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This is really a hard situation. Do you think that what worries you most is losing her or not knowing why you two have been broken. Eventhough she has told you to back of, she owes you an explanation. It is not so simple to say that 'my feelings have changed' and than to stop any contact. This should be so hard for you! You should nevertheless get an explanation, not by saying that "hey I want you back" but making her understand that she cannot finish a relationship by running away. If she is coward even to give you an explanation, oh, I dont know what else you can do. Your friends might be telling to keep on your life, but thats the hardest thing in the world ever. Time will heal, but may be you should start to think that this relationship is over and hey! maybe that aint so bad! you are on a new track Good Luck,
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I think it is likely to be genetic, since I have dark circles around my eyes and I dont think that any moisturizer can make them get better. It is true that with rest and less stress, they seem to disappear but once a doctor told me that it is about the excess of pigments (which give colour to your skin) so in the last analysis you need to live with them!
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I can feel your pain, I went through a similar breakup. There is a saying that one of my friends told me those days and I understood what it meant later: Dont be the one in a relationship in which your partner will grow through that relationship. She is growing, and sorry but I think you will never be able to forget her totally. But life goes on, you deserve a better person with whom you will establish a mature relationship My best
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No possible way to find her? Are you sure that the person that you are in pain for, is that girl? or just an illusion?
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I am in the same situation, so I am not in the position to give advice to you. Isnt there anyone out there to tell us something?
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I think you should go for the other girl immediately, what do you have to lose? But first have a clear conversation with the girl whom you have been dating, end the relationship and go get the girl you ara comfortable with!
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My grandpa told that the most important thing to gain a guys love is to smile to him. SMILE He is 75 years old, so I am trying to take his advice. May be it would be also be beneficial for your friend!
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Look into her eyes for a long time during a period of silence If she looks back for a while than you have a chance, if she begins talking than give her some extra time.
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Why am I still thinking about him? Because I am stupid Ok, its hard to forget someone you have given all your love to, ok its hard to get over all these. But I am not talking about a recent breakup, it has not been 2 days, 2 weeks or 2 months!! It has been more than 2 years. People get over their divorce in two years, I am still thinking about my ex now and then....and this night I just want to call or email him! Please stop me! How is this possible!! I am still looking around at university to see him, he never thinks about me, never calls me, never bothers about me, lives his life. I could not foresee that I will think about him after 2 years since we have broken up. He is not worth thinking I know, but I miss him. I still miss everything about him. I had dates during this time but none of them worked out. I dont know whether these dates did not worked out because I could not get over him, or I could not forget him because I could not find a new person to have a relationship!! I dont want to spend the rest of my life missing him, this only happens in films and novels! But it seems I have a great potential for that. Please help me, what can I do!
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I think you shoul not be the one who has to decide for this. It seems that your mom wants to go, but tries to find a way that will suit for you also. Why don't you tell her that she should make the decision, and in the meantime you should figure out which option would beeasier for your? Changing your school or missing your mom? Best
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I can really feel your pain, it seems that you have loved this man very much. There has been people who have borken up and got back again, but don't forget that statistically a very small number of couples do this. I think you should let him go, but not like waiting until he calls you again. try to live your life on your own, not only waiting for him coming back, but giving yourself a real break and engaging in your own stuff. And don't forget to think about whether you can be content with spending the rest of your life with someone who is not sure whether he is loving you or not? You are worth more than that!! Good luck,
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I am really sorry for the girls behaviour, but just think for a minute, did you really like these girls? Or are you acting desparetely to find a girlfriend? You know, girls get attracted to charisma and a nice smile? Just try to have a nice time with everyone and try not to think about what is going on with your love situation. Dont forget most of us dont have a grf/byf but we are content with our lives in some way or another. May be you are giving too much importance to finding someone to love? And also, things are not very much different in the other parts of the world, I am sure
