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  1. clodhopper
    I agree -- the flowers are definitely him trying to get you back. It's nice that he was concerned you were sick, but flowers are what your boyfriend gives you, not your ex. If you're really uncomfortable with the situation, you should probably talk to him and lay down the rules. He needs to know you're serious and you need him to respect that. If not, cut him loose.
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    Give it some time, and then maybe contact him if it's still bugging you. If possible, I would try to find out if he's with that girl still... do you have any mutual friends? Or any way of finding this out?
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    I agree -- I think if she stops talking to you because you're being honest then that's kinda stupid. I dunno though for sure, it depends on each individual situation. Another poster said that maybe she doesn't know how much she's hurting you, like maybe she assumes you're past it too and you guys are both just having some fun... so I would definitely talk to her. Yes it's a risk you have to take in case she stops talking to you... but what you're doing isn't healthy for you and it will only get worse. Good luck
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    It seems as if he misses you somewhat since you guys haven't talked in a while before this phone call. However, be careful! It MIGHT be that he's keeping his options open for when this girl isn't around anymore. Make sure that if he does want to get back together, he proves that he likes you... and you're not just someone he'll settle for.
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    my ex said the same thing when we broke up 4 months ago - that he wanted to stay friends. we were in different cities though so it was very difficult to actually be friends. now we're back in the same city and the second time i saw him we had a talk and he said he really cared about me and wanted to get our friendship back and see where that takes us. i'm frustrated though cuz i feel like hes not putting in any effort in... maybe its just too soon, i dunno.. maybe i just have to give it some time (since that talk was only a week ago) but sometimes i feel like he doesnt care, even though he really seemed to care when we talked... i'm not sure what to do, if u have any thoughts... but yeah just know you're not alone. give it some time. if the friendship is meant to be, i guess it will happen
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    you just have to be honest with him then if you really dont want him in your life, or maybe he got the message i dunno. but it does seem like he feels like he made a mistake and he wants you back in his life... your call
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    hey phoenix, i sent you a PM instead of posting a really long message here.. you said to get back to you to let you know my thoughts. so please check it! thanks! - clodhopper
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    That's kinda what I'm working on too. I want my ex to see that I'm my own person, that I'm doing well without him, that I have my own life and my own happiness, and that I'm an independent person. If you ever want to talk, feel free to PM me!
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    I disagree. I don't think a breakup has to necessarily be forever, and I don't think it means the person necessarily is giving up on you if they break up with you. There are so many reasons for people breaking up with others, so I don't think it's fair to say that necessarily means the dumper is giving up on the dumpee. And I think if the future looks bright and you think you have a chance, why not try to win back your ex?? Especially in a situation such as of the original poster, it sounds as if this girl is serious. My best friend was in the same situation about a year and a half ago - she broke up with her guy to experience dating other guys, only to discover that she felt uneasy when other guys hit on her... and she discovered it was meant to be with her boyfriend. They got back together and have been together for 3 years as of November. Just thought I'd give you that perspective. Of course nobody knows, but being a romantic... and being really hopeful in terms of my own situation... I would suggest living life for yourself for now, not having any expectations for the future... and who knows what will happen good luck!
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    CAFEMCYC -- Congratulatons!!! That's awesome Although it's rare, I always love to hear those success stories. Thanks. Thanks to everyone for replying - keep it up if anyone has anything else to say. I'm just really messed up right now with feelings for my ex, and just wondering if love CAN in fact be rekindled. One of the previous posters said that the hopeless romantic in them always wants to believe that any kind of love can come back no matter the circumstances, and being a hopeless romantic myself I would agree in my case, it wasn't abuse or anything... so that's why I'm agreeing. We were very in love once upon a time... read my previous posts and let me know what you think, thanks
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    haha I'm just off to class now but I would suggest going to search and searching for me under username and reading some of my previous posts, unless you want me to write it all out again! lemme know... thanks so much for replying by the way
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    doesnt sound like shes pregnant... a lot of girls have scares from time to time. but yeah just get her to take a pregnancy test or see her doctor if you're still worried. but the symptoms just seem to be normal period symptoms.. good luck
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    Hey everyone, I was wondering if love can return... like if two people break up, can they fall back in love and be together again? If anyone has been through this situation, I'd really love to hear about it. Or just any opinions. Thanks.
