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  1. misery12
    I am guessing he broke up with you, which is probably the main reason why he doesn't miss you like you do him. He probably thought about it before he did it, so he was on a different emotional level, which helped him heal a lot easier than you, since you weren't expecting it.
  2. misery12
    I agree with letsnotfight, to a certain extent. Only because some girls are different, and won't make commit to the guy because of the fear of being rejected. Despite her initial feelings for him, that can all be overcome by the thought of being turned-down. I'm only speaking from experience, because my ex supposedly is missing me, but hasn't came to me yet, in my eyes.. because she fears that i'll turn her down, so why bother?
  3. misery12
    I agree, make sure this is what you truly want, because the consequences of a situation like this can be totally turned around despite what your initial plan was.
  4. misery12
    I disagree, it is NOT good for you. Physically.. But yes it can make you relax, but if you are at the point where you find yourself going to the 'stash' for relaxation, you better re-think your motives. Yes, I've experimented with it, many times.. but I do not let it control my life.. My grades are A-, A+ which they never have been before, and I'm playing sports again.. So it doesn't destroy your life, and I personally know 3 different grown men that have smoked since their teens and have a great family, and great lives. It's all in moderation, but you should read darkblue's links if you want scientific information on it. The facts that I know, is.. you cannot O.D on dope.. you pass out way before you can even get close to fatal dosage. Due to lack of oxygen in the brain. Yes it kills brain cells, but so does holding your breath. I'm not against/for it... I've done my research on the topic and I know the side effects, but I also know what it takes to keep your life healthy, and moderated. There's always better hobbies.
  5. misery12
    It seems like you're making a big deal out of nothing. Maybe you should ask how other couples communicate, and you might realize that if you didn't fuss over this so much.. you wouldn't really care. Think of it this way.. if you want him to say it soo badly, sooner or later he's going to either leave you because he's fed up, or he's going to give in and give you a sympathy line.. so you stop bothering him. Either way, he's only going to be sincere, when he really means it and you can't change that. YOu have to realize that .. the sooner you do, to sooner you can move on to more serious problems.
  6. misery12
    I agree, somewhat. But who's to say he only wants to "get in her pants". I've read some of your posts and you don't seem like that type of guy. You do seem like a genuine, honest guy.. and so I say be nice, and respect her.. but if you want to distance yourself from this "image" you feel you're gaining.. then the best way to do this is to back off, and slowly decrease the frequency. Maybe send her subtle signs that you like her, or at least have an interest. Compliment her, and flirt a little bit.
  7. misery12
    Of course that's love, what else would it be classified as. I don't think that it's a relationship-type love, but definatley friendship.
  8. misery12
    Thanks for the reply. It doesn't affect me in anyway except for emotionally, which is only on the rare occasion. I think time is the power healer in this situation.
  9. misery12
    Thanks man, that actually made me feel quite a bit better. I just need words like those to think about once in a while, and I know in time, I won't even feel this way anymore. Thanks.
  10. misery12
    Hey.. I feel somewhat down today. This feeling isn't uncommon really, It comes and goes pretty much daily. I always see people my age (16) with their boyfriend/girlfriend, and I wish I could go back in time and have that again, and I find myself going "you're stupid.. you lost her.. look what you missed out on". I feel so frigging lonely sometimes even though I have lots of friends, and family.. sometimes it doesn't feel like enough. I've only been single for a few months, but maybe it's just that I don't have closure with my ex or something.. because I don't think I do.. I find myself still hoping she comes back occasionally.. and other times.. i'm like.. no way. I'm just starting grade 11.. and I worry about having sex now and all that stuff too.. only one or two of my close close friends have.. and a few of them haven't even had a girlfriend yet, but always seem happy. What can my motivation be to stay happy? It sucks.. i'm attracted to a few girls at my school, but only a few are girlfriend material, and only a couple are single. If that. I don't like dating outside my school either.. what can I do to get past this?? I really need help. Should I just worry about grades.. and worry about relationships later in life.. like in university, and such.. it's just hard in highschool when you're constantly hearing stories of which 2 people did what things with their girlfriend.. and I dont' even have one. It doesn't help seeing my ex and her boyfriend everyday either. He's in grade 9.. she's in grade 10. They don't talk as much through the day and her and I did.. and I hear that he told his friend he's only with her, to have a girlfriend, type thing. I also hear from a source they don't even really like each other too much. One more thing.. she has a website.. and in the past few days there's been annonymous posts in her guestbook saying "you're too good for him, he gets around quick.. you can do better" but nobody leaves their name. Anyone know what I can do to feel better about high-school situations/relationships and my current situation?
