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  1. Parsley
    I totally concur. She sounds very selfish and childish...just expecting you to say yes is just plain rude. I wouldn't even consider asking someone to do something like that *that* day.
  2. Parsley
    I agree with rnorth - so many things can be said right after or during sex that you don't mean, but what has just happened kinda mucks up yor perception. I would be happy that he wasn't jumping right back in where he left off - it seems that he's taking this very seriously, and wants to be honest with you. If it were me in his situation, I wouldn't want to say that I loved you, even if I did. I really would be too scared that you thought I was just saying it because I thought I should.
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    Eurgh, I'm a girl and that annoys me. It's just rude! I definitely wouldn't expect a guy to pay. In fact...I think every time I've been in a situation like that I've already got my purse out to pay before they say that they'll pay. And I always feel a bit guilty. Especially if it's too late to make it cheaper, lol. She didn't even thank you?!?!? Don't persue it. Taste of things to come and all that jazz...
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    Shaker - I know. None of my friends believed me for awhile. I'm living at home at the moment so that once I do get a job I can save up for uni. I started a course in September, but left it, and am starting a new one in September - I'll be living with the friends I made this year, but not in halls (uni accommodation), we'll be renting by then, and I'll need every penny I can get. At the moment those friends are still in halls, so I can't live with them. My brother lives in London, but in a tiny one bed flat that I simply wouldn't fit into. Again it just comes down to money. If I was employed then I might have been able to find a flat or something in Portsmouth and work down there, but it's just not something I can do at the moment. With regards to financing a car, I need to finance more lessons and a test (and who knows how many of them I'll have to take) before I could think about that. Maybe once I pass, have a job and am already back in uni and can find work there, I can start saving up for a car of my own. Sorry if I sound really pessimistic - life's just looking quite bleak at the moment. I simply cannot wait to be back in Portsmouth, I'll have my friends with me again, my independance, and endless opportunities to meet new people. I'll be back into a bustling student city!! Whereas right now, I'm in a dreary little town populated, it seems, solely by kids whose life ambition is to intimidate and stab anyone who doesn't wear a cap, fake gold jewellery and have a kid at 15 so they can get a council house.
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    Shaker - oh god how I wish I could go to New York. I went there last year and loved it so so so much. Spent Valentine's Day there! All I can do at the moment is walk. I have a bike that I hate with a passion, and even if I liked it...I live in a valley, hills going up every which way I turn. Every single day I ask someone to let me go driving somewhere so I can get back into it (haven't driven since september). Every day they say yes....but then come up with an excuse not to. Parents considering selling the car as well, which would leave me with nothing to drive. If I could get a job, then possibly I could get back out into anything resembling a social network. Until that comes along I have to borrow money off my parents, which I don't mind from time to time, but right now if I need anything at all, even want to go into town by myself I have to borrow the £2.50 for the bus. The last time I asked to borrow money, they made me sign a contract about tidying by a certain date. I so wish I was kidding.
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    Hey Shaker - I'm so chuffed that things are going so well for you! I wish I could get into the new. But the fact is...until I get a job, I can't. I can't drive and don't live close enough to any of my friends to walk there. I can't afford to go out, even if my friends invited me. I want to go back to Pompey so much that it hurts. There I had the opportunity to meet new people every day, and could get into new habits so easily. I have best friends here, but they have their new lives made when I started uni. So now my best friends, the ones that I tell everything to, are miles away from me, and all of us without the means to see each other.
