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hey. it sounds like shes definitely confused herself. obviously this additional time spent together is causing her to re-evaluate her feelings. what were the terms of the breakup? why are easily willing to get back into a relationship? you seem to want her back, and thats normal, but in the game of the ex you have to play it cool, especially if she was the one who dumped you. if shes hot and cold you be too. or try not to make it TOO obvious that you like her. if she seems to be a little more "constant" with her actions, then you can think about being a little more obvious and maybe getting back together. but definitely think about if that is what you want and if it would be the right thing.

okay. rite now its going to feel awful and my breakup was like that too. he broke it off without any reason. even told me he thinks its just a faze and feels stupid for breaking it. closure is important...and it is partly why moving on is especially difficult for you. but the rejection does hurt and you're gonna ask all those why and what if questions. all i can say is dont and it does get better with time. think of it as a great experience and that you have grown as a person because of it.

yeah i agree with the above post. his reasons for changing dont seem right. i know this sounds wrong, but he should change for you. it should be for himself. and it doesnt seem like thats what happened. if you're not that elated or confident about it express your feelings and tell him that you cannot make any promises or decisions right now. you need to think about it, or tell him that he should focus on moving on...and maybe in time you and him can be friends and maybe work it out. it seems that you know its not right....at least right now. dont give in, my girls are going through similar things right now. dont give in.

getting into a relationsihp in hopes of forgetting someone else is not the way to go. if you really care about this guy then talk to him and see what is going on in his head. because if this relationsihp with your current bf is new and rocky thats not a good sign. there are clearly some issues here....and this "distraction" is not going to work.

o wow...i can somewaht relate. i didnt tell my guy friend. he made it VERY CLEAR he liked me even loved me. and as soon as i reciprocated that (it took me a long time because i fell in love with him, it wasnt immediate attraction) he basically withdrew. guys go after girls they think they cant have or will always be a challenge. but i mean do you like this guy still? you ahve a bf and he has a gf....this is a little unfair to your partners. straight up, who cares wat hes feeling if you dont like him in that way anymore.

it realllly depends on the individual. personally...i dont have the desire to be with someone yet i want to know about them out of curiosity because i WILL ALWAYS LOVE those people just in a different way. make sense>?

thankss you guys! its soo complicated because i know he did care alot and im prettty sure he loved me. but hes very afraid of commitment (hes never had a gf). and i didnt like him for a LONG TIME and it feels like he was into me when i wanst into him! grrrr! but lately its been strange. okay recently my prom is coming up and like hes in gr 11 so yeahh but im depressed about it because im going with this gay friend of mine and lately hes been really mean so its like i dont even feel like hes a real friend. and this guy i like was trying to get outta me that i want to go with him i could tell yet i know if i told him that he would freak out. and he has all these hookups so he was trying to get me car but like this was a conversation a long time ago. so since then ive made other arrangements so he msged me saying how he made a bunch of phone calls and he'll know by thursday so i told him thanks alot but now im going with the girls. and he got all pissed off at me. so i dont know its so corrupted. but yeah...i do love him however i know it wont work at this point. so im just not going to initiate anything i guess...lol...

okay so this guy im in love with is my close friend for over a year. it was clear he was in love with me or at least liked me ALOTT like in every way. now he seems somewhat distant like he only seems interested in me physically. itsl ike hes afraid of becoming emotionally attached. like we're SORTA fwb. however, we only fooled around twice and not sex ofcourse (virgins for lyfe! lol jkss but yeahh). anyways, so now the other day we were talking n hes like but we're just firends n im like yeah, you know you dont have to keep reminding me i know waht we are. and he was like okk good. yet he acts extremely jealous, and we're like CLOSE FRIENDS not like fwb, so i am emotionall attached. i love him. i really do. should i tell him? what should i do??!

personally i thrive on honesty. and if i cant trust my partner i would not wanna be with them. its one thing if its a white lie here a nd there but lying about something like this? he didnt cheat on you, you cant do anything there. but itsabout honesty at this point. can you deal with that??

