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How far away are the colleges from one another? IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING SET IT FREE, IF IT LOVES YOU IT WILL COME BACK! pM IF YOU WANT
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I say the best thing is to tell him the truth about how you feel and felt. Because if he does find out from someone else you could loose him forever. Dont go into great detail of what happened that night, just tell him that you are really sorry and you didnt mean to...... im sure you could figure it out. But maybe you should wait till he gets home. PM me if you wish!
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Hey there Whitelilly, Im really sorry to hear about what is happening! My advise to you, wake up one morning and just say, it's over! He wanted it to be over, and it doesnt matter as I am going to live this day to the fullest, if he sees me happy, being the person that he loved, then he will regret it. Start it off maybe like that, you will feel happier just concentrate on yourself. I think that breaking all of the contact is best, if you guys do run into each other then say hi, but dont waste your time, and dont waste your feelings on somebody that doesnt want to spend their feelings on you. A friendship is about common understanding, and if you cant see yourself hanging out with him and his new girlfriend, then you are not friends. If you want PM me! Keep smiling, and keep shining!
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Well ok, listen this is what i think you should do, let her go and dont show her that you care all that much. Because for a few reasons: firstly your feelings should not be played with, and if she is playing with your feelings then YOU CANT LOVE HER ALL THAT MUCH and vise versa. Also, you ahve already spoken out your concern to her, so in a relatiosnhip there is always "middle earth" as I like to say where both people meet. Love is not supposed to hurt and it's not supposed to be not trusting, or played with other peoples feelings. If you want PM me!
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Have you ever met the guy? Maybe she just wants to get you a bit pissed off? How old are you both? PM me!
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I totally understand and know how you feel. I think that you should find one good characteristic, attraction about this guy, you know and just say to yourself for example has such a good sense of humour, and he really makes me laugh" I love it when he makes me laugh! Concentrate on one point and then you will be surprised but so many other characteristics will start coming out and it will be amazing. You will actually see only good in this person. Not everybody is perfect, and everybody has faults. If people only saw the bad points in one person then it would be horrible and trust me the world would stop, people would not continue to be with one another and it would just be sad. So just start concentrating with onepoint, and then see how you are going to go. Trust me, it never hurts! You have imperfections too! But that guy sees something great in you and concentrates on that. If you want to talk more, PM me!
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What is CP?
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Does your family want you to be married in an arranged marriage? I think you should think that not every marriage has to end up in a disaster,. sure many do, and there are a lot more than dont! Marriage is commitment, commitment to making something that both people believe is correct. You should look at it that way, I mean it's not just about ppl breaking up it's about ppl sharing life's common goals together! I have huge thoughts about marriage, so if you want PM me
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Thanks for that, have you got any others? can you PM me that poem please!
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Hey everyone. Well dilemma is always dilemma but I have a question that keeps reappearing in my mind. A quick run down on the story of what happened - my ex accused me of cheating on him, after he heard it from one of my vicious jealous older friends. And he doesnt want to believe me about my innocence, so he completely shut me out saying that he doesnt love me anymore, saying that we will never get back together. Actually to tell you the truth, i am not that upset anymore, i just want him to wake up and realise that what he did (by believing my friend and not me) was wrong. When does this stage of realisation regret kick it? What do you guys reckon? Does it ever? I am really wanting to know this. Or do you think that he will never realise this? I would really really be interested in everyone's opinion! Thanks
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Im really scared about uni, what happens when...............
Finzsoftie replied to Ren's topic in Emotions and Feelings
Totally agree! Get a job, it's not that scary, that way also you will experience the true Student life. Thats the fun of it all! Damn I had 3 jobs while i was at uni! And now working full time and doing my Masters! -
In desperate need of advice (Recently dumped)
Finzsoftie replied to Cynical Rants's topic in Breaking Up Advice
Hey man, i am sorry to hear about your girlfriend. I know that it must completely hurt, actually i know exactly how it feels. Look you are 18 your entire life is in front of you, you can do so much, and why would you waste your time, nerves and self on all of this. It seems that the girl KISSED YOUR FRIEND, what is that? What kind of love is that? How can you forgive for that? I mean you know it's all very well to be friends with friends, but it's not good at all to go round kissing anyone, whether they are your friend or not, whether you see them at the movies, whether you are confused or not...... it's just not something to be done. Why do you need somebody who is confused? I mean That will make you confused, and then you just wait for the time that she will confused, it will stuff up your school work and your life. You dont need someone like that. I dontknow it's just my opinion. I say leave it, dont got over there, once she knows you are not running after her maybe she will come running after you. But dont put too much hope into it! If you want PM me! -
Ummmm it will stretch so just take it easy! It takes time
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Try in the shower with just a gentle water pressure
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How old are you and how old is she turning?
