salmons

Well, let me speak my mind. Firstly, I think your Dad is a user. He wants but never gives. I paid so much money for him that he conned me into but I just got the cold shoulder forever. Ever since I met the man, he didn't like me. Sure, he gave me a place to stay, but then kicked me out. What a dick. Then he accepted me back in then I MOVED out because of him. I didn't like him coming into my place all the time (I was paying rent as well as steph), and he would eat our food, take stuff, say it's his, or just make us feel bad because we actually work. I don't know what he does with his money - prolly spends it on strippers with the beer, cigerettes, etc. He neglects his family, his daughter, his girlfriend. What a dick. I don't think anyone should have any association with him if he's acting like he is. When I met him, he was okay, but then it went downhill from then. I wonder if it's better if he's on his own. but he has to cut the habits. Sometimes I feel like taking his cigs away and the beer and the keys to his car. How could someone go through thousands of dollars and not show anything for it? Steph and I got our apartment in Nov/02 and since then, it's OUR RULES because we pay for all the the stuff we want. We don't let anyone tell us what to do or allow other people make the rules for us. If steph's dad doesn't have a place to live, he's not staying here. No Sir - no vacancy. I don't care if he lives on the streets - I'm not having a person that smells like cigerettes and he's not even through the front-door. He would stink up our apartment with smoke and somehow make a rule that he would be allowed to smoke and drink. Then he would sleep on our new couch that we paid $900 for and then burn holes in telling us it's our fault or we did it. He would hog the TV and somehow kick me into my bedroom with my computer and my business that I run from home. I hate the f****** and he's not ever allowed to come over unless he changes his act completely. That would never prolly happen.

Hey! Whoa... it's been 3 days since i posted and I alot of replies. This is very reliable. I must say I love her to death - that's why I hardly get angry with her. Sometimes I think she does have issues that aren't addressed and she probably doesn't know what it is that is bothering her. I admit that sometimes I don't do what I'm told - but am I really the child of this relationship? As long as we don't live like pigs, then I think it's okay to not do the dishes for a night (though I think it would be appropriate to get them done ASAP). She came around the past few days with myself seeing it as stress. I had a friend over tonight and I she really thought differently about me. She was more affectionate. I think she wants attention and sometimes I'm too busy to give it to her. I'm at home, working on my business, and doing housework, then sleep. She works 2 jobs so we can have more money - sorry - no children yet. I work really hard on the business hoping one day soon it'll replace my current income. So... #1 - attention... #2 - doing stuff that has to be done... she needs to learn how to relax... but she'll learn as I'm a very patient guy...

Hey, Glad that I found this forum orelse I would be going crazy thinking what to do. First off, my gf and I have been going out for about 2 years so far and have our own place. Lately, (like 3 months), she's been very lazy and she doesn't even know it. 1. She always yells - all the time, mostly I don't even think she knows she doing it. 2. She's grumpy - everything her way. 3. She won't do anything for me and makes a big deal out of it. 4. She always tells me to take the bus when she has a car and I pay for the insurance too. 5. She leaves her stuff around everywhere and I'm the one that has to clean it up. 6. Dishes are my responsibility no matter what according to her - because she either doesn't have the time to do them or she doesn't want to do them. 7. She yells at me whenever I buy something I want - example: pizza.. meanwhile she spends more on pop for herself than I spend on myself in a month. 8. Since I'm home - off work due to a head injury - she thinks I'm always free to do whatever she wants done. Here's what I do: 1. I always clean after her a. pickup stuff off the floor b. sweep and tidy up c. clean up her dishes that she just leaves around. d. laundry 2. I always feed the cat and change the kitty litter because she doesn't have time. 3. I have to watch TV with her. 4. I have to give her pop when she wants it. 5. I have to go with her to any appointments she has with the doc. 6. I manage the money and the bills. 7. Cook for her - she always complains when she has to cook for me. I am so fed up with this shit or am I just too lazy? or is she lazy? I just feel like I'm her waiter. Please post any suggestions.