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    I also am guilty of number 1 to an extent. My ex began pulling away from me, but I went into complete denial, and blamed myself for everything and because I was so terrified that he would end it, I became clingy and insecure about everything he did. Now that I know everything that was going on then...I had reason to feel insecure. But the way my ex dealt with it was to let me feel that way, so those fears grew and grew and I'd cling closer than ever. Also my fault, right from the beginning, was that I always forgave him. I was a complete pushover...he would stand me up, or cancel on me a *lot* and though I would be so upset with him, I never let him see that. I always forgave him pretty much instantly and made a joke out of what he had done. Maybe if I had actually taken a stand when he left me waiting a a bus stop for 3 hours before cancelling on me instead of forgiving him by that evening...he'd have known that I would take things seriously and maybe we could have talked about it. I know that the amount of pain I've suffered as a result of this break up is directly proportional to how much I denied the fact that there was anything wrong. Yes he hurt me a lot in his own right...but I doubt I would have hurt this much if I hadn't ignored it for so long. We were only together 4.5 months, and I still cry regularly 1.5 months later.
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    Renaissance woman - my ex came out last year as well, lol. Maybe that contirbutes to being able to stay friends? I don't see him as a guy anymore...that sounds so bad. He seems more asexual. Plenty of my friends seem that way to me, male or female. You know how you don't see your close friends as male or female, there's no way you would go there, so it doesn't really enter your head? Like that.
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    I had a mutual break up last year, we'd been together 2.5 years. We said we wanted to be friends but for a long time it would prove difficult. We didn't try to force things, and there were a few times we had to go places together, alone, but nothing happened. We even had to go to Paris together for a week, and it was really difficult. But now, we are good friends, I spent the day with him last Monday actually, just us, watching tv, talking about love-lives and all that. You just can't try to do things too quickly, and back off when things get too difficult. Keep it natural. Because it was a mutual break up it means it isn't so one-sided, there's less resentment and pain towards one of the couple. You decided to break up because it was for the best right?
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    I know I'm not a man....but aside from the things relating to various sexual organs...my ex loved me tickling him. That's how things always started. I used to tickle him for hours, *really* slowly building up to kissing and massage stuff. Seriously...for like an hour I would only tickle his back..then just extend the area I was touching by about an inch or so every so often, keeping it really light and running my finger just under the band of his boxers (about 1cm under). And I loved doing it. Really really did, even though leaning on one arm for long times used to cane madly the next day.
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    Like Anti-love said, it's more a matter of personal taste. If you think this is what would bring tears to her eyes, then ok. My own personal opinion is that it jumps around, from realism to fantasy...I would stick to one or the other. If you are intending to reach out to her heart, remember things that you shared, inside jokes, special moments. Use words that you don't use with other people. Be simplistic - don't go over the top when there is no need to. As many people have said here...you can't win someone back. Maybe, I concede, you can remind someone of something, but you have to do it simply. I'd say keep it short and sweet, and decide on a structure, rather than straight out like you have written it here. It appears to be more like prose - a speech, than a heartfelt poem. Sorry if that seems harsh...I was a creative writing student, and heard enough about poetry to last me a lifetime.
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    Agh, I hope it can be under that too! My ex broke up with me after 4.5 months.
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    Together : 4.5 months Broke up : Nearly 7 weeks NC: Currently on NC.2. First time managed 33 days. Am now on Day 9. Contacted me 5 weeks after dumping me, at 1am, saying he missed me, asking if I missed him, if I hated him, if I wanted to see him the next day. Said he would ring or email me the next day with a number I needed (I'm looking for a job) but he didn't. I knew we would have to talk at some point, and wanted to do it during the day rather than middle of the night. I sent him a text asking if he meant things he had said. No reply. Sent another text (starting to crack a bit) "Is that my reply? I do want to speak to you...but you just caught me off guard. Hope you had a good night" . That was the last point of contact. Kinda angry now... Still feel like crap, some days are easier then others Whats in my head right now : Why he decided to contact me then ignore me. I genuinely don't understand why he's acted the way he has since way before the break up. And sometimes it really gets to me that I'm such a bad judge of character that I fell for someone who would turn out to hurt me so much for what seems to be no reason.
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    Lol, yep link removed
  15. Parsley
    I don't use AIM, I'm all about the msn, lol You can PM or email me whenever you want though
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    No. Not at all. You can ovulate (well *you* can't. ladies can) at any time, so you can get pregnant whether or not it's right before, during or right after her period.
