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  1. Ecko809
    Can I take you out?!
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    Well dude, I hate to say it, but you asked for this. You let yourself get close to Tina which in turn, costed you your relationship. You cant tell your ex that Tinas brother isnt the guy for her, sure your ego is hurt, but who knows what she wants better than her? I wouldnt have done the dancing at the party, simply because your ex thought she really liked you. Can you blame her for being mad? I knoq youre probably feeling really bad about this, but you did nothing to avoid it. I know better than most that when a girls are overly attentive to you, guys tend to eat that up. The idea of beating up Tinas brother might feel nice, but thats the wrong move. Not only would that make your ex less fond of you, but its def not the most mature way to cope. You gave his sister 'extra attention' and hes doing that to your ex. Doesnt feel too nice right? Give it some time, dont go beat the kid up or try telling your ex who not to date, chicks dont dig that. Just my two cents...
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    I really wish I could wink. When I try I look like a moron having facial seizures
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    thanks for the replies. In the last few days ive been working on ME. Ive stopped worrying about the future so much and decided that I need to take this day, by day, by day. I am doing much better now, I even went on a date last night with this girl I met and had a wonderful time. As much as this hurt me, its making me a better person. If in a month, or 2 months, or two years she comes back then its meant to be, unless Ive already found a new special someone =D. We had a very good breakup, as odd as that sounds. She wasnt just a girlfriend, but a best friend, and she says the same for me. We parted as friends, with no bitterness to each other which is a very rare thing. As for now, Im going to live my life, and see what else is out there for me. Who knows, maybe she'll see that I can be happy without her and see that I am my own person and want to get back together. But for now, now is my time
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    Well, I recently split up with my girlfriend of 3 years (will be 3 years on valentines day.) Her and I had a very relaxed relationship. We met at a party and the relationship setteld us both down. Wed go out to dinner every now and then, catch a movie here and there but mainly just hung out together and did our routine which we both enjoyed. We agreed to break up to see other people, but on very good terms. We have dated mostly through highschool and some college. I asked her how she wanted this to play out and she said 'I have it in my mind that you and I will see other people, and realize that we are meant to be.' She also said 'I just want to make sure that what we have what we want and can be at ease when we make that life long commitment.' Is this just a load of BS and she was looking for an out and trying to keep me around as a fail safe plan? or is this real? Should I do some NC and see if she comes back? I know you should never take that step (engagement or marriage) without being 110% sure, so guys, gals, please give me some advice!
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    Well, I recently split up with my girlfriend of 3 years (will be 3 years on valentines day.) Her and I had a very relaxed relationship. We met at a party and the relationship setteld us both down. Wed go out to dinner every now and then, catch a movie here and there but mainly just hung out together and did our routine which we both enjoyed. We agreed to break up to see other people, but on very good terms. We have dated mostly through highschool and some college. I asked her how she wanted this to play out and she said 'I have it in my mind that you and I will see other people, and realize that we are meant to be.' She also said 'I just want to make sure that what we have what we want and can be at ease when we make that life long commitment.' Is this just a load of BS and she was looking for an out and trying to keep me around as a fail safe plan? or is this real? Should I do some NC and see if she comes back? I know you should never take that step (engagement or marriage) without being 110% sure, so guys, gals, please give me some advice!
  7. Ecko809
    confidence is VERY attractive
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    I know my ex goes to a gay bar with all her friends a few times a week. Ive been to a few gay bars myself before too. She told me that she just goes out and has a good time with her friends and that no lesbians even hit on her because they all know shes not really gay. She said shes inlove with me and needs to see what else is out there before she can make that life long commitment to me. Should I feel like shes just looking for a better deal? Like the grass may be greener cliche? I know youre not supposed to get married if you ever have any doubts and its bad to ever wonder 'what if'. Shes never been in a serious relationship like this before, as weve dated all through highschool plus some so I can halfway understand it. I came close last night to calling her and telling her to tell me that she never wanted to pick this up again, just so I could hear her say it to be a tool in moving on. Im so sorry you are going through this Shane, I know how hard it is as Im sure I am feeling much the same things you are. If you want to contact me PM me.
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    so its been a few days and my ex and i still talk. Its so hard for me to not call her everytime i think about her. I miss her so much. She sends me mixed signals and its really starting to effect me. She came over the other night to talk, and we talked for 2 hours. She ended up getting all over me, trying to make out and all this stuff. Now shes treating me like im doing something wrong. She does stuff like, 'hey ill call you right back' and never call. We text message each other a few times a day but i cant stop feeling like shes just messing with me. She says she misses me and shes just doing what people her age do (clubs bars stuff like that). Im so confused and hurt
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    good luck sasarai
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    Hey man, Youve gotta keep your head up. Like youve said, youre only 18 with the rest of your life ahead of you. Think of it like this. This girl has no idea that shes missing out on a really good guy. Thats her loss, not yours. There is so many girls out there looking for guys like you. You said that youre not the greatest looking guy, but hey, none of us are perfect. Work on your confidence. Once you are confident in yourself, you wont be as shy and meeting girls will come alot easier for you. Ive been there and since my 'shy guy' days, ive come along way. Dont waste your time worrying what shes doing, thinking, or anything like that. Shes not doing the same for you apparently. As much as it hurts, its something you have to do. Best of luck to you and good luck. Theres millions of girls out there, dont get hung up on the one that made the mistake of letting you pass her by.
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    that post made me
  13. Ecko809
    Hey, 6 and 1/2 years is quite a serious relationship. Although I have never been in a long distance relationship before, I can only imagine how hard that must be. How often do you see him? Being a guy i know the thought of getting married freaked me out but I overcame it. If he loves you like you love him, im sure hes thought of the idea before, guys just dont come out and want to talk about what type of flowers they want and stuff. He stays with you for a reason, you guys have a past together and that probably means alot to him too. Ask him if he thinks you are part of his future (as a wife, fiancee ect) and take it from there.
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    Hey, Your husband sounds like a jerk, no offense. I tend to flirt with girls at my job, even though I am in a relationship. Although I've never let it get out of hand, I still do it on a daily basis. Dont get me wrong, what he said to you was complete BS. Havent you ever been overly friendly with a co-worker? or just some attractive guy youve seen at the mall? What I am trying to say is a bit of flirting isnt bad, its nature. But how he told you about things, and the issue with his friends hating you but would love her is just wrong. How would he feel if you told him of some new stud at your job thats just waiting to take you out? He wouldnt like that, he wouldnt like it at all if you broke it into terms like he did to you. He needs to know that what he said to you hurt you a great deal and that simply chalking it up to 'its in the past, let it go' wont cut it. Those types of wounds fester if not fixed right away. I suggest that you sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel and try to work on it. Does he always put you down with comments like that?
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    It sounds to me like he doesnt care much for himself. You cant love someone who doesnt love themselves because you always get screwed over, trust me ive tried. A friend can only do so much, and you can only help the willing. If this guy is doing drugs, try to talk him through it, if he doesnt have a job, encourage him to get one. But youre trying to be a friend, his parents should be telling him that stuff. If youre really worried about him, try talking to his parents, maybe they have no clue to whats going on.
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