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  1. Hiya there everybody! Ok, I'm in a kinda weird situation. I'm bi-curious, and last night my best friend came round to sleep-over. She has done "things" with girls before, and I had too, but not very much. I was very curious, so, to cut a long story short we got into bed together and enjoyed it very much. Today, whilst she was still here, my boyfriend came round, and we somehow found ourselves in bed with each other, all cuddled up and touching each other. Nothing serious happened, I mean, he only touched her upper-half under clothes and lower-half over clothes, and I enjoyed watching him do it to her at the time. She seemed to be enjoying it which was a turn on for both me and my boyfriend. But later on in the day, when we'd long finished and I was cooking lunch for all of us, I started feeling really REALLY bad. Sick with myself, and I just wanted to escape the knowledge that I had let my boyfriend touch my best friend sexually and enjoyed it, and I wished more than anything that it hadn't happened. I felt jealous too, and worried in case he liked her body more than mine. He kept on about how "nice" her breasts were and stuff, and said that to see her and me together was a real turn on, though he felt a tiny bit jealous. So basically, what should I do? I never want it to happen again, but at the same time I do, but I don't want to feel wretched and stupid like this. What should I be thinking at the moment and how should I, a person with a very low esteem and low opinion of myself, whose boyfriend cheated on me once before and I could never trust again, whose now done this with my best friend, be taking this? Please, any advice would be most appreciated. Thanks Lottie xxx Ps: He said afterwards that he didn't do it to hurt me or because he fancied her or even liked her in that way. They only met today, so he'd only known her for an hour at the most. He said he preferred my body and said some funny, if a little insulting, things about her. He kept kissing me and cuddling me close when it was going on as if to reassure me and felt really bad about it afterwards apparently.
  2. Ladies or gentleman. I am completely dumbfounded with my wifes fantasy. We have been married for 13 years and we have had our ups and downs but for the most part we are very, very comunicative. She surprised me today with a request for a threesome... with another male. What gets me is that I was NOT offended. (Is that possible?) She later confessed to me that she has always wanted to try this. I became somewhat defensive and asked her if she ever did this kind of thing before. She said absolutely NOT. But, nonetheless... She wants to be with someone she can take home from a nightclub with me. She further stated that she wants me to be there with her. I thought I would be angry but after a week thinking about this... I'm not. I think it would be erotic to let her be "her"! Should I go through this? Apart from this... (It continues)... She has a desire to be with a younger man that is uncircumsized. Woah! We are both 35 years old. I totally trust her and I have been faithfull all these years and she has been also. Any female perspectives on this?
  3. My wife of 10 years and I are about to embark on our first planned Male-Female-Female threesome and want to make sure we do not ruin our marriage or friendship with our girlfriend whom will be involved. We have set down guidelines and have discussed what we all expect. We have conversed about what we will accept and not. We have set up rules as to our involvement with others outside of the threesome and we have all agreed that it would be safest to practice the safest of sex. All individuals are part of the initiating force and are supporting the decision to move forward. So as best laid plans often fall apart, we want to make sure we have covered all the bases. Please share with us your feelings, concerns, experiances, and advice in this arena. We are new to it and want to be smart rather than regretful.
  4. If you and your partner are curious about having a 3some with another man or woman, what are the things you should ask/look out for? How would you set this up so that it is comfortable and relaxing for everyone? Cheers!
  5. At present, I'm dating a guy who I really like. He's handosme, well- educated, and has a lot of money. Recently, we went on a Caribbean vacation, and stayed at a posh resort. We were in the Jacuzzi, and we met a young (23) year old guy from Los Angeles. We began to chat, and it was obvious that we all liked one another. My boyfriend hinted at a threesome, and I was only too quick to agree! I had vision of being sandwhiched by two gorgeous hunks with hard-bodies. I was also glad that my boyfriend was not the jealous type. Once back in our room, our young friend got naked, and he had a huge erection. One thing led to another, and my boyfriend began to fellate him. I had never seen him so aroused! I decided to just "go with the flow", and see what happened. Well, not long afterwards, our young "toy boy" came in Greg's mouth, and he swallowed all of the milk. Obviously, this was not the first time that he had sucked a boner! Afterwards, he told me that he had "just got carried away". I don't know what to do.
