Driftin Spirit

Hey all, through my short life so far I thought i had seen and heard most of what is out there to do with regards to things that can go wrong with girls, but I have a new one. Let me explain, I am in my senior year of school and asked my best friend to the formal and she was like hell yeah, then she changed she began tip-toeing around me so i asked her what was wrong and she told me there was a lot going on in her life and she just needed space so i gave it to her, i refrained from calling her or asking her out and all appeared good. About a month ago though she chucks a major fit at me and says thatI just dont get it and just to leave her alone, to make matters worse she accuses me of being a stalker even though the times she said i was stalking her i was at work or in another country. So after this I was ofcourse a little upset but moved on. I figured considering that she would not talk to me, respond to any messages, answer her phone or return my emails she wanted nothing more to do with me, so i asked another one of my friends to the formal and she agreed to go. The last part of my story is the most disturbing apart from the stalker accusation. Earlier tongiht I got a message from my original formal date telling me that she had bought her formal dress and I was speechless. I already knew she had been saying some unpleasant things about me behind my back so I decided to stay faithful to my new partner and rang my first date. She said she that she knew she said she just wanted me to stay out of her life forever but she didnt mean it. My question is how was I meant to know that she "didnt mean" it is she never answered my phone calls or would talk to me? The fact that she is saying i am a stalker and generally has treated me so poorly for the past two months doesnt reflect that she still would want to spend an entire evening with me, did i do the right thing by keeping my second date or have i just screwed everything up? cheers

It really interesting to see some people's opinions on the matter. I believe honsetly though there is a very small difference between a friendship and a relaionship. In both you are there for each other and care about each other and dont like seeing each other getting hurt in any way. When it all comes fown to it basically the only difference is the physical aspect of it all and that really is about it. A second finishing note i disagree with anyone who says a guy and a girl cannot be just friends. If this was true than you could not have any female friends and a girl frined at the same time and there are cuntless examples of this in the world. So thats my two cents!

Well if you were that young still go up to her and talk to her but do it in a more cautious note, nearly so that you are amazed you have met her again. Inviting her to get some coffee or something to catch up on the past years. But remember a lot may have changed since you last met so be careful.

Well dude firstly you dotn ask a girl what her personality is just because it would be a tad freaky. You will find that she will show you what her personality is like as you get closer to her and she trusts you. As far as your agenda for when you are with her try not to go out there with too much pre-planned stuff in mind it causes you to be tense as there is too much stuff on your mind. Go there by all means with goals to get out of it but dont get to wound up in them.

OOOOOOOOOOO how the male mind works well it is a lot more complex than you might think. In this case he could have asked for your number as a spontanuoes thing, but then later on he could have started thinking bout calling and then kept thinking and if you think too much you are never going to get anything done.... Its the sad truth that overthinking is often the killer of action!

Well it really depends on how your relationship was when she left. If you two were on good terms then yeah id go for it cause she obviously still recognises you and u must have caught her attention. But be careful because you havent seen her for a while dont come on too strongly otherwise you will probably end up scaring her. It will take time to get to know her again and then if you manage to make a relationship out of it go for it... Goodluck man!

I agree with Sadness Creeping in respect to being yourself but remember the type of person u want to flirt with and flirt to their character. Personally I like cheeky smiles and innocent yet provacative contact just to let me know the intentions clearly.

Hi all, Just got a quick situation that I would like some comments on. I am a first year uni student and there is a chick in my tutorial class and she has a boyfriend, but I think she may be interested in me. I think this because she preferred to sit and study with me and didnt care that her boyfriend was not there even though he does the same course. She always laughs at what I say even if I had no intention of doing so. She has gone on numerous walks with me for no real reason and always wants to hang out even when I am doing some of the most boring tasks imaginable. I know that you may think she is just being friendly but she gets disappointed every time I cant come and see her. She was on the verge of tears when I said I couldnt come to her 18th. So c'mon you dont cry if a friend you have known for bout 2 months cant come to your bday. So what do you guys think? I think she is one of the best chicks i have ever met, but dont want to destroy our relationship by making a wrong move on her; so what should I do? Cheers

G' day all Just wondering if i could grab an opinion from anyone who has got enough time to respond. Heres the thing my senior formal is in like 2months and i have already got my date. She is technically a friend but when i asked if she would ever be more she said you never know. So heres where a couple of my questions come in. I am going to buy her a gift and give it to her on the night of the formal when i go to pick her up. What do you all think would be appropriate? I was thinking a nice piece of jewelary. Secondly do you think it would be better to go in a private limo? a limo with some of my mates? or a hot R34 skyline which i can obtain? Thanks for ya time and thoughts

Well c'mon you can't spend 100% of your social time with the same person, plus there are some hings that you want to do with just the guys. I know that my ex would get upset every time i went out with the guys so i had a choice one of them had to go the guys who i had known for 5 years or her who i had known for a year and well it was hard but she had to go think about it man you cant have a chick controlling you for the rest of ya time with her!

I must say I have never really noticed this occurrence but I must say I disagree with it. I would say it is pure coincidence unless you are talking about people who think they are the best looking in the world and are shallow enough to think that they should only be with people who have similar bodies to their own.

Well the truth in the matter is your are jealous beyond belief. I have a few gay friends and all my female friends love them to pieces bbecause they can relate more to them, but that is no reason to be jealous think of how you can benefit from this guy. You can use him to help find out how girls feel about, to give you advice on dating girls and well if you are not "streetwise" you only have yourself to blame maybe try reading the newspaper or something but only you can make yourself more streetwise. Remember that you are the only one in control of your life and personality!

This is an odd situation for me, but recently with situations changing i thought i would seek some opions. Anyway there is a girl i work with and she has always flirted with me but she is a bit of flirt anyway. so when valentines day crept around i got a gift which i immediately recognised was from her cause of the handwriting. I then asked her to be my partner for tmy senior formal and she went on and on about how she would love to go but she didn't know why i would to take her out of the rest of my friends. Now where my query comes in is about 3 months ago i expressed my feelings for her and asked if she would ever feel the same way and her response was everything is a possibility, so is she just messing with my mind or feels she isnt good enough to be with me or just confused with herself? Any comments would be appreciated thanks!!!

ok,ok, ok the chemical attraction is triggered by physical senses and the prodominient one is sight sometimes sound. When ya see someone that looks good it trigures a hormonal response through sensory binding in the brain. This causes a release of chemicals which trigger the release of sex hormones causing the above feelings of lust. But this is not attraction this is primal urges... Attraction is a purely mental state which is controlled by the brains memory of the person and perception of them. As for the study into using birds there is no way of telling who ur ciblings are through scent. Chromosomes and genes have no smell that is just crap the only way to detect similar genes and chromosome bands is by using a DNA probe or DNA polymerase then placing it in gel and passing electric current through.

From personal experience with school relationships it can be a very big move but the easiest way to get through it is approach it like a daily conversation you would have with him and before getting involved in anything to detailed just make constant direct eye contact and hopefully he will respond and tell him EXACTLY how u feel and then wellhopefully he will recipricate. As for the movies bad idea i agree with whoever said so in an earlier post but GOOD LUCK to you!!!!