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really nabi, I am surprised that you know the dizi I always watch that soap opera, it is called Yabanci Damat you know, well what happened, I send a message to my father, he went to another city last night, that seems to be going better, but now my mom is sitting downstairs and crying I dont know why, probably she is upset, well whatever thanks for yoru response
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I decided to stop crying and write here my situation. The issue is my parents and money. How to begin? I am 24, still living together with my family and I will be moving out to US for graduate study in three months. I won a scholarship, actually I have always studied with a scholarship throughout all my college years. I know that this is the usual case in the US, I mean tjhe child earns his own money if he wants to study, But thats not the case here, the family looks after the child until she finds a proper job. So I need money to go to study in the US, it is not much money, but my parents say that it is not their job to give me money!! The funny situation is that they will give me money but they think that I depend on them and just spend all my money for fun, whereas I should be gaining more and more money..I dont know what to do, I have always been a bright student and I have always realized that kids who fail in their courses or dont get to the university are treated better by their parents. Is this justice? I feel heartbroken, we fought over this issue with my dad, he says that when they (together with my mom) went to the US for graduate study did not ask their parents for money! And I did, so I said then give me a loan I will pay it when I have enough money! which is a s entence that is abnormal in this culture..! I dont know how to behave? I mean 'money' has always been an issue of fighting but this is my future, i have a scholarship, i will go and they need to give me some money for this. Actually they will give even if I dont ask for money, theirs is just trying to make me feel that they are making me a favor I look around and see everyone s parents are giving all their money to their children. I know this is stupid but I feel that they want me to go from home and never come back. I might not be able to express my feelings but I feel really really sad and feel that I am abolished, he shouted at me and told that I am selfish.. What can I do
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Yours seem to be hard situation I guess, I have been a member of this website for a while, thus I think that people in this website might have some difficulty to think themselves in your shoes. Different culture between men and women, you know! It is also nice that you have written which country you are from, I live in Turkey, so we might think ourselves as neigbours When we come to your question about girls, where do people can meet with each other? I mean in the university, maybe some clubs or maybe some activities? You migth first check them out! Secondly, do you have to say that you are an atheist to a girl immediately. I might be wrong, but I don't say that even here, I mean religious beliefs are strong traditional ties, girls might suspect you if you say that immeditaly on their face? I also thought that may be you can meet girls through other boyfriends? I mean through your friends? In that way girls might be more open to talk to you? I hope everyting goes well for you
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This is a really long story, but I need to take some advice. There is this guy whom I have always been attracted to, I know him for 7 years, we (I am sure that he has also had) had always a crush on each other, but since he never asked out me for a date, and just enjoyed flirting and having conversations , we have never been together. Actually I did not care about him very much until now. 2 years ago, after a long time of not seeing each other, we end up together in a summer. We both had broken up with our ex's, (his ex was one of my best friends, unfortunately-I know I am dishonest) Since we were both left alone, we began talking about anything and everyhting day and night. I had forgotten my crush on him, and since he was my bestfriend's ex I was probably hiding my passion. For 2 months, we continued on this mood, liking each other and sepnding all the time together but never talking about 'us' until we got drunk one night. We talked about what we think of each other, and he had a long series of excuses, about that he lived in another city, had not finished college yet, he likes me very very much but is just not sure...bla bla bla.. I was upset(and I even had to confront my bestfriend, his ex for this closeness between us) and than begin to retreat slowly. Although it was hard for me I played the "oh, i was just drunk, I dont like you actually" and he was not very questioning so had ended the story. We saw each other around, and were 'just friends' But 3 months earlier, he phoned me one night, said he was in town, and wanted to see me, so I went, we drunk and I told him how he had make me feel last summer, and told him that I had reaaly like you..He once again gave a long list of excuses, but this time I did not care, since I had told everything I wanted to. Seemed like I was over him. Unfortunately again, he called me yesterday, he was not DRUNK and thus I was surprised, and he told very amazing things, that he wanted to see me next week, he misses me so much. And we talked for some time, I was trying to be cool, but it was so nice to get a phone! at last! so I am not sure if I had been able to. Actually, I just want him to continue phoning me, so selfish, since I am certain that we wont have a relationhip anymore but is there any way that I can make him get attracted to me. Should I avoid contact, or begin phoning and texting him? I It seems that this is the most stupid post ever posted. I honestly feel that I am not over him, and I do want to keep my balance even if he phones or not?