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    Hmm. I'm not really sure. I guess in a way I'd want him to contact me first, but I'd also not want him to at the very same time. I think maybe in about 2-3 months time if you were going to contact her it would be easier on both of you. And I know I'm going to sound like a broken record here, but NC is just what you need. Of course you've had the time since you broken up to re-evaluate everything, and see things that you might want to change or whatever. But the time gives you a chance to build yourelf back up again, so that if you do decide you want to try again you will be strong enough to carry on should she say that it isn't ging to happen.
  18. Parsley
    Replying to your original post - my ex wasn't. He wouldn't going at it for hours, but just long enough But after that we'd rarely go again...(not for lack of trying I might add!) I think the most was 4 times over 2 days, and the last time he didn't actually go to orgasm (actually, now I think of it, neither of us did). It didn't matter though. He was absolutely fantastic...*daydream* Agh...I seriously miss sleeping with that guy.
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    I think you've made your own mind up in that last post. Just be sure that it definitely is what you want. Now that I've seen some more posts I'm kinda worried that this is something you know she wanted, and now that things are shaken up between you, you're trying to win her over again by choosing to do the thing you remember she wanted. If you honestly honestly honestly want to get engaged to her for yourself, and she wants to because she'll be with you rather than anything else - then go for it.
  20. Parsley
    I really wish I could go back to uni. I'm sick of being home, I want to be out with my friends again, like you said surrounded by new guys. My ex contacted me about umm 5 weeks after he dumped me, saying that he missed me. And I've got to say...it set me back so far, I almost hate him for it. I had convinced myself that he didn't think of me at all, let alone miss me, and the that the chances of him contacting me were slim to nil. So when he did...it threw me completely off kilter. Where before I didn't expect or hope he would text me, now I can't help everytime I check my phone. I didn't really want to get back with him before he did that, and now I miss him so much it pains me. Be careful what you wish for.
  21. Parsley
    I think it would make anyone feel more secure. If it were me, I'd been with the guy for a decent amount of a time and he proposed I'd feel so loved and definitely secure. On the note about the ring, I know plenty of people who have bought a 'cheap' ring (like, £50 or something - they may be cheaper, but they are still just as beautiful in my eyes) until they have the money to buy the kind of ring that you feel she deserves/wants. Also (not to put a downer on it) you won't have spent a fortune if this isn't what she wants. But I think it probably is.
  22. Parsley
    *hug* At the moment it just feels so endless doesn't it? I keep going from being really quite happy to suddenly noticing that I'm crying. I just have to trust everyone here telling me that it will pass. And you have to trust me trusting them The thing is...you can't do things with what she will think of it in mind. It took me so long to stop...and I doubt I actually have completely stopped. But when you finally stop thinking that you new display picture will be the one that prompts a phone call or whatever, it does feel good. Even if it only happens once, and then when you do something else you're back to having her in your mind. I swear everyone's a lot more masochistic than they like to think.
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    Lol....maybe that phrase is a little less prominent outside of England (or possibly Kent? Who knows.) Totally myspace. Do you know about 'scene kids?' Cause scene kids, are TOTALLY myspace. More than you, lol. If you're totally myspace you do the whole pictures in the mirror, pictures in black and white, pictures not looking at the camera, and all that jazz. I say it in jest to you. Though there are plenty of people I know who take myspace TOO seriously. Slightly off-topic, sorry. How is your situation now?
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    Everyone has moments like that...my dad does it all the time! I often find myself talking outloud to myself, and if what I'm thinking about annoys me enough, sometimes I end up smacking myself in the face about it, or wincing terribly. It's just one of those things! I'm sure you're fine.
  25. Parsley
    boontahr - my situation was similar...but I attributed his lack of interest in me to stuff going on in his life, and decided that if he was still acting like that in a couple of months (when all the stuff would no longer be an issue) I would leave him. Alas - he dumped me first.
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