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  1. ticklebug
    ksk - you basically have to end up sounding like a hallmark card. "I'm so sorry she passed." "Remember, she isn't suffering anymore." "If you need anything, I'm here" "want to go do something to get your mind off things for a while" things like that...
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    well, you really can't predict or protect yourself from getting hurt. It's one of those things that you have to decide if it means that much to you...then it's worth risking.
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    Lobster I didnt go through your whole post, I have a feeling just by the one age of posts I read you have been going through a lot. If it has not been advised already, until you get your own solicitor, do not answer their questions, do not make any offers, do not sign a thing. From the little I read you are being taken advantage of by his solicitor due to your lack of knjowledge of divorce procedure and the law. If anything, write them a letter stating you are retaining your own counsel and until that time you will not be discussing any more matters.
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    IMO...you are better off just letting him go...acting like that after one disagreement and after only dating a few months is a sure sign of deeper insecurities within him that you are not going to want to have to deal with...
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    you are 16...it's your hormones... you are far too young to have a steady boyfriend...and I'm not talking about it from an age perspective...it's more human development. I'ts only natural for you to want to experiment, meet other people, date other guys...it's how eventually, you find the person you spend the rest of your life with. Your body hasn't matured to the point of being settled in with one person...
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    good for you! This is the stage I wish all of the people who are pining for ex's and scheming to get them back would realize they will eventually get to if they just let life go on, instead of trying to control fate. ex's are ex's for a reason...
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    ok I've read this 4 times and I'm still confused... how about breaking it up into paragraphs or something...give each person a name instead of the friend and the friend's friend...etc... might help you get some responses...
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    OHHHHHHHHHHHH now I remember where I've heard it sex in the city so it wasn't her friend, per se...and so what if maybe her friend and she had a conversation and an episode of sex and the city came up....maybe it was about a pair of shoes she saw while you were out runing errands... bottom line, you are being too sensitive, and only hurting yourself.
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    a) doesn't want to hurt your feelings b) doesn't feel it is your business c) keeping her options open d) all of the above pick one =)
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    that, I believe, is a quote from a movie, but I can't think of which one... it's a general away message, it has nothing to do with you...
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    if he brought it up once and upset her, fine don't apologize, I agree...but this is the second time and upset her even more...when he already knew it was a source of tension for her... for that, he owes an apology.
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    she is interested in him, yes, as more than friends... I didn't go throught that other long post but if she knows how you feel about her, even if she just suspects it....she will not flat out tell you she has interest in someone else... since you are just friends she may consider he love life to be no one's business but her own...
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    why not just ask her to go out on a date sometime...you won't put her in the awkwar position of having to actually "announce" her feelings towards you... if you ensure you make it clear you are looking to go out on a date, and not as friends (like say I'd love to take yu to x restaurant, it's very romantic) if she declines, you know you are just her friend, if she is interested...she will accept...
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    you asked two questions, you asked how to get your current girl more aroused and also, for future women, how to get them to want sex as much as you do... and yeah, "I want to hold you naked" isn't much of a turn on...there isn't a romantic sentiment to it. It's pretty much the equivalent to can I hold your golf club. You should want to hold her regardless if her clothes are on or off...you turn it "dirty" by stripping her. Massages are a very iffy thing...some people just flat out don't like them...and many people who do say yes...don't dare criticize the masseuse....even if they aren't enjoying it. Not everyone equates massage with sex either....no matter how sensual you make it, you hit one actual sore muscle the wrong way...takes all the romance right out of it. On a side note to using the "massage" thing for sex...in high school I think that was probably the #1 way a horney teenage guy tried to make his first move when it came to dating...so when I became an adult and dated...the whole idea of massage became an immature way to approach things. Generally, to turn a woman on, you need to go for what's INSIDE her...and we aren't talking anatomy...
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    Iceman, the reason for the apology is because he has made her feel genuinely bad for something he shouldn't have made her feel bad about. by saying look, I'm sorry I hurt you by brining it up and I just want you to know regardless if you can't be as affectionate as I am, or have a hard time tryng to make up for it, I do think that you have x, y, & z to offer that is really special to me. soften the blow....
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    finch your perception that no one cares is incorrect...you wouldn't be being FORCED into therapy if no one cared about you...you are looking at it as some sort of punishment...when it is actually a form of help. people don't help people they don't care about. what do you mean by "properly" care about you? What if something you cut yourself with has some bacteria on it some day and you get a bad infection? That infection will be in your blood and can do all sorts of permanent damage to your entire body...you ARE hurting yourself potentially that way and for each cut you make...you are hurting your mind. AND you are hurting the people that care about you.
