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Thanks for advice ya'll, it' sreally helpful. Hazlcha, are you saying I should try to keep it casual and just give her a call and invite her to come out if some of my friends and I are going out, and try to stray away from the 1 on 1 dates?

Last Friday I went on a sorority date thing with a girl I will call Sally, and I got her number, and we also made out for a bit near the end of the night. I've hung out with her couple times before the date at bars and parties, and we had a lot of chemistry between us. I called her the Sunday after the date just to tell her that I had a good time, etc., the conversation didn't last to long because I was busying studying. Then I called her again Wednesday and we chated for about an hour, and I asked her out but she said she was going outta town to see her parents this weekend, which is true. I haven't call her since Wednesday. I don't wanna seem to desperate or needy and I don't want her to think I'm trying to rush into a relationship, because shes a freshman in college and a lot of freshman girls seems to be scared of a rushed commitiment. I was thinking I should call her today, but then I don't wanna call her while she is spending time with her family. So I was thinking I'll just wait till tomorrow. Any ladies have any advice on how often they liked to be called? or anyone that has any advice? I want her to know that I'm interested but not desperate.

Yea your probaly right seko. I'm gonna wait till Thursday like my friend said to call her and ask her if she is still up for doing something Friday. And if she doesn't answer I'll leave a message like you mentioned, and if she doesn't call back I'll take that as she isn't interested in me. Thanks for help seko, much appreciated.

The story beings last thrusday. I went to a bar and meet a girl, we kicked it off great and I got her phone number at the end of the night. I called her Saturday afternoon to see if she would want to grab something to eat that night. She answered her phone and after I told her who it was she seemed really excitied. She told me she was at her home town, which is true because it is Mardi Gras break becuase I go to college in Louisiana. So I asked her if she would want to go do something next Friday, she paused for a second and said "yea". She then told me she was about to go jogging and that I should call her later. I didn't call her that sameday because I spent the rest of that day at a Mardi Gras parade. But I called her the next day, Sunday, and she didn't pick up. So I waited till today, Monday, to call so I could make small talk and get to know her better. She didn't answer again. I haven't left a message ethier time because I never leave messages for anyone unless its important, I'm werid I know. So right now its Monday night, and a part of me wants to give up on this girl, but then I don't want to, because physically shes everything I want, and from what I've seen so far she seems to have a lot of the same interests as me. One of my friends told me that I she just give her a call Thursday because she might be doing a lot of family stuff, and she'll be back on campus Wednesday night. Is this girl playing games with me or is she just no interested, or could she really be doing family stuff? I know it's been 3 days since I meet the girl and their are others girls, but I don't wanna give up so easily. Should I leave her a message telling her "If she's interested to call me back, if she's not interested then don't call me back and that way I'll at least know?" I'm so confused and I don't know what to do, I wanna call her again tomorrow but I don't wanna seem desperate. If ya'll could give me some advice that would be great. Thanks

You should go up to him and just go, "Excuse me, do I have something on my face?" That should start a conversation or something if your interested in him. I do stare but if they notice me staring I'm not going contiune with it I'll probaly do a quick glance away so she doesn't see me looking, but of course she sees me. I usually don't stare during a whole lunch break though, maybe a time period of 30 secs - 1 min. then I'll cooldown for about 10 mins then start over again.

There is this girl in my chemistry class who I find very attractive and I've noticed her checking me out a couple times when I walk into the class. I've never talked to her because my class is about 300-400 people and I sit with a friend who has a crush on me but I have no interest in her and I don't wanna go sit next to another girl because she might get upset. After chemistry I walk to my car alone and I always see the girl I find attractive walking to the same parking lot to get in her car. I was thinking about just one day going up to her when I'm walking back to my car and asking her if she's good at chemistry and could help me with it. Does that sound like a good idea? Would ya'll find it strange if someone come up to you outta the blue like that?

Both your comments sound good to me. Just make sure that if she is busy that you still get her phone number and you can call this weekend just to talk. If it were me I'd make my friends do something. I'm sure one of ya'll have an apartment? Just bring a couple guy friends over there say like 4 or 5, or even 2 or 3 is good, and ask her and just be like "Hey me and some of my friends are just gonna hang out at so and so's, you wanna come?" If she says sure, tell her to bring some friends, your buds will need some entertainment too huh? If you drink it would also be a good idea to have some alchol. You don't have to have a party or anything just a little social get together with a little alchol. Those are usually better than a lot of parties after all the alchol is gone . The reason I'm trying you to do it with a group of friends is because it will be a more relaxed environment and you can kinda see how see reacts around your friends, and if she truly likes you she'll hang around you the most, that is if you pay her attention. But if you wanna get to know her on a more personal level I'd say go with the you and her just hanging out. If ya got any questions you can PM me, and I wanna know how it goes so PM or something. Talk to ya later, and have a good weekend.

