misery12

I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now.. and at the beginning, we seemed to kiss and stuff a lot more, and now we havent made out since like the beginning of Feb. I was beginning to think that she was becoming uninterested, but last night I came out and told her just how much she means to me, and it was like she was keeping the feelings bottled inside, she came out, and said.. "aww thanks, same goes for you, im sorry im not nice to you sometimes =(" but I told her not to worry about it, because that's just her personality, and I love that about her. So I know nothing is wrong in our relationship, and we're not much for public affection, but when I go over, or she comes over to my house, we always fool around, (wrestle, cuddle, and just have fun) so im just wondering if this sounds healthy, and is kissing a big part of a relationship.. am I worrying about nothing? She's also been sick for the last month. so there is an excuse, but Im not with her .. to kiss her.. if you know what I mean. So i'd just like your input please.. and your opinion on the whole.. thing.. any advice too would be greatly appreciated! Thanks

Hey, I've been with my girlfriend for about 5 months or so, and our relationship is great. I love being with her. Our relationship is really easy going, laid back, and casual. We aren't much for public affection, and when we talk, it's usually based around us laughing at something, and if it's serious, it's about something other than us. I feel that she may get bored if she thinks that she has me now.. there is no more challenge, but maybe she wants to hear how much I care for her. I have never really told her how much I like her.. not straight out of the blue, and sometimes I go to sleep depressed, for no reason.. She didn't do anything wrong, but I compare us to other couples I see at school, and tell myself they hang out more than we do.. and all that. I want to tell her how much I like her, (because I don't know if Im in love with her yet), but I don';t know what to say.. because we dont really talk about it.. I want to be able to talk to her about anything, and be comfortable.. how do I start a conversation about this? Please and THanks! PLease answer.. I am feeling horrible

Yeah, I get what you all are saying thanks.. Just to make it a bit more clearer, it's not totally about sex, I just want to be able to talk to her about anything, and I just need help getting onto the topic, so any advice, on how to do it, without making it super complicated, I know after the first time, I will be able to be more open .. Thanks a lot.

You know what, from what I hear, you have a lot going for you. Think of it this way, you are keeping up a job, going there everyday, and not complaining to the boss or anything, you're keeping your chin up through it all. Right there it shows your internal strength, and shows your independence too. I guarentee there are so many people out there that couldn't do half the things you do everyday, they rely on others. The love thing on other hand, try some online dating things, the match you up, and they see what you look like before hand, so there is no element of surprise. Try link removed or something like that, It's worth a shot. I also read your post before I checked your age, and it made you sound like you were 40 or so.. You're only 32! My parents didn't even get married until they were 35.. so yes.. you are ahead of schedule, just keep your head up man, and keep pushing, you fight everyday to go to work, why end all that fight.. you've probably been through so much [Removed by Moderator] in relationships (just like all of us) and you put so many nerve racking moments into it.. and into your life, you can;t just take that away.. all that hard work.. No. Just keep fighting, and one of these days you'll catch a break, Suicide is no way, don't even think about it, I don't even know you and I know just from what you've wrote that you're better than that. I hope this has helped you.. I'd be happy to hear how you're making out.

I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 months or so.. and we have an awesome relationship, I am really comfortable around her family, and vice versa. But, we don't really talk about sex, or anything like that.. like our feelings or anything. And we're not much for public affection, like we do casual stuff, like put my arm around her and stuff. Anyways, I just want to know, I want to have a nice talk with her some night.. just about things, and I don't know if she's on the pill or not, and I don't know what her reaction would be if I just came out and asked her.. becasue we're like a casual laid back couple, so im not use to this kind of thing. So I need advice on how to get onto the subject, the easiest way possible, once I know I can talk with her.. Our relationship will feel so much more secure.. Im beginning to fall in love with her, and I want to be able to talk with her.. I just need some advice, to how to get onto the topic in our own style.. maybe make a joke or something, like what are some things I can say.. and then just get onto the subject so I can find out if she's on the pill, and anything else..and what her say on this whole thing is and such...I just want to be able to talk with her, and know she's comfortable talking to me about things.. SO, pretty much summing it up.. I want to be able to talk with her about anything, and getting there in a comfortable styyle we;re used to .. thanks a lot.. Please Help !