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  1. misery12
    Seems like he just wants you to stay around until HE moves on.. and if he can't find another girl, and realizes it.. he'll come back and fall on you. MOVE on for you, dont'w ait around,...
  2. misery12
    I agree with elveden ^ You will NEVER know if you keep guessing, each time she bottles up her emotions. You have to take the chance in asking her, because it's the ONLY way you will feel better about the relationship. Once you've talked to her, and you still feel like she can't meet you half way in the relationship.. then you have to re-consider if she's the girl you want to be with. There's billions of girls out there, don't stay with one if you feel it won't work, if you don't want to be with her after this, nicely cut her loose.
  3. misery12
    If she's in the middle of an affair, it shows EXACTLY what type of woman she is. Don't waste your time wondering what she's thinking, she's a dead end. Drop her, and move on.. she'll only slow you down.
  4. misery12
    I think truly, he has regretted his decision of breaking up with you, and misses you. It seems you stayed strong, and that's what he didn't expect. This other girl seemed to just be an excuse to get out of the relationship, but it was also an eye opener for him to realize what he lost with you. I'd say.. if your heart is still with him, and you feel you can trust him, and that he'll be respectful to you. Go for it. The emails are a good sign, but actions speak louder than words. Good Luck.
  5. misery12
    Okay, I am sort of confused, was she your girlfriend? If so.. Than I need to ask you something.. Do you want to move on from her? If yes, then the ONLY way you'll do this is to erase your physical memories of her, such as photos, letter.. and poems. Writing poems to/for her.. Won't get you anywhere but lower. 10 months is a long time to be recouperating from a relationship, and I think the only reason it's been so long, is because you're still allowing her actions to affect you. This is because you haven't made the effort to get on with your OWN life, and forget her. Am I right?
  6. misery12
    Man, this is oddly familiar to the situation I used to be in. I am guessing you're around my age (16).. and my ex girlfriend used to always bottle things up, just not tell me, nor her friends how she emotionally feels, so this would leave me guessing, and second guessing things. Mostly all of her actions I would disect and think "why's she doing this" when it could have meant nothing at all. I think I got to seem needy/clingy because I would ask her how shes feeling about us, due to the fact that she never said "I love you".. or "you're sweet'' or .. "I like you so much" .. or anything that would keep me reassured she still likes me. I know where you stand, and it sucks! What you have to realize is NOT to come off as needy/desperate for her attention, WHATSOEVER. Make sure you keep all your friends in case things don't work out with this girl, you still have your buddies. Show her that you're independent, and when you talk to your girl.. make sure she knows you dont want to be anywheres else, BUT.. when you're not with her.. do your own thing.. it's good to think about her, but don't let thoughts of her keep you from doing your own things.. gets you nowheres. Seriously, just play it cool.. if this girl were to cheat on you.. Would you actaully want to be with her? She's more likely to cheat if you're always there nagging on her, because the more you push on her, the more she'll pull away. I learned the hard way. Just remember, she's with YOU.. and dont' get worried until she gives you a reason to be worried.. such as flirting with guys, hanging out wtih guys.. alone. Thing like that. Keep your head up, and keep your dignity, she's just another human being, treat her like a princess in a boyfriend perspective.. but don't treat her like gold in a desperate perspective.
  7. misery12
    Very true, DN said it.
  8. misery12
    Exactly. Just say "My son and I are going to the zoo on '___day' you want to join us?"
  9. misery12
    I agree with DN, except for the detail.. if she was the dumper.. SHE should be the one coming after you, or else a pattern can unfold into your relationship again, and things may end up just like before.
  10. misery12
    You know what it seems like to me? It seems like he isn't doing you a favor, yet he did it all for his own benefit. Since they haven't talked in a few months, he probably thought this would remind his es (your gf) of past memories with him... without him having to make things too obvious. I agree with DN, how does your gf know she likes him, if they haven't spoken..
