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  1. ticklebug
    when I got married the first time (way to young, dummy me at that point) we just did the elopement/in front of a judge thing...(and ok, yeah with that marriage I guess we did have sex that night LOL...) always had a pang of regret that I missed out on something...boy was I ever off base. Not that I iddn't enjoy my wedding, but that money wouldhave been well spent on somethig else.
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    when I got married I got up at 5:30 AM to go pick up some people at the airport...then from that minute on I was on the go...I think the only time I really sat down was while I ate at the reception...and that was probably all of 20 minutes... everyone has to dance with the bride... The last person left our reception at 2:45 in the morning. My husband was a tad drunk and I was exahusted so clothes hit the floor and we hit the bed...like rocks. It was not even anywhere near close to a fleeting thought for either of us.
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    the authorities wouldn't allow it. She would have to be at the very least 18, and to be named a guardian you have to show proof of stability... the authorities *MAY* allow her brother to be a guardian...but there is no way a GF could or would get named in conjunction. Are you sure you mean guardian and not god parents? and I'm not touching the just found out she was pregnant issue...
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    put it in this perspective... I have an ex-husband, we have a child together so we do communicate on basic things regarding her & we chit chat a bit, get along fine...BUT...my life is not an open book to him...his opinion on what I do with my life doesn't matter. Some of my better friends and my family, sure I'll be open with them because I value their opinion....my ex, well, thre are just things that aren't his business to know until after the fact...and I have a feeling that is how she views her ex bf.
  5. ticklebug
    his best bet, would be to go to his friend an ask him if he would have any objection to him asking his little sister out on a date. If the friend has a problem with it, then YOUR friend needs to go looking elsewhere for a girlfriend.
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    sure, their ex's are back with a previous bf or gf...but ask them in 6 months if that is the case still. 9 times out of 10 the reunion isn't permanent. you go back because you have regrets on how it ended...but the problems normally are still there. Just be very careful with your heart...
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    I'd insert a different word for "easiest" =)
  8. ticklebug
    if you have a chance or not is somehing no one can answer really, you've only talked to him briefly... New years Eve is going to be a hard night to have much of a conversation more than likely... if you were able to summons up the courage to talk to him once already, you can do it again...but use NYE as an excuse to say...hey, it's awfully loud/crowded/pick your excuse/ in here, give him your number and tell him that you'd love the chance to talk to you again like you did (where ever it was you were the last time) and then se what happens from there
  9. ticklebug
    texting is the same thing as calling...it's still on the phone and it's still out of the blue...(love to hear how you figure texting wouldn't be considered out of the blue LOL) calling isn't the same as going to her house...being on the phone isn't face to face. if you have to, write yourself a script LOL but I still go with just let it drop...you are about to embark on a new chapter in your life (congrats on graduating!) the call/text/whatever wont be near as life altering as you think it could be....
  10. ticklebug
    yep that is what I do...mainly for people just like you as I told you in the PM =) nice to hear when someone thinks I'm good! Thank yu for the compliment! don't worry about your spelling, as you can tell, I've been able to figure it out I have got to get my rear to bed though, so I'm going to go offline...e-mail me anytime...I mean it. I check it daily.
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    I just sent the PM so you should be able to see it now...
  12. ticklebug
    it will heal - it may leave an ugly scar by the way you describe it but it will heal... a PM is a private message...when I send it up at the top of your screen you see: Search Profile You have no new messages Log out where it says "You have no new messages" - it will say you have one...and click there and it will take you to my private message to you... and as far as how old I am...hehe...I'm old enough to be your mom actually...I have a daughter who is 15...she and I have a great realtionship and can come to me about anything...think you can tell hat by how we are talking tho, huh?
  13. ticklebug
    foreplay is actually things that are done BEFORE sex...to make a woman, or aman...more aroused...kissing, touching, etc...
  14. ticklebug
    no I meant it will heal soon so you won't need to wrap it much longer...but seriously, don't keep it covered ALL the time...it needs oxygen to heal...that is what clots the blood on the surface... although I'd love to say you will stop cutting soon....and I think you can stop...just like you use cutting to replace the pain in your heart....now you can use the rubber band to avoid scarring yourself and makingyouself bleed...it's a small step towards quitting entirely... I think you and I have been talking really well all night =) LOL if you want, I can PM you my e-mail address and anytime you want to talk more, even if it is about bigger things like when you are angry...you can get in touch with me...
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    puzzle, can part of why you lash out at him be because you will always come 2nd in his life to his wife? What makes a married man so appealing to you? Don't you want someone of your own? I hope you don't take offense, but as a woman, don't you feel you deserve better than 2nd place?
