goddess23

hey i dont see flirting as cheating becaues im a FLIRTATIOUS person. see i know this sounds totally weird but i think you need to know your partner. k this is my lil thing: like im a flirtatous person but im not flirting like it could be interepreted as flirting. ya know talking alot and the whole lil thing. but some people are not like that they only have this contact with people if they're interested. sorry if i make no sense but ya. but still flirting is rarellly cheating it has to be extreme fliritng like saying i like you or osmething

i like stuff wehre i could get caught but thats CRAZZZY i duno. but i do enjoy it more that way for some reason....

think about it: its alwasy weird the first time! i mean think about the first kiss...did it really go that well? or even the first couple of times. if you feel that you're not ready then thats good that you can at least be aware of that. and dont beat yourself up, you obviously like this guy and wanted to see what it was like. it felt weird because it was the first time this happened to you. when you do feel ready then let him touch you again and with practice you'll be more comfortable and it will feel good (okay so ive never been fingered but i know about ohter stuff lol). but i think a big part of why you dont feel ready is because you look at it as "why would he want to". first of all hes touching it not licking it so its not that bad even with hair lol and he wants to pleasure you. thats why he wants to. but again dont feelpressured you dealt with it well and you guys ahve great communication. so you will eventually enjoy it or maybe it will be one of those thigns that you're like ughh naw my thing. dont stress it

hey you know what ill be honest here. in general, girls are more into taller guys i mean the same way most guys are into thin/fit girls. but there are exceptions. anddd really at the end of the day its really who you are. to be totally honest you may not get hit on as much as your 6 ft tall friend, but it really is who you are that matters. and this is not an after school special speech. okay im 5'7 and that is pretty tall compare to most girls i know. the thing is, i always end up liking shorter guys. well okay so ive liked 2 guys in my life like REALLLLLY buttt they were both short. i mean considering my height i should be with someone at least 510. my bf is 59 NOW but when we started dealing he was like an inch or so shorter. and a year younger. if you asked me "what do you look for in a guy" i might have said tall, and if you asked me if i would ever go out with someone younger (remember its high school here lol) i would have said NO WAY. but i couldnt help how i felt and i really didnt care. so the point of my long babbling story....to some people out there it might be considered a bad thing. there are some small minds and you may encounter rude behavior. but really it doesnt matter. we all have our own appearance issues just realize it really sint a big deal and there will be a girl who is going to like you and yes she probably will be taller because its a law of nature that taller than average girls must be wit hshorter than average guys lol. IM SERIUSS my girls are like under 5'3 and are all with guys who are at least 511 while me at 57, im with the guy whos 59. it just happens that way!

hmm sizzle i seem pretty similar. i mean for some reaosn i relaly dont question my sexuality yet i know that at times women can turn me on. but i think almost all women have that little fantasy (its actuall ythe most common fantasy among women, to be with another woman). it doesnt neceassarly mean you're gay. but take your time, i think its about seeing if you're actually attracted to someone of the same sex that you knoww like personally. that would be a bit more of a hint i think

i just wanted to say though in terms of oral sex and petting and stuff, you're still a virgin. like thats fo sure

why so shy??! just make it as a joke like "heyy i never knew you were married!!" see what he says. he'll say either "no its just like a promise ring" or "no i just wear it there" and you could you could make it really casual. its not like on a serious tone. really, i do it with lots of people lol.

my bf used to wear one on his RING FIINGER LEFT HAND lol. but ya i mean no harm in asking great way to flirt.

i say declare your feelings or even better say: well i think before speaking about this seroiusly we should at least be single.

um...well its not a bad thing i mean this is probably a great way to cope and frankly it keeps you motivated to be the bigger person. so it seems like a good thing. ofcoures dont let this attitude seep into all your relationships. but it seems harmless for now

msn was a god send for me and my shy bf. try and do most of your comm there. um...but you should call her. shes probably thinking your not into her as much anymore. once a day isnt over board...or just about 3-4 times a week is gudd

hey well im glad to see you realized your mistake and made ammends. sorry but it really did bother me

i just wanna say be careful about your posts please try and think about what your writing down. there is a sentence in your post that i find insulting and offensive. "getting RAMMED BY SOME BIG BLACK GUY... sorry I tend to think of the worst case scenario sometimes. " i stopped reading your post after that.

hey. well you know what its not that strange because it happens to us all. i mean it happens ot me, not even my first bf just my first love lol. like we were really close and he moved about 4 yeras ago and ihavent seen him since and the other night i had teh strangest dream. and its been happening often since then. but dreaming about this perosn isnt that odd and i dont think it means anything significant. i mean this person was obviously someone special at one point so its natural to think about them after time. sometimes something in YOUR LIFE that you dont even realize is causing you to reminiss. i wouldnt pay much mind to it. just enjoy the fact that you can think about the person without feeling hurt or angry or excited!

