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I hate this situation. Here's the story: Recently, I found out that a girl I know has liked me for a while. I ask her out and we go out on a date. We have an ok time, but nothing spectacular. She is still very interested and wants to go out again. We probably will... On the other hand, there is a girl I've known for a while who I still have feelings for. I've felt the same way about her since the first time I spoke with her. I think about her a lot; she gives me that kind of "good" queezy feeling in my stomach (stuff like that). Every time we talk or just look at each other, the feelings just grow.... So, do I go with what seems to be the sure thing or the one that I think I have the strongest feelings for? The problem is that these girls know each other, so that creates the obvious problems. I don't know if I should just take what I've got or tell the other one how I feel about her....

Tomorrow is D-day. Anybody got any advice?

Thanks. I was kind of worried because I thought I surprised her when I asked and she just said yes. I might make sure she actually wants to go first...

OK a while back I asked for advice about asking out a girl I work with. Last week, she was supposed to go to a play with her family but she was sick and didn't go. I asked if she wanted to go with me sometime if she didn't have anyone else to go with and she said yes. The only problem was neither of us had a time we could go last week. Which brings us to this week. She hasn't mentioned it since I asked. I think I kind of surprised her when I asked her. Should I just bring it up and see if she wants to do something or just not say anything and let her bring it up? I still can't get any kind of idea about if she'd even be interested in me. Any ideas on that? Thanks for the help.

Thanks for the advice so far. Things have changed a bit. She's going to be there a little longer than previously though and we'll be working closer together. I haven't asked her yet. I haven't really had a chance to talk with her at length and even in the short conversations I just start to ask and then say "Never mind" or say it was something else. I know that's not good. Its strange, I haven't been this nervous since I asked a girl to prom about 4 years ago. She's just so hard to read. Basically, I have this weekend to get my crap straight and ask her next week. I don't know why I can't just do it. Wish me luck...

There is a girl I work with who I've grown to like over the past few months. I'm thinking about asking her out which brings up a dozen questions. I'll take care of the obvious stuff first. We don't work directly together and she is switching jobs (to a different store) in a few weeks anyway so I don't think this would harm the work environment. Basically, if I sat down and made a list up qualities that I would look for in a girl, she would have all of them (that's a first). She loves kids (I'm headed into teaching), she's funny, family is important to her, not to mention the fact that she is stunningly attractive. I have some experience with girls, but none like this girl. Now for the questions: **I'm not really even sure if she would be interested. She always smiles and says hello and we talk frequently and we kid around. I can't tell if she's interested and flirting or just being nice. Any ideas? **As I said before, she is amazingly attractive. I'm no Quasimodo, but I almost think she is out of my league. Should I consider that or just plow on and deal with that later? **I'm about as shy a guy as you could hope to find. I'm at ease in just regular conversation, but when it's time to do the asking, I tend to turn into a stuttering 12 year old. Is being shy a huge negative to girls? (no girl in the past has said anything but I still wonder) **Any tips on flirting with her to see if I can get a better feel for the situation? **Would it be better to "feel around" for some more time or just suck it up and ask her out? Thanks so much to anyone who can help.