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  1. bleeder
    Hi Deadringer, I can understand your woes. I am in a similar situation myself, except that I am married but separated and have left my daughter in my wife's custody. No words of advice or encouragement can ease the pain you are going through now. How do I know? 'Coz I am going through this myself. What you can do now is to rebuild your life. As painful as it might be, to be alone and face the irony that a father should spend his time by himself when he has a daughter out there that needs loving and guidance. It's a hard fact. But we've got to face it. Reconstruct your life, your dreams. When she sees that you are standing tall and firm, one day...she might just come back. That is.....provided you have not met someone better by than. All in all, be strong for now.
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    Fox and Mermayd have said most of it. This guy is really hurt and he is STILL hurting. Honestly, words and actions on your part might not do any help now. Give it some time. Meanwhile, take the effort to rethink the relationship. Are you certain that history would not repeat itself again? (as in you kicking him out, or the verbal abuse etc.) Till you are certain and confident that you can keep yourself in check, do not approach him. It will only make matters worse if you folks get into another heated squabble again, right? Good luck!
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    You are right Sean. I have lost my wife and daughter, pending for a divorce now. People come up to me and say...hey,you will get by it someday. Time will heal all wounds and all that jazz. It is easier said than done. But I cannot allow myself to sink into despair and thrash up my life. It has already been badly damaged. But no matter what the cost, we can still salvage some gems from this scrap. Remember, it is NEVER too late to start again. Fighting fire with fire is not really a good option here. Let's all look forward to better days ahead... 8)
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    Hi, This is a guy replying though. Let the rose do the talking. It is significant enough to speak volumes. Guys don't give out roses to gals they don't bother about. She will get the message. Approaching her now might just "freak her out", especially if she is not ready for this. Give her some time to respond. If not, give her a buzz days later and ask her if she liked the flowers. Take it from there. Victory comes to those who waits. Cheers mate.
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    Nice work Mermayd. Keep on going...you have that poetic flair in ya too!
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    A wonderful piece of info, Neo7! I think that points number 5 and 8 are absolutely critical in a relationship. Good job! 8)
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    That's a good move Mermayd! Yay to that! Cheerios.
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    Move on with your life. It's time to leave this relationship behind. Remember that song by Sting? "If you love somebody, set them free" There's a lot of truth in that. It will hurt initially, but at the end of the day, you will realise that you will be happy knowing that your ex is happy too. Going back to it will only result in more damages being done. Be strong! 8)
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    Take some time to be alone. Take that time to learn how to stand on your own two feet again. Once you are good and ready, emotionally and financially, go out and seek your ex again. You will stand a better chance of getting her back to your side. But then again, do not compel her to the relationship if she is not willing. It is wiser to be alone than to be with someone who has no interests right? Good luck!
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    Hi SwingFox, I used to manage my own bulletin back in my previous company. Does this forum application allow the administrator to block out profanities? I was able to do so with my copy back then. How it works is, the moment the system detects any swear words (you can create your own list) it will immediately convert them to ***** instead. Nifty and effective.
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    bleeder replied to kamurj's topic in Divorce Advice

    Hi, Make the effort to spend quality time with your boy. I believe in quality, rather than quantity time, where children are concerned. Spend some moments talking to him. Find out what makes him tick. What he aspires to be. What he fancies. Read to him, be a clown, play with him. Children need alot of security. If you can show to him that you really care and will be there for him, there's nothing that can steal your boy away from you. Blessings to ya.
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    Hi Sean, Some people can be frivolous when it comes to love and relationships. Commitment and fidelity don't matter to them much. If I were you, I'd be glad that she has opened my eyes. Bite the bullet and get on with your life. Your time is better spent pursuing someone else with more integrity.
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    You might want to cut her some slack here. She might not be in the mood for a relationship now. Try to get to know her better as a friend first. One small step for you, one giant leap for lover's kind.
