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This post is similar to one i posted a couple of weeks back but the problem just hasn't gone. My girlfriend and i borke up in early oct. Like some other posts i read, it was really out of the blue. After the break up, we were talking every so often for 2 months. Basically it's been 3 months since there has been any contact. She just stopped emailing me and i haven't emailed back. We kind of broke up on descent terms. I guess there was no other reason except the classic female line of ("i need to deal with issues i have" etc.). My question is when do you stop thinking about her? I still think about her daily and i'm currently seeing someone else. I'm really tired of thinking about her and just want it to go away. At the same time if she wanted to get back together, i'd probably consider it. Sounds pretty pathetic dosen't it? Because of this, the new girl i'm seeing is probably going to break up with me in the next little while. I haven't really allowed myself to get close to her even though she's one of the cutest, nicest girl i've ever met. I took some steps today like erasing all of my ex's emails and erasing her phone number from my cell. I hope it helps. Did she ever do a number on me. Anyways, does anyone have any thoughts or comments? Thanks

I've been broken up with my ex since early Oct. It was quite a shock to me. One day everything was great, the next she needed space to concertrate on where she's going. We talked on the phone a couple of times after that and emailed each other (just saying how everything was going) every few weeks until early Dec. I emailed her and that was the last i've heard of her.When be broke up she said that she needed time over the winter to think about things (the classic generic comment), be with her family etc. The problem is that i still think about her a lot. I'm seeing another girl right now. I thought that because i'm seeing some one else, i would forget about her. It's not the case though. Maybe i'm giving myself false hope that we'll get back together because we didn't really leave on bad terms. Its not like i can't function throught the day cause i'm thinking about her lot's, but i do still think about her. I don't know what to do or how long this is supposed to take. Anyone have any comment or suggestions?

well she told me she loved me like the day before. Everything was cool. We do live like 5 hours a part. Part of me thinks that she was thinking of the future wants to do a lot before she settles down. I think she did see a future with me but dosen't want to dive in right now and the circumstances and difficult right now aswell. I don't know if i'm being nieve. anyways i don't know if anyone has any advice.

"I can't fully give my heart to you right now". What is that. It's just like the "I need to find out where i'm going". Can any female decode these lines for me. It the translation "i want to see other people, but want you around just in case" or is it "I don't care about you anymore but want to let you down easy". I thought it was just my girl that said this but i talk to guys and girls say it all the time. Translation please.

Well i'm gonna keep this short. My ex and i broke up about a month and a half ago saying we still had feelings for each other. We've made a little contact here and there. Last weekend was her birthday and she wanted to see each other on her birthday and go out but it fell through. Since then she has sent me a couple of email's that were really friendly. A lot like old times. I'm really not trying to read into them at all, but my question is contact. I really care for her and want to get back with her. At the same time i've moved on in a sense and talking to her brings back strong feelings for her. It makes me think way to much about her. In saying that, i don't know if i should not make contact. I don't want to come accross as a jerk not responding to her since she's been really friendly. Don't know what to do. Any comments?

alright ladies i have another one i get from girls all of the time. Why do they say that "your the 2nd guy i've ever been with". Me and my friends laugh all the time because we hear it often. Why ladies why? Sometimes i know it's not true but i just go along with it. The one thing (girls, your going to agree with me here) i know is that girls LOVE scandal. I think thats maybe why there more inclined to cheat and lie. Comments?

I don't know if you've been following my posts but i have some real question marks about women. First off, why do they lie? My girlfriend wanted to take a break which lead to a break up saying how she misses me and loves me, but can't be with me right now. Why can't they just come out and say i don't want to see you anymore because "i want to sleep with other people, i don't care about you, you're ugly" whatever. It's taken me a while to get over the thought of maybe she'll come back. My point is they can't tell it like it is. 2nd, why do all women cheat. For years men have had the distiction of being the cheaters, but in a recent study, more women cheat then men. I don't know if my girlfriend cheated on me, but part of me thinks most women cheat and lie. One of my personal fav'sis when girls are at the bar and they say "i so never do this". Yeah, me neither baby. The sad part is that there are some of my guy friends have cheated on their girlfriends, but i know way more women who have cheated. I really just don't understand why girls lie so much. I really don't mean for this to sound like sour grapes because of my ex or that i'm intentionally trying to bash women. I'm really just trying to understand why. Anyone have any thoughts??

has anyone ever had your girlfriend break up with you and her say that she still loves you but can't be with you right now do to trying to figure out her life direction? Is that just a line to let you down easy or what? anyone had a similar experience? If so, what happened.

i actually just read that men take a break up a lot harder than women. When a girl breaks up with a guy, his confidence is low and he's less likely to approach girls for fear of rejection. On the other hand, women can go to the bar and get laid when they feel like it. Kind of strange.

