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  1. bleeder
    Hi Paingirl, I am sorry to hear of what you are going through. I can relate to the immense pain you are facing now. I have just lost my wife and daughter,so it is double the blow for me. What I want you to know is, suicide is never a solution to any question or problem. It only serves to create more confusion and pain to those who truly love us. I have cried and cried countless times, waking up in the morning in tears, spending the living daylights in misery. In the end, I asked myself, who's there to see all of this? Who's there to comfort me? No one. But at least I can rely on one trusted friend, that's your own good self. Our souls are immaculate and pure. It's the mind that gets impure and tainted as we age. It's also the mind that tells us what is suffering, what is important, what is 'love'. We can go back to our roots. Search your soul once again for that immaculate self. Learn to bring compassion back into your life, even when all else seems dark and lost. Heard of the phrase "Love Thine Enemies"? It may sound ludricous to some. Impossible to others, but with hope and love, nothing is beyond our reach. Forget about your husband for a little while. Learn to stand on your own two feet again. We cannot love someone else when we do not love ourselves. Do not focus on your "ego", but concentrate on your positive traits. Strengthen them into bars of steel. No one can touch these, remember. We are unique and your soul will bring healing to you. Please, be strong and believe in YOU.
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    Hi Cookiepuss, You would just have to tell him straight up. Let him know that you need constant assuarance about your looks and demeanor etc. Another way is to start complimenting him. Most good willed remarks tend to beget another. Best of luck!
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    That's right. Talk to him and see what really is the cause. It is not nice to be hanging in mid air when no reasons are found. Speak to him. At least you can get some form of closure if anything. Personally, I like to lay past relationships to rest, but if you feel that this one is worth going for, then don't give up. Guys do not choose to break up for no apparent reason/s. We (guys) are logical creatures. Good luck!
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    Hehe...very well said SwingFox! Korey, I do agree very much with what Fox mentioned. A few additional points from me are : 1. You folks are only 14. It is ok for you to start exploring your sexuality, kisses, light petting etc. But going all the way is something you should not even consider. Why so? This ties in with point number 2. 2. Going ALL the way comes with taking some form of responsbilities. Did you watch Spiderman? Remember that line, 'with great power, comes great responsibility'? That very much applies here to. When we become sexually mature, we possess the great power to concieve human life. Sex may just be a pleasure for some, but let's not forget what its actual purpose really is for. Conclusion, love her all you want and cherish your relationship. But if you decide to go all the way this time, please, think thrice. Cheers dude.
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    Hey, thanks for all your kind words folks! As a writer, it is my honor and pleasure to see my words bringing inspiration and hope to the masses. I am glad that you all liked it! I will keep on posting here. This is a fine forum with very nice people. Keep your heads up my friends!
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    Good call SwingFox! Yes Paula, it is about time that you did something about this. This guy is also worried that he might seem "too obvious" if he were to make any further advances. Pride goes before the fall for some people. Start off with a little conversation. I do not see any harm in that. May the winds of romance carry you on further from there....
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    Hi TroubledGuy, This is quite a tough nut to crack. She has been giving off mixed signals, vibes which are very hard to decipher. But I will help you in the best way I can. There might be a chance that she IS interested in you too. But being shy, she has her reasons for holding back her emotions. I remember when I was in school, I used to act so nonchalant towards this gal who liked me that she ended up thinking I hated her instead! We humans, are strange beings sometimes. Don't give up now, especially when time is not on your side. Ask her out for a date. Do not be wishy washy about it as it will only serve to complicate things. If you do not have the courage to ask her verbally, slip her a note in class. Keep us posted yeah? Good luck.
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    Hi, Secretguy made a good comment. Try to arrange for a 2nd date and see how she reacts. If a NO is given, then I think you might want to chill for a few moments. Meanwhile, try chatting with her on the phone and see if anything is bothering her, emotionally etc. It is quite unlikely for a girl who enjoys your company to reject your offer for a date. Good luck!
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    Jessr06 is right. You are treading on thin ice here. Liking a girlfriend of one of your pals is quite a no-no in relationships. No doubt, friction will arise between your friendship with your friend. Tension would also build up if you were to date this girl too. As much as the term "falling in love" is coined as uncontrollable, personally I'd like to think otherwise. Our minds are capable of making decisions even if intense feelings are involved. Walk away while you can. It will save you a lot of damage that could appear later.
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    Hi Swingfox, Thanks for the compliments. Cheers dude!
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    Hi folks, I wrote this for my daughter. I miss her a great great deal, and I hope that she might learn to understand her daddy's anguish someday. More works of mine can be found at my website. May this simple poem also bring some hope to the lost and broken hearted here. A Guardian Angel's Tale When those fragile causes Look uncertain and lost When the times are hard And dignity is wavering I'll be there by your side When solitude comes to you Bringing fears and desperation When your belief in simple trust Lies broken and worn I'll be there by your side When a hundred gray soldiers Armed to the teeth with lies and betrayal Storm your delicate castles Against all reason of truth and light I'll be there by your side When frenetic calls echo in darkness And you cannot find your way The road lies in shadows And there's no soul beside I'll be there by your side Someday the sun will shine upon Your lovely eyes and laughter will follow The daffodils will bloom in your name As the forest dream a million wishes for you Someday the pain and tears will be gone Truth will light our way from then Our souls will tell of no ego When we realize that dream, my child I'll be there by your side
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    Hi Enchanter, It is very painful for us to realise that we spend so much time and effort crying over someone when they do not even seem to bother. You will realise that this is something futile and meaningless after a while. What you can do now is to pick yourself up. Judging from what you have written, he is not much of a guy to lose sleep and tears over. So don't. Start hanging out with your friends. Go and get a good book (A Deeper Wound- By Deepak Chopra is a good read). Pick up a new hobby. Restructure your life without him. We are all unique and special. Remember that.