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Your post made me angry First of all, you have a right to be hurt. Even if you have not talked about being together or not, you began to see each other again. I would also consider whether we can get together after this break-up. I think you should avoid contact by no means. Don't tell him that you have been hurt. Don't explain and don't call him. You may even avoid responding his calls. See if he bothers to see why you do not want to speak with him. Don't let him take you as an option, an ex-girlfriend who can wait near-by. You deserve better than this! Good luck!
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Hannah, The gentlemen above have all provided valuable insights about how they have gone through similar confusions. But it seems to me that these might not be the answer you have been loking for. We all tend to overanalyze when we like someone. I even count his smiles's when I have a crush . The first question seems to me, look at your own personal history, have you ever overestimated someone's interest about you? The second thing is that, why don't you stay away from him for a while. I know that you are working at the same place, but take on your sexy/confident smile, and act as you are not thinking of him. I know that's hard, but you might try for a while. See if you does anything to recontact with you, a smile, a conversation opening? Something like that.. Thats all I can think of Good luck
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I am not sure what my problem is. But it seems to be an uneasiness I fell after being together with people. I sometimes think afterwards that I talked too much, said a stupid thing, what have they thought about me? And then I decide to talk less the other day when I am together with people, that means at school. So a few days passes by, and I begin to think that I am stupid to have anything more than conversations. I begin to think why I take on a snobbish face, and act like I just want to go away when I am around with people. This is not a problem I face when I am together with my usual friends, I usually don't have to think about what to say and what not to say when I am together with them. But when I am together with people whom I do not feel very close, I may say something private about myself, something about my ex-boyfriends or something about my family. It has been a long time since I have noticed that people usually do not say such things publicly. There are people who do not even say that they have or have not have a boyfriend/girlfriend. It seems that my question is how do we know that we are neither talking too much nor too little? what is the edge? This is not only a question about friends, it is also a problem for me when I get to know a new guy. I always-always- tell him about my ex boyfriends. And with my surprise my past always turns back onto me later in these relationships. Men do not like girls talking about their past I guess, but how are they gonna know who I am without knowing what events I have passed through?
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Hi Lella, From your post I can feel what an ambigious situation you are in. But I don't think you are the only women in this world who has commitment problems. He might be a really really good men, but is that enough to spend your whole life with him? I am not sure but if you have got married during your masters education, it might be some age around the early twenties. And now deciding to pursue a PhD, well that is probably what has changed you this much. (Trust me I am having a PhD also) There is a saying, should be some thing like this in English: A good men is like a rectangle, it is usable for any purpose, but it has corners. AND he is usually boring. I have also left men who are very nice, helpful, honest, bla bla. But I was not in love with them. The question is are you in love with him? I think that you need to be YOURSELF, before you begin to live a life together with a person. That seems to be the missing element, and no one in the world woud understand this except than you. Take a road on your own, give it a try, try your own life It is by no means better than feeling together but alone. Good luck
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Well, I feel that no one understands me, this is usually something normal, since it is not possible that everyone in the world can understand you , even we ourselves don't understand ourselves. I don't know what the problem is, but I feel that I have lost a real sense of connecting to and contacting people, my family, my friends, my ex's whom are usually my friends. The reason why, seems to be that I will be moving from the country that I have been living to another one, going to the US to study for a doctorate degree. Well no one understands what the hell I am going through. It just makes me sick In a conversation, I want to speak about how I am feeling what kind of situation it is 'being the one who will be leaving soon', but no one seems to understand. The responses are: 1. you will be fine, don't worry 2. this is something that everyone wants, don't be so impertinent 3. I wish I was in your place 4. so why are you going, stay here.... The most shocking part of whole these words are that they come from my closest friends. No possibility of empathy!! It just feels like I am leaving on my own, and it makes me understand that most of my friends, or the people that I have given so much love do not understand me, listen me or bother themselves with my problems. Ok, I know that I am not a child and this is my problem. But I want to spend as much time as I can with my friends and family I guess, but they do not feel the same way. I don't know what to do in the following months. Any advice?
