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Hey Tymiko, Look you dont have to put up with this crap from someone. If she wants to play games about not calling and hanging up and ignoring your phone calls..... let her play, but dont let her play ON YOU! Listen, tell her about it! If she throws a fight, or gets all defensive, just tell her..... that you are a human being and you want to get something out of this relationship other than being put on ignore. If you want to chat more, PM me! Hope this helps!

Firstly you have to get a test! Sometimes periods just come late! If you have a healthy relationship you should talk to him about it. Tell him that you dont want to scare him away, and that you love him. But DO NOT GET HIM FREAKED OUT over nothing!!! If you want to chat PM me!

Hey there Missing Darling, try to relax! I have learnt a lot about life and am learning still like everyone else. Trust him, as trust is what pulls two people together. I know and understand that you cant stop wondering about him and what he might be doing while you are not there. But IF he is doing something and you will find out, THEN he is NOT the person you want to be with. DISTANCE bring people closer together! Love grows fonder!!! If you think he is fooling around behind your back, dont accuse him but tell him your fears, and by his response you will be able to get the feel if it's true or not! If you love someone support them! Believe in your love for each other and believe in him! If you want to chat, PM me!

Hey Foolish How is it? Well personally I think that you should try to talk to your boyfriend about it! I mean from my experience a lot of people get shy dirty talking, and I think it also reflects on the way that he sees sex etc You can talk to him about it, but as beloved2615 said DO NOT FORCE HIM TO DO IT! Do you have trust issues maybe? Is that why you are a bit on edge? If you want PM me!

Hey All, It has been a while since I have writte here. But it is never too late! I want to start a little questionnaire. What do you think the best way to get over someone is? Looking forward to replies

Heya, I was just wondering why you are so concerned if she is going to run away if you have broken up already. I mean there is a reason why you guys have broken up, why you picked up on the NC rule. What's going on? Like this just seems to me like you are playing a game with each other. DO you know what I mean.... the game of what is she going to do next? PM me if you want to chat Cheers

I am not sure why I am going to write this. I dont really need advise as I am fine I just want to share with you one little incident which happened with me last night and made me realise a hell of a lot of things. I am sure that there will be a few of you who will know what I am telling you and there will be a few of you who will think that I am telling you about your own life, cause as I found very sadly there are a lot of people in this world entire that go through the same thing: I have been going out with a guy, who 9 months into the relationship started to hit me. It was always my fault, it was always my misunderstanding him and rejecting him that made him hit me. He used to tell me "YOU MAKE ME DO THIS TO YOU", stupidly I used to believe him and follow him for now three years. We broke up a numerous number of times, every time I would think that he would change and EVERY time he would come back to me begging for forgiveness and promising me he will never lay his hand on me. Well.... last time I didnt really give him that much pleasure....... he came back (after accusing me of cheating on him) then claiming that it was my friend that polluted his head and it was my friend who destroyed us. He came back with a wedding ring, flowers, trips away (again, again and again) he promised me he would never hurt me again. He promised me that he would be all right. This time I didnt believe him...... I thought, no i had enough.... i told him that.... now tomorrow I am to go away to my family over Xmas, and guess what happened last night. When i told him to leave me the hell alone and to stop contacting me all together..... well let me just cut the story short...... i now have a bruised neck which turned blue as he tried to choke me. I am not upset that it happened, it shouldnt have happened in the first place..... and all ikept telling him is "HEY LOOK HIT ME KILL ME BUT I AM NOT GOING TO BE WITH YOU" So here is the point of my story......... If someone even does as much as swear at you, THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If someone raises their voice at you THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!!!!!!!!! If a man raises their hand on a woman THEY ARE A POOR EXCUSE FOR A HUMAN BEING! I am tired of seeing women getting beaten up by men, overpowered and overdominated. This is not fair. Live is about living, not dreading waking up. Love is about emotion and feeling, not anger and destruction. Funnily all of this experience made me realise that there are nice people out there. There are fantastic guys out there. And frankly, I am a strong individual who doesnt need some little boy who can only swear and hit to be in my life. For those of you who might be going through the same thing. GET OUT OF THERE.... these people dont change.... or they will change until something else comes up and you know what...... You are not A TOY! Cheers guys, ALL THE BEST FOR CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEAR

