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  1. goddess23
    o wowwww....honestly it sounds similar to my situation in the sense that im scared to let go this time around even though i know there are major flaws. because i know i wouldnt even lay my lips agaisnt another guys until a new chapter in my life begins (in my case im referring to the end of high school which is still awhile away). i really love this guy yet his feelings yo yo like crazy. it seems you two have a very strong bond though, and i would just mark it off as a faze right now. however if this feeling persists then you will have to eventually bring it up and talk about it. you know what, the fact that you did live without him will show you that you are stong enough, howeever i realize the boredom that comes iwth it lol. for now let it go...but if it persists then talk to him about how you're feeling. you shouldnt have to feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him. so talk to him about it. thats the best thing to do to at least give you clarity.
  2. goddess23
    well with a bf, when he plays with my hair....like for a good 10 mins just stroking my hair. or playing wiht my hands. looking deep into eachothers eyes is a big turn on too. as far as persaonlity someone who is a good mix of shy and funny
  3. goddess23
    hey you're very right. it is hard...i mean he was my first bf for 9 months and it was soo hard to just pretend that i didnt care. but eventually that pretense became reality and he ended up cmoing back to me. but now we're in limbo again lol...hes sooo screwed but i totally agree that people have to just let go and not stress over it.
  4. goddess23
    hey thanks for the reply...well...honeslty im not sure. i do know that i REALLY LIKE THIS GUY NO DOUBT but i also know that part of the reason that i am with this guy is out of convenience. its true, this is exactly what it is, and i did the alone thing. i mean honestly this is the only guy ive ever been with and its not that it totally sucks, its just hes the only guy i EVEN LIKE and i dont mind being single but i need someone to at least drool over lol. i know i sounds really stupid right now but i do know that im trying to hold on to the past and the present. i do like this guy and i would love to be with him again seriously later on. but right now im happy with the wya it is it just hurts so bad that hes THIS CONFUSED. but im going to just give him the benefit of the doubt for now and let it flow. if anyone has nething to add plzz do thanxx alll
  5. goddess23
    its obvious shes into you. yes catch up as friends but do it while flirting lol! wat im saying is theres no need to be "just a friend" type of mannor ya no? and i think catching up could be part of dating....it would be a great date. if you two have feelings for eachother why not!
  6. goddess23
    hey eveyrone thanx for your replies. first of all i do think i love him...but sometimes i think my mind changes constantly. hmm....depression....well...im not sure....i mean i dont think he has anything in his life to cause depression. ok, muneca, i know you have good advice so im going to clear up a few things for some further input. see the thing is hes so sweet and so very into me AT TIMES, and honestly i have not asked him a single quesiton in 2 months, the reason i started getting on his back about it that night was because after a lot of passion when ia sked him if he LIKED ME he said "i guess so". now thats not the answer you need to hear from a guy you're getting pretty serious with. i agree the moment was not right and i realize some of thet hings he said could have been from plain fustration. but yeah i told him i love the fact taht we have our own separate lives and once to twice a week is great for me. its just i can feel when that distance becomes more than just our own time ya know? so when i asked him if he liked me and he said i guess i freaked. the thing is his feelings literally chagne day by day for no apparent reason he even said it himself. the thing is, do i just go along with his yo yo feelings because of the fact that i realllly do like him and care about him or is this just hurting me in the long run.
  7. goddess23
    lol you know my story very well metallic. hes not cheating. this is not some girls denial im sure. the thing is it definitely isnt boring....and our time apart keeps it interesting. hes VERYYY INTO IT, veryyyy sweet, veryyy in love at times. hes usually more lala land then me. but his feelings yo yo more then a yo yo!! and im just not sure if i should end it or just go with it. reason im going iwth it: hes the only guy im even slightly attracted to. lets just say if me and him ended i wouldnt even kiss another guy until a new chapter in my life begins meaning completion of high school which is still awhile. basically we both are hanging on because we do like eachother and both of us only like eachother if you get what i mean. like ive only liked one other guy, hes only liked one other girl. we dont crush too easily. so its like im the only girl he would even CONSIDER and hes the only guy i wud CONSIDER. and i dont want to go through the BOREDOM I WENT THRU with our breakup. but am i hurting myself too much? do the costs outweigh the benefits??
