goddess23

as a 17 yr old girl...there is nothing more pleasurable than the kissing and holding and cuddling. to be honest i get MUCH MORE WET from just cuddling and light touching than something more intense. its just that feeling of togetherness...that you want to just touch that person and knowing they want to touch you without getting in your pants. it is wonderful...and its great that you did that. at the same time i realize this is about your ex who you're trying to get back with. lissen...as a girl who went through it best thing to do is EVE IF THERE IS A CHANCE OF GETTING BACK, tell yourself it aint hapening. this way it will be much less pressure and you wont think about it so much and put so much pressure on it. and TRY not to daydream TOO MUCH about this girl...its tough i KNOWW buh tryy

she obviously was hurt by you and wants to try giving you a taste of your own medicine. she feels that she has the right to do a little hurting to you. (i dont know what happened but it seems from your post you were a jerk if you yourself admitted it). so its just part of a little gamee shes interested she just wants to get back on a small scale. if it really bothers you, talk to her and say you want to be exclusive because that really hurt and shell feel special. dont be like i know why you're doing this....NO lol. jsut pretend you're completely oblivous and you've just realized how much she means to you lol.

cum simply isnt tasty. really as long as you keep hygene and your penis is clean dont worry about it. cum has a very strange taste....i cant explain it, its not even sour or bitter just very different. its not the most pleasenet thing lol...but theres no way to change it. apparently drinking or eating very sweet things or being a PUREEE vegertarian but really i think it would take a very dedicated diet like that to make any change.

honestly im 5'7 and weight 115 lbs and i have cellulite...its not bad but i do have it. i reallyyy doubt its diet lol. im a fit person whos young! and most girls have it honestly there are FEW who dont...buh i mean i have it when i flex my butt ya no what i mean lol

even if you dont want it to happen it is NECESSARY to get all those good and bad feelings outttt of the way so that after a bit of healing time you can start fresh and actually have a friendsihp. i really think there are FEW cases you can heal without nc.

woahh this is crazzzy. i think if you cannot communicate with him properly and hes so defensive that really this guy is not mature enough for a real relationship. i think you realllly need to evauluate the situation, and frankly from an OUTSIDE view point, you need to get out of this roller coaster ride that is leading to marriage. because theres a good chance it will lead to divorce. and there are signs that you cannot trust his behavior, you cant be sure hes teeling you the truth and thats a serious problem. i think if you talk to him about htis seriously and he cant give you a confident answer its time to say goodbye.

lol...well you know we all say (as girls in high school at least ) that we would NEVER EVER DATE SOMEONE YOUNGER....i mean right now i would say i would NOTT GO FOR a guy 2 yrs younger than me....however...my bf is in gr 11...im in gr 12 lol. oo btw i told my bf in the flirting stage that he was SOO CUTE ALL THE TIME. he thought i looked at him as a lil boy so he didnt think it was a compliment. but it depends on the girl...give it time look for more concrete signs she lieks you and have conversation about relationsihp. like on msn or whatever be like os you have a bf? n she says no, you say oh how come you're one of the hottest girls in school. lol something like that....see her reaction if she flirts back good sign. however she may not be too itnerested in dating a guy 2 yrs younger, depends...so give it a try nothing to lose. and its not impossible, i admire my bf so much and when i was in gr 9 gr 12 guys asked me out and i turned them down so age is not alwayyyys a big problem

sorry but to be quite frank a good sex life is not enough to hold a relationship together--at least not one of any body. obviously there are problems, and if you find him annoying and what not its really not wroth it to work on the now falling apart sex. i mean maybe you should try relationship conselling or something or have a serious tlak about the realtionship. because it seems that the sex is just the obvious of the consequences of the emotional fallout

ouchhhh this is toughh. wow...well its obvious hes confusssssed. he probably lost feelings because he was maybe feeling smothered. at this point i think you should say that you're not going to engage in couple like things unless your a couple (because to do the friends with benefits is tough). stick to that....tell him thta its fine if its low key i mean you guys are both busy. take it slow go with the flow....obviously he is still a person you can dpeend on right now. just let things flow but dont do anything that you dont feel right about. hes confused....dont force him to say yes (you do not want to live in a fantasy world). i dont know what your living conditions are like i mean are you guys living togeher right now? if not then figure out what he wants and if its not a realtionship establish a lil nc because it is essential if you want to move on and even later become friends. good luckk. updatee!

