the one who made the phone call in replacing her( I don't think she knows that) It was my fiance' and his mother who replaced her. Not really me. They were the first ones to jump to make the replacement call. When I found out that they made that call to his cousin it was too late, she was already replaced.I'm starting to feel really sad again kinda wishing that she didn't get replace since she's really mad at me. I feel really bad & there's nothing I can do about it, which is why I haven't contacted her.

What exactly is a guest book attendant? Thankyou for the suggestion. Hmm, knowing her tho I doubt she would want to do that because she wants to be back in the wedding as a maide of honor..

No, I don't have a guest book attendant, yet. Why?

That's exactly what my other friends and bridesmaides are saying! But, it hurts because she is very mad at me for not taking her back and it's now costing my friendship with her. Yeah, his cousin dress has already been ordered and a down payment has been made for it too. I had to buy a whole another dress because I couldn't have his cousin in the same dress that my friend was going to wear.

Hey Everybody, I need some help and advice. I wasn't sure where to post this topic but being that it has to do with a friend for the most part, I thought to post it in here Friendship and Friends. Ok here's my story, My Fiance's brother and his girlfriend just recently have broken up about 3 weeks ago. They were together for over 3 years now.. He's broken up with her because he's been very unhappy with her and she was going back to doing drugs "herion" He relieze no matter what he did to try to help her it wasn't going to work. Anyhow, to make a long story short. She back out of my wedding right after the break up because she was really upset over them breaking up and everything. She told me that she was sorry but she couldn't be in the wedding anymore it would be very hard for her. She was going to be my maid of honor and of course his brother is the best man. So, after I talk to her about it over the phone and everything. I didn't think she would change her mind and want to come back. I respected her wishes. So, I told my Fiance' about her not wanting to be in the wedding anymore and he called his cousin "asking her to be in it" We only have less then 3 months now til we get married. We had to jump right on finding another bridesmaide since time is running out and we had to order another whole dress, etc. But, now all of the sudden my friend is telling me ( a couple weeks later) that she wants to be back in it. She was upset and change her mind! At this point, I didn't know what to tell her being that she was already replace by another girl. "his cousin" So, I had no choice but to tell her "sorry it's to late" we had to fill in your spot. Well, now my friend is really mad at me. She lefted me a very mean message on my machine the other night saying that" if I was her very true friend I would of waited up to when I gotten married to see if she would of wanted to come back in it" My friends are telling me that if she was my true friend she wouldn't of back out of it in the first place and that she just wants all the attention and wants to get back with my fiance' brother. They also said " she just cares about herself and that she's not who she used to be anymore because of the drugs" the drugs are over powering her" So, my question is why is my friend doing this to me? She acting as if I kicked her out of the wedding when it was really her who dropped out of it in the first place. She's mad at me for not kicking his cousin out and letting her back in. I can't just kick his cousin out, it wouldn't be right, ya know? She was the one who made the decision in the first place to drop out. How was I to know that she was going to change her mind? I didn't til now.. It's to late now and she's making me feel horriable over this. Please help.. I need some advice because now I think I lost a friend because of the breakup and everything. There's so much drama going on right now, it's getting to me. I don't know what to do, or what to think anymore. Thanks in advance!

kinda of an ex-boyfriend & were just friends now. I've always been more of a friend to him then he ever was to me. It's actually hard for me to talk to him on the phone right now since he changed & moved on. But, his birthday is coming soon.. So, I thought it was nice to send a birthday card instead of actually calling. But, now I don't know if he will get the card in time for his birthday so I may have to call, Unless I send an email saying Happy Birthday & let him know that I did send him a card if he didn't get it already...