no. i doubt you cant stop him from doing this (unless ofcourse you let him know you like it!!) jkss. this is probably in his nature. and take it as a compliment, doesnt mean you have to give in to anything. if it makes you that uncomfortable or you think it cant possibly be genuine because of the time factor then tell him that and end it. i mean i dont know how uncomfortable this really makes you but tell him you feel like you don't know him and just do things together spend some time together where you would have to talk. plus...i know it gets annoying and all but when it stops it hurtss even more

you seem extremely confused, however, one thing is clear: at this point you are not 100% invested in this relationship and that is unfair to the both of you. now i dont believe in breaks, because that implies that you will get back together. and there should never be that guarentee because then you will have these strings attached to the break period where you are unsure what you can and cannot do. it is simply a dumb idea. i would advise you tell him how you're feeling and probably break up. however, it is clear you are very attached and this is a serious relationship but maybe the strain is too great. i think you need to experience new things, who knows maybe hes feeling the same way. and if you stay in this relationship you will be tempted to cheat or do things that may not be cheating but your bf probably wouldnt be too happy about.

your lucky girls are different. because it seems guys if they arent immediately attracted to a girl they never become attracted to them. but girls, we love to take our time. and you may not get girls coming up to you to get your number, and you may have more trouble then your super hot friend to attract a girl but trust me personality is DEF more important. the guy im head over heels for, i know hes not the epitomy of attractive. but now im like omgg i stare at him and melt.

okay im going to share a story. i was very close to this guy from gr 9-11. when i started dating my first bf, he was clearly jealous. i soon learned he was in love with me (through others, however, it was clear). i did not feel this way not romantic love. but i was his friend. he started getting extremely clingy and i didnt want to say anything so i started being a bi*ch. basically exactly what you explained. there is a reason for this. it could be shes having an identity crisis and wants to make new friends and just feels like her social circle is too compact. it could be that you may have smothered her before. i would say pretend you dont care, ignore her too. if you want you can talk to her straight up, its just i know its very difficult. see how she reacts. unfortuantely me and my friend are basically on a "hey sup" once a week basis. its sad, because he was an amazing friend to me. but sometimes it happens, and i know this is painful for you right now but you will have to either tlak to her or reciprocate her actions to see what shes thinking. if she doesnt care about you anymore, then you shoud at least to pretend not to care. eventually, you wont. i mean you will always want the best for her and her happiness (if you really love/care for her) however, you wont care if you see her everyday, you wont care if she msges you and you wont have the desire to call her up for the small stuff.

hey first of all concentrate on your exams or wahtever. this is not important right now because frankly its not like you're pregnant (im assuming lol). but in terms of him going to break up with you, it doesnt appear to be the case at least based on your post. i mean he may be pulling away if you feel it but maybe you're both busy at the moment. and him saying stuff like that is serious and they are matters you guys have to tlak about. how do YOU feel about this? dont be afraid, because everyting happens for a reason. maybe you guys arent meant to be, so just talk to him later on about it and see what happens.

hey sorry i know this is totally off topic, well not totally but yeah. um, you girls mentioned how you have trouble getting wet sometimes...im 18 and im a virgin however i find myself quite wet all for most of the day even though im not turned on at all. and if i am turned on then its very wet. im wondering if theres anything i could do for this?

although it would end it, it would be easier to move on knowing he made a dumb mistake or simply let his biological side take over for a night than to know he has connected deeply with someone on a level that i thought was sacred. i dont know, it would just hurt to know he cared about someone like that.

it has crossed my mind i mean i made aj oke about it one day and hes like how could u think that??! i would never use you like that. honestly he was REALLY INTO me....but like lately it seems like hes not. like y wud he do that whole 20 minute punk??!

