daisy215

I'm so sorry to hear about this situation. I do think that your mother does seem very manipulative and self-serving, you're right! This may seem terrible, but I don't think you should feel guilty about taking the money. She forced you into doing things that you didn't want to do and karma got her in the end. I also agree that it is a parent's job to take care of their children and it's terrible that she holds the fact that you had childhood illnesses over your head! That said, I also see your point "she is still my mother." Call her and talk to her if you think you can be strong enough not to let her push you around and back in to doing things that you don't want to do. Unfortunately she may only want to talk and yell about the money and how you "owe her for taking care of you," which will probably be hurtful. She may not be willing to work on a normal relationship with you yet.

Thanks for the comments and advice. Deep down I think I know it's him. It's just so frustrating. You're right, my pride is hurt, but it's like "what is wrong with me?" "How could he not want to be with me?" It's just so disappointing when you really feel for someone and you start to think that maybe they're the one and then it doesn't work out. Thanks again!

Here is my situation: My ex and I broke up 3 1/2 months ago. Basically he wasn't sure if I was the "one" for him and he never told me that he loved me (we dated for a year). He told me he wanted to tell me many times, but something was holding him back. He told me he only planned on saying it to one person and he wanted to wait until things were "perfect" before he said it. He also said that he worried that we didn't have enough things in common - basically I'm not a party girl or a bar girl and he is. Now I don't mind going out to the bar, but I'm not a big drinker, so if I didn't get an alcoholic beverage I'd get Coke or something, but I still talked to people and socialized I just didn't drink. I think that that bothered him and he'd always say "it just seems like you're not having a good time." I just thought when it came to the important things like goals, career, family, etc. we were on the same page. I think he made to big of a deal out of this not enough things in common because I never told him not to go out and when I was in town I always went with him and had fun. Anyways....sorry this is so long! I guess I'm worried that I'm never going to meet anyone. It's really hard to meet people and again I'm not into going to the bar and I'm really not a party girl. My ex really hurt my feelings, I'm afraid guys won't think I'm fun. It's like my ex attacked my personality. I'm just worried I won't be able to find somebody. If you gave me the choice of going to dinner and a movie vs. going to the bar or club all night - I'd pick the movie! He made me feel boring!

I'm in the same exact situation as you! I was with my ex for 1 year and he never said it either. He told me that "it's not that I don't feel I don't know why I can't say it." He also said "I've wanted to tell you before and something is just holding me back." I just feel like if he really loved me and if I was really the one for him he would be able to tell me. It hurts so much, but it's getting easier. (We broke up 3 months ago). I still miss him and I still hope one day he'll wake up and go "I was being so stupid." But I can't count on that either. Hang in there, there's nothing wrong with you! It'll get better!

I definitely think that you should let this girl know how you feel. It may not be too late. Girls (at least me anyways) love that kind of romantic stuff. Odds are she might be glad to hear from you! Call her!

I think you should get divorced too! Your husband sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. I don't think you two share the same priorities and you're too young to be so unhappy. You have too many years left ahead of you and you don't want to be unhappy for the rest of your life. Get out!

Okay this is just my opinion, but I think it's very inconsiderate of your boyfriend to never thank you! Especially since you've told him how much it bothers you that he never says "thank you" when you do things for him. My theory is if he can't say "thanks" now for small things like car rides places then his inconsiderateness (I don't even know if this is a word) will only get worse as time goes on. Also consider the fact that he is just using you for what you can do for him (driving him around since he doesn't have a car). He seems sort of selffish and remember people don't change and if they do it usually doesn't happen easily. Good Luck!

Okay, I'll try to make this as short as possible! I dated this guy for a year and I really thought he was the one (I'm 25 & he's 27). We broke up 2 1/2 months ago. All in all we had a good relationship (went through some minor spats here and there that all couples go through - no biggie). We talked about our future a lot, talked about getting married. He told me he has never felt this way about anyone before, he can really see himself with me, etc. The problem, which is a big one to me, is that he never once told me that he loved me. So one evening we had a discussion about our relationship and I expressed my concerns. He told me that he knows I am perfect for him and I told him that if I was really the one for him it wouldn't be so hard to figure out what he wants and he wouldn't be so scared and that if he really loved me he wouldn't have a problem telling me. He told me that he thinks he is scared because he knows I am the one. He told me that he just felt like he needed to take a step back and make sure that things were right and that he wasn't forcing them, so we broke up. We had no contact for 6 weeks and unfortunately I'm the one who caved in and called. We had a really nice conversation and didn't talk too much about our relationship (I called because I was missing him, but I didn't want to force the relationship thing - just called to talk). He told me that he missed me and had thought a lot about me, but didn't call because he still doesn't know what he wants. We've talked briefly since then about the relationship and he said that he doesn't know why he couldn't let it work out and if the issues were something with us or something with him that he's going to have to deal with and it won't matter who he is with. So it sucks because I love him and I miss him and I've talked to my friends and they say just give him space and it'll work out, but I don't know. I guess I just want to know what you all think and has anyone had or known anybody in a situation like this? Has anyone taken breaks with someone and gotten back together and had it work out? I guess I just think that if I were the one for him it wouldn't be this hard for him. Also, I keep thinking he's 27, get it together a little bit! We haven't talked in 2 weeks again. So much for keeping it short!