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  1. Parsley
    Ah dammit!!! I completely forgot to go and get my chocolate and smirnoff Got completely distracted firstly by the adorable-ness of my nephew, then spent the whole afternoon building a wardrobe with my sister and didn't get a chance. Sigh. So instead, I'll be eating curry with the fam, then filling aforementioned wardrobe. Let's hope I find Narnia eh? I heard my phone go off earlier. We all know the first idea that popped into my mind. The second one was "It's obviously going to be Nicola wishing me a good day because we are both single blah blah blah" But then of course, as I'm sure you all know, I didn't completely believe myself. BUT! I did no acrobatics to get to the phone. Which I incidentally would have needed to do - wardrobe is really quite big and was between me and the phone. No - I just carried on with the hammering and all that jazz and when I could get to the phone I did. It was Nicola - lol. But still, I'm mightily impressed that I didn't die even a little bit when it went off. Agh. Am now majorly craving some big chunks of chocolate. The most we have in the house are 'snaps' which, quite frankly, are rubbish. Haven't been tempted at all to contact the ex. The whole concept popped into my head last night but I just went "No. Definitely not. There is no way you are going to text him on Valentine's Day. There is no way this is a good idea, because you think it's a good idea and it's also night-time. We've learnt the hard way about ideas at night haven't we? If you absolutely must text him, ok, but NOT tomorrow" How ridiculous is it that I made a false bargain with myself? Lol...I had to convince part of me not to do it by saying I could later, knowing full well that I wouldn't then either. Feeling quite good recently. I think maybe because my nephew and sister and brother in law have been staying at ours since Sunday night - so I've been completely distracted by them the whole time. My brother's visiting this weekend (it was his birthday yesterday) - going to see Hot Fuzz on Saturday then having yet another playstation and/or peep show extravaganza. Woop. How's everyone? xxx
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    I aim to please I'm fairly certain that you'll definitely know one way or another if he's going to go to yours or not. He'd have to be incredibly dimwitted if he didn't turn up and didn't tell you *again*. I'm leaning towards him showing up. I think he'd know he'd dig himself a bigger hole by staying away. You must let me know what happens - however I am knackered and should go to bed so I can be all relaxed and energised for all my cynicism on the morrow! Good luck! x
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    If he doesn't do anything I think we can safely assume he's unconscious and/or a robot. He's acknowledged that he's wrong, and as time is passing is obviously feeling worse and worse about that decision, exemplified by his trying to make a joke. When he sees you, as long as you make no attempt to pretend that nothing happened, he will have to say SOMETHING. Especially if you don't say anything other than hello. It could be quite fun to guage which shade of purple he's at before he speaks up.
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    He's joking about it because he really is sorry, and it trying to diffuse the tension. I do it. God...I did it right after my ex dumped *me*. My previous ex told me he's gay a few months ago, about 6 months after we broke up (fairly certain that was part of the reason). So when this ex dumped me...I said "Well...please just don't be gay. Because how would I look telling my friends I turned another guy?" Why I felt I had to make him feel better...I'm not quite sure. But that's definitely why he's joking...he feels bad already and is trying to crack the veneer of anger and hurt he knows you will have already built up.
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    I wish I knew what would get through. Unfortunately when it happened to me I was always a *complete* pushover, and just accepted it. Gah...I just don't get it. I don't understand how people can think it's ok? I think you just really have to tell him when you see him that it's just something you can't deal with, and shouldn't have to.
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    Based on what you've said about him...I reckon he will be truly sorry by the time you see him. I think it just depends on what you say to him then if he changes or tries to change. He had plenty of opportunity to say he wasn't going to go...and it wasn't like he forgot to text you - he had you texting him to reply to. Like I said earlier...he better make it up to you good.
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    Aw...the fire escape with flowers..? You're not supposed to make me like him! I just hope that you can find a way to convince him that you really do honestly mean it when you say how much it upsets/annoys you. Seems like he thinks it's not something you're too fussed about.