  6. Here's the situation: My boyfriend and I have been involved seriously for about a year. We love each other very much and things are going great. We went to this party last weekend and both got very drunk. It was there that we met this wild and crazy woman, who was obviously bi-curious. She was all over me, telling my boyfriend how hot I was, etc. I am completely heterosexual and have only be in a threesome with 2 men. My boyfriend would love a threesome with another woman and he has expressed this many times throughout the course of our relationship. Well, as it turned out, the woman wanted to lick and kiss my stomach, so I let her. I was somewhat turned on by it and a little curious. My boyfriend was practically panting and invited her back to our place. Lo and Behold, she declined and said she had another party to go to afterward. We both took her business cards and told her we would be in touch. Since that night, my boyfriend has been bugging me to call her and invite her to hang out this weekend. I am feeling completely weird about the whole thing now and aren't as comfortable. I was a little intrigued at the party, but that may have just been the alcohol that I consumed. In addition, I think she was only interested in me, not so much my boyfriend. What should I do? I don't know if I would really want to see my boyfriend having sex with this strange person. It would be all 3 of us, but still, I am sure he will want to be with her. I may get very jealous, even though curiosity exists. I don't want this to ruin my relationship. incidentally, our sex life is fantastic. We don't even need to spice it up this way! Any thoughts out there? All are appreciated.
  7. Hi enas I had a relationship with a girl for over a year. We are both in our late twenties. I’m a lesbian, she is not out hardly whatsoever. Our relationship was beautiful, we met by accident at a mutual friends event. From the start though, I should’ve read the signs: A few months in she started saying she was afraid to hurt me, and wanted to warn be to leave before I go in too deep, because she was unsure about her sexuality and how she felt. We continued our relationship but I was seeing signs that were hurting me; 6-7 months passed, she didn’t want to meet my friends claiming she wasn’t ready, she wasn’t ready for her sexuality to come out to anyone. I never pressured her, but even after she told a few friends about me, she still didn’t want me to meet anyone (I never pressured her) I am a musician and never once did she want to attend my shows- at first claiming she didn’t want to go in public with me (we are in a very gay friendly metropolitan city btw) At around 7-8 months she became unsure about her feelings for me (again, things were great for a while) saying she’s not sure if I’m the one for her, telling me to be free to date others, that we should take a step back etc A few weeks after that, she broke up with me. I was seeing that she was going out to friends of friends BBQs that she never met, over going to my show. Which really hurt. So we broke up, she saying doesn’t see a forever with me. I didn’t speak to her after she broke up with me. A few weeks later — she sends me this super long text saying she didn’t like the way things ended between us, that I mean so much to her, etc I didn’t respond for a week and then gave in and we saw each other. We had sex and started seeing each other again. It was amazing. She started telling more people about me, even would mention how she would want me to meet her family AND even said that she only wanted to date me (we started back slow and were seeing others). Everything was amazing up until right before Christmas. We were celebrating her birthday her and I together, having wine and out of nowhere said she wouldn’t mind if I slept with other people. I was stunned and hurt and she started saying there was a couple she was friends with in another state that she wanted to have a threesome with. I was devastated, I felt so hurt. She started saying she was confused again, one minute being crazy about me another wanting to see what is out there. It was the worse xmas I ever had. We didn’t break up but were in a very weird place. She took some space to herself. She came back on New Years and we celebrated it together. She ended up having the threesome, she said it didn’t mean anything to her, that she was less confused and we continued seeing each other. I feel like a real idiot, for putting up with it, but I figured it was just a sexual adventure. We agreed to continue seeing each other but “less seriously” meaning I can see other people. Thinking that she doesn’t see a future with me but really enjoying my company. So we continued this “enjoying each other not seriously” type of seeing each other but I realized how much it hurt me one night when she was telling me about her best friends boyfriends band who she was gonna go see for a live show. Never ONCE in a year did she come to my show, just one. And I do plenty. I was really hurt and told her how I felt— I understand it’s her best friend but that my music means so much to me, after all I’ve been there for her, she has bad