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  1. Alright, im just wondering something. My girlfriend and I are both virgins, I am 16, and she is 15.. and she told me she was thinking of having sex, and I'm just wondering if it will hurt her when we do. I am 7 inches, and she isn't too petite, she's probably 5'9, smaller frame though. I don't know if she's ever masterbated or anything like that, and we'll be wearing protection. What's the best way for our first time, so it doesn't hurt her too much? Or will it hurt at all? Thanks.
  2. Don't worry about it, many people have the same difficulty as you. You should try writing down some general topics to talk about, and if she enjoys chatting on the phone, she should elaborate onto your discussion and thereforeeee making it easier on you. Try not to stick to the question/answer conversations, because these generally lead to awkward silences (which aren't fun).. so attempt to ask open ended questions, and maybe tell her a story. Also, the fact that you two live accross The Atlantic from each other.. can have it's benefits, because it gives you things to talk about, and compare between each other's lives. Just try to imaging you're talking to a good friend that you aren't afraid will judge you or not. If she judges you, then she's not worth it anyways. Be yourself, stay confident, and sooner or later it'll start to get easy.
  3. Wow, I am sorry to hear that. Feel free to post about any emotions you're feeling. If you don't mind me asking, what were his reasons for breaking up, and if it was because of your behavior during your intimate 'session' than at least you know he wasn't worth it.
  4. You're both completely right. Don't think that I take your advice and let it leak out my other ear, because that's SO far from the truth, I read what everyone writes to me and think deeply about it. This girl, she isn't very open about her feelings.. and im not trying to defend her or anything, she just isn't the type of girl that would do that out of the blue. I really wish you could feel exactly what I do, so you could realize the difficulty I am having. Here's the thing, right now.. we're just hanging out as friends, and she hasn't really given me any concrete reasons to ask if she likes me or not, but the reason I suspect something is up with her, is because I 'know' her, and I can tell. I feel that if I just keep doing what I'm doing, something will either form with us, or not. Either way, I still have my health, and I'll be happy. She is more likely to 'show' me that she is interested, such as getting really close to me (physically) and other things. This weekend im having some friends over, and I'm pretty sure something will happen, I can sense it.. I think she just has a hard time saying things, despite how strong/weak her feelings are. But, it does seem like she's being a lot more open with me now, than before. After school today she came up to me and started talking to me about one of her classes, I didn't even see her coming, she goes out of her way to talk to me now, and I really like it, but I am in NO rush to get into another relationship, and right now.. I would rather take things slow, and don't really mind if she doesn't say she wants to get back together with me right now, because either way i'll know how she feels, when im suppose to know.
  5. It's tough acting aloof to her when she is constantly bringing up conversations with me a few times a day, and when I come online too, so she knows im there. So I talk to her. We're talking about plans for next weekend right now.. because im planning on having people over, and she's wondering who's invited.
  6. She never really gave me a concrete reason for breaking up. She said she just wanted to be friends. But in time it seemed like she just didn't like the committment, going to our cottage with my family, and hanging out (like normal couples do). Recently though, she's been saying remarks like "man Im cravnig some cowbody stew" which we would only eat at our cottage .. made me think. Also she told me how her mom missed having me around and all of this. It's just easier to pick up when you know her I guess, she's never been an open person that would go out of her way to say she likes you. She's not really like that. Not much of a romantic you know? That's why when she suddenly started talking to me 2-3 times per day on the computer, plus takling at school.. I could tell something was changing. Then she invited me to her friends house who was having a small get together, which got cancelled, so she called me back and rearranged the plans and we ended up hanging out. I guess what im saying is.. if I wait around for her to come and 'say' she wants to get back together, I may be waiting awhile.. because I dont think she would say that.. due to the fact that when we first started going out, she never told me she liked me.. I could just tell by her reactions/speech/actions towards me.
  7. I definatley agree with you, it's just very tempting to do that sometimes. I think people do this because they crave that same attention and inner feeling they had with their ex, that they accept anything at all, hoping it will change things; while in reality, it does nothing. This applies to my situation quite well, and i'm wondering if you can give me advice on something. I'm getting close to my ex again, and many people have told me that if I am too eager to please her again, things will just end up back as they were before. And I agree. But, what if I take this advice, and my ex suddenly feels as if I am not interested and thinks, "why bother, if he's not interested".. and gives up, and I lose my chance. That's the only thing I fear. I know you have to draw the line of giving/receiving in this situation, but where should you draw the line? Thanks.