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    I agree! You can't make someone your entire world. I actually made the mistake of that, and after a hard breakup, it's difficult to build my own life again without him. Don't worry though, you are SO young. You shouldn't be stressing out so much about this. Just try calling him and talking to him. Or when he comes back and you see him, talk to him then. I know it's hard, but nobody here can know for sure if he's planning on dumping you, or if he's just super busy. If in the case it does turn out that he breaks up with you... I agree with the previous poster -- you're so young and you'll move on and have much better relationships. You have so much more of your life ahead of you. Good luck
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    I personally don't swallow... but I'm not against it, just haven't done it yet. Just do what's best for you!
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    I agree -- dont worry until you're in a relationship with someone you're in love with. Sex IS a lot better when it's in a loving relationship.
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    I agree. You have to ask her, or just experiment to see what she's into. It is really different from person to person, so just see how it goes
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    I agree! As sad as it might be after what you've been through with him, sending him out on his own... you can't just keep him around cuz he doesnt have a place to live. Be strong and go through with it if its the right thing for you good luck
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    Honestly, I don't think you CAN enforce and use NC when you're living together! You're in the same house... it's impossible to have NC. Sure you can not talk, but you'll see each other, and that's hard still. Could one of you go stay with a friend for a while so things can cool off??
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    i agree. you have to be honest with him. its the best thing you can do for him, and the best thing you can do for yourself. hopefully he wont bug you when he gets the message and gets some closure. just be honest and tell him exactly how you feel. he is emailing you being all friendly in the hopes of getting back together - thats exactly what i did to my ex when we broke up. i tried to act like friends and just chat with him "normally" in hopes that he would miss me and stuff and we'd get back together. you really just need to lay out your feelings on the table..its hard but its just what you have to do. good luck
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    Mike, You need to tell her what you just told us. You need to be honest and tell her you're there for her, and you're sorry for the times in the past in which you may have let her down. Just try your best to get her to believe you. One of the best ways you can do that is the next time she has a problem, really be there for her and prove it to her that you're reliable. As you said, your relationship depends on it. Good luck - Sarah
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    Yes I agree -- if you're gonna stay with your girlfriend, stop flirting with your ex. If you want to pursue getting back together with your ex, then you need to let your current girlfriend know. It's just not fair any other way. Good luck
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    Put yourself in his position. You're stuck at work and he calls you up and says he's going out with a bunch of girls to do something you wanted to do with him together as a couple. I think in that case, I understand how he's feeling... and I know I would feel the same. Jealousy is a problem, and whether or not you hanging out with these guys means more than just friends, your boyfriend is bound to be uncomfortable with it. And I can see his point. I would suggest in the future waiting to do those kind of things when he is free too, if you've talked about wanting to do it together. And reassure him about the guys good luck!
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    I would say every week or maybe every second week, but always about really stupid little things that don't matter at all in the big picture. I have a tendency to just get worked up over things that don't matter, and I get really emotional, and that's what usually makes us argue. We tend to just take space from each other for a while to cool down, and then one of us will end up realizing they were wrong and apologizing for what happened. We've never let it go on for a long time without resolving it, but we're both really stubborn strong people... so it's really necessary for us to take space and cool off. As for when we had our first argument, pretty soon. We got together and were long distance right away, so we argued a lot when we got in bad moods about missing each other. But in general... no big problems. Good luck!
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    I really agree. You have to leave behind your past and accept it what worked out and what didn't, before you can try to have a new healthy relationship. This is what I'm in the process of doing right now, working on accepting my past so I can move on to the future. I also agree with another previous poster who said be yourself. That's really what you have to do and I think a lot of people make the mistake of being someone they're not so someone else will like them. But in the long run, we all know this doesn't work...
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