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    That dance sounds uncannily similar to one I was jitterbugging along to two months ago myself. It really majorly dents your self-esteem that you really do just grab and feel so ridiculously grateful for every tiny bone they toss you. You just read everything you want to hear into it don't you? You know what makes me laugh about your posts though? I had an insane flatmate last year that we called Rex. It's great that you've chosen that name for him...because I already empathised with you right from when you said that that's what you were doing. She annoyed me so much it gave me energy.
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    Good plan. Let him stew....*evil look* If he's anywhere near good enough, by the time you see him he'll have realised that it's never ok to brush someone off without any semblance of a reason - and because it's your girlfriend makes it worse - not better! It's just so...Rude! And you know what really grinds my gears? Rude people. Like people that push in in queues. God...I'm so english...
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    WHAT?! Seriously?! That really annoys me! I can't believe he's been so inconsiderate. Agh! Oh god he BETTER make it up to you properly. Otherwise I'm coming over there with some kind of large fish to slap him silly with.
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    Don't cry! I know every time the ex did the above, I would cry a few very angry tears, and then consume myself with something else. First time, I walked VERY quickly back 4 miles to get a cab home, being angry. Second time I was in a pub so I went to the loo got it out of my system then drank. Third time I again went to the loo, then stormed off to get a cab home and be angry at him.
  12. Parsley
    I don't know if there's anything that annoys me more than being stood up. Three times I can remember clearly - the first I was waiting for 3 hours at a bus stop alone, with various excuses about being late, before saying he couldn't make it. His idea for us to meet that day. The second, he text me cancelling because he was having A HAIRCUT. I hadn't seen him for a month and a half. Third time, I like you, got absolutely nothing, and I was the one who had to email him the next day asking what had happened. No "I'm sorry" - no, I got "I lost my phone and was out at footie - Apologies" And that particular meeting was supposed to be him making up for the haircut incident. I know this is going to sound petty...but I wouldn't talk to him for awhile. It just always seems to speak more about how annoyed you are than talking about it. If he hasn't taken notice of your words before, it's time to try a new tactic. *hug*
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    Thanks for posting that. Reading through your post makes me slap myself and go "You have **** all to be sad about". But it also has made me feel better for the fact that I'm not the only one to have stuff like that happen...I didn't word that correctly. You said that you felt insecure about her feelings, but were made to feel like they meant nothing by her? I felt the same way for such a long time...to the point where I wasn't sure I could trust my own thoughts, and it devastated me. Then when he dumped me I found out that he'd known all about how I was feeling, what I was doing (changed medication for him) and had chosen to carry on letting me think that way, because it was easier for him. I don't understand people who can do that. I honestly don't. Also, you reminded me of the fact that Time of Your Life is also called Good Riddance, and something clicked in my head. Good luck. You deserve so so so SO much better, and will get so so so SO much better.
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    Sounds to me like he is hitting back at you simply because he knows he's in the wrong. You are not the bad guy here. I'd say don't feel miserable...but I know that that's just impossible right now. But just try and concentrate on the fact that he is a two-faced eejit who clearly does not deserve you.