back problems and I was always there to take care of her and not once did she ever come to support me. Her reasoning being she doesn’t want to lead me on and make me happy “temporarily” if she knows we don’t have a future together. I kind of took some distance from her. Again I kind of put those hurt feelings to the side and we continued this “friendship” We talked a lot on how she wants me in her life and it’s really hard for her to let me go, that we are almost like best friends. I’ve gotten hurt so much over the year over some things she has done that I have became “numb” to her all her actions and purged so much sadness over xmas when she decided to have the threesome that I’m weirdly content with just having her as this presence in my life. Up until now I was numb to how much more she can hurt me. But again this weekend it came like a wave— she is going to a show that her friend is having on the same night I’m having a show. And it kills. Never once she supported me. I cared so much for her, even helped her pay for her back appointments with my insurance, of course I don’t expect anything anymore from her but even as a FRIEND this is making me feel very hurt. My passion, performing at a show has became a source of pain knowing she will never want to come and see me ONCE. I feel hurt the closer I get to a show. A few weeks ago, she went away to Europe with her family, she didn’t even bring me back a little souvenir. We saw each other last week, had sex and a wonderful time. Our “friendship” developed into me talking to her about other girls I’m into to which she actually enjoys hearing about. It’s a very f*cked up thing. I saw she was going to the show and I said well now that we are friends you can come! She says “I’m not going to come” but you can send me a video ! “I thought you were over this!” And we proceed to hanging out. I was feeling fine but got a wave of anger towards her. Feeling not good enough. She texted me yesturday saying hi but I don’t even feel like talking to her. A wave of hurt just got over me. I want her in my life but realizing how much hurt she caused me.
  8. I have a friend who has been in a relationship with her man for 11 years. They even have a child together. She asked me for advice but I don’t what to tell her. What’s your pros and cons of a threesome?
  9. I need advice other then my friends for this........because I need neutral advice. I'm in a long distance relationship. I really feel like I love this man. I'm pushing more for something, he goes hot and cold. The last time I went to visit him.........when i got home he'd said soemthing to the effect of .........."i wish Debbie hadn't came back to the apartment with us (he's not attracted to her) cause his friend Steve and him were gonna have a threesome with me. The thing that bothered me was that I wasn't included in the planning of this so called adventure, until a week later. Plus his friend has lots of one night stands and to me it;s actually unattractive. It's not that i'm even turned off to the idea of it....I would have a threesome especailly if the person I cared about wanted to try it. It's just how I wasn;t included bothers me??? He's very much the guys guy. He perceded to tell me him and his friend have done this before. He and I have this crazy relationship where the distance makes it hard but we have something so special we both hold on..........has anyone had this kindof thing happen to them?? Does it mean he doesn;t think i'm that special??? is it sorta degrading? would it ruin a relationship? I'm really wanting some advice or someone to just tell me how it is.......lol thanks guys!
  10. I ran a search on "threesome" in this forum and read as many posts as I could. I'm aware that most people are advising that a serious relationship not attempt a threesome because it may lead to the end of the relationship and/or hurt feelings. The thing is, the very thought of another guy (who is likeable and trustworthy) having sex with my girlfriend or fondling her and eventually going into a threesome with me included turns me on. I also know that she has an interest in mmf threesome as well because we've discussed it together. I think we have a strong and healthy relationship, we get along very well and love sharing our bodies with each other. I'm fully aware that sexual fantasy and reality are two completely different things. Neither of us have ever experienced a threesome before. I'm just very turned on when I know my girlfriend is feeling and getting lots of pleasure, whether it be from me or a sex toy, and now I'm thinking even as far as a threesome. It turns me on (in my head). My question is: With everything I've just stated here, is the idea of a threesome (for both the girlfriend and I) still sound like nothing more than a dirty thought (sexual fantasy), or has anyone been in a similar position as I am now who can tell me that yes they've been in a serious longterm relationship and have tried a threesome and has definitely enjoyed (or unenjoyed) it. I just want to know if we both should keep the thought of a threesome as just our sexual fantasy instead of exploring it in real life.
