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I had my car stolen and all my belongings from a garage whilst it was in for an MOT. Is the garage responable for the my loss? If so can I claim off their insurance.

Shauna, your situation sounds ALOT like mine, me and my girl broke up after 6 years. The ting is that I asked her to marry me, she said yes and the next day she slept with her friend. I was heartbroken! (and still am) my only advice is to wait it out, its painful and it really bites but if he/she is not willing to work on things theres really nothing you can do about it... and you never know, he/she might come back to you in time best of luck to ya, and my heart is with you! Me

I was in and out of bad relationships until I thought I met the man of my dreams. He truly was but i didn't show it enough. And I compared him to everyone else which is not a good thing. We broke up because of my selvisness and materialism. I was so sincere, kind, funny and honest. I we broke up about 8 months ago. I broke up with him at first because I thoght that he needed some time off to sort things out in his persoanl life. Regarding school and work. I think I should of been there for him and instead i was not. I hurt him. Later on I wanted to get back with him and he told me that he was not ready for a relationship and that he was sorry. He also said that he didn't know how much I really loved him. That I did not show it as much as I should of. I saw him this past weekend 7 months after we broke. I mean I have spoken with hm on the phone ans stuff. I just did not see him in person for a while. I went to a party and we ended up kissing. I told him that I still cared about him and he told me that he felt the same wasy about me. But that he was seeing someone else and that he feels it might lead into something. I left the lounge crying. What can I say or do to get him back with out loseing all respect for my self?? please advise asap!

I am 21 y/o guy who recently started dating a girl who I have been friends with for a little over a year. In the past I have always known her as my friends girlfriend as they were living together and have a child together. He decided to break it off with her and they have been apart about 3 months. I have always been attracted to her and never expected such an opportunity. But is it really an opportunity or am I just losing a friend in this learning experience? It hasn't become serious between us but I feel that it would if I made the move and I have been doing everything possible to refrain which may be causing her to feel uneasy as well. I have been approaching this situation cautiously because although I like her very much I'm not wanting to make a decision that will break a friendship because typically I value that above all else. The plot thickens because my friend who was her boyfriend is now sleeping with her ex-best friend. Am I making a mistake to get involved even if I feel that we could be a match or should I accept it and try to make the best of this relationship behind my friends back because I know he would be upset if I asked for his approval beforehand. Any input is appreciated.

i have been friends with this guy since over 10 yrs. i am 26 now. we have seen each other thru many tough times and horrible relationships. we r totally overselves with each other and is the best friendhsip anyone can have. 2 yrs back my friend started have these feelign for me, they got stronger over tiem and we discussed abt it, but i cudnt think of him in a similar way. finally becoz i cudnt give him false hopes i did my best to talk him out of it. and over a year after zero signs from me he got over it. but now i am into the same mess. its so ironical, i didnt see when he got over me and he did c when i started fallign for it. it was the outcom of our talks. but now i am findign it more difficult as my feeling are more stronger than his ever were, so so it seems to me. we are scared to loosign our friendship and all this does put a strain on us. please mail at email removed with suggestions.

after only going out since the spring of our senior year, and only knowing each other for a short while before that, my boyfriend and i decided to try the long distance thing when we went away to school. (he's east coast and i'm midwest). things were great the first few months of school, but before christmas, he got into some fraternity related trouble at school which lowered his already low self-esteem even lower. since returning from christmas break it has been an on-going cycle of fighting, mostly concerning the amount of time we talk. between schoolwork, being an athlete, and the trouble he is in, he says he is trying his hardest, but i can't help but question it...this week for example we went almost 5 full days without even speaking a word to eachother, not even over the computer. i wrote an email and left a phone message and he never responded. i thought i was being pretty lenient about it, to say the least. when i finally got in touch with him he said he was planning on calling me the next day and had jsut had a super busy week. then tonight, we had another argument. i don't know what to do--we have discussed 'taking a break' numerous times, but it's not something i'm really interested in. as he says, 'i'm an all or nothing girl' and although he might not be able to give me what i want right now, he's hoping i will stick by him during this hard time. but what about my hard time?? he claims he has not 5 minutes of his day free. i know when we go home, things will be amazing, as they have been all the other breaks. should i jsut ignore his signs of disinterest and jsut be a trooper for the next 5 weeks until school ends? i feel like whenever i try to investigate further, he says that he wants to be with me, just he can't compromise other aspects of his life. still, everyone i talk to finds some of his behavior towards me to be odd, since our time together is limited as it is. uggg. . .i'm SO confused. . .i feel like i'm been in a rut with this boy the past 2 months and jsut can't seem to get out. we both say we want to be with each other, yet we keep arguing. our relationship, which used to be an outlet for stress, is now a source of it. i know part of this has to do with my age, but i still love him more than anything, and he says the same about me. any advice would be greatly appreciated. . .