Hi there, You cant stop living just because you guys have broken up, look at it this way, and when you dont want to see someone which i think is your case then you will see them all the time. I'll tell you something, i moved back up to the city i live in now and i didnt want my ex to see me, however only a few weeks later he saw me, he was even with a girl... but he chased me about 50 km out of the city just for me to talk to him. I often wondered what it would be like you know seeing him and stuff and us talking but here we go, you guys broke up for a reason, your love was not equal in the relationship, one loved another person the most, so look at it this way.... you are going to get up and everything is going to be all right. You will find your prince, and if you love something let it go, if it comes back then it belongs to you, if it doesnt it was never yours. But dont live in hopes you guys will get back together. Cheers

Hey there, I know exactly what you feel. I often hoped that my ex of 2.5 years would come back to me after we split up 3 months ago, well he came up begging me to be with him. Oh G-d it scared the hell out of me... just being that same person I was when I was around him, not trusting him, and just being in that same circle... though we broke up and he broke it off. I tried to get back together with him, but I couldnt, even the physical (which was always great) well it wasnt there for me anymore, i didnt have feelings and it was CR*AP so I ran, NOW i smile just thinking how much i missed him all that time and how much I begged for him to cme back to me. I left him in the end. And I couldnt be any more happier. Sometimes it's for the best that things happen this way and we see our ex's. I love him still but I love the memories that him and I have, not what could be So Congrats, it just feels great!

Your story gave me goosebumps, I dunno why. You must be quite a guy to still be able to speak to her after what she put you through. Remember that everything that happens, well it happens for a reason. If you feel that you are not going to get back togehter with her, and that she is just using you for comfort and you are OK with it, then be there for her. But DONT SABOTAGE YOUR OWN SELF. I mean dont go out of your way, she needs you the SHE NEEDS YOU, but always remember what about when you NEEDED HER? Where did she go? Look out for yourself and for your interests! Remember dont let her too close. If you wana chat PM me

Look seriously, if two people love each other and there are emotions in the sex. Ok, even if the sex is just plain sex but both of you feel really comfortable with your bodies, dont ever think that asking someone to do something for you would make it weird. Guys have the most amazing fantasies, and it's true.... a male's G spot is ummmm you know where! So enjoy it! 8)

I think you should just calm down, why did this happen? Why did she leave? If it is true that she left cause you got her pregnant before she was ready, why is she still having the baby. I think you need to look within yourself, and reflect on previous reasons and fights why this would have happened and why she left. Find out what you did wrong and how the relationship went down hill. Ask yourself where did it all start from????? And then evaluate your situation and your actions. If you wanna chat PM me!

Hey there Lucyinthesky! Well if you think that he is over you, wouldnt that be easier for you? Look at it this way. HIS LOSS! If he is going to cause pain in your life.... why would you want to stick around anyway. CRY IT OUT! Seriously sometimes crying is the best medicine, it just kind of lets it all out of you! Get on with your life, if you dont feel like going out, dont force yourself but try to see and open up to those around you! As for your studies! Go to sleep, sleep it over and then study with a fresh head Hope this helps, if you want to chat PM me!

Hey All! Here we go again with me writing here, this is fantastic, just wanted to tell you all something very very interesting. About 2 months ago, my boyfriend dumped me (read my post link removed ) in harsh accusations that I was cheating on him. Calling me every single name under the book. Well.... after being here on this forum, and numerous other posts, reading other's posts and just keeping busy and trying to get along with it. Two months later.... something something..... well guess what, he came back with a little golden ring and a huge bunch of flowers sent straight to my work...... Well........... if that's not weird what is. I got overwhelmed about this, as once upon a time i wanted it soooo much... But now, two months of being apart. And even with a ring and flowers chocolates and unending attention...... I dont think it's going to work. So this is for everyone who is reading this.... LOVE DOES NOT HURT, it's not supposed to hurt and make you cry. If you love something let it go, if it loves you, it will come back. If it doesnt it was never yours! Thanks guys for helping me out. I couldnt have become this without all of you! This forum is great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ummmm. i dont think you should contact her. SHe will gather up the space and courage to talk to you and get everything off her chest. The timing has to be right! In these situations. It is obvious you love each other...... but trust me..... just give her time to think and space to breath.