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    STOP talking to her about it. Of course she is feeling bad because it is, apparently, just not inher nature to be affectionate to the same level you are... if she has a lot of other great qualities, I suggest you tell her, and then apologize for seeming to come on too strong about cuddling and the like...
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    Sparrow, goals have nothing to do with "intellectual deficiency or conceptualization"...where dd you get that concept from? to really simplify it: getting up in the morning and making it from the bed to the bathroom without your bladder exploding is a long term goal. You accomplish it by doing small things, grunt, groan, get the covers off, swing your legs over the bed...etc...short term things that get you to where you want to go (no pun intended) A goal is the end result of a course of action. You feeling you need better time management skills, IS a goal...but you don't jump from the way you are doing it now to a whole other unplanned non-thought out way...that won't get you anywhere...you make small changes and get the desired affect...which in the very long term...will help your education process.... By way of acknowledging that your time management is poor, that is already a step in the right direction of trimming down your global thought process that stresses you out. It's gone from, oh bloddy hell I'm going to be a failure the rest of my life...to, hm, okay, how do I manage my time this week better...
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    lil you need to give your family time...they can't heal from this that fast, and a month isn't very long at all...if your father's drinking is an issue for you , the person to talk to is your mom...if she knows it is bothering her children, she may turn around and instead of working harder she will turn her attention to trying to help your father as a means to help herself heal... you can't help them heal any faster....everyone has their own timeline...the only person you can work on is you.
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    hey, I called it a suspicion, not a fact...isn't that leaving a margin of error? I didn't, and probably most women that read your post, take it as you wanting to "spice up" your sex life...your initial post made it sound as if you wanted to find a way to get her to like being talked dirty to....or responding more to your verbal cues... as if you wanted to know how to get her (or any woman) to like sex the way YOU like it...
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    tiger... if the pain is specific to her cervical area, you are going in too deep and bruising her...if it is all around internal pain...it's lubrication. If you have vigorous sex one night, then see her a gain a day or two later, she will still be a bit irritated on the inside and will need more lubrication than if you went several days... some women from the day they start to have sex have a problem with lubrication and need supplemental. if she hasn't had her period for years...the shot could very well have put her into a pre-menopausal cycle. Doesn't mean she can't all of a sudden w/o warning get pregnant. A pre-menopausal cycle will also, decrease a woman's lubrication production. as far as the infections...yeast infections can be treated with OTC medication. She gets them due to her hormonal changes probably when it is supposed to be that time of the month...Bladder infections usually require antibiotics...so if she gets one of those she should head to the dr.
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    sparrow many times, professors will allow you to do extra things in order to get credit when your testing grades are low. The trick is to schedule an appointment with them and ASK. What about forming study groups in classes you find more difficult...take advantage of other people's strengths in conceptual understanding...while also socializing over coffee... Yes it is good to think about your post grad plans...but not to the point you obsess over them. There is a balance there...it *IS* post grad....and if undergrad is overwhelming right now...which one takes precedence? If you aren't accomplishing goals you set...then you are setting them too high... just having someone to vent to will help you...so it would be a good idea to see about the counselors...even if it is one day a month.
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    because cutting isn't NORMAL BEHAVIOR for a person...if it was, it would be something everyone did from the day they were born. It is not good to have an obsssion with wanting to hurt yourself...controlled or otherwise. You can't say it is the "way I am" because you weren't always this way...it is the way you have become, sure...but people become a lot of things that they shouldn't, like alcoholics, chronic gamblers, drug users... by cutting, sure you control your pain...but do you realize you put anyone who knows about what you do into their own, uncontrollable pain? You jmake yourself feel empowered while leaving people you care about feeling helpless...is that your intention? cutting is a form of OCD obsessive compulsive disorder....it's a disfunction in your brain's chemical production and distribution...it isn't YOU.
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    TIGER = You at one point asked me what would turn me on...that was just the final "edict"...wasn't assuming what you actually did. If she is giving you I don't know's and blowing it off...(not to mention your other post about her hurting during sex) I have a strong suspicion that your FWB relationship is starting to lose it's appeal to her...
  25. ticklebug
    Is this the same girl you posted about, your FWB who you said isn't as interested in sex as much as you are? sex hurts when a woman isn't properly lubricated...it has nothing to do with a form of BC she was on years ago...either work on getting her more aroused before entering her or buy some alternate lubrication... bladder and yeast infections just come with the territory of being female...it's somewhat hereditary as to how often she gets them.
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