  8. I agree with you. But if I ask her, it will seem as if I am eager to get back, and I don't want that. Doesn't seem too smart. I am just wondering if I wait for her to come to me, what if she thinks that since I am not making the effort she has, I don't want anything, and she gives up. I don't want that either.. that's all.
  9. Thanks, I see where you're all coming from. I just don't want to keep a grudge if there's a new relationship, because isthe past. But I do understand where you're coming from. I went driving wtih my mom since I phoned her, and when I came back online afterwards she talked to me again. It seems as if she's pursuing me constantly, which seems like a good sign. I'll keep my eyes peeled though, for odd behavior and I'll watch her motives.
  10. Shoot, I called her. But what could I have said.. "no sorry, im busy" even though I clearly wasn't. I called her and we chatted for 10 minutes or so, and then told her I had to go. Now I will pull. Here's the thing, I feel I have an advantage this time because I feel more emotionally secure than I used to.
  11. Alright, gotcha. So far it seems as if she's the only one who has been giving. Starting all the conversations, she volunteered to play for us, and making plans involving me. The beginning plan was 5 girls/5 guys.. and all paired up.. they didn't say that, but I could tell. And she was the one who invited me. All of her friends always say she likes me too, I know her personality, she is more subconscious with her feelings, and lets you know if she likes you in actions..
  12. How would I do that, without scaring her off. Maybe the reason she hasn't said anything is because she doesn't know. So I'm just taking things slowly. We talk at school everyday as well, and play volleyball together.
  13. Hey guys, I just wanted to update you on my situation, I told this new girl that I couldn't see it evolving into anything, because deep down, I could kind of see it the whole time. So I felt as if I should let her know that I felt that way, to be as fair as possible in that situation. Anyways, I've been starting to talk to my ex more. Actually the other way around.. Out of probably the past 10 conversations on the computer, she's started 9 of them. We hung out last night at her / sort of my friends house. Watched a movie, bond fire with a group of people. She started talking to me this morning too, and everyone asks if we're getting back together, and it's clear to see we're sharing feelings again, and it feels like it did months ago, when we started going out, and she called me a few times yesterday to make plans. I know you all don't really like hearing my stories because most of the time I end up doing what i'm feeling. The only reason I do that is because if I did go against my inner judgement, I'd feel somewhat guilty, and it's not because I dont appreciate all of your advice, because if I didn't like it, I wouldn't be posting all of these. I am just wondering as to what precautions to take in order for the relationship to take an opposite turn as it did the first time.. I felt as if I gave too much, and was TOO available, maybe? I don't know. Advice, if you can.. please/thanks
  14. Here's the thing, if she was completely over you, she wouldn't feel awkward, because awkwardness comes from insecurities around other people who you feel will judge you, basically. So by this, it seems as if she didn't introduce you either because she just doesn't want you two to meet, or it's something else that nobody but her will know. As for getting back with her, do what you're doing.. stay busy and confident, don't let the thought of getting back together rule your days, because you might just be waiting forever. If you two are meant to be together, you'll end up back together without having to strategise your way back with her. Just keep it cool, and if she wants anything with you, she'll come to you.
  15. Potential girlfriend, i'd say. We hang out a few times a week, (1, or 2) since she is from a different school. I think she sees us as together, but not quite. I don't know how to explain it. I didn't want to fully commit, because I wanted to take things slow. Now it seems that no matter how much good I try to do, and how much I try to move on from something, it comes to bite me in the end. I wish things were like they used to, and I feel I have a chance of that, but I am not going to take advantage of that, until I know personally from her that things will not be the same as before, and if they are then i'll leave her. The thing is, if I am willing to committ to my ex, IF... I would be able to let this new girl go. I don't want to be with someone I don't have as strong feelings for as someone else. At this point, I feel that the safest bet is to not do anything, keep innocent conversation with my ex, and see how things progress, while building my relationship with this new girl? I dont know what to do.. you can't blame me for having feelings for a girl, you don't know me, nor any of these girls.. you only know my situation and fill the rest in with your own views. It's difficult to be in this situation, because I like this new girl, but I can't deny that it doesn't feel as right as before. Which is NOBODY'S fault, and I won't take fault for that either. I can't help that my ex came back, and is contacting me.. nor control my feelings.
