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    thx caterina for writing... ummm well as sad as it is, he saw it as just a fun night flirting, he didnt see it that i like him or anything like that. so he didnt see a problem, it was just fun... to me i was wondering what he was thinking... to him he assumed i was just flirting or i would have said something. so i guess it was kinda a misunderstanding. anyway i'm just glad we didnt actually have sex... then there coulda been regrets we ended our conversation well after some lengthy arguing and being pissed at each other... i told him that he probably knew how i felt about things and i didnt want things to be weird cuz he doesnt feel the same way. he was sweet and just joked, "well now you know that i dont want anything right now, so hopefully you wont flirt next time" i laughed! i dunno i guess all in all it's ok. we're still good good friends of course. i'll be seeing him tomorrow with a couple other friends, so that should be fun. and for now i guess i have to try to think of him as just a friend so i dont drive myself crazy!!!!!
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    thanks to those who read my post... anyway i talked to him. so i dont really need replies anymore.
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    ok so one of my closest guy friends i really like him. in the summer a few months ago i let my feelings out, he didnt reject me, but he said he wasnt over his ex and it wouldnt be fair to start dating again... yet he said there was a possibility of us dating sometime down the road maybe. it was never brought up again, i came back to school in september, saw him again, talk all the time, hang out lots... still like him lots this weekend we were drinking with a couple other friends and after they left one thing led to another and we started making out... we slept in the same bed that night, fooling around everytime we woke up throughout the night at one point he said "what are we doing??? this is insane!!" but not meanly, but i kinda took it the wrong way... he said it was weird cuz it was unexpected but weird in a good way. anyway more fooling around and stuff, cuddling, sleeping... in the morning he asked if i was still mad at him and i said no, and we fooled around more and it was just so comfortable to be so close to him. we havent really talked much since then (it was saturday night and sunday morning)... and when we have talked briefly it hasnt been about that at all. NOW i need advice ---- do i bring it up? do i wait for him to bring it up? do i tell him how i felt? ask him how he felt??? i need help! i'm going crazy!!!! thanks everyone, write back... on here or email doesnt matter
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    From what I've read, it sounds like she was really busy with class all day and the christening and everything... that conversation seemed to go well, she seemed to be sorry and wanted to see you again. Just wait to see if she messages you. I wouldn't say it's a "red flag" necessarily, she's just busy
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    Just be open about it and ask her how she feels.
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    If you haven't gone out with her and you're not really good friends, then I wouldn't get her anything. If you like her as much as it seems, then just ask her out sometime or something. A postcard is a possible idea...
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    Ok in response to your problems: 1) I wouldn't worry too much about the fact that neither of you said in person that you liked each other. You guys know each other likes you, and both of you seem interested, so just wait and see if he has a plan for what you guys should do when you hang out, otherwise take initiative and tell him your ideas. Just have a good time. 2) Umm I wouldn't tell your brother just yet, if you don't know what's gonna happen. But don't hide it either if something does happen. 3) Think of a bunch of things you want to find out about him, and have them in mind when you hang out. If there's a lag in the conversation, just ask him something random! I find that works most of the time -- plus you're dating, so the whole point is to learn about the other person. 4) Tell this guy to respect your dad more. Remind him that your family is important to you or something, and if you're important to him, he'll do something to change his ways. Good luck!
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    i agree with the body language thing. let her know that you like her, maybe flirt a bit, hang out, have a good time with her. but i wouldn't make a big move on her if i were you until she's available. having a boyfriend in the picture could really complicate things.
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    I agree with emcat -- follow your heart and go for the girl that you really want to be with. If you stick with the other, you're leading her on and you could hurt her in the end.
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    Wait for her message. You're already doubting how interested she is, so wait it out to see if she makes the next move.
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    If this were me, I don't think I'd be very comfortable dating a guy whose heart is with someone else. Maybe tell him you can't do it while he's not over this other chick, and move on and see some other guy.
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    Yup I've let it go. He didn't call this week, so whatever. He wasn't into it, so there's no point in even thinking about it anymore I guess. He could have just been too busy but it's been a long while to not be in contact, so whatever. Thanks for your advice though guys!
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    Well it's been 2 weeks since the date... so I'm giving up.
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    No he isn't married. His girlfriend and him broke up before they even knew she was pregnant. When they found out they tried to make it work, but they couldn't and soon broke up again. The kid is 3 and the guy is 26.
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    We met downtown, which I know sounds sketchy (I thought so too!) but he called me a couple days later and we talked several times on the phone, like 4 or 5, and it went really well. Then we went out a week ago last Friday and it was awesome. And when I saw him at the store with his kid he seemed really happy to see me, and wanted to make plans to hang out again. What attracted me to him in the first place?? Well he was a nice guy that came over to talk to me, and he was cute. On the phone I got to know him a bit more and he seemed really nice. And when we went out, he was a real gentleman, really sweet, and we had a lot of fun!