  11. misery12
    Exactly. I like a girl that can understand my jokes, and has the sense of humour that can make me laugh in return. But I don't like girl when they're jumping all around, and laugh at everything.. and are always smiling. Is that weird? (Hah) I prefer mature, humour full, as dark said.
  12. misery12
    Frankly, I wouldn't care the least. If this is with a new guy, and he's already demanding you to do certain techniques, then drop him. If you assume that's what he wants.. then he shouldn't be worth your time anyway. I agree, you are young, I've read your other posts and there's no reason you should even be thinking about this. On the other hand, all you did was ask.. so my answer is, I dont care, gives me no extra pleasure what the girl does with my "in-seam team" afterwards.
  13. misery12
    DN, can I ask you a personal question. At what age do you feel people have experienced relationships enough, and are mature enough to start a relationship with someone that they want to spend the right of their life with?
  14. misery12
    Why not just wait until your mom comes up, and say that Aaron is going to be moving in with you as well for the next few weeks, so she thinks that as soon as she arrives ,he is as well.
  15. misery12
    Well you've come to the right place, but not if you're expecting some magic cure to ease your pain overnight. Break ups are never easy, especially when it's because of a situation like your own. The thing is, she was unfaithful to you, but did have the respect to let you know, maybe the fear of you finding out later, scared her into telling you? Anyways, This girl is asking way too much of you, she wants you to stick around while she sorts out her problems. The thing is, DONT.. she already disrespected you a great deal, and if you get back with her, what's stopping her from doing it again. I'd say take it as a learning experience, you're only 18, you have your whole life ahead of you. Move on from this girl.. don't try and tell her how she did you wrong.. by leaving, and dropping her from your life.. will show her exactly what her consequences resort to. As for how to move on.. I'd say get rid of ANYTHING that reminds you of her, photos, letters, emails.. everything! Delete her from your IM, and rearrange your room, to get rid of any unwanted memories. It will take a while to get over, but initiate NC with her, and sooner or later you'll wake up and not need her.. and get on with your life, and keep busy, and before you know it.. a new girl will come along, who will fulfill you emotionally the way your ex could not.
  16. misery12
    She's just a friend, really... I don't think I'd ever have something with her. I don't really want to, and im not attracted to her.. plus, it wouldn't get me too far going out with my ex's best friend... I am going to move on, and be fine with whatever comes out. I hope.
  17. misery12
    I know I already post like a crazy man, but you have to agree, it's nice to vent to strangers, when you seek advice. Anyways, you all know about my situation, well my ex has still been keeping in contact with me, usually talking to me once a day or so.. Yesterday it was her birthday, so I said happy birthday to her, and sent her a short/funny poem I wrote for her. She hasn't commented on it yet, but she seemed really happy when she talked to me yesterday, even though I know I shouldn't disect her messages. ( this was in the morning). Well the day passed, and at night I got a message from her saying "will you marry me" .. and I replied, "maybe for your next birtday" but it turned out to be her friend, who I am also friends with. I later checked my ex's screen name.. and it was "gone to visit 'X' " (X being the guy she may have fooled around with at the party last weekend). My friend was here and he told me.. "she only put that up there so you'd worry about it, so.. just don't worry about it." and that's what I did. But still.. it bugs me. Last night she read my away message before she signed off too, (she doesnt know if I saw her name or not because my away message said I was out last night). I know I have to move on.. and that's what I'm doing. She feels as if she's in control, but if I show her no sign of weakness, then sooner or later, he actions really won't phase me anymore.. OR.. she'll stop playing games with me, and come around. Either way, im good.. I just need some encouraging words from experienced people, on what to do when you see that your ex is visiting another guy, who might have a "thing". This guy really gets around, and everyone knows it.. and my ex is the type that only goes for people she likes, so even if she did hook up with him, I think she'd get bored, or see what she lost with me.. or something. So, like I said.. I know what I HAVE to do.. but what are some things to do/think about on my journey, which will help me?
