kamurj

It ia hard to accept the fact that we dont get a chance to love when we want to love someone. it is not necessary to search for someone to love. Love everyone you know. love need not be of one kind only. if u become desperate u have a lot of "flings" which will make u a nervous wreck. its better to let life take its own course of time coz when "GOD GIVES SOMETHING LATE, HE GIVES MORE THAN U DESERVE". take care, till then, Keep smiling.

So what if I am with the perfect guy who treats me the way I've always wished for. Every woman I know wants a clone. He's smart, funny, great cook, great friend, and a thousand miles away. He's always sure that this is what he wants (at least for now), and I'm sure too... some of the time. He is one of the best people I've ever met, and yet I get nervous that we are both just wasting our time and we aren't going to end up together in the end. We have at least half a decade to send each other sappy letters, spend time molding our heads to the phone and waiting for planes and buses. How can I become more sure that this is the right thing to do? I doubt I could find a better friend, so why am I saw hesitant to just be happy and wait?

does on line sex constitute reason for concern or jealousy

[quot....... On 2002-02-12 10 Anonymous wrote: I recently had an affair with a friend of mine, and ended it when I decided that I needed to direct my energy into rebuilding my marriage. The problem I'm facing now, is that I can't "forget" about my ex-lover...Who is a good friend of my wife, and deeply into the circle of friends that we associate with. How can I move past what was, rebuild a marriage and a friendship that meant a lot to me?

I'm a pretty thin guy, and while the ladies like it, I have problems in bed because my hips have a tendency to dig into my partner, through using different positions I can minimize the problem, but it restricts us, and can make her uncomfortable. Any usable advice/experience would be appreciated.

I recently had an affair with a friend of mine, and ended it when I decided that I needed to direct my energy into rebuilding my marriage. The problem I'm facing now, is that I can't "forget" about my ex-lover...Who is a good friend of my wife, and deeply into the circle of friends that we associate with. How can I move past what was, rebuild a marriage and a friendship that meant a lot to me?

Hi, I met someone 4 years ago in another country. He is not american but is now studing in the states. When I met him a while back..I was not intersted in him whatsoever. But when I returned to the states to begin my university..I began to correspond with him frequently and we talked a few times of starting a relationship. However there has always been a long distance separating us. He is not a citizen of this country and at one point when I did see him..I told him that I "feel like you want me for just your visa". He got upset of course and stopped his contact with me for almost 1 year. Then after that year...he started his contact again. He even told me he loved me. He called me a lot and emailed me a lot and then visited me for the second time. After his visit, I must of said something again to make him upset and now he doesn't talk to me anymore. He won't even take my calls. I am so sad and depressed that I feel like I lost a part of me. I can't get over him. I did however at one point tell him that it will never work between us but that's because I was afraid he was going to get to me first so I thought I would dump him before he dumped me. Now, i am paying the consequences of him ignoring me. He told me to never call him again. I can't stop thinking about him. What's my problem? What can I do?

I WANT TO ASK A VERY COMMON QUESTION. HOW MANY TIMES CAN I PLAY WITH MY SELF CAUSE MY NEED IS 18 TIMES PER WEEK.I REALLY BELIEVE THAT PROBABLY I HAVE AN ADDICTION WHICH TAKE A LOT OF MY ENERGY.LAST YEAR I PLAY ABOUT 720 TIMES.THIS YEAR THE MINIMUM IS 930 TIMES. IS THERE ANY PROBLEM WITH THAT.

I have done it over 7 times in one day, is that to many or what?

Hi. I am in need of help. It has been 1 month now since I found out about the other woman in my husband's life. We dated for 4 years and have been married for just over 3 years. We now live under separate roofs and I have turned into something I never thought I could have. I call him constantly, I have not been able to help myself. I'm trying to use my family and friends' offered support to no avail. I am just devistated. He had only known her for 1 month, now 2 months and professes a love for her he had never known with me. I plunge through all of the old cards and letters he had given me only to find nothing to support this claim of his. She is not attractive, all bias aside, she is not successful, she is not educated she is just everything opposite of me. He says he doesn't know why other than that he feels we never should have married and that he's always felt this way. I've never been so humiliated in my life. I can't stop calling him, I've been drinking excessively, doing stupid things... none of which come close to what I know myself to be. I don't know where or how to begin healing or how to give him up. I am so in love with him, angry for what he's done but can't see beyond the love I have for him. Please help me so I can stop going down this destructive road I seem to have put myself on. Thank you!

you need to buy some porn and a vibrating dildo for her.. dont even ask, just whip it out one day with some water-bases lube. also, dont talk too much. just buy drinks and cook dinner and dish out vibrating dildo. your relationship will be back to normal in no time!

Thanks, It's hard to say, but we both had been drinking and for all I know she does not even remember the incident. I would never tell my wife and obviously I do need to stay away from her while drinking. It was at a party and just happened. Thanks for the advice. Che sera sera! [ This Message was edited by: kamurj on 2002-02-27 14 ]

Well, it's not incest that's for sure, but it's not too darn smart either. Is this something you initiated or your sister-in-law? If she did and you don't want this to happen again, I'd suggest you make sure yo are never alone with her ever again. As a matter of fact I'd make sure I was NEVER in a situation where I was alone with another woman other than my wife for the rest of my life. If you can't get into a place where tempation can lure you, then you will be much safer. in the meantime do NOT talk about it with the sister-in-law and for God's sake NEVER tell your wife. it would only destroy her for the sake of giving you peace of mind. Don't hurt her or your marriage for this and be FAITHFUL to her forever.