Yes, you read right. I am a 30 year old man, and a virgin. What is wrong with me? Nothing. Being a virgin is not by choice. It isn't due to religious beliefs. I am not gay. I've been on a small handful of dates, and only have gone as far as kissing. Is there a logical reason for me still being a virgin at this age? One might say it's because I'm overweight, and I often feel that a woman would not see me as worthy. I have battled with exercise in the last 15 years, and am trying it again to get to an ideal weight. But that might be foolish logic, since there are a number of overweight people who are happily in love. Am I happy with my weight? No. And with a recent health condition, I am fighting more than ever to lose the weight. I used to have a job and had a few friends there. Flirted with a few, but nothing ever happened. Now the other reason. I'm incredibly shy. The few days I've had, it took a lot of courage in me to just open my mouth and say "would you like to go out to a movie?" I live in a small town, and the nightlife here is non-existent. Many of my interests aren't shared by people here. This isn't my original home, in fact I am hoping to move back to the place where I was raised, as that is my "spiritual" home. I sometimes feel if I wait long enough, I will find my soulmate there. My life there will be great, and I will be happy. Because of my virgin-state, I often wonder if I'm gay. I don't find myself attracted to other men at all, but I often feel that if women don't see me as attractive, or even as a being, maybe they see me as something else. Do all older virgins go through this? I love talking to people, but there are no social events here where I could talk, or join a club. I've always avoided the online personals since I once fell head-over-heels over a woman, only for her to tell me she liked someone else (and I traveled 3000 miles to see her, not for sex, but just to finally say "here I am"). I often ask myself what do I want. I think like any other person. I want someone to love, I want a significant other, I seek my other half. Maybe more important than this, I seek friends and long lasting friendships. All of the friends I have are online, and I'm from the old school where sometimes I doubt this. These people show me incredible support, and I would prefer to meet them all face to face, rather than have to deal with daily e-mails. Lately, I have thought about going out of town to spend money on an escort. Is sex so important to me? I often wonder. I masturbate regularly, so there are no fears on that end. Like most guys, I do worry if a woman might think I'm too small, but I would say that I'm average. Is it just the pressure in our culture that tells us we must have sex by 14? I want to have a sexual life, so that I can have some knowledge of it and know what it feels like. I know how I feel when I please myself, but there's much more than that. I have fantasies like most people, but I just fear the intimacy of a woman. I fear rejection again. Only two people know that i'm a virgin: my sister, and the online friend that I met 3000 miles away. She knew, I was always open about it with her, and she always told me "once you experience it, you will enjoy it immensely." I guess I feel inferior in that I've never had sex, and I don't want to be 40 and say that I've never slept with a woman. I want to date, I want to enjoy intimate moments, and I eventually want to find the right person for me. Yet my shyness gets in the way, and I feel trapped because of it. Help!

well first off the reason might be because she's afraid to go into another commitment due to a bad relationship with her ex. the best thing you can do is support her as a friend until she is more comfortable into going back into a relationship and because you have always been there for the bad and the good, you become one of the options that she will choose from. Until then you can try your best to make her feel comfortable again, by talking her gently and try to be relax remember you have everything to win and nothing to lose.

Alright I met this girl at the mall, we got to talking and we had a lot of common interests and agreed with most of everything we talked about, I got her phone number and we arranged a time and day together, so we both shown up on time and as we walked we continued talking and we both managed to open up to each other, she felt comfortable, I felt comfortable. but I'm not sure if she likes me in that way or love her in that way, to the point I wasn't sure I should've kissed her for the end of the night. I'm not even sure when I should tell her my feelings for her.