well first of all persoanlly i very openly discuss many tihngs. i mean to me my period is no secret and sex is something i talk about a lot even if i dont do it or whatever. but there are certain things you might only discuss with your closest friends. but here at enotalone the most important element exists: that its anonymous. no one knows who YOU REALLY are, theres no shame theres no embaressment. and about still being in high school. well let me tell you this. i didnt even kiss a guy until i was 16. and ive been in a committed relationship that has been for over a year and we've known eachother for many more. and yes i do give him oral and what not but im not ashamed or feel that ive done something wrong because it is done with someone i truly know and love and it is not something i would do with anyone else right now. if people are random about it (and in high school that usually is the case) then i agree its very wrong. so it depends on the circumstances. i mean ppl who are 18 are in high school do you think they're too young to engage in sexual activity as in oral or something? so i see where your'e coming from. but i am an open person and in this situation i feel very free and thats what i love about this forum.

lifeiscash is totallly right. our signs are soo subtly obvious lol. and yeah you know alot of girls arent fans of the teasing thing but i love it! lol, to me its the best way to show affection lol. but yeah like if she says shut up while laffing or something totally good sign. like as long as she doesnt get upset. but some girls are sensitive and take these jokes seriously. but you know her if she can handle it den go for it

i must say napoleon put it in the perfect way. there are so many examples of immoral acts--especially in the most holy forms for example marriage that to look at prostitution as this big taboo and this gigantic wrong is somewhat being a hypocrite. now i mean to be honest personally i do frown upon it but its not like OMGG ITS THE WORST THING EVER. its their business their sexual desires...and what you consider "payment" is another thing. and it may be considered disgusting or someone brought up the issue of stds well the way ppl are today i really dont look at protitution as the doorway. look at how many partners peaople have! for free!! wowww thats even more shocking lol. i look at it as a job. what about modelling, selling your body for money. similar situation here.

lol sorry thers nothing you can do. she probably just enjoyed flirting and i mean you've never met her maybe shes involved you have no clue. she might have just wanted that lil adventure. dont take it too hard and just say at least its just some random girl online. cmonnn its pretty good that way right! and 2 weeks isnt THAT MUCH OF AN INVESTMENT. i say move on....to a girl in your area code who can show you clearer signs regarding her feeligns.

hey cute post i love the whole lil grass analogy! like the old grass stuff. anyways about your post. look, i know you still love her and obviously this is something that gives you new hope but listen to me. the one thing that got me thorugh my breakup was changing my mindset (many have seen my rambling posts lol). you have to tell yourself its OVER. you may always love her as a person always care for her but its over. LOSE HOPE EVEN IF FOR SOME REASON YOU SHOULD BELIEVE THERE IS HOPE lol. it is essential. and this bump in the road shes having well it may just pass. she hasnt given you any signs of being interetsed in YOU again. and you've learned so now you can used what you learned on your next relationsihp. if you really feel its necessary i mean at least for closure sake so that you know for sure and dont have to wonder about what if....just talk to her seriously about giving it another shot. make your plea and see what she has to say once and for all. if the response is basically a no then at least you know that and can start moving on. just keep yourself busy and let life take its natural flow. good luck! i know how tough it is.

lol cuz my bf never makes noise, but niether do i (we're both virgins but ya know other stuff). i duno why! but i just wanted to see the norm lol. and oral well...just wondering lol i duno!

its really simple. if you've had a good time at the coffee place like the first time then when its all done say "well i had a lot of fun and i would love to take you to dinner at ____. im free ____ and i would love if you would come". once the coffee has gone well thats the PERFECT TIME to ask about dinner.

hey just wanna do a lil question here. okay...guys...how good is oral sex to you. i mean is the hype from the media true? is oral that good for you guys? and another question: do you usually make noise when you cum?

lol ughhh the exes! well if you say it really isnt that much of an issue then great at least you dont need to bust your brain about it. but i know it still leaves you wondering. well she could just wannna get back to friend mode, and wanted to see how the converstaion went. i mean was she ever the talkative type? if she was then it does seem odd that she would initiate converstaion and then bbe very bland. she couldve just wanted to tlak to you but didnt know what to say. she could POSSSSSIBLY sort of like you again or something or maybe something just made her wanna talk. see if anything else happens. but really ppl do things for no reason. and the ex is someone who you can never understand.

hey ya i agree with the other posters. she obviously does like you but i think you should just straight up ask her well if you see us together in the near future then why are you with someone else? if she says well im going to break up with him then say kewl call me when thats all cleared up so we can start fresh. and btw , you guys can be even more unpredictable!! but yeah, think about the breakup and her character. otherwise it seems to be going pretty well lol.

hey well you know waht the media causes alot of stress for both sexes. you know i used to think a big chest was really imp and now im learning guys dont ACTUALLY care. okay sure itll draw attention and it might be a plus but its not that important. same goes with experience for guys or the big penis thing the media makes both sexes feel like crap. its always better to get the opinions of enotalone ppl lol