  11. I have been separated from my husband for three months. I left him because of abuse... two months later, I find myself in love with my married girlfriend whom I have known for four years. I was always bisexual but she never knew that about me until now. She told me one day that she and her husband had fantasized about a threesome with another woman. That conversation made me hot as I realized that I wanted to be the other woman. That night, we went dancing, and then after a kiss we had sex with each other. We had sex the next day, amazed at the level of passion and depth... I think it was the second time sleeping with her that we began to give voice to a growing love between us. By the third time we were together, we were both scared about what it might mean. The feeling is deeper than anything I have ever known, and she says the same is true for her. She decided to tell her husband afterwards... I had wanted her to tell him from the beginning because if he doesn't know, it's cheating. At first she didn't tell him because she wanted me all to herself; but after feeling the love, she thought she'd better include him or we might end up running off together! So she told him... but she only told him half the truth... pretended we never did anything before, and that our first time would be the three of us together. He was excited... I was relieved. One problem: After the threesome, he told her that I behave more "like a man" in bed and has now pulled back from ever doing it again. I'm surprised, because I did things to him that woman do; I didn't leave him unattended, and he seemed to enjoy having sex with me! I feel that he is threatened by what I was able to do to her in bed; things he never was willing to do to her. Now I think he will slowly try to remove me from hanging around his family. He told her not to have sex with me unless he is there because it feels like a man is loving his wife, not a sweet, harmless woman (my words). In the meantime, we have not been able to keep our hands off each other (secretly, of course). I have never felt the love I feel before... the tenderness and the complete surrender and the unlimited passion; a spiritual connection that feels like I have been waiting my whole life for her. We constantly call each other and are so happy to feel this love, even though the husband disapproves. We fantasize about running off together; but I freeze when I consider the social impact that would have on our families (my boy and her two boys). She is still with her husband and she is not happy. The more we talk, the more I see his abuse and controlling patterns... the same patterns I escaped from in my own ex-husband. Although I make plenty of money for the both of us, he would probably try and financially bury me alive if she tried to leave him for me. Dragging the kids in would be so horrible for everyone. I would hate to fight him! I am scared!! Please shed some insight from any experience you have had in a similar situation. I would love to not feel so alone. ~me.
  12. My girlfriend and I have been together for over 3 years, but I've been bored with our sex life for a while. I've tried initiating different, kinky things, but my girlfriend always makes me feel like a pervert or something. She thinks it's cute when I want to do "freaky" things but she doesn't seem particularly interested in actually trying them. It appears that in her high school and college years she was wild and crazy, slept with a bunch of different girls (and some guys), and had all kinds of experiences, sexually; so now, she's feeling very tamed and satisfied with those types of activities. I, on the other hand, was a late bloomer in every way; I grew up in a strict household and was so brainwashed that even by the time I went off to college, far enough from home to let loose, I didn't go buck wild like I probably could have. Now I'm thinking that maybe I regret that. There are so many things I'd like to try, WITH my girlfriend. She's my partner, not just a sex buddy, and I love her. At the same time, I wish we could be more sexually adventurous; I feel like we have the commitment and stability to back that up. My biggest fantasy is having a threesome with a good friend of ours who I find very attractive and quite available for that activity. But my girlfriend is COMPLETELY against threesomes. I can't get the thought out of my head these days, though, for some reason. We've talked about it tons of times. I've even come to the point of thinking that if I could just go about things the right way, maybe I could convince my girlfriend to try it, but she's a very jealous type and maintains that she doesn't like multi-tasking in bed. Is there anything I can do to convince her, or should I just forget this fantasy once and for all?