  8. goddess23
    o wow. please just say anything you can. okay some of you may be familiar with my situation. first bf, 9 month relationshp amazing, it ended because he was "confused"....time went by 6 months later we revealed that we still like eachother. we didnt want to get so serious again so we decided to take it slow go with the flow. next day he told me he loved me but i responded with an "are you sure?? lol" and that was that. anyways its been hot and cold. well monday we had this intense amazing day together and i told him i loved him (i think it was a mistake). then tuesday wed, thurs, fri passed and i could just feel that drift. so i started asking him a few quesitons like "are there certain days that you're more attracted to me?" n hes like i dunno. and im like cmon how can you not know??! im like think today vs. monday. n hes like i dunno. so im like k do you like me n hes like i guess!! at that moment i was thinking omggg. so im like what do you mean you guess and hes like i dunoo im tired right now (it was really late and he usually sleeps early lol) but i was justl ike well how could you not like me. well i was explaning to him how i felt and he started jumping to conclulsions n hes like "you want me to say i love you when i dont??!" and im like omgg when did i say that! anways in the end im like ok are you happy with the way its going? (because honestly i am) and hes like yes and hes like are you happy with it and im like yes so we're like fine no need to argue we just keep going with the flow. the thing is it really hurts that his feelings change day by day!! he even said i dont know why this happens but it does. and it makes me feel realllly hurt. i just need some advice or anything!!
  9. goddess23
    aww hunn i know how it is. its like you think you're making progress and then something ahppens and you're back to square one. you know what there is no quick fix. the only thing is that you continue iwth your life and try to get your mind off it. and nc is the best thing to help you move on. these days will always be there, just try and not think that you're NOT OVER HIM AT ALL. its baby steps.
  10. goddess23
    im 17. im not allowed to go out with friends alone. if i do im dropped there and picked up. if that is not possible i dont go. i have my license yet i dont ahve any driving privledges to take the car on my own. take not that im a resonsible, mature, honor student. my parents know about my bf and evertyhing yet they think if i go out alone im going to be kidnapped or raped or SOMETHING. privacy is not a problem as far as emails and what not but it is pretty bad. if you relaly cant handle it you'll have to move out or something. otherwise unfortunately you dont have much choice. trust me i dont know anyone whos like me. and i find it so stupid like there are so many ppl i know that arent allowed to talk to members of the opposite sex on the phone while they can say "ok im gong to the mall ill be bak at 7". i mean what is wrong with the parents??!
  11. goddess23
    lol wow its like me and my ex. we went out and it was great while it lasted amazinggg connection and when we kiss its so intense. we went out for 9 months and then he was confused. going out in the same school puts alot of pressure on you. so 6 months after breaking up we started flirting like crazy and realized we still liked eachother. now we're not official yet we've made it clear that we are exclusive and have said i love you to eachother. yet we dont want to put that label on it because then there will be this pressure that will screw it over. look right now we're more than friends with benefits yet less that bf/gf. and il ltell you this: im enjoying it, he is too but there is alot that i know is hurting me right now. and i think you should let this girl know how you feel and see exactly how seh feels and maybe you guys will figure out a way to be together without the crappy parts. like my bf and i....but its not easy.
  12. goddess23
    honestly things like that are so sweet but if the guy did it all the time iwould take it for granted. it shouldnt be alllll the time, but sweet little things are soo appreciated. honestly the one guy ive been with has never been that kind of guy....and i watch other girls get treated like goddesses lol and my guy is just not the type to leave a sticky note msg on my locker. but i know that when we were going out (we broke up after 9 months and are sort of back together now)...on the weekeends he would send me loving emails telling me nothing more than he loved me and missed me. and i would wake up in the morning just to check that email that i know he would send. so just use it in moderation. and if its a guy i liked i would totallllly in love with it. its when it becomes offiicial you start to slow it down a bit and let things flow.