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    That's terrible idon! I can understand your pain. My advice is not to give up on her. As mentioned, she has just started this relationship with her bf. What if he's the wrong guy? Be there for her when she falls. In the meantime, make her see that you are concerned for her even if she's attached. Don't give up till you see that ring on her finger. Good luck dude.
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    Hi Diggy, If you are sure that she is not attached, then don't hold back. Arrange for a date with her. Tell her your feelings straight up (she, being your ex), there's not really a 'getting to know you' stage here. It must be awkward to be working around someone with all this tension going on. Resolve this soon if you can. It's for the good of both of you. Good luck!
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    Hey, glad to hear that you will be making some postive moves. Take time to think about it. Let us know if you have any further troubles. The LOVE part might be secondary, when you are dealing with a woman that has the character of a maelstorm and fair days in one. Hear from you soon.
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    Hi Cheech, It's better to hurt now than to be dragging this relationship in the long term. Let him know the truth. See if you folks can find some ways to salvage something. If it's all in vain, a breakup is a better choice than staying in a relationship that won't work out. All the best to you!
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    Hey, that's good news! Hang in there. I believe the right moment will come. Be patient and in the meantime, shower her with your care and attention. Be there for her when she needs a listening ear. I always feel elated when I see nice people pairing off. Hope to hear your good news soon mister! Cheerios.
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    Hi Stillthere, My answer is very simple. It is so very hard to be in a relationship where you cannot BE yourself. Imagine spending every ounce of your energy daily asking "How will she react if I am like this...or like that?". That will drain you my friend. Relationships are very much like choosing your pair of shoes. When it doesn't fit, there's no point in forcing your feet into them. It will only serve to hurt and disable you. Decision is all yours dude. Best of luck!
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    I agree with Aura Seeker very much here. People treat us the way they do because of how we project ourselves. I was trodden on, trampled on, taken for granted....all because I have always seem like "Mr Nice Guy" or SNAG as some people see it. This, has to stop somewhere. Though it does not mean that I will transform into Megatron overnight. It's just that we've all got to make our stand clear. We can be nice, but not pushovers. I have learnt all of these the hard way. Best of luck!
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    Hi Salmons, It sounds like she has a very autocratic character. It must be hell for you. I was caught in a similar situation before, though she claims that she is always "open" for compromises. Now I know better... Anyway, try talking to her and see if she is willing to make an effort. A woman that shirks away all forms of responsibility is really a turn off. If you want to give her a wake up call, stall all your work at home for a day or two. Do not sweep the floor, do not wash the dishes. Don't take out the garbage. Stay in a motel for a night or two. I would like to see her face at the end of the day. Keep us posted!
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    bleeder replied to Co2's topic in Dating Advice

    Yes CO2,I do hope that things will take a turn for the better. Be strong and remember u have friends like us around. Live your life to the fullest, and leave the past behind. Let history STAY as history.
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    Hi Waterlily, This girl obviously needs some form of psychiatric help. Don't waste too much effort trying to make her see your point of view. She evidently has difficulty with her moral judgements. Try speaking to your friend (the guy) about your sentiments and see what he says. It is tough, but for the sake of your happiness, you have got to start from somewhere. Sitting in the well and just looking at the skies doesn't really get you anywhere right? So take heart and keep us posted.
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    Hi BleedingOrange, My advice to you is to make your stand clear. It is unwise to be ambiguous or uncertain when courting a girl. Like what Mermayd mentioned, she might have backed away thinking you are uninterested. Make it obvious that you like her. That V'Day card is not enough here. Send her flowers. Call her (not too often though) on the phone just to ask if she is doing alright. Go for some evening walks together. I have felt that the guessing game IS a dangerous game. As it can go both ways. So, don't leave her in limbo. Go for it like a barracuda. Fast and swift!
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    Mermayd said most of it. Take it easy. Be yourself and study her body language. It is something that sends signs if she is comfortable or not with you. Let your hands brush lightly against hers as your walk. If she flinches away, then do not even consider of proceeding, at least for now. Stay cool!
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    Those are all very good advice. EJ, whatever your troubles are, remember that each one of us are suffering in our own way. We all have our baggage of troubles, just to different degrees. I am going through a tremendous amount of pain, sadness and disappointment in my life right now. True, the thought of suicide did cross my mind, but I realised that that is not going to solve anything. God placed me here for a reason, and I believe that I have not completed his work as yet. Love yourself and look at your own positive aspects. Try to feel compassion and loving kindness for yourself. Perform more kind deeds if you can. When we help people, we are really helping ourselves. It opens our minds and hearts. Please, be strong.
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