honestly the age gap thing really to me im being honest the difference between a 16 yr old and an 18 year old is close to nothing! i mean maybe generally speaking with age guys are more mature but not necessarily...you girls are fooling yourselves lol. i mean even me, i am often attracted to older guys because i am very mature but i still follow my heart (ended up with a younger guy). and as someone mentioned, often age gaps present obstacles that make a relationship near impossible! and even though you might get along with someone who is older better than someone your age the obstacles will cause problems. for example, say a 16 year old boy with a license has say a good bit of freedom while a 14 year old girl wouldnt be allowed to get involvedi n something like that. and thtas just a 2 year diff. really in high school a small age difference will often present its problems. so girls are fooling themselves with the supposed benefits...i agree there are. however there are benefits to dating guys your age as well as guys younger than you, its all about finding the right person. so i agree that in some cases, its actually an immature way of thinking to feel that you should really "aim" for an older guy

hey. for the most part i agree. look, as a teenage i see and know for a fact that probably 95% of those who say i love you dont know what they're talking about (in high school). but i am someone who is veryy mature and ican say i have loved. TOO MANY ppl misunderstand those feeligns of infactuation (which are the most intense as teens and thats why sometimes the heartache we young ppl feel is somtimes worse than that of someone a bit older). real love is when you can go long periods of time iwthout them and still vividly remember eveyr detail and still feel excited, this is why i have this argument that love at first sight simply doesnt exisit. time is necessary to know if you lvoe someone because love is after those initial exciting feelings die and you still want to be with that person. another thing, as an adult there are obstacles that dont occur in high school and really the real test of a relatinship happens. so its difficult to say love when you're younger. no matter waht at SOME POINT or another we do have to experience real life--and that happens to ppl at all types of ages. so its hard to put a real age limit on it. i fell in love at 9 lol. i know it was real

lol well im the exception. its tough to get through though. okay im 17 and actually look at LEATS 18 and i could pass for older. when i was a freshman (gr 9) i mean ALOTT of older guys (even in gr 12) asked me out. but im a very mature person and i didnt know them i didnt like them and yes i turend them down. really personally age means NOTHING. i mean obviously iwouldnt be dating a 12 year old lol but it so happens my bf for almost 2 years now is a year and 4 months younger than me. yes thats right...lol. i think hes ADORABLE and has qualities that definitely beat some idiot in gr 12 or whatever. and i like that iget to set the pace and what not. yes most girls like older guys but i can definitely say it relaly doesnt matter to me. and to some girls it doesnt, ts all about who you are. and um...im into guys who have a baby face and stuff like just my taste. o btw seriously the whole say a 19 yr old girl vs. a 17 yr old being more attractive or even with guys--TOTALLY UNTRUE. i mean obviously the diff between a 13 yr old and 15 year old is probably visable, but girls are pretty much fully grown by 16 (i mean breasts and stuff is pretty much done, even height) and guys by 17 or 18. so really it makes NO DIFFERENCE. but another reason girls might go for older guys--going for a younger one causes ppl to tlak shi*. but now that its lasted ppl respect us alot because its one of the best relationsihp seen. but really most relationship dont and a girl would be called desperate dating a guy younger

go for it. its TOTALLY NORMAL and VERY COMMON

ouch. you know what, a friend of mine has been going through THE EXACT SAME SITUATION. and she keeps making excuses for his behavior, honestly im not sure exactly what happeneded here but let me say this: (keep in mind im not sure what you age is but since you siad business trip it sounds like you guys are in your 20s for sure and that will make a diff) but at my age a good 70% of relationship end after a vaction. given the relationship dynamic changes with maturity but basically often after this minimal contact you realize hmm i didnt relaly miss that perosn, i dont really care to see them right away and then it makes you wonder (at least one person). it seems like he relaly doesnt like you as much anymore. and when my bf came back from vacation and seemed distant just online i confronted him. i say to my friend "how much of a sign do you need?". he seems like he really doesnt care right now espeically considering what you guys were like before he left. so i would advise to talk to him seriously about how hes feeling and dont just let him say whatever....i gess...i dunno--THESE ARE THE SAME AS NO. push it, do you want to live in a fake reality? make SURE that he KNOWS WHAT HES FEELING. unless he COMPLETELY REASSURES YOU that nothings wrong and gives you a valid reason for this distance suggest a breakup to him. see his reaction, if its anything like i dunno maybe i guess whatever then break it off. if he misses you he'll come back. sorry but more than likely it seems that his feeligns simply chagned. hes confused right now, there might be genuine excuses so do investigate but prepare to be strong and bold.