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    Yes but female multiple orgasming is much more common. A lot of women can do it actually that I know...
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    can you give some more info on the situation? i'm kinda confused to be honest... what do you mean she wants to be loyal with her parents?
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    Yes I can call him. But I'm gonna feel like a huge idiot if he's not interested anymore and that's the reason he hasn't called. And I won't really know that for sure if I call him. That's why I was hoping he would show his interest by calling me. If I do call him, he could very well seem like he's interested and stuff, but I won't know if it's genuine. Do you know what I mean??
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    no i mean i saw him last monday and he said he was gonna call me to make plans, and i havent heard from him and now its sunday. i'm just pissed cuz i spent so much time wondering if this guy and all his baggage was worth seeing again, and i decided yes. and now it seems like hes just totally uninterested
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    I've decided this guy is a prick, and I regret that I spent so much time wondering if he was worth going out with a second time. What an jerk for not calling me back. He led me on and he's such a player, and this is the last thing I need right now. arrrggggghhhhh GUYS!!!! (sorry just needed to vent)
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    Alright well I made the decision that I would go out with him again to get a better feeling of it would work out or not, or if we hit it off again. BUT I saw him Monday at the store... and haven't heard from him and it's now SUNDAY. So I'm thinking that he's just not interested. I'm pissed cuz we hit it off last time and had a great night. SO I'm kinda mad right now, and kinda down... at least I don't have to think about it anymore... but it sucks cuz I kinda decided that all the baggage would be worth it cuz he was a nice guy... apparently I was WRONG!
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    Yeah I figured he was probably caught up with his son. I didn't think it was because he wasn't into me, because we had a lot of fun when we went out and left on good terms, and he seemed happy to see me when we bumped into each other at the store last week. I guess I was just looking forward to him calling because he mentioned hanging out during the week and said he would call, so I expected him to. I'd like to call him... but yeah maybe I should wait and see if he calls me - that way I know if he's sincerely interested and was just busy. BUT I don't know when his son is leaving...
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    hey guys, so i went out with this guy last friday night and it went really well. we had an awesome time, he said he wanted to go out again, and i said i wanted to too. it was great overall, went surprisingly well. i then saw him on monday at the grocery store with his son (yes he told me about his son, doesnt live with him, just down visiting for the week) and we talked and it was great again. he asked if i wanted to hang out this week and i said yeah and he said he'd call me. we left on good terms, it was so nice to see him. anyway now it's friday night and he hasn't called, and i know most of you will probably say CALL HIM... but i was just wondering: --> could it possibly be that now that i've met his son and stuff, does he wanna see if i contact him to show interest even though he has a son?? like prolly cuz a lot of girls have been driven away when they find that out, which is understandable i dunno i can't help thinking that he doesn't wanna see me again for some reason just cuz i think if he had wanted to hang out he would have called me. but i know he was prolly also busy this week with his son visiting... but he DID say we should all hang out together, and i said that'd be good, and our date went well and stuff.... any thoughts????? thanks!
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    sisterlynch what do you mean "ask him to define himself... ask so many questions that he is caught off guard. don't fall in love too quickly" ?? someone asked how old the kid is -- he's 3 years old and lives with the mom. the guy goes to visit often but the kid doesn't live with him all the time. does that make any difference? make things any easier?? as for the kid liking me, i'm usually pretty good with kids, so i think if i were to be around at all while he was, it would be okay. i love kids, and i'm usually pretty good with them. i haven't gone out with him a second time yet... i saw him a couple days at the grocery store with his son (who is staying with him this week) and he said maybe we could hang out this week. that's the update. any more suggestions?? PLEASE - both success and failed stories appreciated --> just nervous cuz i've never been in this situation before!
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    Hey guys, if anyone can give me their opinion please do!! thanks! Well I met this guy a couple weeks ago when I was downtown, gave him my number, we've talked several times on the phone in the last bit. Good conversation. Nice guy. Went out Friday night. On the way driving in his car he told me that he has a kid, which kinda took me off guard. I already knew he was older (he's 26 and I'm 19, almost 20) but I didn't know he had a kid. Anyway just wondering what everyone's thoughts on this situation is?? - Can age-gap relationships work? - What is it like to date someone that has a kid? anyone gone through this - do these situations tend to work out long-term or not? just worried about falling for him and getting mixed up in this situation which is kinda complicated... and i dont know how it would be longterm. but should i not be worrying about that now and jsut living in the moment?? HELP GUYS!!!!!
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