Hi, I totally understand your situation. My boyfriend of 1.5 years has a crazy ex-girlfriend and they have a 5 year old daughter. I don't know how long you guys dated before you got married, but eventually your husband may get fed up with the ex. My boyfriend and I tried to avoid legal action even after she assaulted me. We thought she cooled down, then I got a certified letter in the mail with a temporary restraining order where she had claimed I had harassed and assaulted her! TOTALLY UNTRUE! I have been to court several times, she has keyed my car, she was unable to get a permanent restraining order b/c the judge saw straight threw her (especially after I provided letters the ex sent to my boyfriend giving them a deadlineto "rekindle their love" and reasons why he should be with her. She looked like a fool!!!! Still it has only helped a little. She is now dragging my boyfriend to court trying to deny him overnight visitation (he and I do not live together), that his mom not be allowed to pick up the child for visitation (the ex is mad b/c me and my boyfriend's mom have a close relationship and my boyfriend's mom DID NOT ENCOURAGE HIM TO MARRY THE EX). She's a hostile one. FINALLY, SOME RELIEF...three days ago, my boyfriend got a lawyer. That has helped me to cope with the situation much better. I know he loves me, but he really wants the crap to quit b/c we have been dealing with it ever since we started dating. This girl has come to his apartment with a .357 magnum threatening to commit suicide, punched her hand through his mom's window when he refused to open the door, attacked me, said awful things to the child about me and him, the list goes on! MY ADVICE TO YOU...DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT! ALSO KILL HER BUTT WITH KINDNESS!DON'T DO STUPID THINGS TO RETALIATE. LET YOUR HUSBAND HANDLE HER, BUT BE IN HIS EAR THE ENTIRE TIME. SHE MIGHT NUT UP ONE DAY, SO BE CAREFUL. Yvonne(that's my boyfriend's ex's name) has convinced herself that I'm the reason why he isn't with her. NOT TRUE, they broke up long before he and I got together. YOUR HUSBAND'S EX PROBABLY WONDERS WHAT YOU HAVE THAT SHE DIDN'T HAVE. JEALOUSY IS A BITCH. I had to really get on my boyfriend about handling the situation, he can be a softy. And there is no telling how this may pan out. He goes to court AGAIN on Apr 3, but I guarantee you, the fact that he has a lawyer(we are not rich) has really shown me that he is serious about getting the situation under control. And believe me, since you are married to him, you have more say than I do(just the girlfriend) in court. But SET HER STRAIGHT (file police report/complaint, ask for a temporary restraining order.. you don't need a lawyer for those things, and that is DOCUMENTATION) her before she LIES ON YOU!TAKE MY WORD FOR IT. I understand your pain.

My step son (13 yrs old) came to us after he became disrespectfull to his mom and started to bully her. He bunks with my 12 yr old son and at first they got along. They have opposite personalities. Now my son is getting tired of his constant nagging, complaining and his friends think the step son is moody and weird. I am trying to deal with this alone with the boys, but if this keeps up I will bring in my husband. He will at first take his son's side saying my son is weak and just has to deal with it but later I'm hoping he will listen to his son relating to others and see that he is a bully.

in response to "her kid": she needs to set limits for her daughter--you shouldn't be the bad guy all the time. she probably isn't doing it because she feels subconsciously guilty about having you move in with her in the first place (because she won't be giving her daughter her undivided attention any more). ten years old is old enough to know better, but if she doesn't know better the fault lies with her mom.

My husband has been acting very strange for the past couple of months. I find him very distant, cold and seems to always want a pick a fight with me. I've been suspecting an affair because of all the lies he's been telling me but when I confront him with this, he denies it. The only concrete answer he's been giving me is that he doesn't love me anymore because I haven't been supportive (career)and he's been compromising more than I have. (Which personnaly I don't see how). Regardless, I've told him let's go see a professional, maybe he can help us, but he refuses to do so. Can he's reasons actually break a marriage considering that I've just conceived a child from him or should I seriously believe that he's having an affair???

I've been married three months, a month of which was spent on honeymoon. Since we got back from the honeymoon I have been really depressed and can't seem to shake it, even though I love my husband. I feel like there are no milestones to look forward to any more, except having a baby, which I know we're not ready for yet. Does anyone have any advice?

My ex and I lost a child thru miscarriage in May of last year. I have since moved closer to my family and away from him. I did this because after I lost the baby, he completely avoided me and ran away from everything. He left me alone. I was living 6 hours from my family and he did anything he could to stay away from what happened. Over the last month or so, he has finally started talking to me about what happened. But now he has this new girlfriend that wants him to have NOTHING to do with me. They've only been dating for about 2 months. She's 8 years younger than I am. (He's 5 years younger than I am) I'm suppose to go down and see and talk to him this weekend, but she insists she needs to be there too. As far as I am concerned, she wasn't there when I got pregnant, so I really don't feel that she need to be part of our discussions about it now. Any ideas??

That's something you will have to ask him, outside of your circle of friends. If he was open to the cuddling experience with you, talk with him and thank him for staying with you. If it is something you are concerned with, perhaps you may attracted to him in some way, then ask. It doesn't hurt to do so. Or just ask him "hey, I really liked when you stayed over the other night, it was very nice. Are you always that nice?" or something along those lines. If anything, it might open him up and he may reveal he may enjoy your company. Keep in mind though, that guys can be downright evil. As a guy, I know how we think. Meaning that while some (not all) guys may play the nice role one day, you may find they had other motives. In other words, proceed with caution, just as you might have done with other friends or relationships. You don't want to feel like he's leading you on, nor do you want to know that he feels you're leading him on. In other words, if you need to know how he feels about you, just ask him. Definitely easier said than done, but once it's out in the open, you'll be sure. Good luck!