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Sex is all about pleasure to both people. For some people talking about it helps and prepares them, for others i think that while you are lying in bed or doing your missionary you should slowly and gently direct the movement the way you want it to go. If she asks you anything, you should just say something along the lines of how special this is to you and to her and that you want to try it in another way. I dunno, that's what my ex did and it worked
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The thing is that I hate feeling this way! It's not right! Do you think that one day he will realise that this was a mistake? Even after 2.5 years of being together? ANYONE PLEASE HELP!!!!
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Hello too all of you! How are you? Well, for those of you who have not previously read any of my posts, I have been betrayed my friend who told my boyfriend that I was cheating on him. This was not true, and I tried to prove my innocence, but now it has been 5 days he still doesnt believe me. I spoke to him last night and he told me that it's over, he chooses to believe my friend and I stuffed everything up. He told me he doesnt love me, and that the 2.5 year old story of our relatiosnhip is over. I know how much he is hurting right now, but can he not see that I didnt do antyhing? Does he need time? I mean like any relationship our one wasnt perfect, everyone has their ups and downs but why is he sooo stubborn not to give me a chance when I gave him so many? He always says things he regrets later? DO you think that this could be one of them? Is there anything I can do to bring him back to me?
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You have to think of it in the long run, you might get hurt but then you can say tha tyou learnt and it will make you a "better person" Just go up to him and tell him the truth, that you like him and that you want to be with him but you are scared of committment. And this quote is something that I live by: "Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived" I hope this helps, you can PM me if you want!
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I NEED A QUICK PLAN TO RECOVERY
Finzsoftie replied to Finzsoftie's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
NO WAY I NEED A PLAN TO GET OVER HIM COMPLETELY! THIS IS WAYYYYY TOOOO MUCHHHHHHHHHHHH -
Hi there, My ex and I broke up,and it's horrible as I have been accused (please see my other posts) of cheating. I need a plan to get myself back on track. I love the guy sooooo much but it's hard, we have been together for 2.5 years which is hard I guess. But something in me knows that sooner or later he will msg. But I dont know how to stay strong every time i just fall right back to him, i believe in him more than anyone and I am used to him. So what in the world do I start doing? Please would be really appreciated! Thanks!
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By the sounds of things maybe she doesnt want to let you go, I mean asking you if you are in a rush or not about getting her stuff out. Please dont misunderstand me and you know this better than anyone, all I can read into is what you tell me. Maybe being by her side (but not forgetting about yourself) and just every once in a while letting her know that you care and are there. Plus you both are 26, which makes it a bit of a different relationship! I know what you are talking about, sometimes everything just gets so damn confusing. And if she had a lot on her plate, then i guess sometime the relationship is the first to suffer. But for her knowing that you understand and are there. I think that helps, but what else did she say last night? PM me if you want!
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Ok GUYS, I dont know what's wrong with me. Please view my post from yesterday, in summary my ex boyfriend accused me of cheating on him, given that people told him about it and he got my cell phone bill as well! AHHH anyway, so I am running after him last night like crazy. I sent him a text message telling him I missed him and loved him, I dont know why i did that, all he can say is that "i should have thought about all of this before I cheated" but the thing is and this is what kills me is that I DID NOT CHEAT! Ohhhhh I am sooo annoyed! I just want him to know that and he doesnt want to listen. What can I do to make him understand that I did not cheat?
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I think in a way at least you gotta respect her that she told you about him. I mean you know she didnt hide it from you for a really really long time. I think i really respect that in some people, I have been lied to and deceited so many times byt the same person and he never had the dignity or respect to come and tell me about it. Oh anyway. All the best
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telling you from my own experience it depends on the person that she is. Have you guys kept breaking up and making up or is this the first time? Did you spend a lot of time together or was it a short romance? I remember when my ex and i would break up I would write him a txt msg saying "Look, no matter what happens remember I will always be there for you" if we broke up out of my own accord then I would mean it that I would only want to be friends, if we broke up and it was his initiative, then i think that I'd write it for him just to think about me,and to miss me in hopes of starting something up. So i think that it all happens and depends on the circumstances that you guys are faced with.