  11. misery12
    Haha no man, 27 views and not one response. This one is a tuffy, maybe someone else will give it a stab. DN perhaps?
  12. misery12
    I agree. Every. Single. Word. You pass out way sooner before your body would be able to even come close to overdoing.
  13. misery12
    I agree. How do you know whenever she is "hot" with you.. she is doing cold with her boyfriend.. and when she is cold/distant with you, she is doing okay with her boyfriend, and so she doesn't need you as emotional support at that point in time. That's what I read from the situation. My advice - Let her know your TRUE feelings about the whole ordeal, be polite and tell her you have feelings but you're not gonna stick around trying to interperate her mixed signals any longer. If she wants you, there you are.. if she doesn't, then tell her to stop contacting you. It'll be hard at the time, but it's what is best. If you continue on like this, this girl WILL hurt you, so protect yourself and speak up.
  14. misery12
    Then yeah.. obvioulsy you were high. If you weren't, you'd feel like you had a tighter grip on reality. You probably felt a little gigglish too, and at some points just sort of zoned out.
  15. misery12
    Hahah, damn you DN.. takes the words out of everyone's mouths. Pretty much what he said, make them like you, but don't try TOO hard, basically.
  16. misery12
    My opinion is that you should stop no contact.. when you feel that you're able to live your life HAPPILY with/without them. The morning you wake up and your first thought isn't them.... or the second ... and you realize.. it doesn't make you sad when think back anymores. This is when you know when to stop no contact. If you're already in this position, then you should be able to have a friendship with them, and witness them with a new partner.. and still be happy with our own life.
  17. misery12
    Just be cool.. man be yourself, and be polite.. (dont say sir, ma'am though). Dress like you normally do, but make sure you're not looking tooo grubby... it's her parents! if you're hungry/thirsty than yeah, accept them. If everyone's having a conversation don't sit back and look like a little boy.. have fun and talk them up.
  18. misery12
    I don't know if this is the best way.. Most people reading this post will either think, yeah.. or no. The one's who don't think you're attractive will not post. The one's who think you are.. are the ones who will be posting probably. I also think you should go to a website where it isn't based around making people feel better.. you'll get an honest opinion there, regardless of your looks. Even though your picture isn't viewable.
  19. misery12
    It's not lying though.. If he changes his life style to suit himself to being without her.. he'll be on his way to a full recovery and a new life basically.. maybe not completely over her.. but at least happy enough with his life at that point where he can move on regardless.
  20. misery12
    Well I don't know if she will think you're rude.. maybe just forgetful? Seeing how you two didn't really have a relationship or anything to build memories around.. through the summer you might have forgotten about her a little bit, and her as well. Who knows, she might have been doing the exact same thing to you, and thinks you're wondering what she's doing. Advice though... if you like her, make a move.. why not? it's a new year.
  21. misery12
    Secret Question basically.
  22. misery12
    My sister dated a guy who was 4 years older than her for two (2) years. They are now broken up, and she's 18 and gone to university, but my family and I are still GREAT friends with this guy. So why not?
  23. misery12
    Damn man, you seem like you're in my position, about the break up at least. My ex broke up with me because I was clingy, I guess.. even though all her friends said I was the perfect boyfriend. Deep down I think she just didn't want a boyfriend anymore.. We went out for 6 months, and now 2 months later she is with a guy 2 years younger than her.. (he's 13) Yeah.. I know, haha. So my advice, is to just relax.. DO NOT put all your energy into her, believe me.. it'll lead you astray. Still make time for your friends and live your life like you did before she even came back into your life. Here's the catch, when you're without her... Put all your effort into what makes YOU happy, but when you're with her... Concentrate on her so she knows you're a good guy still. But don't be TOOOO nice.. you know what I mean. You also have a huge benefit here.. you know how she is, since you've dated before and you know how she acts in certain situations. Use this. If you can tell she is getting interested, then turn the frequency up a little bit, (flirting, a little touching, eye contact, smiling) and sooner or later she will compensate, and meet you half way. Then turn it up again... but this can either be a fast or slow process, depending on the both of you. So just play it cool, worry about you, guard your heart, have confidence, and have fun man. you're young.. Good Luck.
  24. misery12
    Yeah, try not punching yourself in the head, and banging your head on poles. I hear it works. What good does that do to you anyways? It doesn't get rid of pain, and it doesn't make you "forget" the other pain. All it does is leave you with the same problems as before and a broken skull. Post about why you're depressed with the other issues, and i'll be glad to help with that.
  25. misery12
    How so? What are some of his actions?
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