I don't think there are any laws yet (someone correct me if I'm wrong) concerning the rules of age and cybersex. Personally, I would think that whatever the consenting age is for actual sex, it would follow those lines online as well. Is this your actual girlfriend, or someone you met in a random chat room? There are a lot of people who feel that their cyber relationship is just as genuine as a real one, so make sure you know the fine line. If this 16 year old is your actual girlfriend, and you two are talking privately on your own time, it shouldn't be anyone's business. But in time, those rules may change. Just stay safe, either way.

Hi, I'm 24 years old, I met my fiancee(now ex I guess) in college when I was 19. When I was 22 I had a brief fling with a girl from one of my classes. I let this side "affair" continue for months, before breaking it off since I guess I was just young, looking for fun, but I knew I loved my fiancee (girl friend at the time), so I broke it off with this other girl. This was year 2000. She later confronted my girlfriend about this whole thing and I with the aid of my friends convinced my girlfriend that this other woman was crazy. Anyhow she always had a suscpicion that I was lying. I proposed to her last year and we were beginning wedding planning this month and I just had to admit my guilt because I did not want to start a relationship on a lie. Just FYI, this other girl, I did not have "sex" with, just fooled around "a lot"..guess you know what that means. So yesterday she stands infront of me and says "you know I love you, I am going to marry you, just tell me the truth, I need closure..." So like an idiot I told her the truth, and she proceeded to leave...... I don't know what to do..I just told her because I did not want to carry this guilt with me forever and start something as sacred as marriage with lies and skeletons in the closet..did I do the right thing or did I just screw up, and just have kept this inside.......

Really - I understand what you are going through but you must get on with your life without him!!! I am 29, married to a 41 year old and currently having an affair with a 61 year old professional guy (he doesn't look it lol!). But at the end of the day I know it will get me no where and we both understand that so not to take it so seriously it will wreck our lives! Believe me - you will understand when you have more of life's experiences under you belt. You are so young - get on and enjoy your life - he has had his time! [ This Message was edited by: kamurj on 2002-03-19 11 ]

Hello, My name is Yvonne, I'm able to give some advice on age gap relationships. I work for The Trisha Show on ITV. Call me for a chat on 01603 752285, Looks like things have got a little complicated girl....!!! [ This Message was edited by: kamurj on 2002-03-19 11 ]

Hi Brandi, My Advice for you would be, to make sure u know whatt you want and what he wants, Now and the future. And Think it over make sure u doing the right thing. If i were you i would go for it, what do u have to lose? Nothing. What do you have to gane? A Lover!!!! GO for It Girl!!!

my girlfriend has a daughter and we bump heads continually about her child going into my things without asking. i try to talk with her aboutit and she gets very defensive which make me defensive and it ends up being an argument. her child is 10 and i feel she is old enough to understand that you have to respect other people and their things. my girlfriend says that she is a kid and kids get into stuff that they are not supposed to and she cant punish her every time it happens. im not suggesting that she punish her for everything but i dont think she will ever learn to respect others belongings if she is not consisitent. she also says that never in their lives has her daughter had to ask before she goes into something and that it is a hard adjustment--i try to explain to her that it is equally hard for me to adjust to finding my things out of order, broken, or lost as well. she also says that because i dont have kids i wouldnt undderstand--and she may be right. but i dont feel like my feelings have to be ignored because she has a kid. i always end up being the bad guy and i dont know if we will ever be able to talk about her kid without it being an argument. what should i do? stick to women without kids? or just move out so she wont have to teach her kid not bother certain things? i feel really bad about it --her having to "change" the way she lives, but i have had to make alot of changes as well. also, i have only asked that if her kid wants something that belongs to me all she has to do is ask--everytime that she asks i give it to her--i think that that proves that you can get what you want without being disrespectfull and taking it. please help--i dont know what else to do!!

I'm a British citizen and I'm wondering if it's legal to have cybersex with my gf who is under 16. Any responce is welcome

I'm 15 years old and I have a boyfriend who is 18.We have a long distance relationship going on.I really love him and I know he loves me.One night he said that he needed the touch.I'm not don't there and I can't give it to him.I met him over the net.I want him back so bad and I already tried to make him jealious but it doesn't work.I will try anything to get him back.Please I have been to I don't know how many sites but they can't help.Please help me.