cleverme123

I agree past in the past, I just posted about this. My fiance has an ex that keeps conviently popping up. Now she has a job where he works and he has been coming home late and all. It's funny because you never know when someone will think maybe there is a chance and then it turns into a mess. I personally say leave the exs. They are exs for a reason and they should be left that way. Unexpected problems could arise if she is talking about your relationship to them. Just my personal feeling though.

I have been in your shoes also. When ever you have a history of previous STD's there is a possibility of reinfection without sleeping with someone who is newly infected! I know this first hand it happened to me and for the longest time I was in denial about it. It started with stomach pain and then escalated to the point I couldn't walk. It is always better safe then sorry and most OBGYN will test for everything just to be sure. I wouldn't worry about him accusing you of having something or anything like that, he is more than likely looking out for your best interest in case he missed something and only the test will show the result.

Found an email and was informed that he was still seeing his ex. His little working lates have actually been me waiting home for him why he goes to play with her. That is part of the internet obsession, he uses the pictures as cover up. It all became clear when someone alerted me of what was going on, I followed him and found out. Now I am totally lost and broken, how can you divote a year with someone give them a baby and find out something like that!

I myself set out on a revenge spree to get even with my husband who abandon me. Let me say it was ugly and had even uglier consequences. Once you start getting even the anger never goes away it only gets worse and the desire to do more gets worse. There are also possibilities of retaliation from the other person so it can become quite a nightmare! I advice against seeking revenge, once you open a can of worms...you can't ever close it back up. The greatest revenge is knowing that they may have hurt you but it did not stop you!

The answer to counseling was no. I talked to the first wife, she has no intention of ever coming back. I talked to the second wife. She is a huge ball of emotions and lies, she has no intention of ever showing up again. The porn still continues. I found more groups he joined. Ugh! And talking to him on any of these topics is a huge no no. he blows up, gets really outrageously mad and then makes it into some problem with me. The end usually goes if you can't deal with it leave.

I advice against the morning after pill, it has ugly kick backs. Also, there is a chance a very small chance. And you get that any time vaginal fluid comes in contact with semen. Pregnancy happens around the mid part of your cycle.

I see no point in drinking. Couldn't understand why everyone else did it. It takes more of a person to walk away than it does to sit there and drink your way to oblivion. All I can say is uphold your morals and don't let them pressure you into doing something stupid. Once your hooked it's a hard habit to break.

I have been with someone for about a year. We met while I was still married, but I moved in when my husband had me evicted from my house. With that being said here is the situation... He has been married twice before, neither one of them has anything remotely close to a brain in their head. The first is obsessed with being number one...she was the first wife, has his first kids...blah blah blah. It's annoying. She said she has nothing or no intention of ever letting her kids around me and doesn't want them to know me because I am a child. My fiance is 11 years older as is she. Well that part is fine she lives far away so if I don't have to deal with her I would rather not. The second wife abandon her kid, which I stay at home with all the kids. She rarely calls hasn't seen him in 2 + years. So I am raising him pretty much. She had a way with the net and got wisk away to some where pretty far away too. She met these men on the net and kept running not thinking about any one she left behind. In a conversation with her she told me it was all him, he had the problems...but I found out a lot was a lie. With that being said here is the problem, first of all, he has relationships with an ex girlfriend and a the first wife is his vent. His first wife proclaims she hates him and could care less about his happiness but when it comes to problems, he will tell her all. It drives me nuts. The ex, I thought I got rid of that problem, then her boyfriend tells me there is emails and what not being sent regularly, some I have seen asking about things in her life and some that I haven't. He told me it never happened, but I saw some of them and know it did! Then the adult sites. Hundreds and hundreds of them, yahoo groups, msn groups, pictures that are nasty and a whole lot of other stuff. Some of it makes me upset and I even got to the point I can deal with him looking if he must...BUT...at what point is it obsessive or dangerous. He works 2 jobs, his one he is fairly flexible, and his other he comes home late quite a bit. Is there reason to be concerned or is it really just being nice to the ex's and needs eye candy? And I questioned it in the beginning he was lying all the time and then came out and told me the reasons why...it made sense but I am really insecure. I don;t understand the need to look when I am here always waiting for him, I am also pregnant with his baby. Any advice?

She is impossible because she told me she was first always will be and no one will ever keep her from being first. She said she has kids with him first and that is the way it is. She does live far away though, so that is a blessing!

How do you deal with having someone else involved in your life cause they have kids with your husband. The ex is impossible to deal with.