  13. hi, i know this bisexual girl and she says i'm as hot as (the f word) lol dont want my post to get deleted. well she invited me to have a threesome yesterday but i turned it down as i have no experience either way. i want to do stuff with her, but 1 im really shy and selfconscious about my body and 2 im inexperienced. i was curious how do u give good oral to a female? what kinda things can i do that will turn her on. i dont want to be really rubbish coz thtd be very boring for her. the thing is she has had a guy do everything to her. so my fear is coz she received oral already ill just be really rubbish. shes never done it with a girl before but told me that she would love to. im not sure how to go about it. can someone give me in depth tips? straight guys can answer this too. spaggle x
  14. Im looking for advice. My husband and i have been together for 10 years, we have 3 younger children together. Recently, for fun we had a game of truth or dare over text going while he worked night shift. It came up that his ultimate fantasy was to have a threesome with two women, he wants or fantasizes about have sex with 2 different women in same setting. I immediately was against it, but he through out different scenarios where he wouldnt have to sleep with the other woman too. We discussed many scenarios, and honestly turned into a hufe turn on for us and our sex life drastically improved since, however, i have told him the talks, the use of it as foreplay is fun, but i dont think i could actually do this. He tels me its ok its just a fantasy and he doesnt want to lose me, hurt me, or anything. But then before a day can go by, he is bringing it up again, now hes tellung me he would like another couple that way i could have sex while he has sex with the other girl. I dont like this idea either, and i tell him only for him to bring up other possibilites. I love the way we got closer sexually because of the talk , but now i feel like im inadequate or not enough that he wont stop making up new scenarios. Just trying to figure out what to do. I dont want our sex life to go dull over it, but i dont want this fantasy to take over either. I feel like if we were to go through with any scenario of involving anyone else, id hate myself for it, id hate him for it and i dont think id ve able to gwt passed him even fondling another woman. But at the same time i dont want to fall back into a boring slump like i feel we were in before this topic came up. Any advice?
  15. Hello all, I am new to this forum. I have been seeing my gf for a year now, and to keep a long story short, she has hinted at having a threesome before in the past as a joke. Me being good at detecting what she wants, I knew it was her fantasy. I recently started talking to her about it again, and after some prying and digging she confessed to me that she would like to have a threesome. One problem, it's a me + guy and her threesome. I have to admit, that it sort of turns me on watching porn with 2 guys and a girl threesomes, and it sort of turns me on thinking of me gf being dirty and used like that. But I am not sure I would want to go through with it. She said that she will only do it if I want to, and if not it doesnt matter to her one way or another because it is just a fantasy. She said that if she does do it it will be with a person she semi knows and then she would never want to see that person ever again. Decisions decisions? I have never experienced anything of the sort, what is there to watch out for when having threesomes, what sort of emotions etc? Also I asked if later on we could have a threesome with another girl and her, and she said she couldnt stand seeing me with another girl. Thanks.
  16. My boyfriend and i have been talking about having a threesome with a girl (as he is not comfortable with a guy thinks its a bit gay lol also not sure he'd like to see me with a guy), for a while now and i am totally up for it although i want us to find somehow a random so not one of his mates or mine so i am not sure how i am going to do it tho that's not the point. Just wondering if it is a good idea to put fantasy into reality? I am not the jealous type so i don't see that as a problem as i feel confident within our relationship. Does any1 have any good or bad experiences that they wouldn't mind sharing with me. Thanks
  17. i have been with my current boyfriend for over a year. We have a great sex life and are both quite open minded. We recently went to an 'erotica' fair which was an event with all different stalls related to sex i.e underwear, sex toys, films, mags, rubber etc. It was good fun and its given us both a taste to experiment. Im all up for dressing up and stuff. Recently we were talking with some friends about going to a fetish club where you have to dress up to get in. I though it would be funa nd were both like the idea of it being an interesting experiance. My boyfriend has always said that he doesnt want to share me but i know this place attracts a lot of 'swingers' and im just worried that eventually hel end up suggesting a threesome or swiging. I dont think i could ever do that i know it must destroy relationships and its just not me. I like he fact that we can tell ech other our fantises and that we can share so much. i know he loves me and hed hate the though of me having sex with another man. I'm just worried this will happen i would be so upset if he even suggested it.................................thanks for any repliesxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  18. has anyone tried a threesome? im thinking of having me/my wife and another guy .. can anyone help me with my decision should i do it?
  19. can you suggest me some good techniques and positions for the threesome sex.