hey. i dont know about words of wisdom but ill tell you whatever i do know about life so far lol. look this is obviously a very stressful time. and OMGG i think there are TOO MANY OF US who can relate to the idea of not too many close friends but many aquaintences. i mean its hard to force those type of close knit relationship, they just seem to happen. and this is very unfortunate that these "friends" stabbed you in the back. as far as friends, right now im sure there is ALOT more you can focus on, and you really have to stop concentrating on your lack of real relationship because when you think about it it just never happens. the more you stay busy with shcool and extra curriculars you wont feel so sorry for yourself or depressed and at the same time this inner confidence will shine and you will attract people to you. and again by joining clubs or what not at school this will open you up to many relationsihp oppertunities. its clear you have a logical head on your shoulders but its just a tough time right now maybe at the moment you posted. stay strong, and followt he above. it can be a downer but stay positive. you know if you just stop worrying things will happen naturally. as for your bf this seems like a very difficult decision. i commend you on being so strong and telling youreslf that you REFUSE to be hurt agian. frankly if a guy said those things to me it would very tough not to crack, and im sure you were madly in love iwth him. because praticality and sometimes even they way your treated doesnt change how ou feel about that person. i mean really its not impossbile that he DID change and that it COULD work, however i would advise to try and stay clear it does seem like hes ran out of chances. now you seem to know something: you want to move on. thats the first step. and to truly move on you have to go through nc. later you can still talk to him be his friend who knows maybe even get involved again but right now you need to do nc until you're sure you can talk to him and what not without getting all worked up. but yes you're right you will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and again the less you stress about it the more ppl will be drwan to you. you have to love who you are and youreslf first though, and AT THIS MOMENT you probably arent feeling that great. try calling up and aquintence and asking about a class or soemthing....ask to study together and then say lets go out clubbing or something....these are ways you can just make the friendship more of an ACTUAL friendship. so dont get too down its just a faze, really, i think we've aLLL gone through it at one point or another. good luck

amannamedreric you really gave a great example to answer the question. wow...the weird thing is its like my bf is 16 and im 17 (Im a year and 4 months older than him so at times its a "two" year diff) and i do try lol. i mean even with him there are times that hte kissing was so much better than anything else and at times other things were much better. so i guess the situation makes a big diff. but thanks for all the replies and it seems hands down that sex physically has the best stimulation. interesting lol...im still totally scared!

this seems extreme. it seems like you might need some professional hlep on this situation. as you said this is not normal jealosy. having thoughts of seriously hurting these people that arent really doing anything. i think you should try and get some real help on these thoughts.

well really AT THIS POINT this is my advice to you: TRY TO MOVE ON. PRETEND THERE IS NO CHANCE IN HELL THAT YOU GUYS WILL GET BACK TOGETHER. you must lose all hope. even if he gives you reasons to think that MAYBEEE hes still interested. by losing this hope you will be able to move on a lil better: no what if questioning yourself no wondering what you couldve/shouldve. and definitely STAY BUSY in any way possible--start to realize that your life is sooo much more than just this guy. because in a relationship like that it might have been your everything. start moving forward. and yes you will have to do nc for awhile, later you can become friends, even get back together but there will have to be this separation period and it will killl as it heals lol. seriously. but just stay busy thats the BEST WAY not getting involved with a new person (which many people do) because you need time to see who you are now--this person has probaby changed you in some way. so just indulge in the positive aspects of being single right now and go wit hthe flow. if a guy does come into your life dont say no too quickly. embrace whatever comes your way but dont looook for someone new. just go with the flow and enjoy the fact that now you HAVE more time to do some thigns that you may not have done to spend a lil cuddling tiem with that person.