  18. misery12
    I only read a few of the other replies, and I agree with them. Play your game, the way you normally do, but don't beat the crap out of her. Also, maybe show her some techniques for a better swing or something, getting close to show her how to hold it correctly, or whatever. Be supportive, and have a good game.
  19. misery12
    Well, what are you expecting for her to change? You say you aren't sexually attracted to her anymore. Do you expect her to change this? What can she do? If it's because she's gained some weight, then yes.. she can do something about that. But, you said this probably isn't the reason, and that you feel it's because you feel more like a friend now, than a boyfriend. She cannot do anything to make you feel better. Sure she can strip down and try to turn you on, but if you're not attracted to her anymore, what good does this do? You should talk to her about her financial troubles, and her bad habits when it comes to that, but I think you need to re-think what you're going to do about consulting her about your attraction. Think about her feelings as well, she deserves the up most respect.
  20. misery12
    Exactly as DN said it. If this guy makes you happy, but isn't really a prize winner in the attractive category, who cares? Think if the tables were turned.. and you were REALLY into this guy, who was good looking, but you weren't that good looking.. wouldn't you be upset if he made that the reason why you stopped spending time together? I agree with hockeyboy as well... because when I started going out with my ex, I wasn't THAT attracted to her, but when I got to know her personality, she was the most beautiful thing I've seen, and nobody compared.
  21. misery12
    All I can say is.. there's been 100 posts.. and if you can't realize how wrong this is yet.. then you have more serious issues than the one you're posting about. Seriously, i'm almost 17, and haven't had sex yet.. and there's NO RUSH.Like she said, it only happens ONCE, why throw that away in the first century of your life?
  22. misery12
    You're good man, that made me feel better, a lot better. What do I do when she contacts me though, should I just close it out? I have this thing on IM, that shows me when people are reading my away message, and so far, she's read mine 2 times since I got up 45 minutes ago. I haven't read hers once, (she can see when I do). The thing is, I keep my away message as things like "gone out with friends" .. or "well that was fun", "fun night" and sometimes she's like "what was fun?".. and then I tell her what I did. I don't know if this is the right approach or whatever. I know that she has no idea what love is, and she ran from me because she knew I was REAL. I treat women the way they should be treated, and she took my generousity for granted, and that's HER fault.
  23. misery12
    I just read this whole post, and it took me awhile, but I did it because I was interested and it relates to me. My ex, seems to have what Ripples ex had.. she doesn't show any emotions really, or signs of caring. She used to, back in January/Febuary but that's just because I think she didn't know me too well, and was attracted to me because I was the 'older' guy. Months passed and her true self came out, I started hearing things that she said about me behind my back, and found out she would ask her friends to come over, after I invited her over, so she wouldn't have to hang out with me. She ended up breaking up with me, saying she wanted to be friends, and then told her friends I was clingy/needy.. etc.. yet I haven't initiated contact with her for 2 solid weeks, and she's always the instigator.. and im needy? I really feel as if I was attracted to a reflection as well, also I basked in the hope that my ex would be like her sister is in her relationship, funny, loving, caring... nope, it seems she only cares for herself, and thinks even now she is in control of my feelings. Her birthday is in 2 days, and I was planning on having a surprise party for her.. but guess what.. she doesn't deserve it from me. Surprise. But, im not going to tell her, because that will just make me appear sour, she'll eventually find out sometime.. and that will hit her like a load of bricks. The thing is, Do you think I should write her a short little funny poem for her birthday about some of the funny things we've been through? We used to always write funny poems to each other ,and I think if I write it correctly, it will just seem that I'm making a nice gesture and not make her think im "obsessing" with her.
  24. misery12
    - Sounds good to me.
  25. misery12
    Agreed. Cheating means already being emotionally devoted to one person, but then spreading feelings onto other people. Cheating doesn't care about genders. If I was the guy in this situation, I'd drop the girl, because I wouldn't want to date a lesbian, also it's clearly cheating.. she's with someone else, as she's with you. No way around it.
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