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  1. Daddy Bear
    don't laugh, Derek. i have done the nasty to "Waterloo", and it was magic. not.
  2. Daddy Bear
    that does kinda sound healthy, doesn't it? just from what i've read, i don't think he's going anywhere any time soon...
  3. Daddy Bear
    i believe there is. (actually, it's slightlybent, as in "neither completely rigid nor entirely yielding", but you could call me "Mr. Dogcrap" as far as i'm concerned, as long you find something useful in what i have to say.)
  4. Daddy Bear
    the neighbors might have heard, but i don't care. i know who i am, and anyway, the yelp came from a good place...
  5. Daddy Bear
    and i have to say- that made me let out an almost gay-ish "yay!"
  6. Daddy Bear
    Sarah, i'm starting to realize that what you are is a genius surrounded by a field of idiots. don't throw life away. there are other people like you and you just have to find them to get the kind of understanding on your own level that you need. make it a quest. don't be sad. it will get better, i swear this to you.
  7. Daddy Bear
    i understand, and i just read your post in another thread where you mentioned your parents, which told me even more. i don't think anybody here is going to convince you to leave your guy, so just do yourself a huge favor and make sure that you get as much as you give in your relationship. you deserve it, you deserve it, you deserve it. and as far as you being jealous of him, there's unfortunately nothing anybody can do to fully prevent someone else from going away. but sometimes we drive people away by breathing down their necks too much in trying to prevent it, which is called self-fulfilling prophecy. you can avoid that trap by assuming that he's not with someone else unless you have proof. good luck, kiddo.
  8. Daddy Bear
    man, what a heavy load for someone so young. you sound so much older and wiser than 15... like an adult trapped in a youngster's body. you conveyed your feelings so well in your post, and yet i couldn't find in it what the underlying problem seems to be (maybe another member will pick up on it). i would say parents, but they seem more unhelpful than threatening. let me try this angle: when you were happy before as a camp counselor, was there something in particular that you were happy to be away from?
  9. Daddy Bear
    umm... how about... burn the witch? or at least any pictures you have of her.
  10. Daddy Bear
    great thread! i always say i'm grateful for any experience that comes my way. when real stand-on-the-edge-of-a-high-rooftop heartbreak finally visited me i thought i had bitten off more than i could chew. but it brought me some badly needed insight and humility, AND it seems to have improved my music-writing skills somewhat. can't say i'm not slightlybent over the way it all went down but i am fully more whole for having walked through the fire and survived.
  11. Daddy Bear
    Armygirl, are you actually in an Army school? if so, then you probably know why i'm asking...
  12. Daddy Bear
    i said it was a diagnosis, i didn't say it was brilliant
  13. Daddy Bear
    if he still wants to be friends then it obviously wasn't anything about you. my diagnosis: commitophobia. enjoy his company at work (only), don't blame yourself and get a new bf.
  14. Daddy Bear
    hey thanks, Rozi!... i'm glad one person liked it, lol
  15. Daddy Bear
    by my count that's four votes for enigma, Blinking. maybe you should give it a spin.
  16. Daddy Bear
    not most, i think. just too many.
  17. Daddy Bear
    your early childhood experiences sound horrific; i'm glad you survived. you may or may not find this a liberating thought (i did): your past is not who you are, it's just where you're from.
  18. Daddy Bear
    just like quitting smoking, you don't have to DO anything. it's just a matter of willpower. having said that, i should admit that i can't seem to stop smokng, myself... [aside to Tod: pretty sure i'm bipolar, too--or as i like to call it, 'love rollercoaster"]
  19. Daddy Bear
    and then i saw this, and i totally agree. ok, i'll shut up now.
  20. Daddy Bear
    Te_Ree_Saw, i'm truly sorry to contradict you on yet another thread. it's coincidence, i assure you. wanting to see her once more is the gist of his letter, and i just think that he should be up front about it and not beat around the bush or leave it implied. are we cool?
  21. Daddy Bear
    well, it's good to want things to end on a high note, if that's your intention. i don't see anything in there that could hurt her feelings. a little constructive criticism, though, from a writing standpoint: you waited a long time before making your main point (wanting to see her). you might move that up into an earlier paragraph and move some of the chatter down or even out. when i write a letter out of the blue like that i usually try to get to the point quickly, put in whatever i can think of and then cut out as much as possible (example: "if you're wondering why i am emailing it's because i would like to see you before you go" becomes "i would like to see you before you go." it justs makes for better reading imo. more importantly, i ask myself how the letter makes me feel in my stomach, and if i'm hesitating over the send button, i ask myself why.
  22. Daddy Bear
    asking if an abusive person can change is the same as asking if a criminal can be rehabbed to become a law-abiding citizen. does it happen? yes, absolutely. should they be given the benefit of the doubt? absolutely not.
  23. Daddy Bear
    the only sure way to avoid pain is to hide under your bed for the rest of your life. but then life consists of getting dust up your nose. the best way to minimize emotional pain imo is to practice the golden rule.
  24. Daddy Bear
    does he know that?? if he is exposing your child to porn, even accidentally, you need to have a long and serious talk with him and tell him you'll take her away if he doesn't wise up real quick. if that doesn't wake him up, maybe escalate it to a family intervention, then to BEATING THE BARK OFF HIS * * *!!
  25. Daddy Bear
    if you had said that you just met three days ago, i would be pessimistic about investing time in the relationship. but you both have feelings for each other, so i see it differently. yes, it's a rough fit in some ways, but if the spark is there, i'd give it a shot and see if maybe she starts to enjoy late-night cruises or if you decide that fall out boy and my chemical romance aren't so bad. exposure to each other's interests may cause you to find enough common ground to make you both content. what's more, you might discover from being with her how to be less of an introvert yourself and/or she could begin to appreciate the wondrous world of sarcasm. there may be much that you can learn from each other. in other words, if you dig each other already, maybe being together will complement you both, knock off some rough edges and make you better people. know what i mean?
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