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    That's true. We do not have the power to change anyone. But we can do our utmost to influence them in ways we think are best. Only you alone can decide if love is enough to cover all those negative traits. Cheers.
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    Thanks Mermayd! Btw, I also love this song by Luna called Mermaid Eyes. How coincidental! If you wanna read more of my poems, do visit my webpage. Just click on my "www" icon. Cheers!
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    With or without a 3rd party involved, you know that a marriage is over when you cannot connect and bond with your spouse anymore. I don't mean physically yeah? I am separated from my wife now. It is painful, but I know that there is really no future in our relationship. Rather than having to drag this issue, I have chosen to end it now. So if you feel (trust your heart here) that there's no way you can bring yourself to live with this person anymore, then your decision is more or less made up. Sometimes, it is wiser to be alone than to be with someone totally wrong for you. Cheers.
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    Here's one from my collection. You can view more of my works at my webpage. THE PRICE OF SOULS If we could buy enough Just enough for this silent world Would that be sufficient Of the stakes we've left unfurled? The red moon rises Magentas of the night in dreams Ghouls ride these trees I see them fly without wings An owl perches himself Onto a branch of a thousand failures Staring into the eyes of this night His situation has turned precarious She lands herself onto the ground Head of a lion and body of a woman Holding death in her hands Life seeps through unproven She told me if we could buy enough Just enough for this faded world It will tell a tale so bright and wrong When truths will lie and lies will curl In the recesses of this night She kisses my wounds of old Her sighs brought on a million visions A million stories left to be told
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    I agree with Mermayd here. Try to focus on your strengths and work on it. A few physical changes you could do are to change your hairstyle, get some new clothes, start exercising (it really is an elixir for your moods and confidence too). First step is to feel good about yourself. Once you feel better about yourself, people will notice the changes too. But whatever you do, make sure that YOU, remain as YOU. You do not want to transform yourself into something you are not. It is unreal. All in all...be confident and happy with yourself. You will meet the right guy someday!
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    Some fantasies are best left as they are, that's why they are referred to as fantasies and not reality. On the other hand, if you are close enough to her to feel comfortable talking about issues like sex, than perhaps you can discuss your fantasies with her and see what's her response. Take it from there but be mindful that you don't do anything obscene in public though. Good luck!
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    There are romantic guys out there. Don't lose hope yah? I for one, still strongly believe in romance and faith. Without either of which, it is near impossible to sustain a relationship. Keep your fingers crossed that you might meet a romantic and dedicated guy some day! Blessings to you.
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    Hi, I have got 3 ideas for you in mind : 1. Cook him a nice meal, then eat it in a candlelit room. 2. Buy him a good book. 3. Get him a CD or DVD. These aren't gushing with emotions, but it does speak your mind here. Happy Val's Day all!
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    Hi, There are really 2 modes where silence itself is concerned. One, is the one which most people face, which is being frustrated when silence falls and neither party is talking. This could be credited to a million reasons. A conflict of interests or the lack of it, restrained anger etc. It is not easy to go about this. It takes effort. For you and your partner to make a conscious effort to open up. Speak your mind to him and see how he reacts. Of course, all of this takes time. So do be patient. The second type of silence I was referring to, is the sort you see amongst "well established" couples. Those who seem to know every bit and cranny of their mutuals thoughts. You might know of friends or couples who can be so at ease in silence. This, takes years of sharing and emotional bonding. Something I am hoping to achieve someday.
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    Hi, Firstly, what you are going through seems logical and normal to me. Physical attraction plays a major role in our relationships, as much as some people like to declare that looks don't matter. In the realm of animals, color, size, flair and a display of strength all matters in the game of courtship. We are not that different either. What you can do now is to talk to him about his physical self. Tell him that you will appreciate it if he were to lose some weight. Weight, unlike character, is not that hard to change. See if he makes an effort. Then measure your relationship from there. If nothing is progressing, perhaps it's time for you to seek greener pastures. It's hard to wake up in the morning to see someone unattractive naked next to you,isn't it?
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