Finzsoftie

So does she or doesnt she know that you are cheating on her?

Well, my ex boyfriend and I got back together about two or so weeks ago he came back and said, that we should work everything out and we just love each other way too much. And me like a fool believed him again. Everything was going fine for two weeks, like always we always have so much fun together. Maybe I though became a little bit more reluctant towards him cause we broke up so many time over the past 2 and a half years. Then yesterday I had a day off so I thought, i will go and do my own thing while he is at work. I didnt bother him that much with text msging or calling him and then in the middle of the day he started getting nervous accusing me of having lunch with other guys and then he asked me if I think that our relaitonship will actually work, and I was already in a bad mood so i told him look I dont know,there is just so much crap that you give me and that i have to put up with. Then we spoke a little bit more.and all of a sudden he text msged me and told me that it's over and that's it, he cant handle it and he just completely went off!!! I said that yeah yeah you are going to keep coming back and regretting it all over again. Then a few hours later he msged me and told me that he got my phone bill and it has numbers that I have been calling in Australia, and he said that they are guy's numbers and that i want to move there (which I told him previously that i did) for the guy bla bla bla. I said to him that I just call them, one of the numbers which kept reacurring was of one of my best friends and he just told me that I am cheating on him and how i could do that, and he is not going to have any more of it and he has had enough. then he told me that he is going over to his dad's for the night which is about 2 hour drive from the city we live in, i thought it was a bit weird. At around 10 I msged him and told him that I miss him he said that I hsould have thought about it before I cheated on him. Then I send him a msg saying that I need him here with me, he didnt reply. Then I msged him and said that he should miss call me on my cell from his father's home number so i would believe that he at his dad's house. There was nothing, nothing at all the phone was silent, at around 1am a msg came that he is sleeping and he doesnt have to prove anything to me i told him he is the liar and the cheater and he should just leave me alone. I had nothing left to say. But it hurts, what do you think happened? I dont know how he got my phone bill? Why he got my phone bill? I didnt cheat on him!This is all sooo stupid and STUPID, but it hurts so much. Please guys/gals tell me what you think! What should I do?

You know what, the sad thing is that I know exactly how you feel. But something just tells me the best way to look at it is as follows: When two people break up,well they break up for a reason, and whatever that reason may have been It was sooo major for you two to break up. Yeah it's the hardest thing to do. Seriously, trust me I know. You are talking about a third chance, my ex and I were engaged, we had a million and three chances and none of them worked. Because to start off with, there was a reason for you to break up! Only some relationships last after a break up, and only really strong relationships last from only one person trying. This girl, by the sounds of things, she sounds as if she is on a power trip. You know a dog sitting on Hay, she wont let the Horses eat it and she doesnt want it herself. I think the best thing to do is NOTHING, try to do something with yourself with your life and with your sould to grow, and learn and put it down to experience. You have like 4 months until she comes back from abroad so why not start right now. She doesnt want to talk, well then, dont talk. She doesnt want anything to do with you then dont. It is for you in the long run is better. Trust me, I have been through this!

If you dont kiss him then you might kick yourself for the rest of your life!!!!!!!!!

When my ex boyfriend and I moved to a different city where I had all my friends, and here he had all of his friends. Well, it was weird, we hung out heaps with his friends we even lived together, and his friends went out with our flatmates and everything was interwined! When we broke up, I left and went back to be with my family, I could only handle it for one month! I swear, I was kicking and screaming all the time! IT was sooo hard, and I came back to the same city where he was. I thought I could do it on my own, and I at least met one or two people that did not know him. But still I was longing for him cause it was weird, he was also my best friend, and when we got back together, i didnt need anyone else, we kept breaking up and i stayed by myself in this city i didnt socialise with anyone and it was so hard, I just waited for him to call, msg or just come around! It was horrible! Then, I got a plan in my head one day, I left for another month, went back hom, had a break from this stupid relationship! And build up contacts, my parents knew of some families up here, which was nice and they invited me to their house and i hung out with them, I am Jewish so I went to the synagogue and met a few people also, maybe go to a church or synagogue, mosque. People are usually really nice and welcoming! I dont know, it's hard and weird being without my ex, every time he comes back i open up, but i think the best thing, is to think to yourself that you are a person and only because this part of your life is over, then your whole life isnt. I think that if you want to make friends go somewhere where you meet people with the same interests. IT always helps!

But the thing is that I was not an angel either in this relationship. Its like when he is nice, I am mean as I cant forgive him for all he has done, when I am nice, he is rude and mean and he cant forgive me for the way i treated him previously. A few nights ago, he asked me, where did we go wrong. My answer stood well maybe it's just the people that we are. But as for seriously I have no idea. I dont know, i just want him, when Im with him Im miserable, when im without him im miserable also! Why say something that you will regret later? THE STUPID FOOL!

Can anybody please please please inform me of this! I started to go out with my partner 2 and a half years ago. We had the wildest time together. I even rejected my family over him in a way that my parents did not want us to be together. We moved to a different city after I had an abortion and by that stage my parents already semi approved. I loved the guy, and he promised me the entire world. After our move he started to cheat on me and physically abuse me, I thought that this is normal after all he was not from around this country. I thought it was the culture, and i locked myself. After he hit me and my parents saw one day when i cam back hom they decided not to let me go back. However, after a month i returned to where we lived, got back to my job, and got back together with my ex. This just got worse and worse and worse, by the end of the year i was starving myself and he was cheating and never wanted to see me. Every time he felt that i was slipping away, he'd come crawling back on his knees. But his rudeness and abuse never seemed to stop. Why is it like this? This is not fair at all. I left him earlier on in the year, after i had a miscarriage. I loved him but understood that nothing could happen between us. I left the city, and didnt speak to him for a few months. Recently he saw me. He chased me down the motorway, and for a month or so, he tried to prove to me that he wanted to make it work and that he had changed. But this time I didnt believe him. I knew it wouldnt have worked. But what i dont understand is when i was nice to him when he came back, we even got back together and he was nice, yet i kept my distance. But why is it that everytime that I get more attached to him, he pushes me away? Doesnt he understand that he will regret it later? Or is that too much? Every time he finds someone he does this? Why is my pure love for him take to this? Why is he like this? WHen am I going to get on with it? And what can I do to stop everything, and why does it still hurt? Any suggestions?[/b]