hey. you know i think about girls someitmes think about what it would be like and fantasize at times. and it makes me wonder. but if you're wishing you were going down on a young sexy girl vs. this guy then i think you should look into it. i mean maybe you should persue something with a girl and see how you feel. it might require taking a break from your bf. really its not like you can just magically stop thinking about it and thers nothing wrong with it. but it is a problem: you're not enjoying it (im assuming) and thats going to cause problems.

im in high school and dating a younger guy YES THATS RIGHT IM THE GIRL AND OLDER. and people thought at first i was desperate or something (let me say tons of gr 12s asked me out when i was in gr 9) like it aint me. im not going to date someone unless i reallly like them and now people realize that my relatinship is one of the best ones ever seen--its been going for a year and a half.

thanks...i agree i think you're totally right.

hmm....this one is strange. honestly it seems like hes either still hung up over his ex maybe really hurt and simply not ready for a serious emotional attatchment. he could really like you and not want to hurt you knowing that again he really isnt ready for a gf and that he isnt willing right now to give that to you. he could be trying to get you to break up with him in a "nice" way. i really dont think hes USING YOU. but there are other negatives i mentioned so consider those. its really commendable if this guy really doesnt want to have sex (especially considering you guys have already) simply because he thinks its not a good idea but then why would he give you another impresion by doing other things of a romantic context with you. honestly i think you need to be straight up with him. no more mind games. say "seriously if you dont see this working out maybe we should just end it before it gets messy". if hes quick to say i guess or something to that extenet (remember guys have trouble saying what they really feel--good and especially bad) then its bad news. dont be like well lets tryy. but really it seems he really doesnt want to be DATING YOU exclusively for WHATEVER REASON. hes showing you that because you didnt want to sleep with him any longer until there was commitment. and hes really a nice guy by not just telling you what you want to hear and getting what he wants. but at the same token he doesnt LIKE YOU THAT MUCH(at least right now). and hes keeping you around just hanging it by a thread so that incase he feels differently soon you'll be there in cloes reach. so consider what you want and if you want to be left in this type of postion, i really wouldnt suggest it, it is really hurting and confusing you and causing un necessary stress. hes right--you deserve better.

hey thanks for the compliment. im not your typical teenager (in most ways ). but yeah, if you guys have a personal way of dealing it then fine. but really i think its unfair to you. but hey you've got your reasons right and im not in your relationship so i wouldnt doubt htat you have valid reasons. really during this time if your feeling down maybe you should see what its like to be with another girl (not sex or anything) just pretend your not in a relatinship...dont need to look but if someone interesting comes along go with the flow kind of thing and see how you feel. it will give you clarity on your feeligns as well. and i duno maybe you guys have agreed to stay committed...then i would say just get your mind off of it hang with friends and pretend again that your not in a relatinship. enjoy the POSITIVE aspects of being single (its tough to remember that there are ALOT OF THEM) lol.

hey everyone. okay some of you are probably familiar with my story. basically my ex and i got back together and we've been together for 6 motnhs now. (last time was 9). anyways basically me and him have been going through this up and down whirlwind of i love you's lol. lets just say neither of us were saying it anymore it was just unsure or whatever. now a couple days ago we were having an indepth convo and i asked him look theres no pressure honeslty but do you love me (btw he NEVER LIES like trust me he doesnt sugar coat anything lol) and he said ya i think do. okay now his feelings change constantly (at least i think so) and we've been relaly close this summer and whatever. anyways online whenver we're saying our goodbyes im always more like muwahz and hearts and he doesnt do any of that. does this mean its hot and cold? should i just stop since he doesnt do it? should i tell him i love him? i do...its just im not sure if it'll scare him. he said he did and im telling you at THAT MOMENT he probably did (and no it wasnt after some steamy session) but do you think that his feelings are still hot and cold? im just confused and wondering if i should be more laid back.

oh yeah. i ONLY DO THIS with guys i like i mean all the time and press my BODY against his. like i might touch a guy habitually on the hand or arm with my own hand or arm but if i sit next to him and touch my leg against his or like with my ex bf lol i would press my chest against him lol so contact like this is INTENTIONAL she likes being in close contact. FLIRT WITH HER