  13. goddess23
    hey you know what our age group is a difficult time and even though 15 wasnt that long ago for me it was defnintely the toughest year as far as finding myself. as far as just being attracted to this girl and not crushing on her honestly i think this is a sign of maturity. its not as fun and you're feelings of infactuation are not as heightened which can often make you believe you're in love. so good for you, this is a good thing. evne though crushes are fun and hopefully you dont stop having crushes but honestly when you have reallly strong feelings for someone you usually dont have a crush on them. because its so much deeper. now as far as us girls thinking guys are easy....well...personally i dont see it that way. i mean most guys are but i can tell some guys arent like that. but i notice alot of girls use guys "horniness" to manipulate things. sometimes i feel as if with my guy right now the only time he feels really connected to me is when we're making out or something. so it just leaves that impression that sex means we will be able to get you or keep you or whatever. so these girls probably feel as if the only way to "get you" is by using sex. but i know some guys have high standards while some dont care just like girls. but there are girls that see it that way, and they do use this to their advantage. by making it clear that you dont want sex it will make them wnat you more lol. but it seems you have a strong bond with someone and you should persue that and take the rest of the girls throwing themselves at you as great flattery!
  14. goddess23
    unfortuantely this guy just doesnt seem ready and honestly even if he said yes and put this little label on it would it really make a difference if he doesnt want it? its clear you NEED MORE...and its clear that he cant handle more. so at this point it seems like you guys are just on the wrong pages. you're not happy and thats not good. if you were happy with this i would say fine go with it but its clear you're not and you feel like you're lowering your standards. so just tell him straight up that right now you need a comitment especially the way you two are starting to get serious on a physical level. and that you just cannot be a booty call. if he realllly wants you later on then great and hopefully you two can have a great relationsihp.
  15. goddess23
    its obvious that you do have feeligns for him. look i know you dont wanna scare him off but this way you're going ot hurt youself more...and not even "in the long run" but immediately. my advice: talk to him, tell him how you feel and see how he feels get some answers. becaues i doubt you want to be the girl he has sex with and then talks about "tasha". and if you're scared you're gonna push him away by asking him questions after having sex then this is not the guy you need. you're worth so much more. so get some answers girl! and worse thing: you know where you stand and you can move on with your life.
  16. goddess23
    dont think taht. first of all the fact is you have your own life and so does she. honestly the relationsihp will BURN out if you spend every free moment together. sometimes missing out is actually enriching the realtionship. dont feel guilty or sad, you guys obviously spend ALOT OF time together anyways. its no big deal.
  17. goddess23
    thanks charlotte! yeah thats what ive noticed too, and you know its like with my ex (we're together again) but yeah...he got confused after those sweaty palms went away. but its after he realized there's so much more. thats why the classic "you just know" or "its the butterflies and blah blah..." yes its those things but its so much more.
  18. goddess23
    hey thanks for all your replies. well btw, no its not a secret but its definitely not the way it was however thats not what i want. we do say hi in the halls and what not but its not like stop and talk and ya no? now i am scared about getting hurt but honestly we talk all the time about how this is a committed realtionship in the sense that it is very much exclusive. but yeah i realize that this isnt the PERFECT situation. and im really scared however i am happy with the current situation im not going to lie. this is the way i watned it and so did he. but yeah i mean does something like that slip out?? why would he say it? do you think it was really just a rush of emotions? do you think he siad later it just slipped out because of my reaction? or because that was the truth?
  19. goddess23
    i think you could give it a shot with the one in your classes that you think is out of your league. look ill be honest, im sort of one of those girls whose really talkative and alot of people think im flirting with them, so she could be like that and not really like you like that. however, if she has shown you anything then go for it. you like her alot its clear, so just ask her to the dance tomorrow. something not too serious, casual and at the worst you can use the "i just meant as friends" excuse and it would sound legit. that would be my advice, however you know this girl better and yourself, but ya thats my two cents.
  20. goddess23
    btw another thing is that i love him and i want to tell him that but im not sure if i should, any advice on that matter as well??? plz im really confused
  21. goddess23
    i agree he doesnt seem like the calling type. however, considering it's a new realtionship AND you dont see eachother often phone calls or online should be used a lot. it does worry me and i would be kind of annoyed. you've talked to him and it still hasnt improved. give it ONE MORE SHOT. and see what happens. but it seems this guy just maybe doesnt have time for a REAL realtionshipo if ya no what i mean.