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Seems I am going through a unlucky period of my life. Well, that's fine, I might handle it if it is the story. But I am not sure, since I can not see what things are really going in my life objectively. First of everything, I feel lonely, That may not seem to be interesting, but the problem is I have many friends. Some of them are very important for me, since they have been the ones who were by my side when I was going through hard times. These days are not the hard days, or may be they are but I can't see. I have no one to talk to honestly, everyone around me thinks that I am in a good situation than their own situation. So what remains to me is to listen to them and try to tell them positive things. But giving too much positive energy out makes me feel exhausted. When I am finally on myself, I juts don't want to do anything. I am surrounded by people, but I feel that there is nothing to talk about or share, I don't know whether it is my problem or a problem about people around me. I am not sure about anything. really sad. I feel like I need to change something in my life, may be meet new people(will it do any good?) or get into an isolated period and don't see anyone. I don't know. When I look to this post, I see nothing, Is there someone around there who can find something out of nothing. Thanks,
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I don't know whether mine is a story. I am 24 years old, and have been alone for the past two years. I was very very hurt with my previous two relationships, went through a depression after each break-up. I don't know whether I had been too harsh with myself, but my first boyfriend committed suicide, which made me feel insecure and striving for attachment and those were the reasons my second relationship ended. (I had other relationships but these two seem to the ones that were trying to make me learn something about myself.) Consciously or not I decided to refrain from seeking healing in relationships, and have been looking after myself for a while. I don't know whether I learned anything or something..or not. But I need to know how long it takes one to get ready for a new relationship in my case. Since I don't know if I refrain from meeting new people, or that just the right time has not arrived yet. Sometimes I think that I messed up with my only chance of having a good relationship, and that this was the end, thus the end of any romantic possibility in my life. I feel lonely, smiling in the face, strong and so...but lost and insecure and just expecting something to happen.. This is not something to ask of advice, but I will be happy if you could share some thoughts..
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There is this something that I have been expecting to happen, this thing that has been this much meaningful for me for the past two years. More simply I have received an acceptance from an university abroad with scholarship This has been my goal for two years, now that I have achieved it! Shouldn't I be happy? I feel that I have lost contact, I am afraid, but I am happy, I am thinking of 'whole my life' and the things that have brought me to this point. I am thinking of all my ex's, I am constantly thinking was this what I wanted for and as my life? Career is the most important thing, I know and I will go, there is no doubt in myself, but I feel that I lost contact for the past three days-since I had the 'great news! This is partly because I saw that not only depression but also happiness is something that one has to live on her own. I am happy but as you might guess this will change all my life, I have been living with my family in the same house and neigbourhood for many years. I am afraid when I think that I AM ON MY OWN FROM NOW ON>> Is this a situation that one can expect an advice, but I feel that I am not happy or I can not feel my happiness. What's wrong with me? I know people that talk about their smallest accomplishments in such a way that everyone admires them. This is the turning point of my life, but I just can't enjoy it I always thought that that the day I learned that I had an acceptance and than onwards that I would be happy but I was wrong !!!
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Well I read the post of Virus from a different perspective than VictorWard, I mean I can be a millionarie one day, but who cares? I can give up expecting a 'satisfied life' but again who cares? I just wanted to say to Virus, your situation about purposelessness is not just related to the decision you have made to quit school. I am attending an university, working hard, meeting people everyday, talking about this and that, and guess what? most of the time I feel the same as you. Maybe it would be better if we could change small things in our lives. dailiy things, I don't know what it might be for you, but every morning I take a short walk through the forest to the bus station, that makes me feel that my life is a purpose, may be you could try something similar? search for something