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    yeah, any tape will do in a pinch...it isn't the greatest but like I said...you probably won't need it much longer... HP comes usually in a brown bottle, you mom wouldhave it in the medicine cabinet more than likely...it's for cleaning cuts and things...not alcohol, but hydrogen peroxide.. and if it is a white sweater, then bleach works too. when things seem so out of control, cutting is something you CAN control..so even if you regret it you still find yourself doing it because it is the one thing at that very moment...that you have all the say in... but then you end up regreting it later because deep down, you pretty much know it didn't solve anything...
  17. ticklebug
    if you absolutley positively 100% HAVE to solve it (you men, I swear...always have to fix stuff LOL) Texting is cowardly...CALL HER. Dont text. CALL. Hear the voice...get the words...CALL. You eliminte the wonder if she got the text or not...and it takes care of your little issue.
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    yep...just wrap the paper towel around it then make the tape tight...it may slip a bit but it works for the little time you probably have left to wear it anyway... if you do get blood on your sweater, see if you have any hydrogen peroxide in the house (do you know what that is?)...pour some on the blood and then rinse, and it comes right out... and, yeah, unfortunately until you really actually find a way to get to the things that MAKE you get so mad and frustrated...it will just keep happening again...cutting is only a temporary fix...
  19. ticklebug
    you will probably never forget her...people have pet peeves and the whole "abandonment" this girl did is one of yours...you are the proverbial chalkboard and she's the fingernails... BUT, on the same hand (no pun intended) once you do meet another girl....this other one will have less significance...because part of what your feeling is wondering if it was something about YOU that made her just disappear...and having another woman in your life will help validate that you actually are a pretty decent guy after all and the ex doesn't know what she missed out on in you as a friend.
  20. ticklebug
    that's the whole point of cutting...that "numbness" you feel...when it stops hurting...you (your heart) stops hurting...and you think you feel better...but the problem with it is that is doesn't change that your heart was hurting...and you never really make yourself feel better...because you don't take care of what made your heart hurt to begin with...you just took away it's pain... rubber bands sting like heck...be ready for it =) paper towel will be fine...I sliced my finger open cutting tomatoes for my family's dinner the other day and there wasn't even a bandaid to be found in the house...(talk about probably needing stiches) it worked for me it will work for you =)
  21. ticklebug
    probably because she is the only one you parted company with that was unresolved...any of the others you didn't play the "let's be friends game" or you did and you mutually agreed it wasnt working.... this girl is the only one that left you wondering "what if"...so of course you are letting your curiosity get the best of you... thing about texting tho, you will always wonder esp. if she doesn't respond...then you just add to your problem because you them wonder why she didn't respond...and there's a whole other list of reasons you can mull through your head... from that isn't her phone number anymore to she hates my guts to maybe her phone wasnt on whenI texted (they don't go thru if the phone isn't on)... is she REALLY worth potentally adding agony to already incurred injury?
  22. ticklebug
    cutting is just a way to control your anger and hurt...you can't control when someone gets mad at you...and you can't control how that feels...but you can contril how much a cut hurts by how deep you go or how many times you cut or how large it is...takes the pain from your heart and puts it where you are cutting... so are you going to try the rubber band? You never said anything about that suggetion.... on your cut, you actually may want to have it NOT covered for a while...fresh air will help it scab over...if you sweat under the gauze it keeps it moist so it stays open longer...
  23. ticklebug
    so does that mean that every single person you have ever crossed paths with, with the exception of this girl you still keep in contact with? And I mean right down to pre-school =) (little humorous sarcasm, but you get the idea) asmodi - you don't abandon anything or anyone entirely, the memories you have live on forever....but not everyone in your life at some point is meant to stay there... very rarely do friendships after relationships go as well as you think they will....history gets in the way....unresolved feelings (and there always are some)...many times it's more work staying friends then it ever was a lovers...because you try so hard to not let the past be a part of it...take a look at all the posts on here about trying to stay friends...has to tell you something about the reality of it.
  24. ticklebug
    I actually doubt the cut is that bad...if you aren't soaking in blood still it's healing...I can understand you freaking out though...you think you had it under control and then out of the blue...you are going to be fine... do you understand what drives you to cut though? Has anyone ever talked to you about it? Or is it still just something "bad" you do and you don't understand why...you just do it... hehe...funny about his dad...at least you know he likes you if he cares to make sure the two of you behave =) I know it sounds rediculous....but sometimes the BEST way to feel better when you just feel like a lump and don't want to do anything...is to DRAAG yourself out of the house...I mean really, forcing yourself to have fun is a heck of a lot better than getting forced to talk to a counselor, right?
  25. ticklebug
    glad to hear you are seeing the brighter side of things! ((HUGS))
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