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    Rosie - Hello! It's a shame our paths had to cross because both of us were desperately searching for help, but this is the way it's happened, so let's make the most of it! I was quite the opposite to you with regards to deleting things. As soon as I had the opportunity, I deleted every picture, email, text and msn conversation I'd ever had with my ex. He broke up with me via email. He even sent it to two of my email addresses, so I had to see what he was doing twice. In some ways I wish I'd kept that email a little longer. I deleted it so quickly that I barely know what it said anymore, I can only remember the words "I shouldn't pretend to want to be with you when I clearly don't" They cut me so deeply I can hardly forget. As so many people have said on here, NC is a way to kick the habit. We pretty much do become addicted to our partners. I hope you don't mind me making this comparison - but you said that you've been sober for 15.5 years (Well done! so to me..that makes me think that you are a strong woman who can break this habit just as well as you have before. I absolutely hate those moments when you think that the best thing to do would be to ring them or text them - because more often than not afterwards you feel worse. I had this long before my ex dumped me. For a long time he pretty much ignored me. I'd ring him, knowing he wouldn't answer, and feel worse when he did what I expected. The thing that stops me now is my pride. I don't want to come accross as this needy ex that just won't let go...and the idea of him seeing a missed call from me, or seeing that I've text him or emailed him fills me with such horror and embarrassment that I just don't do it. If he's going to contact me, he will, he if isn't, nevermind. Our relationship ended 4 days before New Years Eve, so we're on similar time frames! Hope everything turns out fantastically for you! *hug*
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    I also recently changed from having dreams about my ex, to both my ex and my first boyfriend. I'm good friends with the latter. I had just spent the day with him so that may be why. My reasoning is...during the day obviously part of your mind is preoccupied with your ex and thereforeeee 'love'. So why shouldn't there be a connection made between this one and previous ones? We know that we often dream about things that have happened during the day and dreams often seem to be sifting through our thoughts. It kinda makes sense to me that if I'm thinking about my ex I will think about my previous ex. Maybe that's just me...?
  17. Parsley
    Cheesecake stuffed strawberries?!?! That sounds like perhaps the best thing in the universe! I'm still in mourning for the cheesecake I got last year in New York. It was the best I've ever had. I've searched and searched, but alas, I can't find any cheesecake that fits the bill. Can't even find baked cheesecake. Tomorrow I will be spending the day with my mum and sister and nephew. I think. Considered going out in the evening, then remembered the the two people who wouldn't have 'plans' are either in Sidcup, or I don't know him well enough to go out just the two of us on Valentine's Day, lol. And apparently my great-aunt is coming to stay for one night only. So I'm going to go into the village at some point and buy myself some Lindor and smirnoff and get slightly hammered.
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    Fact. You actually cannot physically avoid it.
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    It happens. I know not long ago a little girl died at the A&E because she had an infection I think. It might have been meninigitis. She just wasn't seen quickly enough. When I was younger I sat for hours in A&E after I cracked my elbow. After a few hours I had an x-ray, a few hours after that they put it in a sling that my mum had to correct.
  20. Parsley
    I concur ^
  21. Parsley
    Thanks for all your suggestions. We pretty much only have A&E over here and you can wait for hours before anyone apart from you knows what the problem is. The pains don't tend to last long enough for me to get worried enough to go to the hospital for. I have a habit of fainting whenever I go to the hospital - even for visits. (and my mum wondered why I wasn't overly enthusiastic about getting a job there). My mum and brother have astigmastism - but so far no optician has suggested that I have it too. For years I was the only one in my family that didn't wear glasses. I like the thought of yoga or just doing some exercise. My sister used to get headaches a lot from unconsciously clenching her teeth when she was stressed, and I've noticed myself doing it a lot too, I guess if I'm doing that my shoulders must be a little off too. Thanks, I'll try out what you all say! x
  22. Parsley
    Day 10 I think. I get confused. Better day than you'd think if you'd read my other posts! Had my nephew over all day so was distracted for the most part. He's also over tomorrow, and it's just me babysitting on Friday! No urge to contact him recently. Just been having trouble not hoping that he would contact me. Oh well. x
  23. Parsley
    I don't know if this is one of those things you'd consider obvious. If I was looking at someone and we made eye contact, I would instantly look away, then look back and hold their gaze for slightly longer. If I'm looking around andhappen to make eye contact I don't hold their gaze, but I don't immediately shift it either. Just carry on looking round, and I don't look back.
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    When I find that I simply cannot shut off my thoughts, I plug in my ipod and listen to comedy audiobooks. I force myself to concentrate on what they're saying and not let my mind wander off. Eventually you realise you haven't heard anything that they've been saying, but you haven't been thinking either. Then you turn it off and fall asleep pretty much instantly.
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    I've only ever had one occasion when it went on so long it hurt, and at that time I was vaguely (okay, EXTREMELY) annoyed at him so who knows what was going on then. There were a couple of times I would have liked awhile longer, but too long and it would just get dull.
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