  20. We've been dating for about a year and a half and lately I found out that one of her sexual fantasies is that she wants to have a threesome...with me and another girl(one of her friends). I know she loves me and positive she isn't bisexual(although she has had one of her friends get her off with a vibrator before once). I'm just curious if this is natural for females. I found out the main reason she wants to have a threesome is so she can watch me get with another girl. We gave our virginity to each other(19 and 17) and I'm just trying to figure this out. She has never been the most open person about her emotions so it's hard to get stuff out of her sometimes. Also, we have a VERY satisfying sexual relationship so I know that's not an issue either. I don't know. I would definitely want her to join in but might also be a little uncomfortable seeing her doing stuff with the other girl, just because I'm in love with her so much. I'm not sure if she would or not but in the heat of the moment I'm sure something would happen. She is really open and likes living crazy. Any thoughts? Is this normal for a girl? Does this have anything to do with her love towards me? I'd flip if I ever saw/heard of her doing anything with another guy. If this threesome does somehow come about would that give her a reason to want to be with another guy? All help is greatly appreciated. Thanks.
  21. A question for all the girls... If a bf is interested in a threesome with you and some other girl...would you do it? We're both 21 by the way... What do guys fantasize about it? I'm sexual open but I don't think I can "share" him with other people.
  22. Okay...so my story is so twisted that I really dont have the time right now to explain it all. Basically, I KNOW I should have broken up with my partner many moons ago ...but that itself is another post entirely....so I will try keep this a short query... I keep finding my partner setting up profiles on a swingers site... i discovered the first profile while looking through his email one night trying to figure out what was up with him as he had been acting very very strange and kept disappearing and yada yada. I discover also that he had been on a personals site and responded via an email to a couple that had been advertising for a third person to join them in a threesome. I confronted him eventually and he denied sending the email, accusing me of hacking his email account and sending it myself to set him up. Could have murdered him when he accused me of his putrid behavior....actually i nearly did *sigh*. The reason I stayed was we had just had a baby ...and I hoped I could get over it and thought maybe he had been sex starved due to no sex at the end of the pregnancy. What ever..im good at denial. Then i discover he keeps logging onto a swingers site. I confront him...he says he was just on there looking for some friends of his that used to swing..he was cyber stalking them? But why? We are no longer friends with them who cares who they are screw ing? so i deactivated his account. Then the other day discover he has set up another one. He says he only has a profile to get on the site and look around. BUT WHAT IS HE LOOKING AROUND FOR? its a site purely for sexual meetups. And if you were setting up a fake profile ...why would you use your real info on the profile like height weight age birthday sexual interests etc? If it was a fake profile you would fill out bull yeah? A fake person? The thing that worries me is in this profile in the what are you looking for comment box it says "I am a straight male looking for a MMF threesome". Does everyone know the difference between a MFM and a MMF threesome? If you dont, look it up. See what him worried about? Hes never said anything to me about wanting to have sexual contact with other men?? ?? And in the email he sent that couple just after i had the baby he said "its been a while since i had my last ffm threesome and ive had one mmf threesome and im keen to do it again". so is my partner just experimenting ??? He insists he's straight. But straight guys dont want to get sucked off by other men do they? is this a regular thing for apparently 'straight' men to have liaisons with other men but still consider themselves straight because there was a woman involved in the sexual acts at the time? Why wont he admit to me he is bisexual?? And basically...I cant trust him. And realizing that he will never admit to what he has done or wants to do...well I dont feel I know him anymore. He knows im sexually adventurous so why hasnt he asked me for a threesome? im guessing because he wants to bang guys as well and knows i would not be ok with that. Now i feel like everyone is competition...men AND women! I have to leave him dont I? I already know it....so why do i stay? I love him. Hes a wonderful partner 80% of the time. Hes helpful around the house and hes a wonderful really involved father to our 18month old daughter who ADORES him to death. I feel trapped. I feel like his life wtih me was all an act....a cover for him being gay and wanting to live as a straight man because he's too scared to ever come out. What do you guys think i can do to get him to admit it? Maybe i should get a guy to hit on him and set him up. Mean...but effective. Any advice happily received....