  22. goddess23
    hey it seems shes still very hurt. she may be very flirty however she may not be ready for something serious. if her kisses dont seem "real" then i would just lay off it for now. even talk to her about it, you guys seem to have that aspect down pretty well. so talk to her and ask her how she feels about getting into another relationship or whatever. as to what shes thinking. she likes you but shes scared sh**less to get into a another relationship. just take it slow for now she needs time to actually move on before really getting into another relationship. she may even know this and not want to hurt you by just using you as a rebound.
  23. goddess23
    well...FWB are really meant to not develop into a relationship but i mean it seems you didnt want a relationsihp right now and you're happy with the decision so i wouldnt worry about it. as far as it working out, usually i hear it doesnt. okay tell me something. am I in a FWB situation rite now? my ex and i went out veryy serious relationship it ended and now we told eachother we still like eachother but dont wanna put any labels on it and take it slow. the next day he told me he loved me but i didnt say it back (because i thought he wasnt being true) and later he said it just slipped out. we meet up like twice a week fool around we talk usually every nite online and talk about ourselves as "together" and talk all the time about how we would never cheat and what not so it is exclusive. however, it is very hot and cold and really and truly there isnt a real leabel on it. so would this be considered friends iwth benefits??
  24. goddess23
    hey everyone. well im starting to wonder if im being used and if im doing the right thing-again lol. my bf and i went out for 9 months, first relationsihpo for both of us. amazing, committed, loving. we were in love. then he went on vacation and came back "confused, needed time, and within minutes basicaly said it was over". i was heartbroken. i loved him very much and as much as i knew things could change i thought it would be a slow transition. not a big surprise. anyways, at first we were really tight, slowly drifted to something called aquiantences. it hurt a lot. but i told myself it was over despite little things. started to move on. anyways about 5 months after our breakup we started spending everyday after school together and flirting more than EVERRR. anways this went on for about...3 weeks. finally one night we had an online conversation discussing that we still liked eachohter but didnt want to get back into that cycle of waiting at eachothers lockers and all that bs that comes when you date someone IN YOUR SCHOOL. so we decided to take it slow...so after that conversation we would meet and what not about 1-2 times a week, and the making out was really intense. the first day we made out when he was leaving he told me he loved me. as much as i wanted to say it back i told myself dont say it because i just thought he doesnt know what hes saying. i responded with a laugh and "are you sure?". well later that night online i asked him if he meant it and he said i duno...it just slipped out. and that was that. anyways my first question concerning that is does something like that "slip out"? a lot of my friends were like well he probably said that later on because you didnt say it back and he didnt wanna sound like a loser. and they said stuff like that doesnt slip out. so my first question is: do you think it was real? second...now it was confusing, hot and cold but it got back on track. now the making out and sexual stuff has gone up, we are fooling around (no sex but ya). hes very caring and loving, really great in those situations. however, i feel as if in school we barely talk or anything. i mean we're in differnet grades (hes actually a year younger) but still i dont know im just starting to think hes just with me for the fooling around and doestn really care about me. i get conflicting msgs. so any advice there??? thanks everyoneee!!
  25. goddess23
    STOP lol. im sorry but right now the best thing to do is get whatever answers you can and focus on moving on. put your mindset to the setting "its over" even if its not. you need to treat this current relationsihp like one of ex bf/gf or just friends because right now thtas what it is. he is confused. maybe he just needs time, maybe he knows what hes doing. whatever the answer the best thing to do is to give him space and let him sort out whatever it is hes going through. and focus on moving on. that way if it is really over you dont need to spend the next 6 months thinking "maybe theres a chance" trust me i recently went thru it! this way you can help yourself. give yourself some time your single!! i know you love him but lets be honest--you guys are young and theres no need to commit yourself like this. just relax, take a deeeep breath and tell yourself your worth more. you love him he was amazing and you will always hold him close in your heart but at this point its the past and now its time to move on. if you guys have been off and on like this with constatn fights hes probably right by syaing you guys arent right for eachtother. the chemistry i doubt is the problem but the constatn fighting is something. just step away. dont ignore him but slowly distance yourself if possible to the point where you guys dont act like a couple but just friends. and later on if he tells you something or sends signals then great but its over. you are single. and its time to put you mind set to its over and now you need to move on. PLZZ TRUST ME HERE
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