cleverme123

I am glad someone finally made an issue of this. People who are married and flirting should not be married!!! And for heavens sakes doing it with kids. Have they ever grown up in the first place??

You got it. It may seem like such a nice thing to do to begin with you don't have to work just take care of things around the house, but then it becomes a power point. But yes it becomes control and then it starts affecting every aspect of your relationship. Be careful.

He offered to show you what a nice guy he was, neverthought twice about helping you out. Now it's a power card for him, there is nothing else to pull, so he uses that. Later it will be other things, don't be surprised if he tries to get you fired or to quit from your job. Then it will really be an issue. Please be careful, I have been here too many times.

Yep it's a control thing, been there. It starts with something petty out of the blue and before long everything will become your fault. Ya better be careful or you will see an ugly pattern start to arise.

Size doesn't matter when it comes to getting pregnant. Masturbating will lower your sperm count and chance to get her pregnant. It's best to wait 2 days before she ovulates then have sex and that usually will do it. Having sex too often will lower the count too, so wait two days no masterbating, no sex, then when she is fertile have sex. Almost guaranteed to work. If she was on birth control prior to trying expect to wait about 6 months before it happens.

he wasn't like this intially, he didn't start all this until I moved down here and then got myself into a situation where he has all the control.

Okay so I have been with my husband for almost 2 years, we just had a baby. He has this ex he talks to her as she got a job where he works part time and conviently they work the same schedule. His co-workers have told me she completely obsesses herself in talking to him, she is off her rocker in more ways then one, which I knew that already. Okay, so about 6 months into our relationship we had this fallout and he told me he was moving back in with her, he took his kid and went to her house to talk about our fight! They sent the kid out on the trampoline and they were alone. Okay, now maybe I am a bit paranoid but come on, I am suppose to believe a vulnerable man with a woman gone crazy over him didn't mess around????? Then they coached a t-ball team together last year which she wound up getting thrown off the team because well, I got ugly with her to say the least....Now the working his part time job thing. She calls him, texts him, (even while I was in labor he called her) she came up pregnant at one point and supposedly miscarried. I grilled him whether or not it was his he swore no, but she is nasty and it could have been any ones including her live in boyfriends! Any how he swears to the fact it's completely innocent, but I don't believe it (his track record no where close to being good) and I found that out because he told me his ex stories and I got bold and called them both and found out pretty much similar stuff. The one ex wife told me she threatened if he didnt break up with her she was taking the kid away. So my question, do ya think it's innocent or is it what I have been thinking all along, they never really quite broke up and he is still seeing her on the side. I mean who talks to their ex almost every day and then spends 15-20 minutes at the time clock talking to her and knows everything going on in her life??? This is so frustrating!!!!!!

Well if he did something to you or consistantly follows you report him or file an anti harassment order. That is your best way to make sure it stops and if it doesn't you can have him arrested. He's an adult your a minor and he also assaulted your little bro, file charges.

You will have to wait til the baby is born then order a DNA test.

I would suggest the hotel idea because then your not rushed about someone walking in. Oh and on virgins....they don't last very long the first time, so play nice

Personally you sounded much nicer when you didn't work out. You can change your body but when your ego outweighs your muscles, it isn't worth it. It's great that you did something for yourself just dont get carried away!

Yes he absolutely positively sounds suspicious and any one that cheats or denies something or gets mad about it usually has something to hide. Now me being me I would be in there seeing if it goes on from the point you confronted him. I too had this problem and husband denied it said he did things for friends of his, even that emails I saw with my own eyes didnt exist!!! Be careful.

Look guys rarely refuse sex especially from someone they have been with, it's like a friend with benefits thing. He doesn't want to be back with you, I don't know how much more obvious it could be. You will feel better when you blow him off for sex. Make him feel like he makes you feel. Tell him no!!!!!!!! Then dont bug him, all your doing is inflicting your own pain.

You don't have to be together to raise this child. As long as there are two loving parents that love the kid no one said you have to marry her. You do follow some basic rules. You don't bad mouth the other parent to the kid, you don't argue in front ofthe kid. Provide the best you can offer what you have to offer, and you just deal with things as they come, it can work, just takes times. Good luck

Ok so you intiated, sex will not make him come back to you, it doesn't fix the situation nor help you in any way. If you want to move on you need to stop now, regain control then move on.

Don't do it! Fantasy is one thing but what happens if she enjoys it and wants to do it more than once or starts to swing on her own with other men and then at some point a female. This is what ended my husbands first marriage because it got out of control. It also ended his second marriage, and it ended my marriage also. It's a bridge that has consequences and too many people can't face them.

If she wants a divorce and she offers no reason for it and doesn't want to reconcile there is not much you can do. I would let her intiate the paperwork and pay for it, if she wants it that bad, let her pay the fees. If she is with someone else and that is the reason that will become fairly obvious, being married and seeing someone else your vision is always cloudy.

This is a very bad idea because your asking your friend to be in a very akward position. Let's just suppose she really enjoys it and it doesn't stop there. I heard a saying recently, the one who initiates with someone else will be leaving with that person and the one who gave the thought to doing it in the first place, will be asking the questions later. It's a bad idea to bring a third person in at all. Let alone a friend. Take the warning!

I am usually pretty blunt and this won't be an exception. You are becoming his door mat. He uses you when he wants something, strings you along by sleeping with you then cuts you loose. Me personally knowing that he was using you would have to say think of it like this....Not only is he sleeping with you but his little break out of the blue was probably due to seeing what else is out there unless he was dating someone else why he was seeing you. So that thought alone would disgust me to the point I wouldn't want to be with him. Some men in general will use you as long as they can get away with it, and you are letting him, do you really think he is going to say no if you continue to give in to him? Unless you really enjoy feeling like crap about yourself and feeling depressed and sad I suggest next time you tell him no and walk, put your foot down and don't let him keep doing this. Invest your time into something else. Something that will make you feel good. Your heart ache will continue as long as you allow it too.

Are you sure he is the father, is there a possibility of any one else. On another post you said you had your first baby at 16 what will you do with this one? Are you ready and does the guy your seeing know? Chance that it may be the guy your seeing now.

You need to get out now, I know lots of resources for this, if you want to go PM me. You can lose your child by staying with this guy!

As long as your comfortable with who is doing it to you then there isnt a problem if you get with someone that pushes it a little too far and doesnt stop when you say no then its a problem. Quite frankly, I enjoy it with my husband but doubt I would allow just anyone to mess around like that.

They are fun but lots of work, hopefully you can get a grandparent to help you. Stock up as much as possible before they come, and make sure someone can help you if you get overwhelmed.

Jaded no one ever said that you couldn't make mistakes. Some times you have to pour salt on your wounds, suck it up and go on. That is the only way you get better and learn. You are in a world of danger that is only unimaginable to you now. What you are going through will get worse and you will live in fear every day. You have to change it now. If you don't something will snap you into reality, don't wait too long before you decide to let it go.

Two words: restraining order