hey guys. well theres this good friend of mine whom ive been tight with for over a year. however, in the last 3 months or so hes been very confusing. lets just say that it was OBVIOUS he liked me i mean he was the sweetest, most caring guy in the world and was super attracted to me. i was not attracted to him at first but maybe since about november ive started to like him like that and at this point i am definitely in love with him. we fooled around twice (no sex or anything we're both virgins, ive had one bf and hes never had a gf and its CLEAR he doesnt want a gf, super afraid of that kind of comitment, and honestly i dont care for a bf anyways). so yeah hes been weird like one minute SUPER SWEET like himself and the next kinda jerky. hes freaked out on me, apologized, i mean its just weird. well one of my close gfs he always says is hot. my birthday was recent and to be honest, he seemed to make it look like he doesnt like me (quite impersonal, however, neithero f us want people to know ANYTHING is going on. hes my ex's friend and stuff). so my girls bday was couple days back. and the night before her bday he msgs me "its 12 mins till ___ bday" and i was away so when i came back it was a minute to 12, so im like lol i no, be the first one to wish her and he msges me i am, i mean i just did. im like gud job. so then after a while i msged him "watd u get her?" **keep in mind my gift was like literally two weeks late for no apparent reason**. so he starts GOING ON AND ON about this diamond ring n necklace and literally went on for 20 mins rubbbbing it in my face about how amazing it is. i gave little reaction and pretended to be happy even though i was feeling pretty hurt, but at the back of my mind thinking hes playing. finally he goes LOL R DUMBB who the fu* is she to me?? and went on for ten mins how she means nothing to him. after awhile of doing that hes like OMGG and copies a line i gave about how much i love my girl and hes like i was thinking to put that in a card for her, this is a sign ima do it. so he gave her a card the day after her birthday. he basically makes jks about liking her and then covers it upp with me (there are ALOT OF EXAMPLES). yet we often have cybersex and as i siad very mixed signals. i dont know waht to think or do!! what do you think hes feeling? does he like this girl, is he trying ot make me jealous, whats the deal???! plzz help!

ughhh its harddd. and it feels so awkward going up to managers and stuff. but yeah as everyone said it is tough. but as you said i see so many very unqualified, unimpressive people jump job to job. i dont understand it eitehr. to be quite frank, MOST of the kids working during highschool have low averages or easy courses or a combination of both. high school is not what it used to be and people dont understand this at all. they think they used to do it so its easy but it really isnt. it takes a lot of time. just do what you've been doing and keep your hopes up i know its HARD but try. good luck

hey guys thanks alott for the advice. my interview was on friday and it went really well, i mean he basically explained how each answer was perfectly suited to the job and how i came accross as not nervous and friendly. he said how they have a few other candidates but not many and they are hiring two. they will be making callbacks during the last week of this month and told me to call during that time as well. i then offered him my cell number which he wrote down and that was it. he was very nice and im just wondering if this is how they react with everyone you know to make them feel good? lol. but yeah thanks for the advice and it seemed to have went well. so just let me know if this is normal or not. thanks a bunch.

omggg you sound like me! like 18, one bf and sick of this hot and cold from guys. okay he seems to be extremely confused and maybe something is going on with his ex maybe there really are family issues but the fact of the matter is its really inconsiderate to not even tell you SOMETHING. i know its hard because im madly in love with my friend who is hot and cold to the max and its easy to say move on. but i would advise that if you could to just call it quits or at least pretend you dont care and soon enough you wont. if he come back around eventually with a good excuse then great if not then you'll be used to not thinking about him anways.

hey well it is part of your personality and it would be difficult to change. however, i do feel that it is a detriment because i dont overanalyse, but on the seldom occasions that i do it feels awful and i feel stupid. there is no point in asking what if questions because destiny is real and i believe that the decisions we make are all for a reason. think about it this way: who you are now is because of your past experiences, all of them, and whether good or bad im sure you do love yourself and wouldnt want to be someone different. embrace the fact that everything happens for a reason and has affected you in some way and you can always make it a positive change (it can always make you stronger and wiser).

okay so i dont want to bore you guys too much but i have an interview in two days for a bank job (im assuming as a teller but not sure). anyways im wondering if there is anything i should prepare myself for and was also wondering if i should wear a blazer of some sort (im planning on black dress pants with a white collar shirt) thankss guys

well hot guys usually know theyre hot and are stuck up (cuz there are FEW HOT GUYS IN THE WORLD grrrrrr like everywhere there are hot girls but guys are raree). anywayssssss, yeah so like i try to not look at them too much because i figure they think alot of themselves already and if theyre really hot i get nervous. but i dont know, girls are dumb, i see some of the guys my friends think are hot and umm nooooo. lol so its also about the taste and i dont know your area might have a preferred style, ethnicity ya know what i mean? so dont take it TOO PERSONALLY if you know your a cool guy then a nice girl will come along

yeah yeah im single. thanks for the advice yeahh i know like toronto is gorgeous i dont know how this summer is going to go but its just im wondering as guys like why would you behave like this? (me and my ex have been over for a whilee)