Dead End

We've been apart since the second week of December. No, I have no feeling for Tina either and I am way done with that and all. Tina's brother as well did not know about our relationship either. My EX still calls me, instant messages me, and all. She knows I made a mistake, and learned from it, so I don't push it anymore, and I lean away talking about us unless she brings it up. I am doing my own thing, but still paying attention to her. NO contact doesn't work, because enventually one of us calls one another. We still talk, still fun, but she maybe confused. Any tips for me?

I'd like to add that she has bipolar feelings. Also, she gets real mad when I'm super depressed. I know that this other guy is not for her at all, and I tried talkiing some sense to her, just like other people have as well. Selfish nonetheless. Tina still talks to me and is probably the only one who gets down when I'm down. Also, we are Muslim, not same entinicity though, I'm from eastern europe and her from southwest asia. So basically, if family knew, she would be considered lustful person / (girls who goes with alot of guys) having one boyfriend, but having two will literally end her life with familyr. She knows I'm the better choice, especially reality wise. Also, Tina's brother is 7 months younger then her. I am older then all. And sex is no issue, cause we are virgins..sadly. I want her back cause she was different, and I wouldn't be hanging around if I knew there was something. I think I covered everything...

My girlfriend and I had been together for 1 years and 1 month. We had an awesome relationship, very loving and fun, best year of my life. Problem was, no one knew about us, it was secretive, 10 people knew about us at most. It was still great, she was different, as was I, we clicked and we ended up beingtogether without either of us officially asking each other out. Anyways, my birthday was in October and suddenly this younger girl came into our lives. I began to become great friends with her friends, and eventually I was invited along with them all the time. So this girl is pretty flirty and loud, but she flirted with me. My girlfriend told me about her story, how she had a rough life, mom hates her blah blah, etc etc. So I felt bad and tried being a little more nice to that girl to show some hope, but maybe I was too nice. She started writing me notes, e-mails, always trying to bring me up when I was down, text messages, etc etc. When my girlfriend heard this, she went nuts, probably heart broken. That continued into December. My girlfriend invited me, my sisters, and all her friends to her employer's work party. At the party, I broke the ice and got the dancing going, the first slow song, my girlfriend was busy talking and getting drinks, so I saw that one girl (lets call her Tina) looking a little down, so I was like wanna dance. I could immediately tell my girlfriend was mad cause she ignores me. The last dance, my girlfriend danced with Tina's brother, which didn't bother me. That night, I talked to my girlfriend and she wanted to end it, so I could go with Tina. I was like hell no, I would never. Tina is exactly like me, same interests and all, and my girlfriend was the same yet different, very much my taste. Two days later, she asked for a "break" so I agreed cause in past she seemed she wanted some time to herself so I was like okay. Later in the day, she said she wated to break up, I tried talking about it, but she wouldn't listen so I was like okay. Yes I cried my butt off. So, for that week, Tina (who didn't and still doesn't know about my relationship) seemed to talk to me and want me more. My EX says I asked her for help to get me with Tina, when in fact I never did. Within the next week, I found out Tina didn't like me, so that was case closed, didn't even sadden, just made a new friend. So, I gave my EX sometime, eventually Tina's brother started being extra nice to her. He made her stuff, notes, visits her at work, etc etc you know the drill. I got jealous asked her about it, she said it was nothing, but then something else would happen and I'd be like WTF. So, with Tina now, I rarely talk to her and really don't want to be anywhere near her, but my EX recently told me she had feeling for her brothers before too and wants to see what could happen. Also, my sister had feelings for Tina's brother and he showed some interest too, but at the sametime he was chasing my EX. My EX knows this, and gets mad, irritated, then eventually calls me back talking sweet. She says she has no feeling for me like love, but she cares for me, and loves me as friend. I told her its not like we were getting married tomorrow, we have chemistry, we can make it work. I admit I asked for a second chance, which I havent gotten yet or don't even know if I will. Now, I keep thinking about how I wanna bash that kids head, and it makes her sad that I get hurt when he does stuff and all. I literally starting to get gray hairs and I'm only 18!!! So she still calls me, says she doesn't wanna talk to me, then eventually calls me again, still messages me online, and texts my phone, and talks to me in school like we were still together. I have done everything possible from making things, joking around, being cool, moving on, giving space, but I do not know what to do right now. Any tips?