This is a question for the girls. When girls break up with someone (when they use the line "I don't know where im at in life", etc.) do they think about the other person at all or do they forget easily and just start seeing other people? Do they take some time to think or do they get right back on the horse? Any one have any comments?

To give you a breif background, my girlfirend and i broke up a little over a month ago. We were together for about 9 months. She lives about 5 hours from me. She wanted a to take a break to find out where shes going in life, etc. She was getting drunk a lot and was a really bad drunk so she didn't want to do that anymore. We broke up saying that we still had feelings for each other. I talked to her about 2 weeks ago casually cause she sent some of my stuff and she bought me a little gift just really wanted to say thanks. I hadn't talked to her since and then she called me a few days a go cause she was going to spend her birthday (which is on sat) in a city close to me and wanted to hang out. We had a pretty good convo. I told her maybe and to give me a call when she had all of her details. Well, she emailed me a longish, really friendly message a little while ago to say that she's not coming because she can't afford it, and shes going to work this week end instead and then go out with a girlfriend and get drunk. She also said that it was "good to hear your voice", "i really wanted to hang out","i was nervous to see you","mail me back, i would love to hear from you". I don't know if i'm reading too much into this or not. I sent her a message back saying thats too bad, it would of been fun, have a blast on your birthday, drop me a line when you get a chance. I'm over her in the sense i'm doing my own thing in all respects and she's not on my mind constantly. At the same time i do think about her and i do miss her. Wondering if anyone had any advice. Thanks

To give you a breif background, my girlfirend and i broke up a little over a month ago. We were together for about 9 months. She lives about 5 hours from me. She wanted a break to find out where shes going in life, etc. She was getting drunk a lot and was a really bad drunk so she didn't want to do that anymore. We broke up saying that we still had feelings for each other. Well i talked to her about 2 weeks ago casually cause she sent some of my stuff and she bought me a little gift just really wanted to say thanks. I hadn't talked to her since and then she called me a few days a go cause she was going to spend her birthday (which is on sat) in a city close to me and wanted to hang out. We had a pretty good convo. I told her maybe and to give me a call when she had all of her details. Well, she emailed me a little while ago saying that she can't afford it, and shes going to work this week end instead and then go out with a girlfriend and get drunk. The getting drunk part kind of annoys me cause she was saying how she dosen't really go out anymore and shes over that but its her birthday i guess. When i talked to her though, it kind of sounded like she was going out a little bit. She also said that it was "good to hear your voice", "i really wanted to hang out","i was nervous to see you","mail me back", i would love to hear from you". I don't know if i'm reading to much into this or not. I sent her a message back saying thats too bad, it would of been fun, have a blast on your birthday. I'm over her in the sense i'm doing my own thing in all respects and she's not on my mind constantly. At the same time i do think about her and i do miss her. Wondering if anyone had any advice. Thanks

This advice helped me when i was going through a situation like yours. Women are like monkeys. They don't let go of one branch till they grab on to another. I know it hurts bro, but let her go. You're the same guy you were before you met her. You'll find someone way better. Just give it some time.

I really appreciate your post. Seeing you have been in a similar situation i would like to ask you a question. Maybe you can help. When i last talked to my girlfriend (ex), we expressed that we had really strong feelings for each other still but the timing wasn't good right in her mind. She wants to travel, figure out where she going in life, etc. She said she missed me and wanted to see me but because of the situation, etc. Anyways, we kind of left the call on a really positive note. We said that we weren't going to play games and we'll call each other when we want to. Her mom is coming to drop the stuff i asked for off and apperantly has a gift for me from my ex. I told her i'd call her to thank her but i don't know if i should. Maybe just an email? I feel as though i maybe said to much in our last convo. I told her this isn't the situation i wanted and it really sucks but i'll have to deal with it. I also told her i wish she hated me cause it would make me feel a lot better than breaking up when both parties still care a lot about the other person. I told her when i see her i'll want to kiss her and i don't know if i could be just a friend. I really feel uneasy about what i said. I don't want to seem needy. I hope i didn't make myself sound weak. Maybe it was out of the moment i don't know. After all that though we were very positive to each other and it sounded like we could be friends. I know i should give her space but i don't want to play the games. I still think about her, but i'm also getting on with my life and thinking about other girls too. What do you think?

I know what you're going through bro. If you look at my last threads, me and my girlfriend broke up saying we love each other and i think thats what hurt the most. I know i doesn't seem like it right now, but it gets better. The first couple of days after my break up, i was picturing her with other guys, thinking that that was the best girl i'll ever get and will never find someone else. It really hurts and it really sucks. Go out with you're friends or familly or who ever. Don't be alone. Force your self to go out and do things. She's going to be on your mind for a while but don't let it interfere with your life. Don't contact her and just concentrate on you. Be good to yourself, move on. I know it doesn't seem like it but it gets so much better. Trust me, you'll find someone a lot better. I hope this helped you out. PM if you need to talk.