Just find a time when you and your friends are gonna do something and right before ya'll depart from each other after class just be like "Hey, me and my friends are gonna go to *blank* or do *blank* ya wanna come?", I'm guessing she will say yes, and be like "Whats your number, I'll give ya a call later." If she says no still ask for her number but say something like, "Whats your number I'll give ya a call this weekend and we can hang out." Try those and just make it seem like a friendly conversation like she is just a friend. Just remember to be relaxed its not like your asking her out on a date, it just like making plans with any other friend.

It's not your viewpoints in general, its that they were aimed at me. I'm not a game kinda guy and I didn't appreciate your comment. Yes there are many different opinions on this forum but this is a friendly forum to spread advice. I asked you nicely to watch what you say because you offened me, and you replied in a aggersive manner.

Yes when everyone gets older they won't put up with the phone call games, but look she is only 14. At that age I wouldn't even expect much from a relationship except for a good time. Some people get a little to serious with there relationship at such a young age. Just because a girl waits around for a phone call doesn't mean she isn't quality, just because a guy doesn't call right away doesn't mean he doesn't have confidence, heck it takes confidence to even get a phone number, and just because I've played the phone game before doesn't mean I'm some kinda game-playing guy. Please watch what you say next time Scout because outta of the four sentences you wrote I took offense to all of em.

Its not always true that a guy will call right away if hes interested. I've been interested any many girls and not called them right away, and even when I said I call them the next day I would wait till a day or 2 after to call them. Lots of girls spend a lot of time thinking about guys, just as guys spend a lot of time thinking about girls. Girls also sit around waiting for phone calls a lot, and when they don't receive em the tend to think about the guy a lot more, and when you think about someone it just makes you want them more and more. Then when girls receive the call they get all excitied and it is about 10 times better than if he woulda called on time. Now thats not always the case but it does work very well, very often. It also works for me too. If a girl doesn't call me on time and get excitied to see her number on my caller id. It may seem like a game but sometimes to much communication is, well, to much. If maybe busy but everyone has time over the weekend to at least call once, he may be very busy, but I'm not even busy as he sounds and I'm taking 18 hours in college.

The other night I went out to a club with a group of foreign exchange students that go to my college. One girl I found very attractive and she also found me attracive so we hit it off pretty quick. So we spent a lot of the night together and made out at one point in the night, it wasn't filthy hard making out, it was more like soft. Later that night I went back to her dorm and spent the night with her just cuddling and stuff. Nothing sexual happened. The next day my friend told me that she has a fiance that she is going to marry in December when she goes back to England. So the next time I saw her I went and asked her about her fiance. She told me that she had one, but that the both agreed that they could fool around with other people while they were in separate countires to get it out of their system before they get married. I found that strange, but then she told me that she wanted more than just to fool around with me (I'm guessing a relationship). I was a little shocked and asked her what she ment. She told me that the one night we spent together she had never felt the way she feels about me with anyone else, even her fiance. I told her it was only one night and she has a fiance, and she told me that she had never believed in love at first sight but she might now. The conversation was a little more detalied but that just the summary. After we talked all I could think about was she has a fiance. I do have feelings for her but not like she has for me, I can't just rush into a relationship I have to have time. I don't know what to do I kinda would enjoy being with her but then again she has a fiance. I think I should just cut it off but I will be seeing her a lot because her group of friends hangs out with mine a lot now. I really don't know what I should do so please give me some feedback. O yea just to let you know I was a little drunk on the night we went to the club, but she didn't drink at all except for a few sips of my beers (not enough to get someone drunk, or even tipsy).

Just ask him if he has any love interest or something like that if you don't wanna ask if he's single. I'm sure your a lot older than me (18 here) but I don't mind at all when girls ask me if I have a girlfriend, I actually like it because its a big sign that they are interested, most of the time.

My sister remaind with her boyfriend as they went to separate colleges. They only got to see each other about every 2 months, and now they are engaged and have been together for 5 or 6 years. I have a friend that was dating a girl and we just went to college this year. He broke it off with her because we were going away to college. Right now he has been regretting it quite a lot latley. He keeps telling me she made him feel special and that they worked so well together. He also thinks that he'll never find a girl like her again. So far he has been going through a tough time with it but I think in the long road he will find someone just as good or even better. Most people have a hard time leaving their first love so if shes your first love and you cut it off just don't worry about it to much.

I have a friend that lives in the same dorm building as her so I'll just visit him tomorrow hopefully I'll see her. What do you think about if I called her just to ask what happened on Saturday when she invited me to lunch or if I just called her to talk? I'd be a friendly conversation because I don't ever get mad and start screaming at people, if she didn't wanna talk to me then I'd know she wasn't interested? What ya think? Thanks for the input Beec, much appreciated.