Hi, Briefly: my wife had an affair and asked me to divorce her after 15 years and 3 kids. We were separated for 10 months and then she asked me to come home. I was thrilled! I had forgiven her right away and begged that we work it out and eventually we did. Problem is that while I find her attractive in every way and our relationship is stronger than ever... it is very weak in one area... she does not want to have sex and says she is very confused. tells me that she isn't sure if she's going to have sex because she wants it or just because I want to. It sound ludicrous to me. If she wants to have sex (and she tells me she misses sex and enjoys sex with me) why would she be getting messed up worried that she's only doing it to please me? I have asked her if it is partially a guilt thing or because she is heavier than she used to be and she's very upset about her weight and she says these too add to her discomfort with the whole idea. It has been a year now and we are lucky if we have sex once a month. I can't live this way. What can I do?

To make a long story short, my sister-in law gave me a blowjob. It was consensual and lasted all of 10 minutes. Now I love my wife and this is tearing me up inside. At family get togethers I can't even look her in the eyes. Yet she seems as if nothing happened and seems not to be bothered by it. She is married with children. Should I just let it go and get on with my life? Is this incest?

Wow there are other people out there like me what a relief.I am sorry I feel your pain,I am married and have the same problem.Mine stems from insecurities about myself.I'm not much help I know but just knowing I am not alone you have helped me and I can not thank you enough for sharing something this personal!!I know how hard it is!!

you are sound like a great guy!! I would give anything to have my husband love me like you do your wife!! Be strong and move on,its easier said than done I know but with time it will hurt less.

You say you're not sure you believe him because of 'what he's doing now'. What exactly is he doing now that makes you feel this way?

this guy was obviously using you and was not prepared to devote the quality time needed to develop the intamate side of your so called relationship!!! But please do not feel as i am being harsh but the is nothingwrong with still being avirgin at 27?!! ou need to look for a prtner that make's you happy as a person an dyou will find that evrything will just click into place, but don't don't feel that you have to rush into anything inorder to satisfy someone else, look after No.1. Paul

what can i say, if you still think you love this man, mayby you should gve a little time for a cooling off period to find out your true feeling's for him and his for you~!!!

i need help. if anyone has any experience on being separated for the first time please help me. ive been married for what would have been 2 years in march and ive been with my husband a total of 4 years. about 2 weeks ago my husband decided to get up and leave..with no true reason at all.. he says we fight a lot yet i dont see the reason why he left for real..he calls me often but he usually just wants a booty call.. i miss him more than anything in this world but i dont know how to cope with this situation..he doesnt want to be with me yet he does want to have sex.today i told him that i never wanted to hear from him again or see him, becasue im tired of being used.for me its really hard to go about my life, im so use to having him at my side regardless of anything..i dont have many friends or family to help me out which is why i ask you for your advice. i feel real alone and i feel myself falling into a deep depression...everyone keeps telling me im young im ok but young hearts hurt also..i am only 21 going to be 22 in april but i love my husband. i dont want anyone else in my life i want him..please someone help me thanks helpless

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We have 5 children between us; his oldest daughter, my older 3, from previous marriages, and the youngest girl is ours togther. Even though I was taking birth control I just found out I am pregnant again. I cannot bear the thought of having another child right now. We have been fighting alot as it is, the financial burdens, and the fact I am only 23 with 4 kids already and I also work make this so scary! If anyone could help me find a way to tell my partner I cannot go through with this pregnancy I would appreciate it so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

would like to know if there are interrelationship amongst the various risk factors associated with children's maladjustment as a result of parental divorce. [ This Message was edited by: kamurj on 2002-01-28 13 ]

My ex broke up with me one year ago after a five month relationship. He is no longer in the picture (haven't spoken in months), but memories of our relationship and my lack of "intimacy skills" as he put it was one of the causes of our breakup. I think I need to work through these issues before dating again. I was 26, and E was 36. I was a virgin (and still am). He was constantly unhappy about the fact that I didn't initiate intimacy with him and didn't hold his hand, etc. as much as he wanted. We got to third base, and he wouldn't go all the way because he said "I wasn't ready." It just seemed that, instead of helping me and waiting for me to catch up to him (oral sex, foreplay), he went ahead with me and then was hurt that I didn't know what to do. He used to be sarcastic and say that "well, you SHOULD know what to do, you don't need me to tell you." He said that he was older and knew what he wanted in a relationship, and didn't have years to spend on me. I guess I never did feel easy or comfortable around him, since he was my former boss (I left the company when my internship was over but we still dated) and was fairly wealthy. He said that shouldn't matter, but I didn't feel like his equal. I asked for his help with foreplay, what he likes, but by that time he said "if you don't know, I can't tell you." He said that foreplay to me was "a peck on the cheek." Well he broke up with me, and now I'm glad of the relationship since it taught me to value myself and now I am committed to raising my self esteem. I am terrified, though, of getting into another relationship and feeling belittled or made to feel bad because of my lack of experience. I feel very unsexy and somehow a "sexual misfit." Can any one off me advice? Feeling Unsexy

i tried masturbating for the first time and didnt know how 2 . so i just inserted 3 of my fingers and started pumping. i didnt know tht i'm only supposed 2 concentrate on my clit only. i started bleeding. is it because i've lost my virginity ? [ This Message was edited by: kamurj on 2002-01-08 11 ]