  16. You're sudden'y assuming i've taken a step with my ex. All that i've done so far is in my head, and I don't find that to be disrespectful at all. The minute I start flirtling, and hanging out with my ex, this new girl will be the first to know. I don't want to say anything now, because I dont even know what im doing. Obviously I am not going to keep this from the new girl because she deserves to know, as would I, but I don't find talking and having thoughts being so called as disrespectful. If I feel that I am pretending with this new girl, and are committing to this ex, I will not drag it on any longer, but for now, I am unsure of as what I should do, so I am not going to do anything. It may turn out I really dont have feelings for my ex, and I want something with this new girl. I see where you're coming from, but you have to realize that I didn't plan this at all.. it just happened, and I didn't even do anything wrong, I just had thoughts, and memories of my ex. My ex has contacted me 3 times since last night, and it feels that since this new girl is at a different school, we don't see each other a lot, and I don't like that. We're not even together, and im not going to make any attempt to progress with her if if I have the intent to eventually hook up with my ex, surely you know me better than that.
  17. I am not going to shut out my ex. She is a nice girl, and just because we're not going out anymore, doesn't mean that I have to ignore her for the sake of the new girl. I don't expect this new girl to stop talking to her ex, and if it comes to be the case that she liked him again, I would be alright with it as long as she told me straight up. I am not doing anything wrong, In my opinion. Just talking to a girl, who happens to be my ex girlfriend, and if my feelings say go for her, I might just obey them. I don't know yet, girls are complex, eh.
  18. SHe's a teenage girl. Most girls I know aren't that open about this. Plus, she's in the type of position where I wouldn't want to say anything either.. because she thinks I am "with'' this new girl.. and she doesn't want to say anything to me.. but expresses her feelings to her best friend. I don't know what to tell you, It's just a feeling I guess.
  19. Why does it have to close though? I don't understand that one thing.. why suddenly if people break up, they have to never talk to them again. It's like, if you mess up on anything else, you just throw it away and forget about it, and drown out your thoughts with memories of someone knew. What's the point.. I've tried that, for 3 months.. I didn't talk to her ONCE.. and she consistently contacted me.. I dont know.. maybe I should take your advice, or maybe I shouldn't, and do what feels right at the moment, in the end.. i'll end up doing what fate had planned, I guess.
  20. Hey guys. I posted yesterday stating my concerns about my ex coming back into the picture, 3 months later. She started talking to me again today, and as I was talking to her, I was talking to this new girl that I am (sort of ) with.. haven't asked her or anything. SO it was sort of weird. My ex seems so changed, like she was when we first started going out.. and this new girl is reallly nice, but it feels somewhat incomplete with her, like im missing something. With my ex, it never felt like that, when I was with her, I felt totally full. Im not comparing them together by any means, but my ex isn't an open person and she is opening up to me, and wishing we were back together, as she has said to her friend. I don't know what to do.. I know a lot of people would be mad if I went back with my ex, but it's not their feelings, it's not their life, it's mine. I have 2 very supportive best friends, who have been through their share of girl problems too, and give me good advice, but im seeking others. What do you do? Right now im planning on maintaining innocent contact with each of them, and see what happens a little down the road. P.S- this new girl doesn't go to my school, and I only see her a few times a week, compared to my ex who I see everyday.
  21. Hey, remember me I haven't posted in three months or so because i've been getting over my ex. I am 'sort of' with another girl.. but in the past months my ex has been the only one contacting me, I haven't initiated with her once. Tonight she started a convo with me, and we got on the topic of the new girl.. and i asked about her new boyfriend, and she dumped him because he's immature (who knew) and I sorta have feeelings for her, and sort of for the new girl.. but it doesn't really feel that same as it did with my ex. what do I do
  22. Merely because they're curious and or, bored of their current relationship. Also, they may feel they're some how unfulfilled with their partner, plus are heartless at the time and don't think about their actions/go with the heat of the moment.
  23. I need advice, I just had a soccer game.. (Im on the senior boys soccer team, for my school). It was a qualifying game, so if we won.. we go to provincials. We ended up winning but my coach sat me for the entire game. I did nothing wrong in previous games.. and as soon as the game was over he turned to me and said "sorry about that''.. clearly knowing I sat the whole time.. I'm incredibly pissed off and feel like calling him up and telling how unfair it was.. because he goes by the motto, of fairness for each player.. and I sat half a game last week, and I was the only one to not play today. What should I do.. I'm so GD pissed off right now, I feel like telling him I don't want to go to provincials since he probably won't even play me.. he's an idiot.
  24. Exactly, and you have to think of it in this sense.. if you want her back, then keep your cool.. and don't give too much of yourself too early.. just be yourself and let things unfold as they should.
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