Hey, I forgot to tell you this quote that keeps me by from everything that happened: IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING SET IT FREE, IF IT LOVES YOU, IT WILLCOME BACK. Apply the quote to yourself and say "ok we loved each other but she set me free........ I am going to make use of everything that is going on and that is happening, use this time wisely..... and to myself.... and in a few months, if i still think that i truly madly and deeply love her..... then I MIGHT CALL!" The best thing for yourself is to not contact her. I wish you all the best

Hey There, Think about it this way: Some girls and guys like to sit on a comfy chair - and their partners put them up there, like on a throne. You know when two people break up and one person runs after the other person to a certain extent the person who feels in power and control - who feels good, is the one that was being run after. Do you get me? So..... i think that she wants to sit in a comfy chair, and she is doing it so you wont forget about her easily....... if a relationship/love/ anything is meant to happen it will happen sooner or later. And there is no such thing as thinking/when you want to be with someone you will be with them no matter what...... so the answer to your question is that, dont give this 'chit chat' bullshit too much attention, do not read into it. Even if you want, I reckon just tell her one day - 'hey look it was you who wanted to break up, so please you know dont call so much'. It was her choice not yours, so now she has to live with the consequences. Yes I understand that you miss her and that you love her...... but do you truly want what she wants? Ask yourself if you miss her or just being with someone so close? Relationships develop! You just have to give them a thorough chance! If you want to chat PM me

First of all, I know exactly how you feel! I too at one stage of my life went out with someone who just kept disappearing on me, then when he would reappear then I would drop everything and everyone just for a little bit of paradise or 'love' with him. then he would disappear all over again. You know it's sad, one of my favourite poems (a male) described his love for women - "the more one loves a woman, the more she does not love him back" WHich is true, in a lot of cases not only for women, but for men. My relationship always ended up with me crying and wondering what in the world happened to him!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Well, firstly, if you do want to get over it, why are you still sleeping with his shirt? Can you not just change everything in your life? Come to a point say, hey stop this emotional drainage I am going to live like I want to live. Those who loves more always gets dominated by the other in the relationship. THrow his shirt away, change your phone number. And before you know it, he will not only be running after you but he will be begging. But as long as you dont wait for it. That is when it is going to happen. Remember....... make yourself the person you want to be, and then everything will happen for you. If you want to chat the PM me! All the best!

Hi Lin, Most people that dont deal with their emotions straight away, well the emotions dont fade away, they just get pushed down, for ppl who dont deal with them the emotions are harder to cope with later on in life. Another point you have to remember is that people sometimes say stuff that they do not particularly truly mean. It's either to push the other person away, to make themselves feel better or just to run away. But if a person truly feels something then, they will never get rid of their feelings over night, it's just an escape it's not recovery. If you would like to chat please PM me All the best

Hey there, This is kind of a loose/loose situation - if you do go out for lunch then get hurt, if you dont go out for lunch you might regret it for the rest of your life and kick yourself for it So I think you should go out for lunch, cause then you just wont wonder. Jus tlike with everything in life! As for showing her how special she is, I think she already knows if you told her a few times. Just be pieceful and resourceful dont just rush into something and get too scared........ behave and this should show her quite a lot! If you want to chat PM me

Well it all depends on the reasons why you broke up with him in the first place.... and the reasons why you want to get back together...... What are his signs to you? Like what does he say about feelings for you etc..... PM if you want to chat

GOOD GIRL! DONT REPLY! I replied to my ex a million times after putting up with all his BS, lol never changed my guy didnt change after 10 weeks! So now I just changed my number, so when he does decide to give me some attention it will be more like "Sorry this number no longer exists, please check the number and dial again....." All I have to say for guys like that is "CRY ME A RIVER"

Hey there Norma, How are you? You are lucky that you had found someone to share your special moments with to create memories. But dont you think they are just that? Memories? Do you and your partner or you yourself spend heaps of time just thinking about what was and what could have been, but not wat it is right now? I used to go out with this guy who was very special to me, I loved him to BITS! Anyway, when we'd break up we'd get back together for a night or so, but things didnt seem right, the sex was great everything was great but there was a barrier between us. One day i just had about enough of it, and I blew my horn, said we are either together or we are not.... well we weren't...... it was so hard to stop calling, stop messaging and stopping to see him altogether, when all i wanted was us to be together.... But time is the best medicine, and never forget that quote - if you love something let it be free, if it loves you it will come back, if it doesnt then it was never yours. Eventually my ex came back, except I wasnt the same, i guess i didnt feel it, i am a strong believer that if two people love each other they stay together no matter what..... I dont know if you have seen that movie with Brad Pitt and Julia Roberts - The MExican, well there is a quote from that movie "When two people love each other so much, but just cant work it out, when do they stop trying?" Ask yourself this question................................... the answer is NEVER If you want to chat PM me! Smile!

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Hey there, Could you please tell me the book that you were referring to?