  23. I posted in this forum because I thought someone here might notice if what I'm about to tell you are signs of an impending break-up. My boyfriend and I have been in a long-distance relationship for 3 years now, and these past few months have taken a turn for the worst. All of a sudden I believe he's purposely trying to make me jealous. For instance, he jokes about how he would marry Paris Hilton for he money, tries to make me jealous of this maid in his building we have never met named Martha - how? well he wonders what she thinks of his place and what kind of person she thinks he is.. weird, but I just laugh. He also mentioned that a girl from his distant past, who he taught to skate, has emailed him and wants to get together - so he says. Oh, and he also mentioned, off-handedly that he would like to have a threesome with another girl. I laughed and said no way, and asked how he would like it if I wanted a threesome with another guy... he didn't like that too much. Now I understand that these things seem small, but over the 3 years we've been together he has never thrown anything in my face like this. I know I'm not a jealous person by nature, but he is making me feel insecure. Is it because he wants to scare me off and break-up with me? Obviously I'm not in the catagory of someone he wants to marry someday right? Is this the beginning of the end? I love him and this hurts a lot. Stasia
  24. i am a 23 yr old bi-sexual women. For the last three years i have been involved in a serious and monogomous relationship with a man 10 yrs older than myself. We just had our second child in august of 06. This is, in my mind, the perfect man for me. A while after we began our relationship, i confided in him that i had been in a few lesbian relationships prior to my relationship with him. He, like most men found this to be a huge turn on. He never really brought it up much until a few months ago. During sex we like to talk dirty to each other, actually its more his thing, but i enjoy it too. Anyways, he started saying things in reference to a threesome. At first it bothered me and actually turned me off during sex bc although i had been with women and am attracted to them, i have never had a threesome or wanted to. I'm kind of a one on one kinda gal. I like intamicy. The only time he brings it up is while we are having sex. But he is sooo adamit about it. I have stsrted playing along with this in bed, it really turns him on and i am by nature an overly compensating pleaser, kinda passive type. sometimes he says he wants to have sex with the other girl,( when we're having sex) and that bothers me. So i guess my question is, should i do this for him? Or will it ruin our relationship. I really love him and i want our relationship to last. This is important to me also bc we have children together now. But even though i enjoy women, i don't know how i would handle seeing him with someone else. I would appreciate any male or female advice, thanks!
  25. This is a tale with quite a bit of history, so I will try and briefly summarise first. However, I must warn that this is not a tale for people with conservative ideas about life and love! This whole sorry tale started when I was sixteen, I came out to my best friend and a few months later in a fit of drunken stupidity I told her I was in love with her. She let me down quite gently as, at the time she didn't think she could be in a relationship with another woman, and we continued being friends. However, I have never (even after six years) quite gotten over her. The friendship was fine, I still loved her, but knew I would never get to be with her and I gradually became able to deal with it. Things, however, were soon to change. Three years ago, on the night before I went to uni, I had a threesome with her and her soon to be husband. This brought all my feelings back upto the surface. Since then we have had quite frequent encounters and gradually, I was again able to deal with the fact that I should be happy she loved me enough to share something so intimate with me. Now, the pertinent part of the tale; on Saturday, I had a, drunken, conversation with her husband. He said it was plainly obvious that we both had feelings that went way beyond friendship and that we should talk about the situation when we were sober as he wouldn't mind if she had a relationship with me. I dismissed the idea as I thought I would never get what I wanted out of that sort of relationship. However, since saturday I havn't been able to stop thinking 'what if'? I spoke to her by text message yesterday telling her I couldn't stop thinking about it even though I know it's a bad idea. She said she was ignoring everything (just what is that supposed to mean?) adn that she didn't want me to get hurt as she didn't think she could give me what I wanted out of a that sort of relationship as her husband would always come first. I am not pleased with the outcome and I don't think she is either. I really don't know what to do next. I think she wants to make the whole thing go away as although she has feelings for me she is too scared of taking a risk and one of us getting hurt. So, my questions are: * Can this sort of thing ever work? * What should I do next? * If you are a husband who has been in this situation could you deal with the fact that your wife was sleeping with someone else?
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