What's more personal here do you think? I know sending snail mail such as letters, holiday cards etc. is more personal then any online messages. But, Do you think sending a birthday card to a friend is just as personal as calling? or maybe even more personal? Should you still call them to wish them a Happy Birthday even tho you sented them a card in the mail? What are your thoughts?? Thanks in advance

I'm sending a birthday message to him online. I'm not calling or sending a birthday card directly to him because now that he's involved with someone, I don't know how "she" would like it if I sented him a birthday card. I don't think he would really appreciate a present, card cos he never reponded to my emails, or other recent holiday cards in the mail I've sented. So I'm just sending a sweet, simple message on facebook just say something like " Hey" I hope you have a great birthday"

I'm prescribed xanax from my doctor 0.5 " peach color" it's like the lowest dose I think you can get in xanax. Correct me if I'm wrong tho. Anyhow, My question is that I just taken a xanax pill to calm my nervous so that it doesn't turn into a panic attack. Could I take another pill in an hour or so if needed? Can you overdose on xanax if you take to many? On the bottle it saids to take 3 times daily as needed. What exactly does that mean? What's 3 times a day exactly? I just wanted to ask to make sure so that I don't hurt my stomach or anything important. Thanks!

I really miss my buddy, I wished he missed me too. I still haven't heard anything, I don't know when he will contact me again, If he will contact me again. I haven't contacted him since the 3rd (when I sented him a facebook message) It's been over 2 weeks now. My heart tells me to go ahead send another message, email or trying calling again. But, My mind keeps telling me "don't contact him anymore, for right now" "You've tried lots of times of trying to contact him for the past month and get no reply" So, I'm listening to my mind over my heart right now because I'm trying to stay strong in letting go. Thinking.. "maybe he will miss me being his friend,contact me sooner or later" But, then again he probably won't even think of me , now that he has a girlfriend. She probably doesn't want him to stay incontact with his female friends. I don't know, I could think a list of reasons why he doesn't want to contact me anymore. I want to send a message and/or call and ask if he still wants me for a friend but he probably won't reply and then I'll end up having a nervous breakdown. Right now , I guess I'll just stay at not contacting him til like his birthday next month. I'll send him a birthday message on his birthday and see what happens from there. If he doesn't reply back, then I will definitley know my answer. I have a month to wait for that tho. Do you all think I should send him a little simple " Happy Birthday" message on his day?(even if I don't hear from him before then)? also I need advice on If a friend adds you to their friends list on a website or messageboard is that a good sign simpley saying that they still want to be friends with you? I haven't heard from a friend in almost 2 months now. so I thought maybe he was mad at me or didn't want to be my friend anymore. But, when I added him to my friends list on facebook he added me right back! Should I take that as a good sign that he wants to still be friends with me? Because if he didn't like to be my friend anymore, he could of decline me? he wouldn't of added me back on his list, am I right? The last I contacted him was a little over 2 weeks ago on facebook, I basically sented a message saying " Thanks for the add" talk to you soon" He never replied back. I haven't email, called,or anything this past two weeks. I was kinda hoping that if maybe I don't contact him for a while, he will miss me? But, I don't know since ever since he got a gf he's distant from me. He doesn't talk to me anymore We didn't have a fight or anything like that. He just lefted me without saying. I don't think he's mad or hate me since he added me back to his friendslist. Please help me with some advice here, I'm so sad, I want to be happy and not feeling so much pain right now. I would send him a message asking what's up and why he doesn't talk to me anymore. But, I have a feeling that he won't answer me on that either and that would make me even more upset. So, I've been trying to do NC and go without saying too til he contacts me again, if he contacts me again. Thanks for reading and advice in advance everybody who replies.

still no replies from him.But, I guess everything is still okay since I'm still on his friendslist.

So, I can see that he doesn't hate me or is mad at me it's just that he has a girlfriend I just find out from looking at his facebook profile that he has a girlfriend. He must of had a girlfriend for a little while now like over a month. Which will explain why he hasn't call,email me, nothing since the end of March and I thought maybe it was me, but.. I can see it wasn't, it's not me.I guess since he has a girlfriend he won't be my friend anymore. There will be no more phone calls, emails etc . Which hurts because I've been trying so hard to keep our friendship and it's like basically over. Not because we fight or anything. We didn't fight. He just has a girlfriend and that saids it all. Just like when my father got a girlfriend again, he lefted me all over again. Our friendship just isn't meant to be, and.. I hope someday I will get over this, the pain will go away. I have to learn to accept it. It's like what they say "if you love it, let it be" I'm so sorry for caring. I will never bother you anymore Buddy but I will be here if you do ever decide to come back and be my friend again..someday